Don't Let Your Inner Voice Run Amok: #BeHerNow


Fun fact: When that little voice isn’t focused on something productive, like reading this passage, it starts reading you. It’s hella critical and the primary source of your angst and confidence issues. Listen to it the next time you’re idly scrolling IG. Notice how it compares, how it judges and berates...how it’s most attracted to the tea spilling posts and negativity. Notice how when you’re in traffic it chimes in to complain or offer advice on what you should’ve said when your colleague came for you yesterday and what you need to say if she comes for you today. Notice how 99% of the time it’s reminiscing about or regretting the past or projecting into the future (it is actually the only reality the past and future has Now). It never rests... well, it does, when you’re asleep, if it lets you fall asleep.

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Feeling Unpretty? Take a Moment to Sit & Focus #BeHerNow


Nikki Walton

Whenever you feel unpretty, "You must focus on the presence inside of you. Take a moment and sit still. Focus on feeling the life presence inside you. As you focus on the presence within, it will begin to reveal itself to you. It is a feeling of pure love and bliss, and it is perfection. That presence is the perfection of you. That presence is the real YOU. As you focus on that presence, as you feel love, and praise that presence, you will feel yourself fully, quite possibly for the first time in your life.

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Facing a Challenge? Feel IT. Walk in IT. You've Already Won. #BeHerNow

Your Purpose is to do THIS, Before You do Anything Else: #BeHerNow

Quote Deepak Chopra 
By Nikki Walton

I listened to a talk a while ago by Mooji that really stuck with me. He said to imagine you’re at the symphony, listening to a beautiful piece of music. If you were asked to hone in on just the violins, you could, in spite of the other instruments. At first it would take a little effort to bring the violins into focus, but then, with just a little attention, you could keep them in the foreground of the orchestra. To hear the violins, you wouldn’t have to silence the cellos or the clarinets. You wouldn’t even have to tell the rude people sitting next to you to shut up, you’d just have to place your attention, your awareness on the violins. Simple.

Your purpose in every moment is to find and listen to the ‘violins,’ aka the Silence, that’s always available even when the cellos, clarinets, and rude audience members (thoughts, feelings and circumstances) are raging. This Silence is always present... IT is Presence.

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Finding Comfort in Discomfort


By Kira Sparkles

Recently, I decided to make a huge change in my life by applying for a job in a field I'm only somewhat familiar with. I touched up my resume and was rejected so many times I wondered if I was meant to permanently be a barista until after three months of applying, something finally clicked.

As it turns out, this job also wanted me to train in a different city for two weeks (all expenses paid!). I was elated! New job! Amazing pay, benefits, and a city I'd never seen!

So why was I also scared?

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#BeHerNow & the Rest Will Follow



You probably don’t know the ‘how’ or the ‘when,’ but you always know the ‘WHAT.’ And I’m not talking about the weight loss, the ring, or the bank account, I’m talking about the reason WHY you want that stuff... the happiness, the peace, the joy, the comfort and security you think you’re gonna have when you finally get it. But if you’ve been actually reading my hella long IG captions, you already know that the only way to be happy, is to be happy, now. ‘Then’ is always, perpetually around the corner. It never comes. You have to be genuinely at peace in this moment. You have to be whole to experience wholeness. You have to be love to be loved.

The 3-Day Say Nothing Negative Challenge. Can You Do It? #BeHerNow


Comment ‘Yes’ if you’re going to try this for the next 3 days!

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Isn't it Time You Fell in Love With the Process of Becoming the Best You? #BeHerNow


The seeming process is actually a moment to moment decision to either stay stuck in fear, or to move forward in love, to be the old you, or to be HER— and this decision can only be made now... and now... and now... So stay asking yourself who you’re being, and act accordingly. #Rebirth #EveryInstant

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True Story: I Negotiated How Long My Man Should Go Down On Me




By TJ

“Are you going to cum?” asks my dude of some months, breaking the momentum of going down on me to rub his neck once again.
“Yea. I’m close.”
“You said that 15 mins ago.”
Sigh.
“You can’t have me down here all day.”
“Ok. So what’s the cutoff time?” I ask.
“Hunh?”
“What’s a decent amount of time that you feel comfortable?" I repeat.
“15 no more than 30 mins.”
“That’s plenty!”
“But you already used up 30," he says.
“That can’t be right," I frown.
“You do it all the time.”

