Teyana, Iman and a Thing Called Chemistry

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By Michelby Coco Whitehead

Teyana Taylor and her hubby Iman Shumpert are one of the cutest and sexiest couples I have seen in a long time. Her abs are on my summer wish list, and the Betty Boop inspired finger waves she’s been rocking lately compliment the heck out of her bone structure. In my mind, Teyana and I are gal pals, so I won't lust over her husband too much... but I will say he is equally desirable as good credit. Daughter Junie is living proof that these two are having the best mattress gymnastics you can imagine.

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Colorism Within the Family and Myself


Photo: Tyra Banks
By Brittney M. Walker

We facetime so he can meet my aunt. Most of my family is still in California so meeting everyone has been a digital experience for the most part.

“What up auntie?”

I introduce him and she says as if she couldn’t stop what was coming out of her mouth, “Does your hair lay down?”

She is referring to his tightly coiled, uncombed, but artsy looking hair. He’s not much into combs or brushes. But it works. It’s his natural, like mine. Like some stranger man said one day in the local Chinese food spot, we match.

We both react with snuffs, disguised as laughs, and I retort, “Mine doesn’t.”

She says, “Oh, well I guess not.”

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How to Help a Loved One You Suspect is a Victim of Domestic Violence. Antoinette White Shares Her Story.


Sisters Heather (left) & Antoinette (right)
By Erickka Sy Savané

Domestic violence is so prevelent in our society yet it's so rarely discussed. Even this story I knew about, but was waiting to share during domestic violence month- though it's months away- when people are more receptive. Then Rhianna had to clap back at Snapchat for being dumb enough to ask if she should be slapped by former boyfriend Chris Brown. They lost their mind, and nearly a billion dollars, and it’s still not enough. Black women get abused 35% higher than white women, and though we make up only 13 percent of U.S. women, we comprise half of all female victims of homicide. The majority are killed by boyfriends or former husbands. No, it's not okay to abuse us or promote it on your platform. So there's a good reason to talk about domestic violence in all its many forms. Author, public speaker, and mom, Antoinette White has been outspoken about how domestic violence has impacted her and her family's life for over 15 years with the hope that people will be able to read the signs when a loved one is being abused, and know what to do about it.

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Spiraling From Past Trauma: Iyanla Tried to Fix Producer "Memphitz's" Life

Mickey “Memphitz” Wright
By Brenda Alexander

Say what you want about Iyanla Vanzant and what many consider her style of life coaching to be unconventional and exploitative; but, one thing she’s never wrong about is the hindrance unresolved traumas will have on your life. Case in point: Mickey “Memphitz” Wright.

When I saw the preview for Memphitz appearance on the show, I thought to myself: He’s about to act a damn fool. Thankfully, I was wrong...

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7 Things I Hope To See On This Season's Braxton Family Values


The Braxton Family
By Brenda Alexander

I’ve been a stan of Braxton Family Values from the start. The sisters are beautiful, talented, relatable and hilarious! BFV expose what other reality shows fail to do: their actual reality. The sisters make headlines outside of filming with social media squabbles, money troubles and relationship turmoil. With all the headlines off season and the upcoming new episodes, here’s 7 things I hope to see!

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'Married at First Sight:' Can We Not Blame Relationship Struggles on Natural Hair, Please?


Jephte and Shawniece
By Veronica Wells

I love me some “Married At First Sight.” While most of the couples on this Lifetime series eventually divorce, it’s fascinating to watch two strangers come together and unite in Holy Matrimony the day they meet each other. Each season, the show usually finds one Black couple to feature. Naturally, it’s the Black couple’s story I’m the most interested and invested in. But since the show’s inception, none of the Black couples have stayed together.

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3 Great Ways To Enjoy Valentine's Day as a Single


By Kanisha Parks

Whoever said that Valentine’s Day is just for couples should really have several seats! While Valentine’s Day has an interesting history rooted in romantic ideals, it isn’t meant to be celebrated by couples alone, but to show love to the important people in your life. You remember giving Valentine’s Day cards to all of your classmates as a kid, right? That tradition is still continuing now, so why is that when we grow up, we think we need a “boo” in order to participate? Girl, before you prepare to stay in and rock yourself to sleep while watching romantic comedies in your PJ’s, here are a few ways you can actually enjoy Valentine’s Day, even in your singlehood!

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When The Family Claps Back: Zeola Gaye & Rain Pryor Dispel Quincy Jones's Rumors

Rain Pryor & Zeola Gaye
 By Michelby Coco Whitehead

Quincy Jones's interview with Vulture has been a doozy in every way imaginable. While the interview did provide great commentary on what he thinks about today's music industry and his relationship with Ivanka Trump, it also spilled some messy tea that has left a lot of people pissed off.

