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About Me

By January 27th, 2021254 Comments
About Me “If You’re Not Feeling Your Hair, You’re Not Feeling Yourself…” was created to serve as an online “hair therapy session” for those struggling to embrace their naturally curly hair. It not only serves as an educational tool, but as a platform for each of you to share your experiences, frustrations, and triumphs of being Naturally Glamorous.

About Me
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    • Best Selling and NAACP Image Award nominated Author of ‘Better Than Good Hair’ (Harper Collins, 2013)
    • Among Essence’s ’35 Under 35 Young, Black and Amazing’
    • Multiple features in the New York Times, Huffington Post, The Grio, The Root and on
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     Nikki Walton, founder of and Head of Content for, Michael Ross, President of Ultra/Standard, Ryan Alberta, Director of Purchasing for Ultra/Standard and Michelle Breyer, Co-founder of and Head of Business Development for TextureMedia.

    • Featured in InStyle, O Magazine, Ebony, Essence, Parents, Black Hair Mag UK, Seventeen, Sister 2 Sister, The Guardian and many others
    • Named by Black Enterprise as one of the web’s most influential voices
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    •  Conducted nearly 100 celebrity interviews including Tracee Ellis Ross, Chaka Khan, Raven Symone and Wanda Sykes.  
    • Penned a popular column
      for ESSENCE, called ‘Ask CurlyNikki’. 
    • New York Times journalist and radio host Jamila Bey, coined Nikki, ‘the modern day Madame CJ Walker’.

    Among other topics, CN features community and celebrity interviews, styling tips, how-to videos, product reviews and inspirational stories.

    I’m a graduate of the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, and hold a masters degree in Psychology. In my practice as a psychotherapist, I regularly counsel women through depression, low self-esteem, and image development. Hair comes up more than you think. My mission here is to provide balance between physical beauty and personal esteem in a way that defies societal norms– providing Hair Therapy to achieve real hair, real beauty and real self-esteem! Hence the RED COUCH.

    My approach to natural hair is a little different. It is neither a political statement, nor a 'back to nature' movement. It's simply one part of a fabulous, healthier extension of our beauty. Making natural hair chic, versatile and accessible is the name of the game! 

    Below, you will find 'My Hair Story', which will catch you up on why natural hair quickly became my passion.

    **To check out a clip from my appearance on the Tyra Banks Show, CLICK HERE.
    **For more pictures of my hair, CLICK HERE.
    ______________________________________________________ I was born in Florida in 1983 to two wonderfully caring and supportive parents. A year after my birth, we moved to St. Louis, MO, where my little sister (not so little anymore) would be born. I had an amazing childhood, but an awkward adolescence that was plagued with self-esteem issues tied to my thin frame and my not so hot, hot-combed hair. From 10-16, I went to a salon every two weeks, or once a month to have my mid-back length hair blown out and hot combed straight, with LOTS of grease. (prior to age 10, my mother and grandmother took wonderful care of my hair- it was washed and conditioned only once a month, kept in braids and grew to waist length). During my early teen years, my hair never looked the way I wanted it to- it would revert almost immediately and end up in a frizzy, greasy, poofy mess. I'm sure some of you can relate- if you're not feeling your hair, you're not feeling yourself. It's sad but true. I wanted BONE straight hair, and I couldn't seem to get the silky results my relaxed cousins and friends had. I felt that although my hair was long, it was only okay at best. My parents banned relaxers in their household-something I was annoyed with at the time, but completely understand and appreciate today. Finally, late in my junior year of high school, my sister and I began going to a different salon. This place had new technology, lol, they had young stylists, and even more important, they had flat irons (and no grease in sight)! It was awesome! I went back to school with new hair, a new attitude, new sexy glasses (my old ones were nerdy, lol), and new found confidence. I felt pretty...still skinny, but pretty. My hair was silky and flowing in the wind and nobody could tell me nothing! Senior year went very well- I was getting my wig flipped once every two weeks, completely unaware that my once healthy bra strap length hair was disappearing before my eyes. By the time I went off to college my hair was a shoulder length bob...but as long as it was bone straight, I didn't care. Apparently the sporadic press and curls with lots of lubrication, were better for me than regular flat iron sessions on product free hair (my beautician clarified my hair at every session and didn't use a leave-in, to give it that silky look). I met my would be husband at Truman State University, a small liberal arts college in the middle of nowhere (seriously, all we had was a Super Walmart). We actually met during freshman orientation week- the rest is history :0) It was his prompting that first inspired me to begin wearing my hair in its curly state. He witnessed (in agony) the rise and fall in my self-esteem and mood as my hair changed (from straight to poofy) throughout the month. Since we were in school 3 hours north of St. Louis, I could no longer go to the salon on a regular basis. To make matters worse, my beautician passed away (I know right? She was only 35.Sad.) and I felt like I was up a creek without a paddle. My boyfriend was able to get me home about once every two to three months to get my hair done, and in the mean time, my head (to me) was an absolute wreck. I didn't know what to do with it! I'd never even washed my own hair, and I was totally unaware that I was suppose to be moisturizing it in between visits. Needless to say, my hair remained shoulder length during most of my 4 year undergrad career. One night, my boyfriend sat me down and told me that he'd been observing me during our two years together, and that my mood seemed to be directly correlated with the current condition, or look of my hair. He thought it was unhealthy, and proposed that I start doing my own hair and wearing my natural texture. I knew he was right. Hell, I was a psych major. It wasn't healthy, but it didn't make it untrue. In the words of TLC, I felt 'unpretty' when my hair wasn't perfectly straight. And since my hair doesn't grow out of my scalp that way, I would always be unhappy and somewhat insecure until I learned to accept and love my hair for what it was MEANT to do. I took his advice. Well, sort of, lol. In my junior year, I took matters into my own hands and purchased a Solia flat iron from It was a God send, or so I thought. My hair was FLYYYY! And I could keep it looking fly...all the time...everyday....all day. It turned into an obsession, and I was using the damned thing once a week, sometimes more. In the beginning, for some reason, my hair flourished. It grew out from shoulder length to armpit length and it seemed to be doing quite well. It felt good to be able to have my hair done for every party, and every formal. Fast forward to the end of my senior year in college- I began two-strand twisting my hair with brown gel, rocking twist-outs and wearing puffs. I wore my hair out a couple of times, but I was very self-conscious (imagine- I combed mousse through wet damp hair...not a good look), and generally uncomfortable in my own skin. I'd alternate the natural styles with weeks of flat ironed hair. As time went on, I actually felt more comfortable wearing the twist-outs and puffs- I didn't have to worry about humidity, and they were easy to do. Plus, the curly hair made me feel special :0) I felt like I stood out from the crowd. Before I knew it, senior year was over and my soon to be fiance and I were off to graduate school, more than 800 miles away in the beautiful state of North Cackalack.
    College Graduation 5/2005
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    It was the winter after undergrad that I discovered and subsequently became completely addicted to I was in the first semester of my graduate program at UNC Chapel Hill (Go Heels!) and trying to adjust to new surroundings. I was still alternating between straight styles, twists, and puffs, but all the while very interested in learning about and achieving healthy natural hair that rocked! The women of (Natakue, Eccentric, SuSu, Portae, Suburbanbushbabe, HeatherNicole, Subbrock, and too many others to name) provided me with invaluable information, unconditional support and inspiration. Unfortunately, I was still in the mindset that when I needed to attend job interviews, weddings, parties or anything 'important', my hair NEEDED to be straightened. I only wore my natural hair, when I was 'bumming'. Sad, but true. In late 2006, I stopped flat ironing regularly. I decided that I was going to accept who I was, and so was everyone else! Since I stopped straightening, I no longer needed cones, so I adopted the Curly Girl method. Boy oh boy, did my hair begin to break! The cone-y products were hiding the years of damage- the repeated 400 degree flat-ironing sessions, the three highlighting experiences, and my ZERO moisture routine. My head was a mess. I had white dot breakage everywhere. My hair snapped off in bits and split like crazy. No products on this earth would've stopped the breakage- I had to suck it up and deal with the consequences of my actions. The women of and nappturality helped to nurse my hair back to health. I cut off the damage little by little- my micro trims continue to this day. Fast forward to 2008 :0) I haven't flat ironed since Valentine's Day 2007 and before then, it had been 6 months or so as well, and my hair is truly thanking me for it. Almost all of the damage has grown out, but the ends remain weak (I have about 3-4 inches of color left), and I still conduct bi-weekly search & destroys. I'm finally retaining length, and I couldn't be happier. Live and learn, right? I will never color again, and it's highly unlikely that I'll straighten again (at least not regularly). My husband loves my natural hair and actually requested that I wear it natural on our wedding day! I almost cried, because I thought he wanted to see it straight (he likes it straight too, and its been a while!). He has been nothing but supportive, and truth be told, HE is the reason I found the confidence to go natural. He made me look inside of myself and see that the cause of my psychological distress was my irrational belief about how my hair 'should' be. My self-awareness of this fact coupled with the education I've received from various forums have helped me get past the negativity. Unfortunately, everyone wasn't as accepting of my decision to go natural, but I'll have to save that story for another day :0) Later Gators!
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    • Irene says:

