Coping With Natural Hair Frustrations

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by Yvette Mumanyi of

Have you ever woken up one morning and had no idea how to begin to tackle the madness that is your hair? Story of my life, honey! I will keep it real with you guys-- I am a long term protective style junkie but once in a while, I like to switch it up a little to give my hair a break and enjoy my length. I may look put together, but trust me girl, it takes WERK! I honestly could not keep up if I had to style my hair every few days, I love the simplicity and low maintenance of my two strand twists.

Anywhoo…wearing my hair out has meant that my hair does not retain moisture for as long as it usually does when I have my hair in twists. Not to mention, tangles on tangles on TANGLES (it's like inception: a tangle, within another tangle, inside of yet another tangle, living in a web of hair. I think you catch my drift) I was so overwhelmed trying to tame my tresses that sometimes I opted to wear a turban and channel my inner Ms. Badu.

You are not alone sister, this very hair that I spend so much of my energy trying to nurture can sometimes drive me up the wall. Just don’t do anything irrational like pulling out your hair, which you will come to regret later. Instead, breathe, take a step back, and follow my tips toward stress-free hair care…

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Why I Don't Set Goals or Care About Them At All


I smile to myself when clients ask me about goal-setting.  I'm not the one for that.  At all.  I'm the free-spirited coach who will tell you to write your feelings and get to know them instead of focusing on goals. I  don't pretend to care about goals because they are not what drives me. When I realized this about myself, my mind completely opened up and I became more creative, more productive and definitely happier.

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I’ve Become A Straight Hair Natural (without Heat Damage!)

by Shelli of Hairscapades

And I like it!! That’s right, I said it. I’ve been natural for 15 years, big chopped twice, and have nothing to prove. I love my natural curls. However, right now, I love the convenience and ease of straight hair a lot more! And, sometimes, that’s really all there is to it.

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4 Reasons Why I've Abandoned the Black Salon

  by Ariane of

After reading Did Natural Hair Kill the Black Salon? on and my own recent experience, I was inspired to share my thoughts. I can already see this being a wildly unpopular post, but oh well I am going to post it anyway! I have never been a huge salon person to begin with mostly because I never wanted to pay salon prices. At this point, I usually don’t go unless I want my hair trimmed or there is a certain style that I know I am not great at achieving on my own.

It should be noted that my experience is limited to my location (South Jersey) which is not at all particularly known for the best of the best natural hair salons. I am sure if I were living in NYC or ATL where there are a plethora of expert stylists, maybe my experience would be different. With that being said, that is why when I am asked by readers what salons do I recommend, my honest answer is I don’t have any.

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Juliet Marz is Naturally Glam!

Tell me a little about yourself and your hair journey.
I'm Juliet Marz and I’m a Afro-Latina Hair Consultant/Influencer and a Hair&Beauty Blogger from Connecticut, but I now reside in New Jersey.  When I moved from Connecticut to New Jersey, I stopped going to the stylist who did my hair from ages 16-20. I literally stopped getting relaxers cold turkey and just wore my hair in buns for an entire year. I didn’t even know what transitioning was. I just stopped getting my hair done, and stopped putting heat in it. Eco styler gel was my best friend. One day, I came across the website and read a few articles and started to realize that I’d been transitioning for an entire year and maybe I should cut off my relaxed ends and go natural. So that’s just what I did, I bought a pare of sheers from Walmart and cut all of the straight ends off. I was scared but hey, it’s just hair. I’ve dyed & fried my hair since I was 14 years old so doing this didn’t scare me as much as having damaged hair for the rest of my life. After I cut my hair I went to Sally’s beauty supply and bought Beautiful Textures entire line of products. I researched day in and day out about all things natural hair. I didn’t like my hair in the beginning but once I started to learn more about MY natural hair and what it likes, I started to embrace it and even love it. I then started to help others build regimens and answer all the questions they had even if it was the middle of the night, I wanted to help. Going natural has been the best decision I’ve ever made and I would love to help others feel secure about their natural hair and not hide it like I did for years.

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Dark Skin vs. Light Skin: A Candid Conversation

Shannon T. Boodram writes:

I have wanted to have this convo for a long time. While I am older and this issue affects me less than it did in the past, I know for many it is still a VERY sore spot and I hoped that some candid convo may help with the healing. I am looking forward to reading the comments like you wouldn't believe...

