Chavonne- A Natural Bride




Chavonne writes:

I was nervous about wearing my natural hair out for the big day. My hair is unpredictable and I wanted some certainty that it wouldn't look a hot mess. So I tried 3 or 4 natural hair salons trying to recreate a hair style I saw in an Essence magazine. Each time my hair came out worst than the last and to make matters worse, I would be in the shop FOREVER. After the last failed attempt, I decided I was going to get a sew in weave from a former co-worker and acquaintance of mine, who is also the cousin of one of my closest friends. I had known her a while, had seen her work, and figured I could cut out all of the time that would be wasted in a shop. It was also spring and my hair loses the fight against humidity every time. I figured a weave was my safest bet.

Well, the morning of my wedding she was no where to be found. I called her repeatedly, went by he home, and waited around until it became obvious that she was standing me up. To this day she has never apologized or offered any reason as to why she just disappeared. Anyway, I knew this day would only happen once, and I was determined not to let her or anything else rain on my parade. So I unraveled my twists, stuck in some flower pins my girlfriend brought with her, and went on my way. Looking back, I can now say things worked out for the best (at least when it comes to my hair). I can't imagine what my husband's face would have looked like when he saw me with a long weave for the first time. In the end, I looked like me when I was walking down the aisle and that's the way it should have been.

62 Weigh in!:
Alicia James said...

Very nice wedding hairstyle.

Anonymous said...

Beautiful!!!

CoilyRob said...

Absolutely gorgeous!

Rene Syler said...

Best line, " In the end, I looked like me when I was walking down the aisle and that's the way it should have been." So true.. and beautiful!

Anonymous said...

So pretty! Still kinda messed up that your co-worker stood you up though. I guess things happen for a reason.

IcyLillies said...

I like it!! It's so pretty!

Anonymous said...

You looked gorgeous!

Breanna said...

Oh you and the hubby look gorgeous on your wedding day, and the hair came out looking really good. It's so good to see more bw/wm couples since I date interacially as well here in GA. It sucks that the coworker stood you up, but you still looked good on your wedding.

Erin said...

You looked gorgeous! You didn't need that weave. It was meant for you to rock the natural on your wedding day.

Congrats! :-)

Anonymous said...

You looked beautiful. Sorry to hear about the person standing you up but that was a blessing in disguse. Your natural hair with the pins look fabulous.

modest-goddess said...

such a beautiful bride

Robyn's Nest said...

You look gorgeous!!!

Anonymous said...

Love your story...If you ever come in contact when the young lady who stood you up, simply say THANK YOU...God stepped and kept her from you because he wanted you to be the the woman your husband fell in love with, the one he wanted to see walk down that aisle ....You look beautiful and your hair is straight up amazing.. Congrats!!!

socialitedreams said...

you are FLAWLESS!! glad that your hair picked that day to act brilliantly :) what a biatch your hair lady is, stand you up on your WEDDING DAY! kind of important! dang

Vonnie
http://www.socialitedreams.com/

Anonymous said...

How lovely you look. You are truly resilient as well. You had a bag of lemons and made some good old lemonade. You rock! I too got stood up by a braider last year and it was the best thing that ever happened because I was forced to deal with my hair! What that coworker meant for evil was turned around in your favor! Blessings on your marriage! I am claiming mine in 2011!

lrainey114 said...

Beautiful bride! Even though it didn't work with your friend, your hair was beautiful!

Anonymous said...

Your hair was beautiful and that man was marrying YOU and he obviously loves the way you look as your natural self. On your wedding day, it was a blessing to look like the woman he loves everyday hair and all, right?

J. said...

Wow it came out really nicee! You made such a beautiful style and some simply! ]

Anonymous said...

Chavonne, you were a beautiful bride! Your hair looks great. I'm certain it suited you far better than any weave would have :)

LW said...

You have a Beautiful face!!

You could have made ANY hair style look good.

Sweetdrk1 said...

Breathtaking!!

Duchess52 said...

I agree with Sweetdrk1....absolutely breathtaking!!!

Anonymous said...

Everything happens for a reason! Good thing she was nowhere to be found! Beautiful.....simply beautiful!! :o)

Anonymous said...

Gorgeous, gorgeous, gorgeous! I love it; so elegant. Congratulations!!

CocoaDreamee said...

You are such a breath taking bride. As everyone has said, God used that trip up for your good. It still baffles me how people can be ok treating others with such disrespect. But good thing we serve a God who is prepared for anything! Congrats on your wedding!

Anonymous said...

I don't think that is a bw/wm couple.

Anonymous said...

she is a stunning bride :) and her hairs looks awesome

Anonymous said...

