by Bennii Blast of The Culture Pine
We see so many success stories across the natural hair sphere, that it can almost make us feel ashamed or guilty if we have a doubt or two about our natural hair journeys. Just like any other aspect of our society; what the majority are doing is considered ‘normal’, and anything outside of the common denominator is a cause for concern. Well, let me tell you – there is absolutely nothing extraterrestrial about having a few doubts!
It may feel like you’re the only one experiencing a few negative thoughts, but guess what? Along with countless other ladies, I am right there with you. For instance; watching one of my sisters breeze through a wash day sesh stirs up all kinds of feelings of hair envy, because I know my hair will take up twice the amount of time! Or, on those occasional days when I lose all inspiration on how to style my hair, I look back at those times when my hair would lay flat just the way I wanted it too. If only for a moment or two, I catch myself thinking ‘if I were still relaxed…’. Does this mean I regret my decision to go natural? No Way!
We were accustomed to dealing with relaxed hair, for many of us - the majority of our lives, so it is only natural that it may creep into our thoughts every now and then. The trick is; reminding yourself of the very reasons you chose to take a different approach to hair care in the first place. You saw something in yourself when you embarked on this journey that told you; 'I have what it takes to do this'. Try to rediscover that confidence, and don’t let the odd day or two distract you from your goals. If you feel that you are having more than a few doubts – don’t go solo…talk to someone before you make any drastic decisions!
Doubts can occur in any aspects of our lives. Do not allow them to hinder you, but get to the root of their existence to give you the best chance in deciphering how to move past them. There are many of us within the natural hair community here supporting you so…
Stay strong and speak out!