10 Self-Affirmations To Start Your Day On The Right Foot

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How you start your day can very well determine how it will go and even how it will end.

Kicking off your morning with self-affirmations can be a major game changer for your entire day. It can up that confidence and help you accomplish so much more because you'll feel the strength to do it. I know I've had so many mornings when I just wake up in a funk, and that messes up my attitude for an entire day. 

Your Excuses Not to Meditate, Busted.

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by Julia Austin via MadameNoire.com

Meditation is a powerful thing. Just look at all of the successful and high profile individuals who love it. Can we say that they got to where they are thanks to meditation alone? No, but it probably contributed quite a bit. Meditation can bust feelings of self-doubt, at the core of your being. They can help you think clearly. They can help you better understand what it is that you want. They can give you more mental energy to accomplish your goals, while also instilling the patience it might take to get there. You can quickly see how those are all things that could contribute to one’s success. But, not everyone takes to meditation easily. The entire concept of sitting cross-legged or lying in a dark room for a long time doing nothing makes some people uneasy. Ironically, once you get into it, meditation will be the thing that makes you feel the most at ease. Here are your excuses to not meditate, squashed.

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Dedicate the Next 6 Months to Your Goals. No Announcements. Just Do It. #BeHerNow


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How to Stay Woke Long Enough to Win: #BeHerNow


By Nikki Walton

The joy is God appearing as you and your world. But you have to invite It in, so It can escort you out. If ‘you’ want to win, ‘you’ must go.

Find the innate Joy that’s present to you now and now and now and now—stay with it, choose it over everything. Make it EXTRA primary. #BeHerNow #GodNotes

Fun fact: God = Love ... and It’s a felt experience

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1 Year Later: What Kenneka Jenkins’ Death Taught Me About Drinking And Friendship

Kenneka Jenkins
By Brenda Alexander
It’s been a year since the tragic death of Kenneka Jenkins, the Chicago teen whose body was found in a hotel freezer after a night of partying gone wrong. Her case attracted national attention, protests and conspiracy theories, but was ultimately ruled accidental- she got intoxicated at a hotel party, wandered away from her friends and stumbled into a freezer she was unable to escape. When I initially heard the news of her disappearance and subsequent death, I was saddened. When I saw the actual video of her wandering alone, visibly under the influence of substances, I was mortified. That image has remained a constant memory in my mind and a warning of what drinking with people who may not have your best interest at heart could lead too.

Why It's Good to be In Your Feelings. #BeHerNow

Dear Black Women, We Can’t Pray Mental Illness Away


By: Lenora Houseworth

What words come to mind when you think self-care? Bubble baths, facial masks and meditation apps? If you haven’t already noticed, the self-care revolution has become big business--and with good reason. Women are twice as likely as men to suffer from stress and depression, with Black women uniquely impacted by race-related daily stress. It took me many years and my own mental breakdown before I understood that self-care is more than lighting candles on #SelfCareSunday. It also took me being 30+ and a depression diagnosis in my 20's to realize prayer does not cure mental dysfunction and distress. For many black women, church is and always has been the only power source for mental and emotional maintenance.

And it’s killing us.

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How Coming Close to Death Changed These Moms


Stacie J. & her girls/ Sheryl Roberts and her son
By Erickka Sy Savané

Written a few years back, this article about two moms who were forced to pay more attention to their mental health is just what the doctor ordered for Mental Health Month! Please read and take a moment to reflect on whether you're taking care of yourself as you should.

Sheryl Roberts was driving home late one evening when she fell asleep at the wheel. No she wasn’t drunk. But she was tired. So tired, in fact, that she was supposed to be on vacation. The first one in years. But she postponed it because when you’re a commercial actress and you book a mega job, you take it. Especially, when you need the money. So despite the fact that she crashed into a parked car and had a huge laceration on her forehead, she refused to go to the hospital.

“All I could think about was my job, and I still went the next morning even though my head was the size of Shrek,” says Sheryl.

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Anger & Sex: How I Channel My Rage Into Sexual Activity


By Devon Mac

Coming to terms with a divorce after 14 years of giving it your all can bring out some anger. Being in therapy and realizing you've been suppressing your emotions for most of your life can also bring out quite a bit of rage. I won't go into all the reasons I am in my current state. What's important is now that I know that I'm angry, what am I going to do with all of it?

"Be angry and sin not" is what I've been taught. Translation: Be angry and don't f*ck up your life or anyone else in the process.

