September 10, 2012
I decided to contribute to this segment because I remember the trauma I went through trying to find styles for my newly natural hair.
We got married on July 23rd 2011, at a beautiful location in Montego Bay, Jamaica- "The Wharf House". I definitely wanted a laid back beach-y rustic feel as this is the kind of couple we are. It was a beautiful day and in the end, I loved everything about it.
The hair is an unusual story. I started my journey on November 7th 2009. This was the day of my last relaxer and I Big Chopped in March 2011. What led to this Big Chop only 4 months before my wedding day, was an odd revelation.
The original plan was to flat iron my new growth, so that I would then have long flowing hair for my wedding day (my hair, at the time, was past bra strap length). Things didn't quite work out that way.
One day I mentioned jokingly to Hubby that I was going to Big Chop right before the wedding and he looked as if he was hit by a truck, almost devastated. "You cant do that!" he said, "What then are you going to do with your hair?". It was at that point that I had a revelation... how can I get my husband to love my hair if he has never seen it? How could I expect him to love it if the message I was sending was the opposite? I didn't want him to get married to one person and to wake up to another after the Big Chopped. I had to do it, I had to Big Chop.
After I BC'ed it was really difficult trying to find a hairstyle, I didn't have a plan, I was lost. I then thought that I would do what I usually did. So I placed my hair in a low set chignon on a freshly done braid out ( fake hair was added to bun to add some body to it). The veil belongs to my mom, it's over 30 years old (the borrowed item) and the head band was made of genuine swarvoski crystals. The headband was an attempt to fight any frizz which was bound to happen in this humid weather. Most of my other sisters are natural, the pictures were beautiful, the day was beautiful, the natural hair was beautiful!
I really hope that all those ladies out there who are hesitating to Big Chop or wear their natural hair because of fear or uncertainty, will realize that they will look amazing, more so because natural hair is the hair we were blessed with... especially the Brides to Be out there. Think to yourself "How do I want to be remembered on my wedding day?".
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