Hola Chicas,
This is my last post until Monday morning!
I'll be taking a short hiatus...Sunday is my first wedding anniversary!!! The hubbs and I are sneaking away and I won't have access to my PC ;~)
Later Gators,
Nik


Out With the Old...

Shayla writes:
My mom and mother-in-law do not understand co-washing or using natural oils instead of hair grease or any of the "new to me" methods of hair care. When I was little my mom washed my hair once a week, greased my scalp, kept my hair in braids or twists, didn't use "natural" products, and my hair was thick healthy and strong. Thick, healthy, strong hair is what I want for my daughter, and while I embrace the "because she's my daughter and that's the way its going to go approach", I'd rather find a nice way to tell them that there is nothing wrong with they did it, but I'd like to embrace the new. Suggestions?
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For the record, I can totally relate to Shayla! My hair was long, strong, and happy thanks to regular scalp greasings, and bi-monthly washings. The Blue Ultra Sheen in all it's mineral oil glory, was my holy grail product-- not any of the organic products I live by now. But it got the job done, right?!
What do ya'll think? How should she approach this?
Happily Natural Day- Richmond, VA
Hola Chicas!
Many of you have emailed me about the size of my perm rods. The problem is, I'm not sure, lol. About 10 years ago my grandmother gave me her mother's collection of hair things...clips, barrettes, and perm rods. I recently happened upon the rollers and tried them in place of the magnetic ones. It yields two different looks!
I love the look of both...but after much experimentation, I've learned the pros and cons of each.
Magnetic Rollers:
Pros
- Excellent for my ends-- keeps them straighter and prevents tangling and single strand knots. Stretched out ends are much easier to apply Shea and other sealers and moisturizers to.
- Fast and easy to roll
- Cute and different
- Easier to dry style-- I can pull into a high or low pony tail or bun quickly
- Two different hair textures (wavy versus loose curly) can be stark at times
- Loose curls fall flat easier
Pros
- Very natural looking
- Super cute, chin length style--shows less length than the magnetic rollers
- Stretched out to prevent excessive tangling (compared to a wash&go)
- The ends are not as stretched out as with the magnetic rollers. They are much more prone to dryness, tangling, and splitting. My fine hair is fragile and seems to like a looser curl on the end.
- Harder to pull into a ponytail or bun
- Harder to roll (for me anyway!)
Feed Me Seymour!
That's what my hair is telling me right now. I haven't done a good deep condition in more than 3 weeks. It's also telling me:
- Seal me!: I've been a bit lax lately on the sealing and day to day maintenance of my style. My ends aren't splitting or breaking, but they are dry and tangly. I need to do something 'bout it!
- Fatten me up: It's been nearly a month since my last henna treatment, and boy can I tell! My once thick, and bountiful mane is a bit more scalpy and on the thin side. For me, the effects of henna last about 3 weeks. After that, the thickness, intense shine, and subtle loosening diminishes. My hair returns to its thin, fine, and dainty self.
- Water me: Although I complained about a 45 minute detangling session a couple of weeks back, and vowed to NEVER EVER let my hair go that long between stylings again...I keep doing it! I've only been styling my hair once a week, and I'm paying for it! On one hand, it's less manipulation, and more time to do things unrelated to hair. But on the other hand, it takes FOREVER to get the knots out, and I lose more hair than I should.
- Take your vitamins!: I need to do this on a much more regular basis.
Carol's Daughter Hair Milk

Carols Daughter Hair Milk- 8oz/$18
Product Description: This light, fast-absorbing lotion for the hair is made with essential oil of lemongrass to stimulate natural oil production. Vitamins C and E provide an antioxidant boost while a hint of lily of the valley fragrance perfumes hair beautifully. Hair Milk is ideal for defining natural curls and giving hair loads of shine and bounce.
Benefits:
- Lemongrass stimulates scalp circulation and adds luster to dull hair.
- Sweet almond oil, a natural nut oil that is high in fatty acids and easily absorbed by the scalp.