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Do You Forgive Your Man Faster Than Your Family & Friends?


By Veronica Wells

For as much damage as social media is probably doing to all of our psyches, it's provided endless inspiration for me as a writer and thinker. It's a study in human behavior at our fingertips. A few weeks ago, I stumbled across this post on Instagram. It resonated with me immediately because in the past few years my eyes have been opened to the excuses, the allowances, the exceptions we make for bad behavior when it comes to a man. Patriarchy. In our centering and edifying of men, there's no accountability.

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Actress Tiffany Haddish Gets Emo Visiting Eritrean Relatives For The First Time

Friends Dionne & Precious with Tiffany Haddish in Eritrea via eastAFRO.com
By Mwabi Kaira

I laughed along with millions watching last summer’s blockbuster Girls Trip and discovered breakout star Tiffany Haddish. I didn’t remember seeing her in anything else before this and saw her everywhere after. Her Breakfast Club interview stood out the most to me; she had quite a story to tell that went beyond the jokes. When she said her father was from Eritrea, the small Northeast African country on the red sea coast, I was even more intrigued.

Shena...and Mom Are Naturally Glam!


Shena and Mom
Born in Flint, and raised outside of Tallahassee, Fl, Shena is a social worker, mom, and sister girl who loves hanging out with her friends. She also loves her mom. Find out what makes her naturally glam!

Serena Reveals What Keeps Her Humble In Sweet IG Post!


Photo via Serena Williams' IG
By Erickka Sy Savané

If you spend anytime online then you've seen pics of tennis GOAT Serena Williams and gorgeous daughter Olympia gracing the cover of February's Vogue magazine! She looks vulnerable, happy and fit-as-a-fiddle. Safe to say, motherhood suits her like Grand Slam titles. So what keeps this new wife, mom, and champion humble, you ask? Serena reveals it in this super sweet IG post that will have you saying, 'Awe....'

Does Going To Bed Angry Ruin Your Relationship?


By Erickka Sy Savané

Your husband turns his back on you and goes to sleep. In less than five minutes the room is engulfed by the steady sounds of his snoring while your mind is still fixated on the argument you just had. How can he sleep with so much hanging in the balance? He knows you’re not supposed to go to bed angry. It’s one of the first things you hear when you get married. But here you are playing with fire, having another brush with relationship death, even after ten years of marriage. Really? Why can’t you resolve your issues by bedtime like your best friend? Every time this happens you can’t help wondering if it’s a sign that your relationship is ultimately doomed. Perhaps it’s time you answer the question once and for all:

Will going to bed angry ruin your relationship?

To The People Telling Me To Have More Kids




By Winnie Gaturu

Since my son started walking, I've received a lot of unsolicited advice from acquaintances to complete strangers: "You should have another kid to keep your son company," "You should have a girl," (as if I can determine the child's gender), or the one that bothers me the most..."You should have more kids in case one dies." That's downright disturbing!

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Why Michelle Obama's Comments About How We Raise Our Sons Gave Me Pause.

Michelle Obama
By Mwabi Kaira

Michelle Obama was recently interviewed by poet Elizabeth Alexander at the first annual Obama Foundation Summit.  What she said about parenting is not a new sentiment.  Michelle said, "It's like the problem in the world today is we love our boys, and we raise our girls. We raise them to be strong, and sometimes we take care not to hurt men and I think we pay for that a little bit and that's a 'we' thing because we raise them.  It's powerful to have strong men but what does that strength mean?" she asked. "You know, does it mean respect? Does it mean responsibility? Does it mean compassion? Or are we protecting our men too much so they feel a little entitled and a little, you know, a little self-righteous sometimes? But, that’s kind of on us too as women and mothers, you know, as we nurture men and push girls to be perfect."

Here's why Michelle's words gave me pause.

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Is It Ever Too Late To Heal The Relationship With Your Mom?


Erickka Sy Savané
A story my girlfriend shared with me the other day about a phone conversation with her mom…
“Tell me what you want from the house when I go.”
“Go where?” Bree said to her mom.
“You know, when I die.”
“Die? What’s wrong?? Are you sick???” Bree panicked.
“No. I just want to be prepared.”
This was weird.
“I can’t, ma, just write down whatever you think I’d like.”
“I don’t know what you’d like because I don’t know you like that.”

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Life-Changing Lessons I Learned When 5 Family Members Died In 5 Months

By Sharee Silerio

We often count the days, weeks and months since we lost the ones we love, but it always feels like it just happened yesterday.

Have you ever been through a storm and could feel the sun, just for the clouds and rain to swiftly cover its glory? Have you ever felt like you were just starting to “feel normal," then another crush to your heart brings you deeper into despair?

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