Simply choose good feels, real happiness, in the present moment and the 'future' will take care of itself.
^^^^it really is that easy, tho.
"But Nikki, my present moment sucks! I could never feel good about being stuck in this damn traffic..."
Oh, but you can! Especially once you realize that every moment is essentially neutral and it's your interpretation of it, your thoughts, that create your experience... When you hear 'embrace the present moment', or 'be in the now', it doesn't mean to embrace your shitty interpretation of 'the now', it means to become aware of 'the now' BEFORE all of your shitty stories about it! #SubjectiveLivin'
Let's take a closer look at a common, anxiety or at least boredom inducing experience-- traffic. You always have 3 choices for how to experience the present moment of hella traffic:
1. from 'the story of your life'
if you tune into thoughts, you hear, 'Faaawwwk! I stay late. I can already hear the boss going in on me. My days at that place are seriously numbered... I wonder if my body is strip club ready yet.
If you tune into the body, you are aware of tense shoulders, a clenched jaw and a contracted belly. You label these body feels as 'anxiety'. (anxiety is just the gap between the now and the later)
2. from the 'story you want'
if you tune into thoughts, you hear, This is perfect! Extra time for me to practice my affirmations and listen to Kanye go in on 'FML'. My days at that place are seriously numbered... I can already taste the freedom of my new entrepreneurial adventure. Life is so good. Thank you thank you thank you!
if you tune into the body, you are aware of 'good feels' in the heart and stomach area. You label these body feels as 'excitement' or 'anticipation'.
3. from 'no story' at all
if you tune into thoughts, you hear... *silence* *stillness* *nothing* (the kind of silence you experience in that moment when you drive under an overpass during a rain storm, or when your eco car's engine shuts off when you're idle, or when the wind stops for a sec--- In those moments, you instantly register the stillness/peace-- and you get quiet too. Silence on the outside helps you recognize the silence on the inside.)
if you tune into the body- you are aware of relaxed muscles, maybe even warm, tingly awesomeness. If you were to label these body feels, it would be 'peace' or 'real happiness'.
Unlike the camera, your thoughts are incessantly judging what's on display, critiquing, commentating. Thoughts are kinda like a narrator. Do you remember Beavis and Butthead and how they'd talk over music videos? It's like that... life is happening and all the while you have this really loud, quite judgmental, sometimes funny soundtrack laid on top of it. And just like with your TV, you can mute that ish (you can't silence them, but you can choose to place your attention elsewhere, like on your inner body!). And when you do... #NaturalGoodFeels #RealHappiness