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Curl Envy: 3 Ways it Will Ruin Your Hair Journey

by Kanisha of

Have you ever heard of “curl envy?” It’s a phrase in the natural hair community that describes the desire to have someone else’s hair/curl pattern instead of your own. Sometimes the phrase is thrown around jokingly when you just really like another girl’s hairstyle, but if you truly have curl envy, you may want to reevaluate your natural hair journey. Especially if you’re a new natural, curl envy can be a real threat to your hair journey.

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Remembering Who You Are and What You Want

 by GG Renee of

In which I take my own advice and just start writing.

Because I know that I desperately need to shut my mind up and open up to my soul.  Here, in this space, I need to reconnect.  Getting back to the days when I would write blog posts that weren't planned, that weren't centered around a product launch or a series, but were necessary simply because the words needed to come out and be felt.  Sometimes my words are little warriors, and I send them out to look for signs of life when I'm fighting a battle.  Is anyone else out there fighting this battle, too?  Let's fight together.  This is what they whisper, in between the lines.
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Perm Rods and Natural Hair- Methods for 3 Awesome Looks!

Tina Munzu writes:

Perm rods are ubiquitous in the natural hair community. Using perm rods can create a vast number of curls from tight to loose, jumbo to little. Watch this video to see 3 easy techniques to create the curl you want using perm rods. The highlighted techniques include 1) The Rollerset Method, 2) The Spiral Method, and 3) The Corkscrew Method.

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Awkwardly Authentic


I had a phone interview recently.  I felt laid back at first like I was having a chat with a friend.  Then throughout the call I got more and more worked up.  My thoughts went into overdrive and nerves started taking over.  I couldn't say anything without stuttering and repeating myself.

I was frazzled.  I struggled to provide straightforward, concise answers to questions that should have come easily to me, having answered them dozens of times before.    Long gone was the calm, be-your-self-ness that I felt when the interview started.  When the call ended, I hung up feeling uneasy.

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Kesha is Naturally Glam!

Tell me a little about yourself and your hair journey:
My name is Kesha Phillips and I reside in the beautiful city of Atlanta, Georgia. I’m a graphic artist, parenting and lifestyle blogger – and most importantly – a mom to a set of the dopest twin preschoolers I know. Over the past couple of years I’ve been featured as a parenting and lifestyle expert on shows like CBS Better Mornings Atlanta and AMHQ on the Weather Channel.

I’ve spent the last couple of years intensely studying natural African American hair and learning what it takes to keep it healthy and encourage growth. I was inspired by my daughter to start this journey, as I wanted her to know how to properly care for and truly appreciate her beautiful head of exquisite kinks and coils. I couldn’t do that for her unless I learned how to do it for myself first.

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Type 4 Hair- The Lies They Tell.

Photo Courtesy of Natalie Live

When you dip your toe into the natural hair world you will quickly find that there are many "rules" and "commandments" - and we know we have published a lot of them! - but there are a few common beliefs being repeated in the community that, simply put, are false. Here are 4 of the most common lies about coily, Type 4 hair.

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Kayla is Naturally Glam!

Tell me a little about yourself and your hair journey.
My name is Kayla L. I’ll be 24 in October. I currently reside in Dallas, TX but moving to back Houston within the next month. I went to the University of Houston where I was a cheerleader and also majored in Dance. I’m married to an awesome man named Lee, and together we have a sweet baby girl Kayleigh.

How long have you been natural? Have you always embraced your curls?
I’ve been natural for 2 years and 7 months. I big chopped in December of 2012. Growing up I was natural until the age of 12. I got a relaxer because my mom just couldn’t handle doing my hair anymore. It was so thick and I was very tender headed.

What motivated you to transition? Were you a transitioner or a Big Chopper& why?
I attempted to transition many times before but after about 8 months I would end up getting a relaxer because I couldn’t handle the two textures and at the time I was scared to loose my length. Finally I felt the need for a change so I began slowly cutting my hair until it was a nice short Rihanna cut. My hair was too thick to be short so I decided instead of relaxing it again I’d just cut it off. So I went into my bathroom and cut off all the relaxed hair and was left with about two inches.

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I used to tell myself to be patient.

I'd say, "Your turn is coming. Blessings are on the way."

This mindset kept me envying other people's 'turns' and overlooking today, in favor of some tomorrow. 

Merica is Naturally Glam!

