Nadia- Diary of a FLYY Black Woman

Nadia, a spontaneous Big Chopper, provides the CN.com community with updates on her adjustment to and acceptance of her TWA.


I decided to cut my hair again. I grew it out for about 6 weeks, and then I started to feel lost on what to do with it. I contemplated getting it braided, but I really have grown to love my new look. The picture above (from Nov 11,2009) shows my hair at its longest length since the big chop. The picture below is of my current look. I am LOVING my short hair!

I have had some compliments, some complaints, and some that fall somewhere in the middle. Most of the time people that like it will tell me that they think I am brave for cutting off so much hair. People that fall in the middle just comment "Wow you cut your hair!" and leave it at that. People that don't seem to like it (maybe one or two) just say "Why'd you cut it all off ?!". I think the funniest thing anyone has ever said to me about my new 'do is, "You have such a pretty skull for that look". LOL

I am still feeling very confident. I wake up and just do minor touch-ups with product, and I'm ready to go. I always know that my hair is in place, and there is very little that I have to do to it each day. I enjoy wearing earrings and other accessories that help to frame my face. For now, I think I will keep it short. I like this look, and I like the low-maintenance aspect of it.

See you next month!
Nadia

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Original Post-- 10/22/2009

Hi ladies!

Things are progressing well.
Here are some pictures of me about to go out on the town. My hair is growing so fast!! I forgot to mention that I take GNC Ultranourish Hair vitamins abot 3 times a week. These vitamins make my hair grow super fast! I swear by them. I'll be in touch soon :)

Nadia


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Original post--10/12/2009

First, I want to say thank you thank you to everyone for all the support and very kind words!! Everyone has been so sweet with all of their comments. I am happy that I have inspired others to think about making hair changes themselves. I really do not miss that mess at all!!! This style is so easy and healthy. My hair is growing really quickly, and I haven't decided whether I will grow it out or get it cut again. I really like it like this, and you guys have convinced me that you like it too :) Here is a picture I took on Friday. This makes a little more than two weeks since my big chop.

Luv,
Nadia

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Original Post--10/8/2009

Hola Chicas,

Due to the positive reaction from all of you, and Nadia's unique situation (a spontaneous and drastic BC), I thought it'd be interesting (and fun!) to watch her over the new few months as she, and the folks around her adjust to her new look. She'll be regularly updating us with pics, her innermost thoughts and feelings, and reactions from friends and family. She'll be handling business as usual...all while rocking healthy, chic natural hair.

I emailed her this afternoon to propose the idea and she agreed! Here's her response:

Absolutely! I was wondering how I could do just that. I'd like to send you monthly updates on my journey.
I really love the change. I wanted something that was easy to maintain, and looked great at the same time. It's been almost 2 weeks and I really do not miss my long hair at all. The biggest test for me was going out to a bar, and even my gym. I was sure I would notice a negative reaction from guys and thought no one would talk to me. It was good that I did resume my normal activities so quickly. I completely forgot my hair was so short because everyone treated me the same. It's sad how we have images in our head of how we "should" look according to society, and that if we don't fit that mold then we are not beautiful. For me, I never realized that having relaxed hair was my way of trying to fit in with society's expectations.

I sent a link to my family yesterday, and my dad already wrote back. You're welcome to post his response. It really surprised me how sweet his reaction was (I promise I didn't make it up myself). His message is below:
Nadia, nice spotlight, you look great with your natural hair and you have captured the spirit of others who will benefit from your break from the relaxer cycle. I am so proud of you. Keep reaching.

Stay tuned ladies, as we take a peak inside the Diary of a FLYY Black woman.

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Nadia writes, "Nikki, please publish my story to give some courage to girls who, like me, have been using relaxers all their life." Check it out, and show her some love!


CN: Were you a long term or short term transitioner, and why?
N: While deciding whether or not to put in my next relaxer, I had a conversation with my oldest sister. She convinced me not to further damage my hair with yet another relaxer. I had about 5wks of new growth, and decided to do a BC instead.

CN: When did you BC? What was your initial reaction to your natural hair?
N: I did my BC on September 25, 2009. I thought I would cry at the shock and drastic change, and the realization that there is no going back, but I didn’t. I looked in the mirror, and realized that I could pull off this look, thanks to having a small head. I felt immediately free and happy. It was really different to have hair that was immediately less damaged, and healthier.

CN: How did you moisturize your hair?
N: I use Pantene Pro-V Relaxed & Natural for cowash, and Hawaiian Silky 14 in 1 to moisturize. I use either one of these as my leave in overnight. In the morning, I rinse out the conditioner and use Garnier Fructis Wet Shine Gel to activate and hold my curls throughout the day. I only shampoo after going to the gym to wash out the sweat/salt.