      Great sharing yneed

    • Her stylecode says:

      I am considering going natural. I really want to, but I still don't feel completely READY. I am not happy with my relaxed hair anymore because I'm tired of how damaged it gets. What does it take to be able to embrace natural hair?

    • mrs-waves says:

      Je pense que les femmes noires devraient davantage entretenir et mettre en valeur leurs cheveux naturels. Elles peuvent également orner leur chevelure d'un foulard pour les plus conservatrices. Mais les plus jeunes peuvent porter des durag femme pour embellir leur coiffure. C'est très tendance de nos jours.

    • Ren says:

      i almost cried at the end when you were speaking about your husband

    • Ashlee says:

      Your hair is AMAZING!!!

    • tarheel says:

      You are so inspirational! I stumbled upon your site for the first time today, and I'm so glad I did! I am an undergraduate student at UNC Chapel Hill going through this same struggle. You have no idea how glad I am to know that someone else understands completely, especially a fellow tarheel!

    • shadow says:

      This site gets me through everyday!

    • Miss Bee says:

      Keep up the GREAT work!

    • Cordelia Wright says:

      I really enjoy this site. I have to say it's about time you saw beauty in your hair as you are more fortunate then most with the tresses you were born with. Stay blessed x

    • Sydney says:

      Great photos and great story! I just love this site!

    • Reese says:

      I reread this every time I feel like giving up on my hair. Just great to know that someone else went through what I'm going through and made it. So thanks chica! 🙂

    • Hilary B. says:

      aww, this is my first time reading this and I love it. I've been reading your blog for a couple years now. It's been a great source of information, inspiration, and encouragement. Thank you!

    • Nita_Red says:

      Hi Nikki,

      I have always wanted to go natural but I am scared that my hair will not turn out how I want it too. I have been relaxing my hair for so long, that now my hair goes crazy when I don't perm it. I love your testimony about your hair. What should my first step be?

    • LadyByrd says:

      ALL that beauuuutiful hair!! Why on earth did you EVER think you needed to do anything except let it BE! Bless your little psycho heart mind and soul. LOL!! I'm loving my 'naptchural me" more and more and moooore er'day, chic. U look goood and it shows!

    • BusyB says:

      Wow, I never how much natural hair is a movement and a Big part of your self esteem, and self awareness!! I love it and I havent had a perm in a year, I am officially natural and loving it, I look forward to learning more about products and events and people and blogs and more, oh and to also spread the word!! Great Job Lady&& Thankz a Bunch!!

    • Anonymous says:

      Hi Nikki,

      I'm 20 and I've been natural until 18, then I decided to texturize, now I'm trying to return to my natural texture because I do not know how to care for texturized hair. I know my natural texture. I'm currently 8 months post texturizer and I'm interested in the henna. How is the application process?

    • Anonymous says:

      Hi Nikki!
      I just found your site and I love it! Your hair is beautiful! I decided at the age of 50 to toss the creamy crack away and after wearing twists long enough to allow for enough new growth I have done the BC. And now I'm embracing my inner curly girl and I love my hair and I look forward to reading more and getting info from your site.
      (Go Heels!)

    • Nikolean says:

      Hello! First thank you for sharing your story.

      I'm thinking about going natural but I'm worried about how it will affect me in the workplace. Right now I have a relaxer but I haven't had a touch up in 6 months.

      In high school I went through every phase from naturally braided hair to relaxed. After graduating from college I discovered WEAVE and oh did we have a whirlwind love affair. That is until a bad experience with a stylist who braided my hair much too tight caused me to have a huge patch of hair fall out.

      My hair has since grown back and is very healthy. About a year ago, I became a pescatarian (vegetarian who consumes fish)and began to focus on everything that I put into my body. I guess hair is the last frontier for this lifestyle change and I just don't know where to begin. Everyone keeps using the term "BC" but I'm not sure what that means.

      How does a conservative 26 year old make the transition without jeopardizing her progress in Corporate America?

    • D_nieIIe says:

      Hello. I'm Kyra. I'm 15 and i'm naturally curly, but have half natural and half relaxed hair. I started getting relaxers when I was 11. The reason why I got a relaxer in the first place is because I had no idea what to do with it. I was the first biracial baby in the family and my mom had no idea how to style it. she asked all around but nothing worked. Being in elementary, I got tired of doing my own hair at age 10. I went to great clips and the lady cut my hair so unevenly that i cried an went to get a relaxer. Anyways, so now i'm waiting for the back of my hair to get even with the front so i can BC, because i used to straighten about 3 times a week. The breakage in the back is awful

    • Anonymous says:

      sorry im sooooo late into this "natural hair thing" but i loove your story!! i have never had a perm either and im going on 30yrs old and just now learning how to take care of my own hair! i have been getting my hair pressed/flat itroned since as long as I can remmember! then one day my dude told me that i wasnt natural because i have been having my hair straightened almost all my life! So for the last month I been asking all these questions to different women an they all said the same thing "YOUR NATURAL IF YOU NEVER HAD A PERM" but since i have been washing it now (3x's a week) i have notice my hair dries out straight so now im at a stand still when will my natural curl form? and does that mean i can never get my hair straightened again? is there a way to have healthy natural hair???