My Experience: Not a fan. With most CD products, I believe that a little goes a loooong way. While I can see the moisturizing potential, I had a hard time getting past the greasy and straw like feeling I was left with. The high oil content left me with piece-y, coated, frizzy curls. To be fair, my hair is not a fan of oils in excess. For those of you whose hair craves oils, this may be something to check out! I gave my bottle to a curly friend who swears by it.
Bottom Line: Not for me, but may be your holy grail!
It's that time again curlies! The beautiful Wes of Honeybrownsugar is back on the ones and twos! Check out the list of products that she has permanently shelved. 
1. LustraSilk Cholesterol Conditioner: I think I had the worst results using this as a leave in for my hair. It left behind a dull, tacky residue (no shine at all) :-(
2. Jane Carter Solution Twist and Shine: I had used this to help moisturize my ends in my twist outs, this did nothing but dry my hair out unfortunately.
3. Elasta QP Mango Butter: At first, I liked this stuff but after awhile I noticed that it wasn't really doing anything for my hair. It sort of just "sat" there (no moisture, no sheen= nothing)
4. Bentonite Clay: Although this may be great for some, I found that clarifying my hair with a clarifying shampoo worked better for me (and a lot less of a hassle).
I always say everything doesn't work everyone... So tell me, what works (or doesn't work) for you?
To see my list, check out HoneyBrownSugar.com
Styling with Herbal Essence Totally Twisted
Remember my review of Herbal Essence's Totally Twisted Conditioner? Well, I used it as a styler with pretty decent results. My hair is shrinkier and a tad bit frizzier than usual, but I'm loving it. It's very soft and feels as if I used nothing! This is day 2, and it was awfully humid... I did a chunky Twist-n-Curl with only 10 twists (5 on each side), applied Set it Free to the ends, and promptly set them on rods. The best part--it smells like I'm wearing a yummy perfume. I love TT's fragrance! Have any of you left in Totally Twisted with great results?!

Check out the email I received from Kanyin... apparently we aren't the only ones learning to accept our natural curls.
Hi Nikki,
I've read a lot of blogs and I recently added yours to my blogroll as I've recently big chopped. Your site has been invaluable for me through this whole natural process and I am eternally grateful for that. I also follow a lot of fashion blogs and one of my favorites is Garance Dore. She's a french fashion illustrator/streetstyle photographer. She is a very big deal in the fashion industry even though not many outsiders know of her. She is very good at documenting trends and waves that the fashion industry experiences. So imagine my surprise when she wrote this post about white people going natural! (http://www.garancedore.fr/en/
Pretty cool, huh?!
Carol's Daughter Healthy Hair Butter

Carol's Daughter Healthy Hair Butter- 8oz/16.50
Product Description: With the power of seven essential oils, this creamy hair dress conditions your hair and scalp, helping to minimize breakage. Essential oils of sweet orange, lemongrass, patchouli, ylang-ylang, lavender, cedarwood, shea butter and rosemary make this a can't-miss item for the whole family.
Benefits:
- Lavender and sweet orange are powerhouses that rejuvenate.
- Cedarwood helps relieves an itchy scalp.
- Ylang-ylang, a rumored aphrodisiac that regulates oil production.
- Lemongrass and rosemary stimulates scalp circulation.
- Patchouli rejuvenates cells with anti-inflammatory, anti-fungal properties.
My Experience: Not a fan of the fragrance...for some reason, it reminds me of Noxzema. The ingredient list is pretty impressive, and if used sparingly, this product will add shine and moisture to your curls. With that said, if you use too much of it, you're left with frizzy, greasy, lifeless hair. In fact, my hair responds to CDHHB the same way it responds to Qhemet's Heavy Cream. I think it makes a great sealant, despite the fact that the first ingredient is water (apply to hair ends after conditioning and styling). It also appears to be heavy enough to use as a pomade to slick down edges.
Bottom Line: If you're looking for a moisturizer, and heavier products don't bother you, definitely check this out. The price is decent, and even if you can't use it for an all over moisturizer, it will definitely protect your ends from the elements. Would I purchase it again? Probably not, the fragrance is strong, and I already have an excellent (and cheap) pomade and sealant--Shea.