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How to Not Suffer in Silence


By Tiffy Kink

As a black woman, I think that black people are some of the strongest human beings to ever exist on planet earth. However, we can sometimes be too prideful in ourselves, to the point where we are willing to suffer in silence. We have a tendency to let fear and shame invade our minds and silence us. This forces us to believe that we are the only ones going through whatever we are going through. While I believe that experiences are unique to the individual, I don’t believe that one individual is the only individual to have gone through a particular experience. At least that’s not always the case. And even when it is, there are some ways to help you feel like you’re not alone. Here are 9.

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Live As Her #BeHerNow

Nikki Walton
Type ‘YES’ if you’re ready to live as HER!

Cleaning House: I Left My Husband & My Hair in 2017

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By Keisha Marie

"So you just gon' leave your hair and your husband in 2017?!"
I couldn't help but to burst out laughing as I looked back at my big sister's face on my phone screen. It showed a hilarious mixture of shock and amusement as we had an impromptu FaceTime sesh' that December day. I had just posted a not-so mysterious Snap on my Facebook page. All you could see in the photo frame was a pile of freshly cut hair in a sink and bold words that read, "So, I did a thing…"

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Reasons You Don't Want Sex & How to Change It

Love Coach & Healer Kamali Minter
By Kamali Minter

There are many reasons we may not be having as much sex as we want, AND there are many benefits to engaging our sexual energy on a regular basis. The good news is there are simple mind-body practices, that can open up a whole new experience of your sexuality, that can make engaging it something to look forward to.

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And the Winners of the Glam Body Giveaway Are...

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It's Wednesday Win Day! We asked you to comment on all articles this past week for a chance to win a Coconut Coffee and Mandarin Coffee scrub from Glam Body, and you showed up! Here are this week's 5 winners! Also, be sure to keep commenting on articles because soon we will be announcing some spontaneous pop-up winners!

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The Sweeter Side of Hair Removal. I Tried the Sugaring Method.

Sugaring paste
By Jashima Wadehra

Ladies, Ladies, Ladies!

However you prefer to keep your bikini area is your discretion, I prefer to engage in hair removal. Through my late teens my razor and I made do until I realized that it was simply much too much effort and lets be honest…………. The itch is REAL. Between the upkeep, discomfort and general thought of sharp blades on sensitive skin, shaving is a hell naaaah for me.
 
For the past few years I’ve been an avid waxer, it's quick, on time and does the job (all while reducing my hair growth overall). But recently, I had a dinner date with a friend and she told me about SUGARING. What's that you say?

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Iyanla Tried To Fix Abducted Teen Kamiyah Mobley's Life & This Happened

Iyanla on 'Fix My Life' 
By Brenda Alexander 

Iyanla has returned beloveds and one person who wasn’t here for her fixing her life was Kamiyah Mobley. Ms. Vanzant tried to help the 19-year-old, who made national news after it was discovered that a woman posing as a hospital employee abducted the infant from a Jacksonville, FL hospital and raised her as her own. Stuck with the reality of her new life and torn between loving the woman she’s known as mom and trying to build a bond with her biological family who suffered for almost two decades, things came to an explosive end after Kamiyah blew up on Iyanla and crew following a misunderstanding over an assignment Iyanla gave. It was an uncomfortable episode to watch. Kamiyah often appeared disinterested, defensive and even rarely made eye contact. Let’s take a look at 3 of the revelations that transpired on the Season 5 premiere of Iyanla Fix My Life!

DON’T TALK ABOUT IT, BE ABOUT IT: 5 WAYS TO PUT SELF-LOVE INTO ACTION

By Tracye Warfield

If you asked ten women to describe self-love, I’m sure you’d get ten different answers. And, I absolutely hope that you get ten different answers because we’re all different. Hello! The term “self-love” has been thrown around a lot lately. It’s popular. It’s trending. It’s got it’s own hashtag and everything. #SelfLove is hot! But what does it really mean? What does it look like in the real world?

If you look at social media feeds, self love could be anything from daily “I am beautiful. I am AWESOME!” affirmations, to buying yourself the latest pair of Jimmy Choos, to adoring your voluptuous body, to setting time aside for just you, cuddled by a warm fire, jammies on, sipping a glass of wine. So which is it?

The Importance of Self-Care as a Single Woman



By Kanisha Parks

Self-care is a topic that is becoming increasingly popular throughout social media, and I’m all the way here for it. As black women, self-care is something we often put on the backburner, if we even make time for it at all. We’re caregivers and caretakers—strong, hard-working, mothers, daughters, wives, sisters, and friends. We’re out here grinding, trying to build something we can be proud of. Some of us wear so many hats, it’s a wonder we ever get any sleep, let alone find the time to give even a few minutes to ourselves.

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