    • Unknown says:

      I loved your story, CN. It is true that women's "self-confidence" is almost always tied to how they look and they includes their hair. I think you have a wonderful husband who helped you to see that you are beautiful just the way you are. 🙂

      I wanted to comment on another post where someone said he/she thought it was "just another hair story". I was so annoyed by seeing those words that I HAD to post. And this is my first post on There is NO such thing as "just another hair story". How everyone got here is THEIR journey and an important one because it brought them to the decision to embrace who they are as God created them. I look forward to reading more stories in the future and I love the CurlyNikki website! 😀

    • Mihdonb says:

      I love your story!!! I have recently started to completely go natural but I have been running into a lot of issues. My hair is really thin! So twist outs…braids outs etc don't work for me. I havent had a relaxer in over a year. My natural hair is just a little bit curly. Not sure what to do but I really want natural healthy hair.

    • Anonymous says:

      Hi Nikki
      I love your site…its my favorite natural hair site! you have such beautiful hair and your tips are great! id like to share my hair story: I went to a salon to get a retouch for my japanese straightened hair. she did ALL of my hair and not just the new growth. after that my hair kept falling out. I didnt know they called it transitioning, but I grew it out. i felt some soft curls underneath but i ignored them and sometime later used the conair steam straightener to straighten them. worst decision ever. it made it soooo damaged… i decided to go natural. i cut off all my straightened hair in january. now its 4 months going strong. ive been trying to find info and styles for natural hair. im glad i found your site. it encourages me to see others trying to achieve healthy hair. thanks alot and keep it it up! ^_^

    • Anonymous says:

      Hi Nikki
      I love your site…its my favorite natural hair site! you have such beautiful hair and your tips are great! id like to share my hair story: I went to a salon to get a retouch for my japanese straightened hair. she did ALL of my hair and not just the new growth. after that my hair kept falling out. I didnt know they called it transitioning, but I grew it out. i felt some soft curls underneath but i ignored them and sometime later used the conair steam straightener to straighten them. worst decision ever. it made it soooo damaged… i decided to go natural. i cut off all my straightened hair in january. now its 4 months going strong. ive been trying to find info and styles for natural hair. im glad i found your site. it encourages me to see others trying to achieve healthy hair. thanks alot and keep it it up! ^_^

    • Simone says:

      Awesome story – brought a tear to my eye especially when I saw how beautiful you looked on your wedding day! I LOVE your natural hair!! Go girl!!

      I'm still trying to love my natural hair (that's now grey but I colour it – I'm too young to be feeling old!) – it's not 'curly', or straight – it's just wavy and to me it's just frizzy if I leave it natural… I'm going to be spending time on your site to find ways to help… I love wearing my hair in braids and twists and often enjoy the no-heat waves/curls the next day…

      I am inspired by your story!

    • Chelsea92 says:

      First off, let me say I love the fact that you went to school in NC. Personally, I am an East Carolina University Pirate, but I love UNC as well! I have been thinking of going natural for a while, but I'm not sure about doing the whole 'big chop' thing. Any advice?

    • Anonymous says:

      Great story–thanks for sharing (all this time and I've been reading your site and never heard your story)! And I think it's awesome that your husband has been so encouraging and supportive of you rocking your natural locks.

    • Unknown says:

      Such a beautiful and touching story.

    • Anonymous says:

      I despair when I see hair as beautiful as yours-happy for you, sad for me. For years I wore a weave. My stylist should have encouraged me to stop since my hair was so fine.I lost tremendous amouts of hair every time the weave was redone, but she kept redoing it, so I dthough it would get better.n 2008 I'd had enough & started wearing wigs in hopes that my hair would grow out.It hasnt grown much & although it's filling in, it's still quite thin.It's curly, but straightens out after a few brushings. It cant hold a style so I truly cannot wear it out. I'm too embarrassed to go to the salon, so I care for it and pop the wig on when I go out.Even my husband hasn't seen my hair in years only my dermatologist.I know he loves me unconditionally but I just cant let him see it. I feel hopeless and sad whenever I look at my hair.Any suggestions?

    • Lena says:

      Your so Beautiful, and I love your site.. After speaking to many natural women and doing my own research, I've decided that I will be going natural in the Spring of 2013. My have fine, relaxed hair and I just can not take it anymore, that I am going to wait til after my wedding this year, to go natural. Your tips are so helpful, even though I am not natural yet but I have an idea of everything now.

    • LW says:

      Hey Nikki (or anyone else that has input)
      Can you tell me how many inches your hair is?

      While I'm digging my natural 4a (about all stretched) more than the thin relaxed day, I still find my self wanting to achieve 'the hang'.

      I've been in box broads for three months now and I'm wondering if I should shoot for more length or go back and re evaluate products or twist out procedure?

      I'm thinking a bit more length is the answer so I just wanted to get A length to shoot for as I keep the braids going a bit longer.


    • Anonymous says:

      your natural hair is absolutly beautiful! i would never straighten it!

    • Anonymous says:

      Thank you. I have been trying to tame my curly hair for most of my life, and I was looking in the wrong place for advice. No one in my family has curly hair and growing up, my mom always told me to go brush it. Now that the grey is coming in, I want to stop highlighting it, stop brushing it and let it get long. I always thought people at work would think I was crazy–with my crazy hair. But I look at other women with curls with absolute admiration and affinity. Starting my DC tonight.

    • jenna says:

      Dear Curly Nikki, I'm African I have tightly coiled curls… cockscrew curls, I guess. I used to have natural hair but then I texturised it and it looked like a perm so I started perming after that. Now my hair is short and straight and I'm not really comfortable with it. I can't go back to natural because it isn't manageable… HELP!!!

    • Ieshia (kinkynaturalme) says:

      I don't know EXACTLY what my hair/curls are suppose to feel and be(look), but i know my hair should not look and be the way it is when its wet,dry,natural style or what ever. I wanna use coconut oil for hair growth and castor oil for thickening the hair and continue to use the yes to carrots condish for moisture. I don't know what to do with my hair hopefully what I'm doing will give me some hope, i don't want to give up on my hair,any suggestions

    • Kinkynaturalme says:

      umm hi CurlyNikki, I'm naturally curly and i recently had the biggest break through with my hair three days ago (02-tuesday7-12). I'm just so fed up with my hair and the result of it when its wet and when i do twist outs and any other twisting braiding style.I need help I made up my mind cutting my hair, and i been using so many products to see what actually works for y hair type. I'm doing the CG method, for 2-3 weeks now, i recently yesterday bought a new condish i can stick to when i cut my hair. I can across SAY YES TO CARROTS. i love it so far. my hair it still a Lil dry and crunchy i guess form using other hair products. My edges are rough and don't have a curl pattern, and i have splint end city and single strands knots all over my hair. What can i do?? Its much more but, i don't want to over whelm you.