And the winner is............drum roll please.................
Please send me your full name and contact info so that Pamela can drop your goody in the mail!
Thanks again to Pamela for sponsoring this giveaway! If any of you are interested in sponsoring a giveaway (e.g. you've got a product that you don't want), drop me a line :D
First of all I want to thank Danibella for acronymn'ing me out ;~) Check it out:
Hi Nikki. These are the reasons why I love your site:
C - Creativity at it's highest
U - Unique: There is definitely no other blog
like this one
R - Receptive: You are open to our comments and
views
L - Loyalty: You continue to post these
wonderful topics without fail everyday
Y - Yielding: You give us the opportunity to
learn from others (eg. CN testimonials,
substitute teacher, journey to natural etc)
N - Necessary: Your blog provides so much
useful information and you have helped me
so much on my natural journey
I - Interesting: The content on this site is far
from boring. I have spent hours perusing
every single topic
K - Knowledgeable: You know exactly what you are
talking about, be it cones or combs.
K - Keen: You are extremely enthusiastic about
natural hair and positive lifestyles.
I - Intelligent: You display good judgment and
you give great advice in your posts
How awesome is that?! Thanks chica, and thanks to the rest of you for the comments on the 900 Follower Post.
Starting tomorrow, I'll be pumping out product reviews...I've got a crap load of them to do, so consider this "Product Junkie Week". If you've recently tried a product and would like to share your experience, please submit it to nikki@curlynikki.com.
In other news, today is the first day of my new healthy lifestyle! Thanks to all of you for your wonderful comments and suggestions :D Now I've got a plan and I hope to stick to it.
I'll be walking (not jogging, lol) 3 times a week, either on my treadmill, or around the neighborhood depending on the temperature. Wish me luck! Eventually, I'll incorporate harder cardio and toning...but I've gotta start somewhere!
I've again adopted the 6 day menu out of Eat This Not That ... essentially you shop once, and eat for a week. The meals are easy to cook, and consist of lots of veggies, and lean meats.
I'm drinking more water, started taking my vitamins again, and have finally found a milk replacement-- Almond Milk!!! I'm lactose intolerant and I detest soy and rice milks. I tried unsweetened Almond Breeze for the first time on my morning Cheerios and almost wept, lol. Finally, something pleasant to pour atop my favorite cereals...and to dip the occasional Oreo in ;)
I'll keep you chicas posted, and thanks again for your comments...you're the best!! You guys are truly nutrition experts!
Later Gators,
Nik
Carols Daughter Tui Hair Smoothie- Review

Carols Daughter Black Vanilla Hair Smoothie- 8oz/$19
Product Description:
Tui Hair Smoothie is an intense, deep conditioner rich in essential oils and Shea and Cocoa butters that provide moisture and protection to dryness and brittleness. The creamy, nutrient-rich ingredients immediately detangle unruly hair and boost shine.
Benefits:
- Intense, deep conditioner
- New, “bye-bye tangles” recipe
- Rapa Seed Oil is rich in essential fatty acids, Omega-6 and Omega-3 and slips through strands for easy detangling
- Nutrient-rich oils of Olive Fruit and Sunflower seeds boost shine
- Rich Shea and Cocoa butters provide moisture and protect hair from weather damage, dryness and brittleness
- Fragrance cocktail of guava, mango and passion fruit transports you to a tropical island
- Paraben-free, No Petroleum, No Mineral Oil, No Artificial Color
My Experience: I ADORE the fragrance-- passion fruit and mango. The ingredients are almost the same as the Black Vanilla Hair Smoothie, and thus it produces similar results. It has mediocre slip, but excellent moisture. I'm not a fan of the cyclo cone halfway down the list, or the plethora of other hard to pronounce ingredients.
I used the Smoothie as intended-- as a deep conditioning treatment. It went on a bit rough, similar to the BVHS, but in the end, left my hair soft, supple, and full of moisture. This is NOT a detangling conditioner, and if you choose to experiment with this product, I highly rec' detangling prior to using it.
