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January 24, 2012

Rebirth of the Hairline


by Winnie of Three Naturals

I didn’t realize I had (past tense) a receding hairline until now. Just the other day I noticed some re-growth of baby hair along my hairline, something I didn’t see when I was relaxing my hair.

The hair along our hairline, as I like to call it baby hair, is typically finer than the rest of our hair. It’s more delicate so naturally I thought it made sense that it would be more susceptible to damage from the relaxer than the rest of my hair. This got me thinking... the relaxer presented an unhealthy environment, so why would I expect to see growth? Things don’t typically grow in unhealthy environments. Which had me thinking some more… I didn’t notice the receding hairline because it was subtle and because the unhealthy environment (relaxer) I created for my hair became the norm, so I didn’t see it as unhealthy... it was just what I became used to and comfortable with.

Sometimes, we put ourselves in unhealthy environments or relationships and we're not going anywhere, or worse, we go backwards, much like the receding hairline. We continue to go back, to the point where we’ve gone so far that we don’t know what to do and start to look for cover ups to hide what’s really going on. So I ask, what kind of environment or relationship are you in? And is it conducive to your growth? The good news is, it’s not too late. If you know it’s unhealthy, do something about it. It took me coming out of the unhealthy environment into a healthy environment to see my new growth blossom, and I’m not just talking about my hair.

Stay true to you cuz your beautiful just the way you are.

22 Chime in!:

Anonymous said...

OMG!! I think you were definitely speakin to me! Not only have I noticed the unhealthy environment within my hair, but my skin as well as my relationship. I am embracing my life & natural hair and looking at things for what they truly are as opposed to what I would 'like' them to be. Great article!

Kira said...

Really great article. I guess I needed to read this, because it brought me to tears :) Thank you!

Anonymous said...

One of the best things I've seen on this site period, and that's no easy task.

NancyM said...

I definitely noticed a thinning hairline after a long time with relaxed hair. I'm happy to say that now that I'm transitioning (11.5 months so far), I've noticed that my hairline is filling in again.

Along with my transition, I've adopted a healthier lifestyle including better eating and exercise. That's paid off too...I've lost 25 pounds (my goal was 20 pounds).

I already had a great relationship and my hubby has been supportive of both my hair and health journey. In fact, he's not joined me in the gym!

Great article!

Jamie said...

Beautifully written and on time not just for me but the ladies around me!I have the tendency to fantasize about how things could be, don't get me wrong I still believe in optimism, but you are right it is better to give yourself a reality check instead of reality checking you.

NancyM said...

Meant to say, he's NOW joined me in the gym. LOL! Typing too fast.

Anonymous said...

Beautiful piece.

launie said...

I absolutely love this! Great article!

Anonymous said...

Excellently written!

Anonymous said...

I too didn't realize I had a receeding hairline until I went natural. Years of hiding up under all them chemicals, smdh

Anonymous said...

<3 I'm in an unhealthy situation I've been conflicted about leaving for months. So I've been praying and asking God for a sign that I should leave because I can't seem to decide on my own. Here I am casually reading hair blogs like I do everyday and heres my sign! Praise God. :D

Anonymous said...

BOOM! You just dropped a bomb on us and we are sitting here here staring at the screen. Time to get it moving folks!

Anonymous said...

AMEN!

Anonymous said...

My sister and I compare each other to that old "acorn" about the dog on the porch. Wanna hear it? Here it goes...

Fella walking down the road observes an old couple rocking on their front porch. Between them is an old hound-dog. The dog is whining and moaning, and appears generally unhappy.

This scene happens for a few days.

Finally, the fella stops at the gate, and asks the couple what's going on with their dog. Mom and Pops reply that the dog has been lying on a nail, and it hurts enough to make him miserable but not enough to make him move.

When we see ourselves or others whining and moaning to anyone within earshot, or walking through life looking generally unhappy; it's probably because we know we are sitting on a nail. And it hurts enough to make us miserable, but it doesn't hurt us enough to get up and move.

So, just like that hound-dog, many of us stay in unhealthy settings because it hasn't hurt enough.

Anonymous said...

BEautiful, as if you were speaking directly to me.

CurlyInTheA said...

I have a receding hairline too. I chalked mine up to age and genetics- that andthat fake track I ripped out of mybang from my french roll in 1992 lol. I noticed quite a few naturals have the same thing with receding hairline. Other than castor oil and avoiding front tension styles, I'm not sure what to do.

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Curlyique said...

Lovely post!!

About 3 weeks into my natural hair journey, I noticed that I was growing a widow peak! For years I wondered why I didn't have a widow's peak because my mom's widow's peak is beautiful. I always had one, but relaxers were terrible to my edges.

My 2nd month natural hair anniversary is tomorrow and I am noticing a lot of growth along my hair line. I had no idea that the relaxers were damaging my edges! I never noticed because I always wore my hair like Aaliyah.

I also feel like my hair is now growing down my neck! I simply apply a little castor oil around my edges and bam!!! Growth!!!

I love this journey!!!!

Erica S said...

*snaps* YES girl! lol Thank you for this post! I wouldn't say I had a 'receding' hairline, but my edges were definitely thinning because of the color I was using on my hair. My edges would always break off from constant coloring. It wasn't until I stopped coloring and let me color grow out that I actually had edges! lol

Anonymous said...

I loved this....i can definitely relate to both aspects of the article......great article Winnie!

Berthia D. said...

Wow this really got me thinking about my situation. Great analogy.. hmm

hunnybun said...

my hairline never went all the way back but it was definitely thin. But now I'm realizing that the women in the fam just don't have these thick luscious edges that some have uggh

Meeka said...

That is the very reason I decided to go natural. I can see some of it returning, but it doesn't stay long. A big indicator that I am doing something wrong. Now that I have joined CN, I have picked up some really great tips and will find out what is going to work for me.

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