    • Malibu-Barbie says:

      I absolutely love this hair story! I have a very interesting one of my own….one day when I have time I would love to share it here. I never really realized how much self esteem has to do with our hair until I hear our African American children talk about their hair….it's so sad! I'm 3 years natural & couldn't be happier with my decision…

    • shan says:

      I have been viewing your site for about a month now. I decided to begin my journey of going natural in August. I haven't had a relaxer since July 2011. I didn't know what I was going to do, so I started researching online. Up until now I have been getting my hair flat ironed. I am proud to say that I wore my firt transitioning style today. I did the bantu knots but they looked more like a straw/rod set. I was impressed and I got a lot of compliments at work today!! I downloaded the forum app and I will follow you on twitter. Thank you for this amazing site!! I am learning a lot:-)

    • Chels says:

      As I am sure you've heard plenty times before, your story is very inspirations. I am close to the end of my transitioning and I am loving my natural curls. However a major problem with me is CONFIDENCE. This fall I will start my freshman year of college and coincidently I want to major in psychology and go on to become a psychologist. It will be hard adjusting from my local natural hair stylist to doing my hair on my own. I will look to your blog for guidance and support through my natural hair journey.

    • Natural Babydoll says:

      Nikki, your hair story is inspiring. I have to say I agree with your hubby more you shine with your natural hair. Good luck love your site.

    • Top Water Softeners says:

      I forgot to say how lovely your wedding pix are. Marriage is wonderful, enjoy it and I pray God's blessings for you and yours!

    • ToniRox says:

      Sooooo inspiring!

    • Anonymous says:

      WOW!!! What a small world. I went to high school with your husband, Eugene…I did not know that you were from St. Louis…and went to Truman..what a small world.

    • Mechelle*Christina says:

      Heyy…!!! Just to start off I love your hair and your hair story. I feel that your hair story is very similar to mine..To be honest, I am sick of pressing my hair. I have been doing it since 15 and now that I'm 20 I want to try something new.. But I do have a few questions..I never have had a perm so will transitioning be easier?What products are best to use?And how do I overcome my theory o straight hair is better?…please help!!thanks :))

    • Anonymous says:

      Hi Nikki, Im Sheryll..Just wanted to say I LOVE your hair…im currently in the transition stage and its TERRIBLE!!! I have no idea what products to use or even what the texture of my hair is. Just took some braids out and im sitting on my bed not wanting to wash it because i know the drill. I've been natural for about a year but haven't done the big chop yet..idk if i want to or if i should…also im wondering is the BC the only way to achieve great natural hair…Ps..i usually do trimmings every 2-3 weeks.

    • Jubair Rahman says:

      It was a great story. We all had known about the variations of your life. You would like my site

    • Anonymous says:

      Hi Nikki,

      My co-worker just told me about your website and I thought I would browse through. You are a beautiful lady. I need a little advise regarding my hair.

      I have short hair which is very light especially when I blow dry my hair. I want to start locking my hair but I am not sure if I should do small twist locks or sisterlocks. I tried the medium size twist lock and because my hair is light, the twists were really fine. Please let me know which locks would fit me more.

    • Anonymous says:

      Hi Nikki,I love your website, I wish that I've known about it before. I have naturally curly hair. Ive just chopped it all off because I had such bad breakage and damage from years of perms and dying my hair. My hair is currently the length of Chisette Michelle's hair. I would like to know are there any hair growing tips that you may have? Thank you 🙂

    • Affordable Medical Insurance says:

      What a great hair story! And, you have beautiful hair! I am a white mother to a biracial daughter and I plan to teach her to love and embrace the beautiful natural curls that God has blessed her with!

    • Affordable Insurance says:

      What a great hair story! Thank you for sharing and inspiring us to be ourselves- naturally. I am currently fasting from the flat iron and struggling to find styles.

    • Anonymous says:

      Just now, September 8, 2011 I watched a you tube video from your site…flat twists by koos. It was my second time watching it. This time I saw just the first few minutes of part 1 to find out the products she used. And when I returned to my phone a half hour later, a pornographic image of a women's backside was penetrated by a white penis.

      I was able to rest my wallpaper but don't yet know how to remove the image from my phone.

    • Shannon says:

      If I had known you were in Raleigh, I definitely would have been there :(. Your hair is so beautiful and healthy, you're my hair shero. I decided to go natural right after my pregnancy, I'd gone the last 3 months prior to having my daughter without having a relaxer. It was Summer and as you know the weather in NC isn't always so friendly AND I was pregnant… it was frustrating. Maybe 2 weeks after having her, around Thanksgiving I decided to get a relaxer and haven't had once since. I BC July 3rd and I'm struggling to figure out what's right for my hair, but your site helps me so much. Sometimes I feel like I'm getting an information overload but it's always better to have too much rather than not enough so thanks 🙂

    • Chencia C. Higgins says:

      Thank you so much for sharing your hair story! I've been natural for over six years but only recently discovered these online communities offering encouragement, support and tips on how to have your best hair. I hate that I have missed out on years of healthy nourished hair but I thank God that I found sites like yours before it was too late.

    • deltadiva35 says:

      It was awesome meeting you at the hair meet up in Raleigh, NC a couple of weeks ago. It was so nice to see so many curlies out there. What an awesome time it was. Thanks for being such a hairspiration and so approachable.

    • Michelle says:

      Nikki – i luv your hair and you are an absolutely beautiful woman! Thank you for this website. Ihave found it an encouragement in learning that there are others who understand our plight. Yet thank you for rising above and working with your beautiful natural hair and teaching others how as well – very giving and caring!

    • Elysia-Ari says:

      I love your hair! do you do any videos, stories, or blogs about straightening hair? I am newly natural so my hair is way too short to straighten but I'm still interested 🙂

    • Faithy says:

      loooks gorgeous! how do you get it to stay like you it?

    • kiss0my0curlz says:

      You look absolutely beautiful on your wedding day! Inspiring story, Im sad it took me so long to read this, as I go on here religiously.

    • Mrs. Pancakes says:

      hubby is definitely inspiring me to wear my hair natural so im excited about that! Love your story

    • Shelly Robinson says:

      What a great story! And, you have beautiful hair! I am a white mother to a biracial daughter and I plan to teach her to love and embrace the beautiful natural curls that God has blessed her with!!

    • Anonymous says:

      Hi Nikki,
      Saw u on Great Day in St. Louis on Tuesday, June. Who does ur hair maintainence? Where do you go? What products do u use? I am 50 and have worn sew-ins for the past 2 years. No perms in between. Have decided to wear my own hair in otherwords, go totally natural. I live in North St. Louis area and hair dresser just gave me two-strand twists. My hair is very soft yet has a tight curl which is short on me. Not sure if I want this look. Please advise.

    • Anonymous says:

      Hi Nikki, Great job on your website and inspiring other's to transition. I'm curious to know.. what kind of professional credentials do you hold in hair?

    • Anonymous says:

      Just found you … You are beautiful! Your hair is gorgeous as is all the other ladies that have decided to go natural! But outward appearance is only the half … it's the innter beauty and confidence that shines! Btw, I wish that I had the lovely curls that you have! Keep up this great blog!! xoxo Stacy

    • Eugene S.Teller says:

      Wow!! i will be honest with you i never knew that hair was that deep and affected individuals in that manner. Listen I hope you have continued success with helping others

    • Anonymous says:

      Hi, Nikki. I really enjoy your site. I thought I'd pass this along.