Bottom Line: Great moisturizing deep conditioner, but at 19 dollars, I probably won't repurchase.
Food For Thought...Hair Type Preference

Leah asks:
If you could choose any type of hair in the world, and no one knew that you got to pick it, would you choose what you have now? Why or why not? And if not, what would you prefer?
If you're a member of the natural hair forums, I'm sure you know how quickly a post like this can get nasty. With that in mind, CN.com is a safe and positive place, where everyone should be able to share their honest preferences and opinions without the fear of being judged. Play nice chicas!!!
The Curl Whisperer on Hair Color
In light of the recent discussion on the dangers of highlighting and bleaching, I thought I'd re-post the following article. While many curlies have healthy dyed tresses, others experience breakage, splitting, and chronic dryness. I had my experience with brown/red highlights and it was an absolute disaster. Never again. If you choose to go down this path, arm yourself with knowledge, seek out a seasoned professional, and DO YOU! 
Color and highlights are two of the most popular ways to get a new look quickly. And a new, fun color can certainly take some of the pain out of the maddening process of waiting foreeeeeeever for our hair to grow! So, let's take a look at a few of the options.
Highlighting is the process where strands of hair are pulled through a cap or wrapped in foils to add a lighter, more "streaky" effect to the base color of your hair (conversely, "lowlights" are the same, but are darker than the base color of your hair). They can be subtle or chunky, depending on the pattern you want and how they are wrapped.
Highlights can be done with color IF you are highlighting on hair that has not been previously colored. A color process cannot "lift" or lighten existing color...only bleach can do that. Most highlights are done using what we call a "double process"--meaning the bleach is applied to create the highlights, then a color-based "toner" is applied over the highlights to cool down any unwanted warmth or brassy tones that may result.
You can safely have bleach highlights as long as your hair is in good condition and you make the commitment to take care of them well, although I do NOT recommend anyone using bleach at home unless you have had some training and know what you are doing. Bleach is a very caustic process and can cause big damage to the hair shaft if your hair strength and condition are not properly evaluated prior to application. Additionally, you need to think about what it will cost you for a professional to fix your hair if you run into trouble (my own color correction prices, incidentally, start at $70/hour).
I am not such a stickler about base, or all-over, coloring, however; many of the home haircolor products have greatly improved over the past several years. There are four different types of color:
1) temporary - only lasts until your next shampoo
2) semi-permanent - lasts approximately 6-8 weeks
3) demi-permanent - lasts approximately 8-12 weeks
4) permanent - lasts until the hair grows out
The main difference between semi- or demi-permanent and permanent color is that semi- and demi-permanent colors only stain the outside of the cuticle; permanent color actually results in a chemical change inside the cortex (inner core of the hair shaft).
Haircoloring can be safely done at home, provided you remember a few basic rules:
1) Home haircolor is what is known as "progressive" color--meaning the longer the color sits on your hair, the darker it becomes. That means, if that box of color says to leave it on your head for 30 minutes, ladies, you had best be buck-naked and ready to climb in the shower at minute 29. Salon color is "safer" in that it is non-progressive, so I can leave it on your head for hours and it will never become any darker than it is supposed to be.
2) If you are doing a "retouch" (only applying the color to new growth), you need to be careful to only apply the color to the new growth and not extend the color past the line of demarcation (where the existing color begins). This can create what we call "banding"--stripes of color running through your hair where you colored over the previously colored hair.
3) If you need to refresh the color on your length when doing a retouch (common when you are using red-based colors, which tend to fade quickly), do the following: about five minutes before your color is done and you are due to wash it out, mist your hair all over with water, then pull the color through to the ends. The water will dilute the color to avoid too much deposit on your previously-colored hair and make them darker than the rest of your hair.
Another note on color: please be very careful using temporary, semi- or demi-permanent colors over any type of bleach process. Bleached hair will "grab" onto any type of color and it can become permanent (and who wants those green, orange and black streaks from Halloween in their hair forever?!?!?).
