True Story: My Mother Shut Me Out When I Started Suffering from Depression at Age 14


By Shanice-J-Douglas

It has been about 10 years since the relationship that I once had with my mother transitioned into the crumbled shell that it is today. Today, the status of this non-relationship is not a bother to me, and I know that many people wouldn't understand that.

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True Story: The One Time I Disobeyed My Mom She Kicked Me Out


By Onicia Muller

“Get out of my house! You think you grown?! 

After seven long years of high school (it’s a Dutch/Caribbean island thing), I had less than a month before leaving for college. I could practically smell the jet fuel and salted peanuts! However, what was supposed to be a summer of fun parties and sappy goodbyes became known as the summer my mom kicked me out.

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This Filmmaker Required NATURAL HAIR for Her Cast & There's a Really Good Reason Why

Sens Dessus Dessous Cast 
By Ta-ning Connai

Matamba Kombila is not your average filmmaker. While most directors have the primary focus of creating stories to engage their audience, she takes it a step further with goals to impact her cast through a hair challenge aimed to build true self-esteem. Who in the world does something like that?

Matamba did that.

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Gabrielle Union Had to School Dwayne Wade's Sons on the Beauty of Dark Skin Women


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By Erickka Sy Savané

You would think that marrying a beautiful brown-skinned TV and film star like Gabrielle Union would be enough to show Dwayne Wade's sons that darker-skinned women are beautiful. Think again.

Thinking of Homeschooling? These Black Moms Have Been There, Done It & Got the T-Shirt



By Erickka Sy Savané

As the mother of two young African American girls, I’ve been thinking about homeschool for a while. There’s been this knowing inside of me that I can’t let my kids continue to be taught in a school system that was never set up for them in the first place. I mean, we had to fight to be integrated into America’s school system so what makes us think that they would teach from any other perspective than that of a white European? Then there are the undeniable signs from the outside that keep coming. Like, discovering just recently that the most revered children’s book author in American history, Dr. Theodor Seuss Geisel, who is celebrated for a full week every single year in public school, was nothing more than a racist who regularly depicted Blacks and Japanese Americans as “savages.” Many credit his vicious attacks against the Japanese during World War II with helping lead to their eventual mass incarceration. I had the same sinking feeling when I found out that the Indian leader that I had been taught to idolize as a child, one Mahatma Gandhi, was no better. He constantly described Africans as “savages” in his writing and campaigned relentlessly to the British ruling class in S. Africa for the better treatment of Indians. Then there’s our new Secretary of Education, Betsy Devos, who could single handedly undermine all progress in education for everybody. So what am I waiting for?

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This Valedictorian's Principal Wouldn't Let Him Give an Acceptance Speech, but the Mayor Did

Jaisaan Lovett
By Erickka Sy Savané

You work harder than you've ever worked in your young life, staying home to study while your friends are out doing things that kids do, and it pays off. You become the first African American valedictorian of your high school school and it's time to give an acceptance speech. Because you know it's all about that speech, thanking those who helped make it happen, dropping those gems...only this part doesn't happen because of run-ins that you've had with the principal in the past. So you're barred from speaking at graduation. I wish this were a made-up story, but it happened to Jaisann Lovett of University Preparatory Charter School for Young Men in Rochester, New York. While his principal- Joseph Munno, who didn't give Jaisann or his family a reason for not allowing him to speak- tried to get the last word, it was Rochester Mayor Lovely Warren who stepped in and gave Jaisaan an opportunity to have his big moment...and luckily we get to see it!

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From Bullied to Youngest Fashion Week Designer. 11-Year-Old Kheris Rogers is Flexin' in Her Complexion


Kheris Rogers
By Winnie Gaturu

At age 11, Kheris Rogers has already achieved a lot in her life. She is a model, a motivator and a fashion designer. These are many roles for a girl her age but she has handled them with a lot of grace and positivity. You see, Kheris hit a rough patch when she joined first grade. She was one of the few black kids in the school and was constantly bullied by teachers and other students simply because of her dark skin. They would call her mean names and the kids would refuse to play with her. They made her feel different and above all, less human. This made her cry constantly and even prompted her to begin hating her skin tone. On seeing the suffering her sister was going through, Taylor Pollard, Kheris' older sister, decided to do something to brighten up her mood. She dolled up her little sister for a fashion show and posted the photos on twitter with the hashtag #FlexinInHerComplexion. What happened next was more than the two sisters expected. The pictures quickly went viral and received thousands of positive comments. That was the turning point and things started looking all the way up for Kheris.