Very pretty!

you don't need a straight hairstyle or weave to look nice for a special occassion, I wish more black women would realize that

Curly J said...

You look absolutely stunning... and I am glad you ended up wearing your hair because it is truely a beautiful reflection of you :) Congratulations on your marriage and being you!

LuckySprag said...

I got teary looking at your pics..you look absolutely gorgeous...you should be in a bride magazine :)

Mizzez Melly Mel said...

Your hair is beautiful! The "friend" who didn't come through ended up doing you a favor...not for the stress, of course, but because you looked like "you" with your natural hair.

Camille Acey said...

a friend "stood me up" for my wedding hair, and when i went to get my hair done somewhere else, the hair salon owner told me the same thing had happened to her on her wedding day. i ended up actually getting the final style done the day before the wedding, just to be on the safe side and make sure the actual day was lower-stress. i HIGHLY recommend not getting your hair done on the day of your wedding. sleeping in such a way as to not mess up your hair the night before might be a little tough. but come on, you're not gonna be sleeping much anyway!

to the bride above - God had a plan and it turned out beautifully!

Anonymous said...

Wow...you looked stunning on your wedding day!!! I agree with everyone....it was a blessing in disguise you were stood up.

Cinni said...

stunning, gorge, beautiful!

things worked out for the better cuz yu look so good!

Anonymous said...

I agree with everyone that your hair looked beautiful and you sure did not need some 'ol weave--but what is it with the God comments? Do people actually believe there's a higher entity who actually stepped in and said "I will stop Chavonne from putting yaki in her hair on this most blessed day"-

Anyway, you look stunning in your photos

Kaila S said...

You and your hair looked amazing!!!
Everything happens for a reason and I'm glad you didnt get the weave. You looked absolutely amazing!!!

Anonymous said...

she's so beautiful!! love her smile
sassycassie

Ziggs said...

You and your hair looked beautiful. Congrats! and thanks for sharing your wonderful story with us.

likeitsgolden said...

Thanks for all the really nice comments! There were a ton of other things that went wrong that day but I just tried to make the best of it and enjoy myself. You guys made my morning :)

-Chavonne

Anonymous said...

What kind of "professional" stands someone up on their wedding day of all days? That's just blowing my mind...

Well, like others have said, it all worked out to the good because you looked gorgeous and happy and REAL...which is what all brides should be. Congratulations!

SoulfulSista said...

Gorgeous bride!

Anonymous said...

You look absolutely beautiful in those pictures. Clearly it was meant to be that you would rock your gorgeous curls for the big day!

Abii

Pecancurls said...

You looked fabulous! Good for you for not letting her "randomness" ruin your special day.

Keeley said...

You didn't need that weave - your style was beautiful that day! Don't you just hate when people disappear at random times? Good thing you knew how to work with your own hair and rock a fantastic look for your wedding.

AfroDisiac said...

Amazing! :) Congrats

Maddy said...

You looked beautiful and glowing on your wedding day....just the way you should! So glad that the weave thing didn't work out. You looked stunning and like you said...you looked like you, which is the most important thing :)

Curly Hairdo Ideas said...

Stunning!!! Thank goodness she disappeared - you look amazing! and I'm sure your hubby agreed! :D

My mom and I had a little tousle about my hair on my wedding day, too. - It's straight, and I wore it down. Oh the shocker!! But I wanted to look like me - not some goof with hair I never wear! lol Good for you for wearing your naturally beautiful style!

Simply GORGEOUS!
~Karli
www.curlyhairdoideas.com

Anonymous said...

Chavonne: I genuinely mean it when I say you looked absolutely beautiful on your wedding day…no weave necessary! Though that was a horrible thing for your ex co-worker to stand you up, she really did you a favor because your hair, in it’s natural state was just perfect. It's you...it's lovely. And to Anonymous at January 31, 2011 12:52 AM: I can only speak for myself when I say, but, yes I truly DO believe that God would step in on her wedding day and say "I don't have Chavonne to wear a weave." Every details of our life is important to God, down to the very hair on our head. It literally says in His word (Luke 12:7)..."that every hair on our head is numbered," so why would this not be important? From what we think are the most miniscule things, to the biggest of situations, He cares & acts on our behalf. I know that this is about a bride’s story & not a forum on God, but for those that don't realize how great God's love is & how deep His care for you is, I truly wish that you would take a chance & the time to know Him. The love of Christ is truly amazing & it will blow you away once you allow Him in.

brunettefury said...

I wish people wouldn't prosthelytize on here, especially since some of us aren't religious or are from different religious backgrounds.

Anyway, beautiful photos of a beautiful couple. :)

Anonymous said...

You look beautiful!!!!