Vegetable dyes, the most popular of which is henna, are increasingly becoming more natural alternatives for many women. The downside is that you will not be able to make any drastic changes with them: they are mainly semi-permanent, meaning they do not affect a chemical change within the hair, cannot lighten your hair, and are best used to add depth to your natural hair color.
If you do use a vegetable dye and then want to permanently color your hair, you MUST ask a trained professional to do a hair strand test on you first. Some vegetable dye products, like henna compounds (not to be confused with body-art quality henna), contain metallic salts: if you put permanent color over these compounds, you will get a chemical reaction and your hair can literally smoke or boil on your head! (Ever heard someone say their scalp felt warm or hot when their color was processing? Now, you know why!).
Be safe, but have some fun with color this summer...and make sure you send pictures of your beautiful, naturally glamorous selves to Nikki so we can see them!
For more of Tiffany, check out her page HERE.
Well, we're 10 months strong, and 900 plus readers deep! Thanks to each and everyone of you for your readership. Your participation in the site keeps me motivated to do what I'm doing! To show you just how much I appreciate you, I'm sponsoring a Giveaway... of course :D
Leave a comment below-- it can be about a recent compliment, why you love your hair, what you love about this site, or anything else! I'm thinking of 2 numbers between 1 and 100. The two naturally glam chicas whose comments correspond with the numbers I've chosen, will receive the hair goodies :D One lucky curly will receive a jar of Carol's Daughter Healthy Hair Butter, and the other will win a bottle of Lisa's Hair Elixir.
The Oyin Giveaway is ending tonight, and a Henna Giveaway will be starting very soon!
Good Luck Ladies!!! Continue to spread the word :D
Nik
On the Couch with Nickye
Nickye shares her natural journey with the CurlyNikki.com community:
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My natural journey started against my will, but I thank God that it did!!
Three years ago, you couldn't tell me nothin' about my hair. I was constantly complimented on my hair. It was truly "fried, dyed, and laid to the side". My hair grew like a weed so I would change colors and hair styles whenever the wind blew. My last style before my transition was one of my favorites. An asymmetrical creation from my stylist with a platinum front.
Unfortunately, a series of events, a hair "Perfect Storm" forced me to make some hard decisions about what I'd been doing to my hair all my life.
Within a time frame of about 4-5 weeks, I got a touch-up on my perm, changed/added 3 medications, and had a medical procedure where a dye was injected. Well, my hair couldn't take it anymore. Upon waking one morning, I'd found that chunks of my hair had broken off. It was a daily routine-- check and see how much closer I was to bald. A woman's nightmare. Needless to say, I was completely devastated. I wanted to crawl under a rock and stay there. After a teary consultation with my sympathetic stylist, the decision was made to stop the breakage the only way possible. Cut it down to the new growth. My transition to all natural hair took 20 minutes.
I walked out of the salon scared stupid. I had no idea what I'd gotten myself into. My hair had been straightened by hot combs and perms since I could remember, so I had no clue as to what or how my hair would behave. All I knew is that my hair was a bear that could not be completely straightened. I still remember the stylist who claimed she could straighten my hair despite my protests. So instead of the mild perm that I usually recieved at my regular salon, she put in a Super Strength. A couple of days before my next appointment 2 weeks later, I washed it and sprayed some leave in conditioner, the only "'do" I could do to my hair at the time. When I walked in for my appointment & told the receptionist I wanted a wrap that day, she advised me that I couldn't get a wrap with a Jheri Curl. I told her that I'd just gotten a perm, but she didn't believe me. After the stylist came out from the back and looked at me, she admitted she'd finally met the hair that couldn't be straightened. Remembering this, my stomach clenched. "Oh Lord, what have I done??" I was going to look like a crazy puffball. God help me!!