CN: Why did you choose to go natural?
N:
I wanted healthy hair that was easy to manage. I have NEVER been without a relaxer in my life. Seriously, there are pictures of me on my first day of kindergarten with relaxed hair. It just doesn’t make sense to have long hair if it’s really damaged and breaking.







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61 Weigh in!:
Nappturall said...

BeauNAPPtiful!

thelady said...

she looks so pretty with short hair

jamie (aka afro) said...

we're getting to see this transition from the very early stages which is cool.
alot of people have been relaxing all of their lives and dont even know what the texture of their natural hair feels like...

i prefer the pics of nadia with her natural hair b/c you immedeatly focus on her face!

Vibrant1 said...

Wow! I love the short look, beautiful girl :) Congratulations!

Tracy said...

You are BEAUTIFUL!

Shell said...

Nadia, you hair is beautiful. I applaud you for embracing your natural hair.

Anonymous said...

Whoa... u r so pretty!!!!!! Love the hair so much!!!!

Stace said...

Gorgeous!

Anonymous said...

Wow. You look great! I hope you keep checking in with updates. What's been the reaction from other folks? Your before and after photos made me think of the lead character in the popular Trisha R. Thomas novel "Nappily Ever After." You look the way I imagined Venus would look. (Halle Berry is playing Venus in the upcoming movie version of the novel.)

Anonymous said...

You're absolutely stunning...long hair or short hair!

Anonymous said...

you have a very pretty face so both looks are great but i love the short natural. you look more stylish. :D

Anonymous said...

In all my time surfing and checking out this site, I have never felt the need to post a comment...until this transition story. Abosultely phenomenal and inspirational. All too often, we get caught up with long permed hair as this ultimate measure of beauty. Its great to see someone who values natural and healthy hair more than the status quo. Not to mention this young lady looks FIERCE!

Krystality said...

Very Pretty! With long and short hair. You have inspired me to finally set a BIG Chop Date.

Anonymous said...

I usually don't comment much..... but ABSOLUTELY GORGEOUS!!! so much better than the long hair...

Anonymous said...

Gangsta!

RecoveringFromThePast said...

Beautiful!!

South Loop Social Light said...

Wow!!! This definitely took a lot of courage. I must say that with long hair or short, you're a gorgeous woman so continue to rock your new look!! Very inspiring...

Hard Shell w/ Soft center said...

Gorgeous!!!

nellboogie said...

You have no clue how fly you look!!!!

Anonymous said...

I think you look fab...Congrats on ur BC....

Anonymous said...

you look so beautiful chica! that hair was hiding your pretty face all this time.

Skeeta said...

I agree with Jamie and anon, you barely notice the face with all of her hair but short hair just highlights how gorgeous she is. Rock it and CONGRATS!

Christy said...

Wow gorgeous. I have been there. I had a relaxer at 6 and this is my second time going natural. Once in college (I had no clue) and I did another bc in Jan 09. I love the short look on you... You rock it well.

Anonymous said...

gorgeous hair and face. Can't wait to watch your journey.

Anonymous said...

So glad we'll be getting regular updates from Nadia!

J Hill said...

Hey, you're a natural beauty long or short hair, but your attitude to go along with this is great. I love the positive outlook you have on doing this.

Tina said...

I agree with Jamie...with all the hair away, the focus immediately goes to your very beautiful face! Congrats and enjoy your journey and your new health hair! I can't begin to tell you how happy I am I decided to stop relaxing.

Anonymous said...

Nadia you are absolutely beautiful!. With your hair cut off, you can now see how beautiful you are. Can't wait to see how your journey goes. Congrats.

Anonymous said...

I love what your father said to you. I think that is wonderful and very touching. Your hair looks fantastic!

Anonymous said...

i love it how we can throw away that "typical light skin long hair" image and go bold n beautiful!! I LOVE IT!! i just did the same thing sans the long hair; and i love rockin the short look!

Gia said...

Beautiful!!

tkaluv said...

Gorg!

Cass said...

her hair is gorgeous!!!!!!!!! I love it have fun with it I know I do lol :)

Kerline said...

You look beautiful, Nadia. Congratulations. And what your dad said was awesome!!

LBell said...

Gorgeous! I first BCd with only 7 weeks' worth of NG so I know how you feel. :)

RSLE said...

Gorgeous!! Nadia, I totally commend and support your decision to make a drastic BC...I shaved my head seven years ago (actually, my hubby shaved it in our bathroom with his clippers!) and it was one of the most liberating things I have ever done. I felt so naked the first few days, but then I realized I am SO much more than my hair...or clothes...or skin...or WHATEVER! I even got married with my head shaved!
:)
Don't ever look back- you're beautiful no matter what, and super fly being exactly who you are.

FrouFrou said...

Fabulous! You are a stunning beauty. Please tell me you plan on having a Fotki...I would love to track your progress.