Anonymous said...

@ Anonymous 1:23 a.m. and brunettefury: While you may not want to acknowledge God, it is a fact that for those of us who do, He orders our steps. As I wrote before, I too was stood up by a braider. This incident forced me to deal with my natural hair sooner than I had planned to. In retrospect it was the BEST thing that ever happened to me because I was no longer dependent on someone to do my hair, just like in my relaxed days. And don't worry when you set up your blogs I won't be leaving any religious comments.

Peace out.

Anonymous said...

IM NOT TRYING TO BE RUDE BUT WHY DOES IT SEEM LIKE EVERY BLACK GIRL WHO IS NATURAL, MARRIES A WHITE OR LATINO MAN? I THOUGHT THEY WOULD WANT THEIR CHILDREN TO HAVE HAIR LIKE THEM BUT IT SEEMS LIKE NATURALS ARE SO FOCUSED ON HAIR THAT THEY REALLY WANT THEIR CHILDRENS HAIR TO BE SOFTER(MORE WHITE). I SEE THIS EVERYWHERE. EVERYTIME A BLACK NATURAL WOMAN IS MARRIED, ITS TO A MAN WHO LOOKS WHITE OR CLOSE TO IT! I DONT GET IT!

Anonymous said...

wow @ anon 8:47! I don't think finding your life partner has nothing to do with hair (yours or future kids), whether he is black or non-black! However, I will say that non-black men seem to be a lot more accepting of natural hair than a lot of black men. And that maybe, being with a man that accepts you for you, will make you more accepting of your natural hair in turn.

Anonymous said...

Anon 7:36 pm and 1:11 pm--i was the Anon who made the statement, and I personally never said I "do not acknowledge God".

I used to wear extensions, and my braider suggested wearing my own hair because it had grown so well. I was hesitant because the extensions were a crutch for so long, but I did take her advice, and glad about it. And like Chavonne, my own hair can be unpredictable but no way would i go back to fake hair. Yay me.

I thank God for helping my family survive several tragedies, and for helping me start a new career--I do not thank God, Allah or any deity because circumstances prompted me to change my hairstyle. I just decided to wear my hair growing out of my head because 1)I was broke and 2)I realized i love the feel of my own hair. And I believe He has priorities over keeping me away from the Marley braid section.

brunettefury said...

The "natural women always marry black/Latino guys" is such an obvious troll comment.

Don't feed the troll, people.

Anonymous said...

Chavonne- Kudos to you for making lemonade out of the lemons that you were dealt! You look magnificent!!! Lucky for you that your friend had that hair accessory because it was just right.

Regarding the many rude and negative comments on this post, I would recommend that we keep our focus on the post. Chavonne's story is NOT about YOU and YOUR religious opinions or YOUR preference in a mate. Some of you are starting to sound like the hateful people that post on CNN.

Anonymous said...

I WAS JUST SPEAKING THE TRUTH. WHOEVER MADE THAT COMMENT ABOUT WHITE MEN BEING MORE ACCEPTING OF NATURAL HAIR THAN BLACK MEN, IS WRONG AND STUPID. PLENTY OF BLACK MEN LOVE NATURAL HAIR! SO THATS AN EXCUSE. DONT PUT ALL BLACK MEN INTO A BOX. THATS CALLED STEREOTYPING. ANYWAY, I WILL STEREOTYPE AND SAY THAT WHITE MEN WILL NEVER MAKE BETTER HUSBANDS THAN BLACK MEN. ANONYMOUS 9:14 PM YOUR IGNORANT. YOU PROVED MY POINT ABOUT BLACK WOMEN WITH NATURAL HAIR LOVING WHITE MEN. YOU SHOWED THAT YOU OBVIOUSLY FAVOR WHITE MEN. IDIOT!

Anonymous said...

WHITE MEN ARE MORE ACCEPTING OF NATURAL HAIR THAN BLACK? HOW IGNORANT CAN YOU BE ANONYMOUS 9:14PM. OBVIOUSLY YOUR ONE OF THOSE INSECURE BLACK WOMEN. BLACK MEN ARE THE BEST!

Anonymous said...

Love your hair! It was perfect! :) ~KF519

Anonymous said...

Anon at 8:30, 8:47 and 8:29 - pot meet kettle. You just went on to say that black men are better than white men. You are way too obsessed with this topic and turn off the caps lock please. This post should not be a place to air racist and prejudice views. What does it matter to you who anyone marries. With your attitude, expect to remain single for a long time. No one likes a narrow minded, judgemental person.

Anonymous said...

I love your hair you made the right move congratulations on your marriage.

Lori said...

You are absolutely gorgeous! Blessings to you both.

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