I went straight to every hair supply store & bought every product I could. I was panicking. I could not walk around looking like nobody loved me! To make matters worse, with my hair texture, I needed the control of a gel, but who wants hair that feels like plywood?! I didn't know what to do. My saving grace was already in my cabinet, but it took 2 weeks before I realized it. Elasta QP's Feels Like Silk Liquid Styling Gel. Praise God for this stuff! I can find it in any beauty supply store, and it's only $3.50 for 8 oz. I slapped this in my hair, shook what little bit I had around, and a beautiful curl pattern emerged. I would then take a small bit of oil or "hair milk and go over my hair, so when it dried it was completely soft. I was completely floored. I officially began to fall in love with my hair!I realized I wanted hair that was healthy, so I needed to educate myself. I was shocked to realize that the ingredients in a great deal of mass produced ethnic hair products cause hair dryness, breakage, and loss. So I was on a mission to find lines that were good for my hair. After typing myself silly on the internet, I've found lines and products that work for me. And the best part is, the following are all sista owned!
-CURLS www.curls.biz - I CANNOT say enough about their products! I love their site, it has so much info about how to care for curly hair. It taught me so much. Every curly that I've recommended it to has fallen in love with it! My faves are the Curlicious Cleansing Creme (Sulfate free), Coconut Sublime Conditioner, CURLS Milkshake and the Whipped Creme for curl definition. The line has products for all textures and curl types. Try it, you will NOT be disappointed!!
-Pretty Natural www.prettynatural-inc.com - all natural products, try the Sheajoba hair dressing..I've had mine snatched away 3 times!! :) The stuff is amazing and smells delicious! The creator of the line also gives consultations, links are on the site.
- CURLS BY SISTERS SMITH www.curlsbysisterssmith.com - A line of of conditioners and styling products for curly hair, made fresh for each order,AND the prices are very reasonable. Products come unscented or in various scents using essential oils; you can also special request scents (I have lemongrass on the way to me now). I use the Just Drenched! Daily Conditioner and wear the DEEEEEEP! Conditioner overnight in vanilla scent. My hair feels wonderful the next day and the scent lulled me right to sleep. Also try the Wet Set Hair Pudding (16 oz. $11.15) and the Butter Me Up! hair butter (4oz $5.25)
-Carol's Daughter www.carolsdaughter.com - I LOVE the Tui Hair Smoothie and the Hair Milk and Hair Balm.
I've since found the style I really like. I now keep it cut in a curly platinum bob. It's so easy and so much fun to maintain.People stop me in the street asking who my stylist is and what type of process do I have. When I tell them it's natural, they're always surprised. Men and women, black and white, compliment me on my hair. I used to get complimented on my hair when it was permed, but NOTHING like what I now recieve.
And the best part is, I am now free! No more all day salon visits, no more fear of humidity and rain, and NO MORE BAD HAIR DAYS, and lets not even talk about the hundreds of dollars I save in weekly hairdos!!! I don't even know why I'd been altering what God gave me. African-American hair is so diverse and beautiful, and I realized that what I'd been doing was damaging my hair and never even questioned why....it was just what you did. I've had women come to me and tell me that after seeing my hair, they were going natural too. 'Fros, locs, curls, braids, whatever...it's all beautiful and sooooo liberating!
Nickye Powell
Another way to Salvage an Old Twist-n-Curl
This is how I'm wearing my hair today...a messy, high ponytail, secured with a satin scrunchie:
This is 7 day old hair and is in need of detangling! I'll probably condition, detangle, and re-style tomorrow. To preserve this style at night, I take off the headband, tie on my trusty satin scarf, and call it a night!
Later Gators,
Nik
A Lesson Learned- Teaching our Children to Love Their Hair
Mechelle submitted the following in hopes that it can help us all to be better role models!
Nikki,
I have been natural for four years, but I have flat-ironed the entire time. I had surgery in March 09 and was unable to get my hair done, so I decided to be truly natural and opted to wear a Twist-n-Curl (TnC). I became addicted! I got more and more compliments with every TnC set. I was almost at the point that I never wanted to go back.
Well, earlier this month I was in my best friend's wedding and decided to get my hair flat ironed. It had grown so much. Those few months of pampering my hair had really paid off. I enjoyed the straight hair and seemed to get a lot of attention with it. But it all came at a cost.
Yesterday my naturally curly 4-year old daughter asked me to straighten her beautiful, thick curly locks. She has a head of hair many of us would fight for, and she was asking me to make her hair look like mine and the people on the television. I spent the rest of the morning convincing her that her hair was beautiful, much more beautiful than my straight hair. But my husband reminded me that I had been flaunting my straight hair and it may have affected her. My heart was broken.