    • Julie says:


      I have been natural for going on 15 years now. Thank you for your story! I when I did my big chop I did not have much of a support system, and the beauticians continually told me my hair would not be curly. They were so wrong! I have three daughters now, and we live in Portland, Oregon (diverse, but a little behind the times in natural hair care) There is such difficulty in showing them the curly path when we live in such a silky straight world! I show them pages like yours not only to inspire them and let them know we are beautiful and our hair is beautiful and unique must be beautifully (and naturally) cared for. I wish you all the best for you, your family and all of us curly girls out there 🙂 !

    • Julie says:


      I have been natural for going on 15 years now. Thank you for your story! I when I did my big chop I did not have much of a support system, and the beauticians continually told me my hair would not be curly. They were so wrong! I have three daughters now, and we live in Portland, Oregon (diverse, but a little behind the times in natural hair care) There is such difficulty in showing them the curly path when we live in such a silky straight world! I show them pages like yours not only to inspire them and let them know we are beautiful and what is beautiful and unique must be beautifully cared for. I wish you all the best for you, your family and all of us curly girls out there!

    • Ashley says:

      This website has changed my life and after reading that you are from STL, I'm really at about a 10 now. Thank you for sharing and inspiring us to be ourselves- naturally. I am currently fasting from the flat iron and struggling to find styles… BUT I tried the "braid out" after watching your tutorial and people were complimenting me for days.

    • Diona says:

      Hello ladies!

      I am so proud of all of you for embracing our natural hair.

      CurlyNikki, I am impressed with your website and your career. My mother, one of your former co-workers, always speaks highly of you! Keep up the wonderful work!

    • Unknown says:

      Hello everyone! I have been looking at this site and I have decided that I am definitely going natural! I am a little nervous as I have no idea how to go about this. I have pretty healthy relaxed hair right now but I want to embrace my natural texture (whatever it will be). I also have a beautiful little girl (3 years old; 4 in May) with a gorgeous head of curly hair. She inspired me!

    • Bree says:

      I decided to go natural one week ago. I had pretty much decided at the beginning of last month when it was time to get my next relaxer and I flat out refused to do it. I hate the smell of relaxers, plus I have nervous problems, so I don't always feel the chemicals burning my scalp. And I ALWAYS get burned. I got kinky twists put in my hair on Monday and told my mom I would be growing out my hair and doing a chop in about 5 months. She flipped, totally freaked out! She asked me why. I told her that my hair wasn't growing with relaxers; I lose more every month from burns and scabs than I grow, and its just not worth the stress, time and money anymore. I was so excited to find a place where people actually support your decision to go natural and I hope my natural hair turns out as good as some of the ladies' hair I've seen today.
      Wish me luck!

    • Divinestylez23 says:

      Nikki- I truly enjoyed reading your story ( by the way you made a beautiful bride) Also, thank you for the inspiration. I decided to do my BC on yesterday and because of all the damage I ended up with a very low fade. I really feel liberated! However, I am very insecure and worry about what the critics say. This is my journey and I thank you for sharing.

    • Dalia Colón says:

      I recently produced a video about black women who prefer low-maintenance hairstyles so they can exercise more easily. Here's a link:

    • Unknown says:

      Hi!!! I have been natural for about six months now… I had to cut off all my hair down to a regular becuase of a bad color experience…. I am in cosmetology school and had let one of my classmates experiment… ugh…. Imagine how devistated I was?? I mena what does it look like??? A COSMETOLOGIST whos losing her hair at the age of 21??? I felt like I should have been at the top of my game at the time.. My friend at the time saw how depressed I was and offered to cut it all off for me… I didnt know how it was going to turn out… but there was no other alternative, it got so bad that I didnt even want to go out of the house… But cutting my hair has liberated me… its made me feel like Im my own person and Im not afraid of anything… My hair is growing back thicker and faster…. and Everyone notices how pretty my face is… I was too busy hiding behind my style… and now Ive realized that Who I am is special enough. But I have become so free that I dont know what to do with my hair at all anymore… its about 2" long now and I have colored it but Im becoming bored…. hope to find some new ideas and methods… But I love your story and it encourages me to stick with it… I almost broke down and put that good ol relaxer in last month because sometimes I just dont feel so pretty…..

    • Missa says:

      Hey, Nikki,
      I wanted to thank you for being such an inspiration for women to go – and stay – natural. I stumbled across your site after seeing a cousin of mine grown her hair out naturally. After two years, her beautiful curls have flourished. I most recently was sporting a 14-inch sew-in. My hair grew about an inch and a half in 2 months. It was wonderful feeling the thick, lovely hair as I ran my fingers through it. I decided then and there that that would be the last time. My relaxed hair is dry, fine and brittle, and isn't even close to the beauty that grew out of my scalp before I slapped on the creamy crack. After 17 years of relaxers (I'm 25), I had NO IDEA what my hair really looked like. This was unacceptable. Relaxers made it dry, fine, and brittle. And I know my hair is capable of growing past the 6-inches at which it breaks off like crazy! Your story and the info on your site have inspired me to understand that for me, I AM my hair – and I have no apologies for letting this beautiful extension of myself be judged or manipulated by others who are ignorant of what that means to me. I am wearing a protective style at the moment, a curly set, but want to do a BC – I was short for 7 years – since the 10th grade until college grad – and I have no qualms about opening up my face to the world. Thanks again – I hope your site stays up forever, cause that's how long I'll keep visiting.
      Blessings and Many, many thanks.

    • Anonymous says:

      Congrats on your journey !!! I am a natural teen curly and I was wondering if you use a sealant do you need a leave in conditioner ?

    • Mytasia ( says:

      Hey Curly Nikki I am so glad that I found your page! First of all I just want to say thank you for all your encouraging words about being a natural and more importantly being yourself. I have gone through many a struggles (and still going through some) but I've been learning and keeping the faith through it all…..Anyway I am currently on my way to getting my BS in psychology and I also want to become a psychotherapist but for children/adolescents/ or maybe whole families altogether and wondered if there are any pointers you can give me to help me while I try to get to where I want to be. Thanks for your time but most importantly ~Stay Blessed and Beautiful~

    • Anonymous says:

      Wow! Amazing the issues we black women (in general) have with our hair. Looking at your hair at your wedding, I'm smh because your hair, in its natural state, looks thick and beautiful. I don't understand why you struggled with loving your hair, but I guess that's the psychological part. LOL!

      I've been rocking my natural hair for all my life (30 years) but must admit that I didn't and don't know what to do with it. Thank God for Youtube and this site cuz I'm trying to learn how to style my hair so that it looks fly rather than just be hair in a natural state, as my friend put it.

