Tanesha- A Natural Wedding Story

 
 
 
Hey Nikki,
 
I decided to contribute to this segment because I remember the trauma I went through trying to find styles for my newly natural hair.

We got married on July 23rd 2011, at a beautiful location in Montego Bay, Jamaica- "The Wharf House". I definitely wanted a laid back beach-y rustic feel as this is the kind of couple we are. It was a beautiful day and in the end, I loved everything about it.

The hair is an unusual story.  I started my journey on November 7th 2009. This was the day of my last relaxer and I Big Chopped in March 2011.  What led to this Big Chop only 4 months before my wedding day, was an odd revelation. 

The original plan was to flat iron my new growth, so that I would then have long flowing hair for my wedding day (my hair, at the time, was past bra strap length). Things didn't quite work out that way. 

One day I mentioned jokingly to Hubby that I was going to Big Chop right before the wedding and he looked as if he was hit by a truck, almost devastated. "You cant do that!" he said, "What then are you going to do with your hair?". It was at that point that I had a revelation... how can I get my husband to love my hair if he has never seen it? How could I expect him to love it if the message I was sending was the opposite? I didn't want him to get married to one person and to wake up to another after the Big Chopped.  I had to do it, I had to Big Chop.

After I BC'ed it was really difficult trying to find a hairstyle, I didn't have a plan, I was lost. I then thought that I would do what I usually did. So I placed my hair in a low set chignon on a freshly done braid out ( fake hair was added to bun to add some body to it). The veil belongs to my mom, it's over 30 years old (the borrowed item) and the head band was made of genuine swarvoski crystals. The headband was an attempt to fight any frizz which was bound to happen in this humid weather. Most of my other sisters are natural, the pictures were beautiful, the day was beautiful, the natural hair was beautiful!

I really hope that all those ladies out there who are hesitating to Big Chop or wear their natural hair because of fear or uncertainty, will realize that they will look amazing, more so because natural hair is the hair we were blessed with... especially the Brides to Be out there.  Think to yourself "How do I want to be remembered on my wedding day?".

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22 Weigh in!:
Miss Anne said...

Tanesha, you looked soooo gorgeous ! And hopefully, I won't be scared to BC when the time comes. I plan to do it before my 31st birthday, I would have had a good amount of new growth then and it will be marking the journey of my 30th year.

Awesome post Nikki!

Jillian said...

What a gorgeous couple! Yet another natural bride for me to aspire too. Y'all have made me change my original plan of flat ironing my tresses for the big day! Hubs-to-be requested it since I rarely straighten my hair, and since this is his only request throughout this whole process I saw no problem in honoring that request. However, after seeing natural bride after natural bride I found the loop hole in his request. See he specifically asked to have/see length. Now I am in search of the ultimate twist/braid/bantu knot out or curly fro that can hang and swang! Thanks for all the inspiration ladies!!

Hairme said...

You looked unbelievable! So true how can we expect someone to love something that we don't? The picture on the dock, work it girl!

CurvyCurly said...

I'm in awe! These photos are so beautiful they should be featured in a magazine. Tanesha you are sooo beautiful, what a wonderful bride, and you and your new hubby look adorable together. Not to mention your family is just as gorgeous as you. I'm glad you weighed all of your options and then made the best decision for you and your big day.
Again, Beautiful bride, Beautiful couple, and amazing pics!

Dr Mermaid said...

Gorgeous photos. May I ask who did them? Ryan Lue-Clarke/Kayon Doctor/Duane Whittaker?

Davina916 said...

Great story!

Natural83 said...

Tanesha, you looked GORG!!!! #Werk

mothereartha said...

STUNNING!!!
and there must be twins/triplets in that group of sisters...
BEAUTIFUL wedding

CurvyCurly said...

I was thinking the same thing. Serious genes

sherry @ curlyremix.com said...

Oh my word! So cute! Love it all. Very classic and elegant!

barbaranaturallyspeaking said...

Beautiful!

Rayna said...

Your pictures are absolutely gorgeous as are you! Congratulations to you both!

Dilane Mitchell said...

What a gorgeous wedding! Tanesha, you clearly made the right decision.

Britt said...

I don't think anyone should do anything drastic to their hair immediately before a big event. I'm glad it worked out for her and she looked lovely.

Cotton Natural Curls said...

Actually I am a twin, the young lady in the blue is my identical twin.

Cotton Natural Curls said...

It was actually Dean Clarke, awesome photographer check him out on facebook

Cotton Natural Curls said...

Thanks guys for all the wonderful comments and compliments, they are much appreciated. Thanks also to Curly Nikki as well, muah! muah! lovelies!

Shashou said...

It's good to hear stories like this. Very encouraging for those who hadn't taken that leap of faith yet. And good for those already on the journey.

Megan M. said...

Beautiful! I want to wear my hair natural when I get married someday, but I would not know how to style it because I wear twist n curls and when they get old I will do an updo on them.

Dr Mermaid said...

Thanks for replying and Blessings on your union!

Derika said...

Wow! I LOVE your hair! You can't even tell you added the ponytail!

aprilw said...

Tanesha looks absolutely amazing as well as her whole bridal party. She looks like a model if I didn't know any better I'd think the last pic was part of a bridal ad!!! I truly thank her for contributing this article along with her amazing pics because I need different natural styles for the big day=). My future hubby prefers my natural hair but I'm scared to death of a bad hair day on my big day=/ thxs in advance

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