Yay or Nay to Charging Men for Your Number on Dating Apps?

By Veronica Wells

I’ve always thought the conception of online dating was an interesting one. And if I didn’t have such a fear of strangers, it might have been a nice option for me when I was still accepting applications. But that’s not the way the cookie crumbled. And while there are some experiences that I wish I’d had, like swiping or matching with someone who also thought I was attractive, I’ve also heard more than a few horror stories.

Mainly that the people, specifically the men on dating apps, are either only trying to get you to have sex with them or they’ll send you daily “wyd” texts for three weeks, taking no sort of initiative to plan a date so he can meet you in person.

Just like the real world, there is struggle.

So, when women venture back onto these apps, sometimes after having been bruised or burned a couple of times, they want to make sure that they’ve come back new and approved. They want a strategy to ensure that no more of their time will be wasted.

It might be hard to do but one woman had a bit of a solution. She shared that she makes men pay for her phone number…literally.

She explains:

Turns out, Mecca was making way more than $5.00 in the process.

Full disclosure, Mecca is not accepting this money with the most honest intentions, in fact, she shared on Twitter: Not only is Mecca using the money for her boyfriend, she’s not even giving out her real number. 

If you know how Tinder works, you know that you have to first match with someone before they’re able to even ask for your number. That was a bit of a downer for Mecca but she soldiered on, saying that the best people to match with were “pasty republicans” and “ballers.” Mecca assures us that we’ll be able to tell the difference.

When a woman said she would feel too bad doing this to someone, Mecca said, she felt bad at first until, “…this White guy said I looked like [a] “classy black girl.” After that, taking his dough was no problem.

But aside from the scamming part, is it wrong that I don’t see that much of an issue with Mecca’s idea? Earlier I mentioned accepting applications. Why couldn’t the $5 serve as an application fee? Hell, if the first date goes well, it could even be reimbursed. 

I know any time a woman talks about taking money from men, she’s labeled as a gold digger; but, for better or worse, money is a consistent part of our romantic interactions. From paying for dates, to deciding how you’re going to split bills in the same household, money and the ability to talk about it are a necessity in any healthy relationship.

Furthermore, I’m sure the requirement of five dollars is not only a conversation-starter, should you make it to an actual date, it is a clear indicator of the man or woman’s interest in getting to know you. Meaning the quality of your initial communication will be better because there’s a vested interest. Folks aren’t going to want to spend five dollars on a number and never make plans to see this brazen woman in person. The fact that people have paid Mecca for this information on a free app, is incredible. And maybe that’s what I like about this idea the most, a woman who recognizes that there is worth associated with just having access to her.

What do you think about the idea of making people on dating apps pay for your number? 
Veronica Wells is the culture editor at MadameNoire.com. She is also the author of “Bettah Days” and the creator of the websiteNoSugarNoCreamMag. You can follow her on Facebook and on Instagram and Twitter @VDubShrug

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