MsLizziA said...

Wow, i can't believe how brave u r! I don't know if i could have done that. Hats off to you!

Jae said...

WOW! How inspired am I! It's funny seeingher pic with the long hair she looks like so many other women out here but the pic of her BC you just see HER uniqueness and beauty jump out at you!! I look forward to following her transition, as I am going through my own in the ealy phase as we speak!

Peggy M. said...

I've been eyeing this site failthfully for awhile. Never commented, just observed. After reading this post, I felt compelled.

I'm gonna keep it funky. I decided to go natural towards the end of summer. I have support from friends and family AND my significant other yet I am still so scared to cut. I've had a short do for a little over a year now (short back, tail, and some hair in the front - a la Rihanna), which is permed with tons of new growth, since haven't permed since June. But I'm still scared. Why? I don't know if I'll like the transitioning phase or the buzz cut look. If I decide to cut on Saturday, I would want to keep my hair short (Solange-esque) but eventually would love to have big curly hair. I am supposed to take the plunge this weekend and if I don't like it, I'll put a weave in asap...lol. Either way, I need to make a choice quick, this half permed half new growth isn't cute anymore.

Nadia's story is very motivating and she looks great.

Anonymous said...

You are so courageous and beautiful!

nappyquaila said...

I think it was really brave of you to BC as early on as you did! U look fabnappnastic!!lol

Peggy M. said...

Hi... I'm back... Per my comment on 10/9 above, I was scared...

Thanks Nadia and Curly Nikki... I BC'd on Saturday morning and I have a short cut like Nadia's.

I feel... eh... a bit blah... with a sense of liberation. However, I am overwhelmed with the poisitve comments that I am receiving. Everyone seems to love it.

I think I will too, in about a week or two. Now I just need to figure out what products to use, how often to co-wash with this short length. I'm thinking of going CG. So I think I will have to buy products without sulfate or silicone, but I'm not too sure.

thanks again.

Nadia said...

Congrats Peggy! That's so exciting. You have to get your pictures to Nikki so we can see your progress too.

luvmylocs said...

the note from dad was nice! nadia you rock. great spirit and pretty girl you are!

CoCoCosmopolitan said...

she looks gorgeous!

dajewel1982 said...

love it love it love it!!!! i never bc'd, but tranisitioned (oh, and my transitioning strategy was hilarious...but that story is for another day). even though my hair is the size of texas (IMO), i really wished i bc'd so that i can have the experience of short hair!!!!! is funny cuz while everyone trying to grow out their hair, i try to do styles that make it look like my hair had been bc'd. so, those who bc'd take in the experience because you won't get it again (unless you cut it).

Anonymous said...

Very pretty

Anonymous said...

Hi Nadia! Your hair is gorgeous! I just found you on Fotki! Nice pics!

Anonymous said...

So sweet, thanks for sharing Nadia...i needed to read this..my 19 y/o daughter left home last year for college...with 14 inches of beautifully healthy permed hair only to come home this past summer looking just like you...i cried, i told her she just didn't understand what she'd done.. how she limited herself, how people will react, how our family of long hair loving divas and men will react..she couldn't get me to see ...but you just did.. thank you so much.. beauty..thank you..

DeNee said...

You, Solange, and other twa women are so tempting me to chop my hair off!!! Lol. I mean I'm natural and all, but being able to look so damn good with that twa is so tempting me!!!!!

nadiahawaii said...

Wow! I never thought my story would ever have this type of impact...I really am just in shock. I am so happy to be able to inspire and provide a view of what its like (on the other side). Thank you all for your support and very kind words.
Nadia

Milan said...

You look great. Keep workin that short cut ma!

Apryl said...

I love your hair. What courage. That is so amazing! Your hair is so beautiful. And what a truly beautiful face! You go girl!

NappySince10/01/08 said...

This is awesome, to follow her journey. Beautiful

curlyq145 said...

Nadia, You are beautiful inside and out! The BC fits you PERFECTLY! Welcome to the naturally beautiful you!

Anonymous said...

Absolutely gorgeous!

Anonymous said...

You are GORGEOUS! Short hair suits you so well. Hopefully I can get the inspiration to BC too.

Renee said...

I came across this site yesterday, and it was a definite bit of inspiration! I just chopped all my hair away. All natural! lol. Im leaving for Army Basic Training in a few days, and this style will be so much easier to manage. And Im lovin it. Thanks Nadia. :)

NaturallyKiki said...

Great article, thanks for sharing your story! I BC'd the 3rd of September and weaved it up the 7th of September. I wasn't quite ready to wear my natural hair to work yet but I think I'll be removing this weave THIS WEEKEND! You are beautiful!

Anonymous said...

Oh my gosh! You are soooooo gorgeous!

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