I then realized that I actually missed my curly mane. It was so much easier than this straight hair that I decided to sport to be in the wedding. I missed the sisterhood I felt when I passed another curly on the street or in the mall. Most of all, I had led my little girl to want to leave her lovely curls behind.
I learned a lesson by getting my hair straightened and it is one that I do not plan to repeat again any time soon. Thank you for helping me learn to love my hair and in turn giving me the opportunity to teach my little girl to lover hers.

While We're on the Subject...
of healthy insides and outsides, let's post healthy lunch ideas for curlies on the go. This is an incredibly selfish post, because I'm the one that needs help!!! I'm revamping (for the umpteenth time) my diet for several reasons--
1. I have high cholesterol! The doc didn't tell me that I needed to fast prior to him drawing my blood, so my results may be a bit tainted. But whatever the case, my cholesterol is like 70 points over what it should be! Ummm....heart attacks are not sexy. I need to get this in check.
2. I hate to exercise, so I need to maintain my shape by making healthy food choices. I loved the book French Women Don't Get Fat. I've read it three times and will probably read it again soon. The basic tenants are-- eat reasonable proportions, make wise decisions (pick a glass of wine, or a few squares of dark chocolate, but not both!), and walk for your health. They don't buy into the 'sweat your butt off at the gym' mentality, which is perfect, because I hate sweating, and I hate the gym, lol.
3. The once thin and petite women in my fam have weight control issues after bearing children. I'd like to learn healthy eating habits before starting my family so that I can concentrate on things more important than restoring my figure. Plus, I'll be better equipped to teach my children how to eat right.
I do pretty well for months at a time--oatmeal and fruit for breakfast, yogurt for a snack, salads for lunch, and lean meat, veggies, and brown rice for dinner. But after about 3 weeks of this, I begin to crave fried, cheesy, greasy things (cakes, cookies, and pies, if you will) and not only fall off the wagon, but get run over by it! I'm presently off the wagon...having just ate left over Chinese food for breakfast, and pizza for dinner last night.
I hope to start the following menu on Monday:
Breakfast (one of the following)
-oatmeal, fruit
-whole grain English muffin/egg/ham sandwich
Snack (1 or 2 of the following)
-Yogurt, almonds, fruit
Lunch
??
Snack
-hummus and carrot sticks
Dinner
-lean meat, mix green salad, brown rice, sweet potato
-stir fry (homemade)
Did I mention that I'm not a huge fan of the kitchen? Also, at lunchtime, I'm usually in my car, and need something that is totally portable. I'd like to expand my repertoire so I don't become bored. I'm addicted to all things fried and/or dipped in cheese, and will need to make an allowance for that at least once a week ;) Ideas?!
Thanks chicas!
Nik
NaturallyCurlyEnnovy on Denman Brushes
Remember the lovely NaturallyCurlyEnnovy?! 
Well, she's back with advice on purchasing the right Denman brush for your needs. After reading, I've decided that a Denman d41 might be in my future ;)
I purchased the Denman Brush D3 after reading about the Denman Brushes on the forum. Looking at it live and in person I was very skeptical about using it as it looked like it would rip my hair out of my head. I say this because the rows are so close together. It reminded me of a comb and NOT a wide-tooth comb. I purchased it anyway (knowing I could always return to Sally's) and tried to use it. Took me about 5 minutes before I put it away after trying to use it on only a very small section of hair. It was pulling my hair out and I know I would have lost at least a fourth of my hair had I continued to use it AND it would have probably have taken over an hour to detangle. So I went back to using my trusty Paddle brush.
Now after doing research I realize that I should NOT have bought the D3 nor the D4. Those particular brushes are for STRAIGHT hair and are typically used for blow drying the hair for a smooth look. However, the D31 and the D41 are typically used for THICK or CURLY hair AND used for DETANGLING. The rows are spread apart to allow the hair to actually flow through the brush and the pins are spread apart as well. The D31 medium size brush has 7 rows and is for all lengths of hair. The D41 large size brush has 9 rows and is for medium to long hair. There is also the D1431 which has 5 rows and recommended for shorter hair. It is small and more compact so you could put this in your purse.