    • Anonymous says:

      Hi Nikki, I have been natural for 13 years now…my hair is locked and my lenght is on my back below my waist, my husband keep telling me I mus cut my locks off, also my son just resently told me that my hair looks disgusting because it is too long, was going to cut them off but after reading your story I decided to consult with you what you think is best for me at this time, and also if you can recomend some product that I can use miself on my hair…I usually have to travel to NY to get my locks maintenance like wash condition and twist the new growth, but since is to far away I usually get there every six months are so:), my hair is very healthy, any sugestion what i can start using myself on my locks??? I'm going to post some pic of my hair later…thanks, God bless!!!

    • Anonymous says:


    • irene says:

      i am sooooooooooooo excited to go back to my basics i just two weeks ago put a perm in my hair, and yall i am fed up i have super thick hair that is just coming out every time i comb it- its raing my beautiful hair.i am going natural and no one can stop me. It will be a trip though because i have been perming my hair for three years now. But this time i will not go back and with the tips about curl formers and different oils and such i AM going to be alright.

    • Mimi23 says:

      I am considering going natural. I really want to, but I still don't feel completely READY. I am not happy with my relaxed hair anymore because I'm tired of how damaged it gets. What does it take to be able to embrace natural hair?

    • Anonymous says:

      Nikki, what is your hair type???

    • AfroSwirls says:

      I LOVE your curls. I'm 20 and after several failed attempts at going natural I've decided to finally stick with it and get my curls back. I'm a lil apprehensive because I got my first perm when I was 3 (yea *sigh*…ignorant folks), I'm not too sure if my hair will even grow back in the way it did pre-perm and from the looks of my new growth I'm kinda worried.

      Quick question: is the 1st picture at the top what your hair always looked like before your began continously straightening your hair?

    • Anonymous says:

      Thanks for the encouragement. I love this blog because of the positive motivation.

    • Anonymous says:

      Hi Nikki, thank you for your post about your hair. well, the thing with me is my hair is truly "nappy" in the natural state I have not had a perm since June 20010. I have been in kinky twists for the last month. My question is what moisturizers can I use to make my hair soft and managebale when i come out my braids.

    • Anonymous says:

      Hey Nikki. I was just wondering. What is your hair type?

    • lilkunta says:

      I agree with just me. I have type 4c hair.
      My hair is super tightly coiled.
      After I shampoo & conditioner, I wait 10minutes then I HAVE TO blow fry it while damp (or else my hair wont stretch at all).

      I see lots of hair all over the floor. Type 4c hair breaks soo much.

    • Anonymous says:

      This sounds so much like me even the time we were born is only 10 years apart. i lost about 5-6 inches of hair in the last year trying to keep it straight. finally now that my hair is shoulder length (a lot shorter than b4) i am going natural this is inspiring!

    • Anonymous says:

      I love the story as well as the site.. I just made the decision last week to go natural my SO is totally against and says my head is too big to do the BC and that if I'm going to do it I should transition. I however don't want to transition, instead I want to wait about 5 months and do the BC in May. I would hope to have enough hair to wear a mini fro or a braid out. Im not sure! Im trying to get as much information on this as possible. I have yet to determine my hair type but I don't think I'll know that until it grows out some more. This is already a challenge and I haven't done anything but think about it…Whew! I know however with my Seborrhea Dermatitis that Ive been battling for years that something has got to give because the relaxer only makes my scalp worse.

      I noticed you haven't been on in awhile and I see that you've had a bundle of joy just recently, Congratulations. I do hope to see you back soon.

      Aisha O.

    • Anonymous says:

      @ Anonymous December 1, 2010 12:01 PM: Olive oil is an excellent moisturizer. If you're still experiencing dry scalp (which many people who have or had relaxers do), and you're still getting the itchiness with the olive oil, maybe it's just HOW you're using what you're using, not what you're using. Try hot oil treatments, adding a few drops of essential oil (rosemary, cedarwood are good for the scalp) to the olive oil to make a great scalp treatment (to be used during a wash day or a little at a time for daily use) and even moistening your hair/scalp then oiling your scalp with the olive oil and then covering with a plastic cap. In my experience with this, I find that technique is just as important than products. And if you know you're using something great like olive oil, then you may need to tweak your technique. Also, in terms of your hair being dry, be sure to lightly spritz your hair with water (or hair spritz of your choice, anything to moisten hair a tad) use a great leave in of your choice daily and then lightly coat with olive oil. You can do it!

    • Anonymous says:

      Hi! I have been transitioning since March of this year. When I was perming my hair, I had major issues with dry scalp, itching, etc. It seemed like I was able to get that under control starting in September/October but in the last few months it seems like the itching is coming back. I oil my hair with EVOO every morning. But is there some other type of moisturizer I should use? On a weekly basis I use the Shea Moisture line of Shampoo and Conditioner.

    • Tasti Mi says:

      Hello I am new to the site, but will definitely start posting soon 🙂

    • Anonymous says:

      Thanks for sharing your hair story CurlyNikki! It is sooo relevant to anyone who has ever struggled with relaxed hair. I was a hairzilla every time my new growth would come back after getting a relaxer. I made the BC 6 months ago and now I'm a much nicer person 🙂

    • Unknown says:

      I loved your story! Seems so much like mine, except I tried to relax my hair on three different occasions, each time realizing that relaxers are not for me. Now at 30, I'm getting married in August and have now decided how I'm wearing my hair for the wedding. I was fussing over wearing my hair back with a calle lily, instead of just stick the lily in wear it fits. thanks for the idea!

    • Anonymous says:

      HELP! what's "white dot breakage" because I think i may have that in portions of my scalp 🙁 and how did you get rid of it???

      and by the way i love, love looove your story!

    • Anonymous says:

      @ sassy what you are referring to is can grown your natural hair out to what ever length you want, then cut the permed ends off when you are ready,,that is what i did..teh perms ends can break off while transitioning so you have to be careful in what you use..and no Nikki did not do teh big chop

    • sassi816 says:

      Hello Curlynikki,

      You may have already answered this question, but I want to know if you ever did the BC. I have not had a perm in four months and I dont plan to ever go back to perming, but i do not want to cut my hair off. So will it be okay to do it my way? Also, will the permed hair eventually come out?

    • Blaquestarr says:

      Oh WOW! You are my hair twin! What happened to you is EXACTLY my story. I'm now at the go curly/breaking from years of damage/bye-bye color phase, and I would cry anytime someone would ask if I cut my hair – but your story has given me such hope and optimism for the future. I am on the right track – THANK YOU!

    • Lovely Lady MT says:

      Great Story!! you looked wonderful on your wedding! I am in the process of going natural and I haven't permed my hair for 7 months. its not the first time that I have gone natural but I always wore braids before…I'm wearing them now until the perm ends break off but I want to reach the hair level that you have achieved not being afraid to wear my natural hair and having it be healthy. my bf is very supportive as well and he's white! So I'm very glad that I found this website. I see so many different styles that look wonderful and I can't wait to try them 🙂

    • Jess says:

      Hair help please, how to maintain my tight natural curls without damaging them?
      I have very natural tight curly hair, its not puffy like an afro. I have been using gel for years and am tired of using it, my hair was long and full and now it is thinning and falling out. I would like to find products that will revive my hair, have it grow and produce light frizz-less curls. I do not go to a salon because they charge arms and legs and I'm a broke college student. So I usually wash my hair with an anti breakage shampoo, followed by a conditioner comb out the tangles and rinse then apply hair food type of vaseline and then apply gel and let it air dry. Throughout the week I usually have my hair in a pony tail, by applying the vaseline on all my hair and the gel only on the top. I have not gotten my ends cut since about 2007, is this a problem? Well thanks for your time and for any advice you give!

