Have you ever felt as though you had to compete with someone else in order to succeed, be recognized, noticed, or loved?
It’s amazing the intense amount of pressure we put on or allow to be put on ourselves in regards to surpassing others in our professional and personal lives.
Believe it or not, when you feel as though you have to outdo someone else in order to be promoted, to be liked/loved, to be successful, or to simply survive/thrive, you will begin to act out of character. You will say and do things that aren’t true to you at all just so that the person you seek to please will pick you, choose you, love you, or want you. Even if you gain favor in their sight by doing so, you’ll have to constantly pretend to be someone you aren’t in order to maintain the false pretense you created so that you would “win.”
Aren’t you tired of trying to be someone that you simply aren’t?
If you have to change or even slightly alter your character for someone or something, it isn’t worth it. Remaining true to yourself may be one of the harder things to do in a world where conformity seems as though it guarantees security or favor in the sight of others but when the dust clears, will you really be happy with yourself?
Compromise is a choice. By no means do you have to become someone else in order to be successful. As women, it seems we are constantly competing with one another, even in menial matters, but it’s time to set the record straight. There is a path for each and every one of us. Your destiny and purpose is yours alone, and you shouldn’t live in fear of losing out on something just because someone else seems better for the job, so get that out of your head.
Do things to the best of your ability because you want to do them, because you love to do them, not with a competitive mindset. Because before you know it, all of your energy and effort will be geared towards outdoing someone, and your integrity will walk out the door.
Instead of pinning yourself against another person, strive to just be yourself and to stay true to who you are. Remember why you started: was it for the love of the job/game/person? Was it because you couldn’t see yourself doing anything else? Was it your passion, your dream? Then don’t let the presence of another cause you to feel threatened.
Rest assured, there is nothing wrong with being aware of the competition if it exists. Just knowing that someone else is hungry for your position can help reawaken any part of you that got complacent or lazy- but don’t allow this knowledge to become toxic in your life.
Decide everyday to be the best you possible. That, my friend, is true success.