Of course, I ordered the D41 online for $9 with $5.95 s/h and will let you know. I've never heard of the place I ordered it from so I don't want to provide it at this time. However, I will once I have received my product and see if it is authentic. I got it for $2 cheaper (this includes the shipping) than I could have at the Beauty Store and Salon in my neighborhood. It's $16.99 there plus tax. So, I am kind of wondering if it is a TRUE Denman!!
Anyway, I thought I would post for those ladies that said they felt they lost too much hair with the Denman. Perhaps it was because it was the wrong Denman!!
More Denman articles:
Tangles, Shed Hair, and Knots
Frizz Factor
Note to Self
Ashley- A Story of Transition
I've been following your blog since my big chop a month ago and I've found so much helpful information. However, I'm having a hard time finding a lot of twas out there. And I went through a hard time adapting to being natural over the past month and would like to help others with my story! Thanks for allowing me the forum to do so.
CN: Were you a long term or short term transitioner, and why?
Ashley: I was a short term transitioner. A family friend was visiting and suggested I go natural. I never thought I could because my hair is so thick and "nappy". Once I did more research and went to the natural hair care salon she suggested I was ready to transition. But after 4 weeks I got tired of the two textures and had my stylist cut the rest of the relaxer off on a whim.
CN: When did you BC? What was your initial reaction to your natural hair?
Ashley: I big chopped three days before my 22nd birthday. *Geminis Represent* So, it was June 7, 2009. I'm not going to lie, initially I was depressed. I felt ugly with these new found "nappy" roots and I refused to leave my house without wearing a wig for three weeks. However, one day I called my mom (it was during the third week of wearing a wig) and she told me beauty starts with inner confidence and if it radiates to the outside others won't be able to help but love me the way I am. The next day I had my big "reveal", and sure enough EVERYBODY LOVED it. Now I'm having fun being able to wash it when I want, trying twist outs and comb coils (which I cannot master to save my life).
CN: What was your transition routine (products included)?
Ashley: $90 a week for a shampoo/steam hydration/press a week. Yes, I'm a broke law student who was skimping on groceries just to get my hair done :/
CN: What was your staple hair style during the transition?
Ashley: I had a staple style? lol I'd have to say a two textured hot mess!
CN: How did you moisturize your hair to prevent breakage at the new growth
line?
Ashley: I tried numerous products but then just did the big chop. I guess you can see I was an unsuccessful yet successful transitioner b/c I still reached the end goal of being natural!
CN: Why did you choose to go natural?
Ashley: At first I chose to go natural because I became more in tune with the health of my hair and not just wanting long hair. Because it would grow, but then be all damaged and weak due to the relaxers, braids, and weaves. However, this journey has become so much more than that to include learning more about the inner me and embracing my roots physically and emotionally. It's hard to explain, but I feel closer to my roots with my curly hair than I ever have before due to growing up in a military family where we were generally the only African-American family around.
The first couple of pics are of me with relaxed hair and the last one is a few weeks after the big chop. It's grown even more since! Check out my blog at http://curlconfessions.blogspot.com for updates! It's growing like crazy!!
Submitted by Michelle:
Really?! I didn't make it past 40 seconds. Incredibly painful to watch and it does classify as abuse.
TWA Styling with BermudaBeauty
This is BermudaBeauty. I am just responding to a post I saw requesting styles for the TWA and I wanted to share some of mine. I am currently 2 months post my BC. I transitioned for 3 months, so I guess I am natural now for 5months. Here are some styles some ladies with a TWA like me can try.
My Fro Hawk


Head band hair do. I added 1 clip on extension for volume. I made the extension myself with Batik jehi curl weave hair. I hot glued wig clips on the weave track.

Hair decorations. Always a nice touch. I added 3 clip on extensions for length and volume.


