    • Anonymous says:

      Your story was very inspirational to me. Especially since this is my first time transitioning but my second time being natural. I went back to creamy crack because I couldn't except my natural hair and how mostly everyone around me couldn't except me because of my hair. I have been through more hairstyles then I can count on my hands in just one year since I put creamy crack back into my hair. Now I want to take care of my hair and finally face my fears of rejection. I want to bc on my birthday.

    • Anonymous says:

      @ Anonymous in Boston: I hope you didn't relax your hair, and found a very good moisturizer! I use extra virgin coconut oil and extra virgin olive oil. Don't use any products with water, mineral oil or petroleum as the main ingredient! well wishes

    • Anonymous says:

      I could have cried reading your story, and then seeing your graduation photo. My own hair looks like that flat ironed right now, and I'm almost 2 yrs post relaxer. This process has been frustrating but I'm slowly seeing results. One day very soon I will be tossing my flat iron all together and embracing my naps. Getting there…

    • magdaayuk says:

      You are gorgeous! and so is your hair:) I'm having some hair issues. My hair is long and thick [and driving me crazy]. When I wear my hair in its natural state, it gets too dry although I moisturize it. I will try the deep conditioning treatment with blackstrap molasses, yogurt, honey, coconut cream and oil. its basically a mixture of two treatments I saw online. We'll see how it goes! I love your blog:)

    • Anonymous says:

      Love this! I got the "Big Chop" yesterday, to my stylist's bewilderment. $28.00 for a cut, shampoo, and style! Can't beat it, compared to the hundreds (thousands) of dollars I've spent on my hair! Everyone asks if DH likes it, but who cares? No one ever asks if I like his hair. HA! I've recently lost over 40 pounds, and was still worried that short hair would make my hips look big, but I like my body better now, because I can see the curves. Much love and encouragement to everyone else who is travelling this journey with you. Thanks, Nikki, for your insight and inspiration!

    • Anonymous says:

      Wow!!! What an amazing hair journey! Your hair is so beautiful… If it's okay with you, I am going to share my frustrations about being natural. I have been natural for 1.5 years and flat ironing my hair (faithfully) bi-weekly. My hair is dry, heat damaged, and thick… About a month ago, I spent a week viewing your website and became inspired to do my own hair. Sadly to say, I haven't been "feeling myself :-("

      Two weeks ago, I thought about relaxing my hair because my own hair dresser asked me how long do I plan on being natural for? and recommended that I get a relaxer. Honestly, I almost gave in because I have been going through a lot with my hair…

      Last night, I washed and conditioned my hair with Giovanni shampoo and conditioner. After a deep treatment, I roller set it for the first time. I was not too please with the results because it is dry and it looks dead.

      I am begging you or any one out there to PLEASE help me because I feel like I don't have any more options 🙁

      Thank You,
      NV, Boston, MA

    • Anonymous says:

      I know the pictures are old but I had to say Nikki your hair is just beautiful; so glad you gave into the curls–never should have considered a relaxer in my opinion but we all have to learn! You have a wise and supportive hubby–remember that when he gets on your nerves! 😉

      I did my final CHOP today–yay! I had said I am NOT going to do the TWA but I'm going to grow out the additional 2" then cut WELL I COULDN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE and after examining my hair this morning before my salon visit, I knew how much I wanted off and what I would have OR so I thought! Once I got in that chair, there was a few minutes of wrangling but then I remembered for the past 2 weeks, how ticked I would be with all the rodding and trying to avoid getting my relaxed sections from getting wet from my purified water, essential oil sprintzers I said what the heck–let's do it!! My friends (black & white), mom & hubby have been very supportive thus far but it shorter than ever now and I love it! My new stylist was amazed how fast my hair curled up and how quickly it had grown out in the back from the initial cut I had 2 WEEKS AGO! I thought it was my imagination as I was stretching out my back curls…thinking nah my hair can't be that long already but it is! Thank all of you who have contributed with your stories, words of wisdom and plenty of hair recipes–love you all! Shirl, Waukegan, IL

    • Lynette H. says:

      I too graduated from TSU!!! Last year!! Super Walmart was what's up! lol (or not. hmm.) I see a couple of familiar faces in your pics!! you have a great blog! I was directed to it by a friend of mine whose hair is natural. I'm gonna do a chop as soon as I can grow out enough to do it. Or maybe I will wake up tomorrow and just go for it! I just never know. This will be my third time "transitioning". I love changing my look, so I often end up relaxing my hair. Kudos for the site! The name is getting passed around. Keep educating us about self-love! That is the most invaluable thing. 🙂

    • Unknown says:

      So I posted on FB yesterday how I was bored with my hair and that I needed new styles. Low and behold some of my natural friends said to come to your blog and check it out. I still haven't left your site. I'm very excited about trying these styles and using products mentioned on here. I have very curly hair, I love it, I've been wearing it natural since I was 14 after my mom decided to perm my hair (bad idea). I didn't discover my hair was curly until college…so I'm a true product junkie. But I want to try natural products now. While reading many blogs I see abbreviations for certain things (BC-Big chop) and more, but I'm not familiar with all of them. Do you have a guide? Thank you so much for your insight and personal experiences. I'll be on here everyday!

    • Unknown says:

      An 'inspiration' to embrace my natural hair is just a the words I can type with all that is going through my head right now. Wondeful bio ;).

    • Anonymous says:

      Hi… I just came across your site looking for ways in which to wear my hair… and your bio spoke to me I suffer from self esteem issues and most of it is (sad to say) do to my HAIR and the way I look…the only one in my fam who has curly hair and all the women believe in frying dying and laying to the side " not straight until you feel scabs & burning"… Im currently in my last year of undergrad and stop perming my hair for about two years now and the blonde( didn’t bleach) has almost grown out, my hair has gotten back to the curls ive always had as a child however its NOT growing… Help please and I know changing your hair doesn’t change your mood automatically? I’m tired of feeling the way I do…and I don’t have that much support ..have any suggestions about that too? Here is my email ladymls@yahoo

    • Squeekz!! says:

      HI nikki!!
      i just recently stopped relaxing my hair!! and i cut it into a style ! now i really wanna grow it long without relaxing but i dont know what to do ? HELP!!! i have 3b hair!

    • Anonymous says:

      I have been transitioning for 3 months and I really want to BC it; however I am in the process of job hunting and like you am very skeptical about being judged in my initial interview, but I believe in GOD and I am sure my qualifications and faith will get me the job not my hair right?

    • Anonymous says:

      CN – you are so inspiring!!!! I have been on your site for the past 3 hrs! I am 10 months transitioning and had a terrible twist-out this week. I wanted to cry because I looked like Fraggle Rock! (You may be too young to remember them, lol). I was encouraged by your stories and tips to continue my natural journey. My 14 yr is joining me as well in the transition. Your story is beautiful and your hair is gorgeous!!! Thank you for everything!