Tell me a little about yourself and your hair journey.
My name is Merica Profit- 37 years old. I am a working mom of 2. I have a 4 year old daughter Bailee and a 14-year-old son Jacob. I have been married to my best friend Jacob for 13 years whom I met when I was 13. I am from Little Rock, AR. I enjoy hosting parties, I LOVE to have a great time, I enjoy family & friends but most importantly I talk A LOT!  It’s always a great conversation!

My hair journey is simple. I am a licensed cosmetologist who keeps her license up to take full advantage of great hair/beauty products. It’s crazy how my hair journey keeps me going because I have always changed my hair. I graduated from beauty school when I was 21 years old and I always wanted to do big things in the beauty and fashion world but never did. Once I embraced my natural hair I thought I could really do something that I absolutely loves, so off I went!

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Overcome Heat Damage in Natural Hair

by Michelle Thames of

The phrase, 'heat damage' is a something that we all fear in the Natural Hair community! I recently interviewed natural hair vlogger Elle at Curls Unbothered about her experiences with Heat Damage.

1. How long have you dealt with heat damage?
I went “natural” in 2010, my sophomore year of college which for me meant removing all heated appliances from my regimen. I grew tired of having to straighten my edges and roots everyday because I was sweating every time I stepped outside. From 2010 to 2012, I did not let a single morsel of direct heat touch my hair. NO blowdryers, flat irons, curl irons/wands NOTHING! I decided in October 2012 for my first alumni homecoming appearance (HU!) I would straighten my hair, and that was the beginning of the end. I wish I had taken pictures of my hair back then, it grew from shoulder length to mid back length! I was completely amazed and quite frankly feeling myself to the highest degree. I got so many compliments on my hair (its health and growth) that I decided to keep it straight for “a little while longer.” Well, that little while turned into a full year in which I straightened my hair once a week which included:
  • Blow-drying on the HIGHEST heat setting my CHI blowdryer could achieve
  • Flat ironing on 450 degrees sans heat protectant or deep conditioning
During that year of straight hair I didn’t experience any breakage and my hair continued to grow but my curls slowly diminished. I washed my hair one day and thought to myself “I’m tired of straight hair I’m going back curly,” only to realize I had no curls left. Thus, my heat damage journey was born!

On Changing Generational Perceptions of Natural Hair

CN says- that's my Boogie rockin' two-strands!

by Keora Bernard

About a year ago, I experienced naturalism in a profound way. I was confronted with the recycled mentalities that still exist among households of color about having coarser textured natural strands. Instead of doing my own hair, I decided that I would let my next door neighbor do my hair. Like many naturals, doing our hair is a laborious process and we relish the idea of having our scalps massaged and letting another person work through our dense terrain of curls, kinks, and coils.

Additionally, my girlfriend who is Latina, also decided to get her hair done by my next door neighbor. My girlfriend wanted bangs to be cut and her hair to be curled. On the other hand, I opted for a braided hairstyle, choosing to continue with my weekly protective styling routine. At the household, there were two younger girls who watched my girlfriend and me in awe.

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Nacketia from Jamaica is Naturally Glam!

Tell me a little about yourself and your hair journey.
I’m Nacketia Knight, mother of one from the beautiful paradise island of Jamaica. I have been natural for most of my life but did not start my journey until October 2011. I transitioned for a year, did a small chop ( there really wasn’t much left to cut off) and never looked back since.

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LaKyshia- 'Relaxers Were Not Fun For Me.'

Tell me about yourself! 
I’m a 37 year old divorcee. I have a 7 year old son and work full time. I first decided to go natural in 2010. My last relaxer was in March of 2010. I was inspired by my best friend who started her journey back in 2007. I loved her hair, and I was tired of my relaxed hair. Relaxers were not fun for me.

Were you a transitioner or a Big Chopper? 
I transitioned for about 14 months. I wasn’t very knowledgeable on the best way to transition. I transitioned by getting my hair blown out and flat ironed. I had my hair cut a few inches every couple of months.


Demaria Is Naturally Glam!

Were you a transitioner or a Big Chopper? What was your journey like?
I was a transitioned for about two years on heat damaged arm pit length hair. I wore protective styles throughout the two years back to back. My go-to protective style was a sew-in because I missed my long straight hair. Between sew-ins, I trimmed about two inches or so to get rid of the heat damaged hair. Eventually I was left with more curly hair than heat damaged. My transition was easier than most since I did wear my hair in protective styles during the bulk of the time. This not only grew my hair, but also protected my hair from myself by not pulling, yanking and trying to style it.


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