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Neighbor Calls Police on a 12-year-old Boy for Mowing the Wrong Lawn & Now His Business is on Fiyah!

Reggie Fields of 'Mr Reggie's Lawn Cutting Service'
By Erickka Sy Savané

Another day, another person calling the police on someone black for no good reason. There was 'BBQ Becky' who called the police on some black folks who were chefing it up with a grill in the park. 'Permit Patty' who got her fingers in a tizzy and called the police on an 8-year-old who was selling water on the sidewalk, and now there's the 'Lawnmower Lunatic' who called the police on 12-year-old entrepreneur, Reggie Fields of Cleveland, who was cutting grass and accidentally cut a piece of their lawn. Now, let me be fair by saying that there's been no footage confirming the color of the neighbors, but usually when there's no mention of color, the perpetrators are white. I'll take the heat if later we see that the Lawnmower Lunatic was actually a cranky old man of color with 10 cats. That said, things have turned out pretty well for Reggie...

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As the Youngest on Forbes' 30 Under 30 List, 13-Year-Old Marley Dias Definitely Gets It Done

Marley Dias 
By Winnie Gaturu

Forbes 30 under 30 list was started back in 2011 to recognize 600 business and industry figures all under the age of 30. Out of thousands of nominees this year, Marley Dias is one of the few people who landed on the list. At the age of 13, she is the youngest, but that doesn't mean that her achievements are negligible.

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'This Is Us' Actor Lonnie Chavis Has an Epic Question for Internet Trolls

Lonnie Chavis
By Erickka Sy Savané

If 11-year-old Lonnie Chavis looks familiar to you it's because he plays adorable young Randall on the Emmy-award-winning show 'This Is Us.' An actor since age 4, Lonnie has grown up in the business and has 145k instagram followers to prove it. But where there's love, there's also hate. Lonnie's celebrity status makes him a troll magnet just like anyone else. So when he recently took to his instagram account to address trolls who constantly tease him about the gap in his teeth, we had to clap at the clapback. He said, "I can fix my gap...but can you fix your ________ though?" Bonus if you can fill in the blank. And we applaud this youngun' for being strong, and using negativity as an opportunity to spread love!

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Is a Man Obligated To Take Care Of His Ex...if She's Raising Their Children?


By Veronica Wells

My fiancé loves to say things to get a reaction out of me. And a couple of weeks ago, it was “Steve Harvey gave some good relationship advice the other day.” As much as I try not to respond to these outlandish statements of his, I immediately rolled my eyes. But turns out he was serious. And I had to agree that Harvey’s advice in this particular situation was quite...compassionate.

Is the Man You're Dating Homophobic? Here's How to Find Out

Amanda Seales via her IG
By Veronica Wells

Amanda Seales shares some incredibly interesting stories on her Instagram page. Most of them are told through the lens of activism, but occasionally she’ll sneak in some relationship advice or an anecdote from her own romantic experiences. In one of the more recent ones, she shared why she had to get rid of a f*ckbuddy turned boo after seven years.

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Can We Let Women Not Have Kids in Peace?


By Mwabi Kaira

A girl I knew in my late teens once told me that she didn’t want to have children. I couldn't wait to become a mother and already had a name picked out so what she told me was outside my orbit of things I knew but I respected that she had her own orbit of things she knew as well. We are African and being mothers is as much a part of womanhood as breathing so this girl got a lot of grief for her decision. I always admired how sure of herself she was even back then and how her mind was completely made up and nothing was going to sway her. We’re in our 40’s now and she is childless, thriving and happy and I am a mother to 2 teens and loving this stage in my parenting journey. We knew exactly what we wanted and thankfully things panned out just as hoped.

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This Man Created a Pirate Adventure Book So His Sons Could See Themselves

Photo via DanualBerkley.com
By Erickka Sy Savané

Dad, poet and author Danual Berkley created Davy’s Pirate Ship Adventure, a children’s book about a kid named Davy who uses his magical powers to build a pirate ship so he and his family could search for gold, but no adventure ever goes as planned, because he never saw or was exposed to adventure books, or many books in general, with black families and characters. He says, 
"I decided then I wanted to provide that for my sons. That way when my sons read it, they could say, ‘Hey, that kid looks like me!’ or ‘That dad looks like my dad!” 

No My Child is Not Stupid. You're Just Not Listening. Child Development 101.


