I gave birth at 25 and 41---the first time as a single woman and the second time as a married woman who now finds herself single again. My eldest son is a senior at Howard University and my baby boy just started kindergarten this past school year. I have, in fact, 2 “baby daddies” who bust every stereotype known to man about Black men who don’t love, protect and cherish their children. They show up for my children and me in the most powerfully respectful and loving ways. They show up choosing to recognize that what didn't work for “us” in a romantic partnered way, was still fated before our arrival this lifetime to produce two of the most amazing human beings we know and therefore dictate an “all in” mentality.