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Flip the Switch: An Exercise on How to #BeHerNow

Gathered, yet? #FlipTheSwitch #BeHerNow

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The Way You Speak to Yourself Matters the Most #BeHerNow


Starting tomorrow morning, make a commitment to be present as an objective audience to your inner voice. Like, instead of being ‘the thinker’ of the thoughts, be ‘the listener’ behind them. It’s a simple but necessary shift that you’ll have to keep remembering— just keep falling back and reminding yourself to watch yourself like you’re watching a movie about someone else.

4 Things I Learned When I Forgot My Baby in the Car


By Erickka Sy Savané

I was reading an article recently about a South Carolina dad whose 8-month-old baby died after being left in a hot car all day. We hear these stories and wonder how this could happen? Actually, statistics show that it happens to the tune of 36 babies dying each year in the United States. We also wonder, who could do such a thing? Well...I did. Thankfully, my baby didn’t die, and I was able to learn some valuable life lessons as a result.

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What It Looks Like to #behernow

Re-Discover Your Current: #BeHerNow

Nikki Walton
There’s a current of peace and well-being coursing through you, always. And when you’re conscious of it,
you let go of who you are and become who you might be.’- Lao Tzu 
This silent but powerful current carries with it the deets of HER unfoldment— of HER success and unconditional happiness.

This joyful current IS security. It IS love. It IS affluence. This flow is your purpose.

Forgiveness & Unconditional Love Aren’t Human Qualities, they are Soul Qualities: #BeHerNow


 

Forgiveness and unconditional love aren’t human qualities, they are Soul qualities...God qualities. That’s why you feel fake when you’re doing your best to live these principles! The ‘you’ that you think you are, can’t forgive nobody lol! 

You Become a Master of Your Life When You Value What You Give Your Attention to: #BeHerNow




-Nikki Walton

The moment you notice you’re worrying or overthinking: STOP 

There is a Voice That Doesn't Use Words. Listen. #BeHerNow


As you read these words, try to hear your heart beating... can you hear it? Listen closely...

Advice to a Mom Whose Daughter Gets Teased for Her Short Afro Hair



By Erickka Sy Savané

As the managing editor of CurlyNikki I read a lot of comments, especially on the Facebook page where folks nowadays seem more comfortable, or maybe it's just more convenient, to sound off. This particular comment and question from a reader was tough to read, and I think anyone would agree, whether a parent or not: My daughter has 4c hair and the shrinkage is real! She gets teased at head start by her peers. They call her bald head and ugly because her hair isn’t long and silky. I try my best to instill in her love for her natural self. She doesn’t feel pretty unless she has crochets in. I was teased a lot in school, and it still has an affect on my self esteem. I’m afraid she’s going to end up the same way. How do we teach our kids to love themselves when we have other kids out here telling them they’re not good enough?

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Loneliness is Your Sign to be Super Watchful #BeHerNow



Whenever the impulse arises to reach out to that person you said you wouldn’t reach out to no mo,’ use it as a trigger to become super watchful.

The Cure for Wanting Everyone to Like You


By Erickka Sy Savané

Not long ago, I was having a moment about an article I wrote that was pissing a lot of women off. Not everyone, but enough that I started to let it get to me. Being a writer today is interesting because you do your best to convey a message that you believe in, and the truth is, not everyone is going to like it. No matter how well-intended. And the worst part isn't that folks disagree, opinions make the world go round, it's when people start calling you names and making threats. I learned this when I had to block someone on twitter about something I said about Serena, who I do adore by the way. At one point, I was close to clicking the delete button on the story altogether when something told me to pause and ask myself what’s really going on?

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