By Grace Runo Wanjiku

I was having dinner with some friends recently. The conversation soon turned to parenting, as it usually does when more than half of the people in a group are parents. One of our younger friends started telling us about how children learn to talk from their parents and that if a child has delayed speech it’s because the parents or the primary caregivers in the child’s life don’t talk much to the child. The rest of us tried to convince him that delayed speech is not always a result of lack of communication at home. He was however adamant and the rest of us just kept quiet and let him have his say. After all, you know how they say it hasn’t happened until it happens to you? We left him alone because we knew he would never understand the struggle of parenting until he became a parent too.

I don’t blame the young man though because I know it is sometimes hard to empathize with a situation you have never had an experience with. Take my case for instance.

Tell It Tuesday: Gabrielle Union's 'Breaking In' Will Have You Giving It Up to Mom.


By Ta-ning Connai 

Gabrielle Union was recently spotted wilin’out, throwing things and dropping bodies left and right! NO, not in real life (that'd be so weird) but in her new movie, Breaking In, which was released over Mother's Day Weekend. Instead of the same old “if you try to hurt me, my dad the ex-cop is gonna postpone his retirement, come after you and your crew, I'm gonna go free, and y’all gonna be dead and oh so sorry" flicks, we are finally presented with an exciting, refreshing storyline that's quite believable too.

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Jodie Patterson on Raising a Transgender Child

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By Erickka Sy Savané

For many of us just getting an idea of what it means to be transgender (identifying with the opposite sex of that which you are born), the thought of a transgender child is confusing because it poses questions like, is it just a phase and is a child old enough to make such an important decision about his or her identity? And while the majority of us will never have to deal with this issue, the truth is, some of us do, and probably more of us than we think. One of the reasons the topic stays under the radar is not because it’s not happening, but more often because opinions are so strong that parents choose not to talk about it. For Brooklyn-based beauty blogger and mother of 5, Jodie Patterson, staying quiet is not an option. For her, raising a transgender child, the right way, is a matter of life and death. Though I wrote this story a few years ago, it still rings true today, even more so with transgender rights and people being constantly under attack. Hopefully, reading this will give some insight into this under-discussed topic.

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Getting Married and Having Kids in Your Twenties. Big Deal or Nah?


By Kanisha Parks

“I want to be married with at least two children by the time I’m 28.”

At least, that’s what 14-year-old me said. You know how it is—you have all of these life expectations for yourself set long before you even reach adulthood, (many of which are shaped by societal “norms”). You probably knew who and what you wanted to be, what you wanted to do, how much money you wanted to make and when, etc. I mean, these were the kinds of conversations we had during lunch. But things change.

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The Common Sense Lesson That Everyone Can Learn From Kloe & Tristan Thompson

Tristan Thompson and Khloe Kardashian
 By Brenda Alexander

By now, you’ve already heard that Khloe Kardashian’s basketball player boyfriend, Tristan Thompson, was caught on video tonguing other women down in clubs throughout the country while his 9-month-pregnant girlfriend was home prepping to give birth to their first child. To escalate matters, Kardashian went into labor a few weeks early, just two days post the news breaking, allegedly due to the stress she was under from being heartbroken and publically humiliated by Thompson’s infidelities. Thankfully, their daughter, True Thompson, was born healthy and all are seemingly doing well. What’s next for Kardashian and Thompson’s relationship has yet to be seen, but the larger unfortunate question has been, “Is this karma for Khloe considering how she and Tristan’s relationship came to be?”

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Photography Duo Strike 6-Figure Book Deal to Capture the Beauty of Children of Color

Photo via CreativeSoul Photography
By Erickka Sy Savané

There's something about seeing the fresh face of innocence and joy in little kids that brings out the best in us. For some time, children of color were excluded from images that celebrate our innocence and beauty in media. It's been changing. We've been changing. The hashtag #blackgirlmagic helped. Black Panther helped by showing that no one can capture us like we can.

Enter husband and wife duo, Kahran and Regis Bethencourt of CreativeSoul Photography, who just signed a 6-figure book deal with St. Martin’s Press to capture the beauty of children of color. The book will be titled 'Halo' and is expected to be available online in 2019.  Recently, Kahran told the Atlanta Journal Constitution that they want to change the discussion around our history. "People think our history starts with slavery. What about when we were kings and queens?” 

Peep some of the powerful and syrupy sweet photos that will make you understand exactly why these two are getting the BIG BUCKS!

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