No means no when you are at risk of hurting someone emotionally or physically. No means no when God says no. But when it comes to following your dreams and laying down ground work and foundations to build your future on, “no ” simply means “not yet”. No means try a little harder. No means re-organize and re-work your strategy. When it comes to fighting for what matters to you, whether that be your career, a loved one struggling with addiction, finding “the one”, or adding a plus one to your family, no means don’t give up.
Let’s be real, nothing worth having is going to just fall into your lap because you will it to do so. You gotta get up, get out, pound the pavement, get a little dirt under your nails, and of course, hear a few nos. When you hear the word no, stop for a moment, pray about it, make sure that the thing you are pursuing is in line with what God has created you for, and if his answer is yes, consider the nos heard from others as mere check points along your journey to ensure that you are aligned with your purpose in this world.
The way I see it is, nobody ever goes through their life not hearing no from someone at some point and time. However, if those people just shrugged and sat on their hands waiting for things to be handed to them or gave up, we wouldn’t have platinum recording artist Beyonce, literary treasure Maya Angelou, media mogul Oprah Winfrey, and first black president Barack Obama. I consider myself to be no different. Neither should you! We were created and are destined for greatness. No comes in many forms: break-ups, rejection letters, nay-sayers, and stumbling blocks to name a few, but these are all things that we can take from to gain personal strength and awareness and then use as fuel to push on to get to the next thing. Life is about challenges. Don’t confuse people’s perceptual limitations as truth. Live your life loudly, with love, confidence and conviction. Don’t be afraid to be aggressive, and fight tooth and nail for what you want. If you knock and nobody answers, kick the door down! If you don’t have enough strength to kick the door down at the moment, find a window or a chimney. LOL! Get resourceful and get back in the game. You are Shatterproof. Nobody can stop you from achieving any goals or aspirations but you. Take it from someone who took the same Algebra class three semesters in a row just to graduate college and failed an entrance exam 4 times before getting the needed score to pass. I’m better for it and more determined than I was back then because I know I have enough fight in me to do whatever it takes to make things happen for myself….even if it’s not in my own time. Well, there you have it, the real meaning of no! Chins up, heels on, go chase your dreams and make them count. Continue to be Shatterproof.