    • Kim says:

      I love your site and I have been following you for a while but I just decided to register. I was being lazy 🙂 I live in Delaware and I began my first natural hair care forum in May. It was a success and I hope to expand it to an expo next year! BTW, I am originally from NC and my family still lives there. Some in Raleigh! Maybe we'll bump into each other. Until then, Happy Natural!!!! God Bless…

    • Anonymous says:

      I cut my hair!!! You've really helped made this journey so much easier! I cannot remember ever having my hair this short but I'm wearing it with great pride and with all the info you've provided my hair feels healthy. I was also going to ask, I co wash my hair everyday, I have a type 4a/4b hair is that's not too much is it?

      Thank you Nikki. Hope you and the baby are doing well. x

    • Unknown says:

      Hi Nikki! I was at home taking a home exam and sat down to watch Tyra for a break. I was listening to your interview and love the topic of curly hair. I have curly hair, but don't wear it down much. I pull my hair up in a bun most of the time. If I wear my hair down natural it starts out great when its wet. However, as the day gets later my hair looks dry and gets big. I'm not use to big hair. LOL! Can you provide a suggestion to keep the curls locked after washing my hair and keeping the curls moist.

      By the way, you looked fabulous on Tyra. You were rocking the natural look.


    • Anonymous says:

      Today i will bE having my BC done and will be going with nikki's kind of product .so any tips on the next thing to do after the BC.

    • Anonymous says:

      I hope to get my hair to look like yours. Ive never had any chemicals in my hair, or flat iron. At the moment though it is very dry and breaks easy

    • DLeveston says:

      Hi Nikki! I came across your site while I was browsing for natural hair styles. As I looked through your pics, I thought, "Hmm, she looks familiar." Then I read your bio. I went to Truman too! The year you graduated, I was a sophomore and had just crossed Delta.

      I am really enjoying your site, especially the page with all of the women's styling tips. I've been natural for a little over 4 years now and I am always looking for new styles to try. I'm so glad that more and more Black women are embracing their natural hair and all that comes with it!

      Danielle 🙂

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    • CurlyChellez says:

      I like your story, because it is very different from most natural stories since you neve had your hair relaxed. I also am planning on going 'natural', but I guess most ppl wouldnt consider it going natural b/c I have never had a relaxer, but I get my hair pressed and flat ironed biweekly and I have been doing this so long that I lost my curl pattern. So I plan to do a no heat challenge and get my curl pattern back!

    • darkbeautytt says:

      hi kechy i just read your story on curlynikki u can contact me @ i'm also a nigerian born and breed. i think u shouldnt listen to friends influence and its so nigerian to do that and to try to make u feel like u dong something wrong. but maybe ifg u have another nigerian support tehn u can actually see that accepting your hair as it is is the best thing u can ever do. my family were against me cutting my hair also but even though i have a twa thanks to nikki. the different things i do with my hair daily make them want to do the same thing as me, now my aunty and nieces are all thinking of going natural because my educated mind refuse to co9nform to society mindset. stay bless lu can contact my email at

    • Anonymous says:

      lovely story. you are a very gorgeous woman. my husband loves my hair natural, too. it's great when the men in our lives also support us living and embracing our natural state.

    • Anonymous says:

      Nikki, The way you looked on your wedding day is exactly the appearance I have always wanted. I am half black and half white. I grew up with my mother (a white woman, whom despite all her effort had no idea what she was doing to my hair) Children of black and white ethnicity made fun of my hair all throught elementary schoo.When I became a teenager I grew dreads, then when I got older I straightened all the time. I vowed to always straighten my hair. I was ashamed of my curly hair and how it made me look. Now I am almost 30 and have decided to go natural as the older I get the thinner my hair gets. Because of you, this site, and the people here, I am not only learning to be how to manage and grow my hair, but realizing it is sexy. Thank you.

    • Lia says:

      Great story, and I got this website from another blogger. I wrote on another website explaining how I want to go natural but I am nervous and scared because I have REALLY long hair (butt length) and I've had it all my life and I know it would upset my mother. But I am ready for a change and tired of sweeping damaged hair off the floor every time I wash/ get it permed. I just don't know the right time or how I can afford going to a beautician every few weeks to keep it up. But I am definitely inspired, just scared. Any advice??

    • Anonymous says:

      So i wanted to know what is ur hair type 3a, 3c just wondering bc my hair is a 4a and would love it to look like urs.

      ms BRKCTON MA

    • Tiffany says:

      great story i just found this site via another blogger. and i think your honesty is refreshing and ty for making a site helping people with natural hair

    • Anonymous says:

      Peace CurlyNikki!
      First I must say, you're doing an amazing job with this forum. You've personally saved me an insurmountable amount of money and hair in the sink by posting product tips. Nothing worst than spending $25 on a tiny bottle of something that just breaks my hair off in clumps!!

      SO…just wondering if you know of any good natural hair salons in Brooklyn to cut natural hair? There are loads that are either incredibly pricey and/OR just push their own natural hair relaxers or styles. (oxymoron no?)

      I love the way I style my hair, I just need a better shape to it since losing a great deal of it…


    • Anonymous says:

      Hi I have no IDea what is going on with my hair
      I've never had a relaxer in it's but is all ways dry
      or my curls look like a mess I need some help I have a naturly curly account but I just can't
      find the right stuff that's a great price for my hair

    • Anonymous says:

      I love your hair story but I do have a question. You mentioned that the coloring damaged your hair. Is that because it was color or was it because you didn't really focus on treatment? I'm asking because I would like to color my hair but I am very afraid.

    • Anonymous says:

      I love hair Nikki. A day doesn't pass by without me wishing and hoping my hair will grow up and be like yours.

      What is your hair type?


    • Anonymous says:

      You are gorgeous and u man is even more gorgeous both on the inside and out. I wish for a man that will be strong for me where I am weak and build me where I am weak to be strong.You are blessed hun.Itumbi from Kenya

    • mzjackson says:

      I love your story. It has inspired me to go natural for a while. I started getting my hair pressed when I was 9, relaxed from the ages 13-15, and then went back to the pressing comb and flat iron. Now I'm 21 and ready for a change. I've been wearing the curly fro this week but the only problem that I've been having is dealing with the frizz. When I wake up my hair looks wonderful but by the end of the day my curls are frizzy. What do you recommend that I use?

    • Anonymous says:

      I feel discouraged about my boyfriend. He is NOT supportive of me going natural. He constantly is referring to natural hair as "uncombed" and "nappy." This really hurts my feelings as I am trying to develop a healthier lifestyle, not only with my hair, but using and researching healthier soaps, lotions, deoderants, and organic hair products. But my hair is the biggest issue. When he met me I had long shoulder length relaxed hair. So that's how he wants me to remain. I prefer my natural, kinky curls. I as well, do not feel like myself with my hair straightened, blow-fryed out, trying to mimic the appearance of an european hairstyle. I really love your hair curlynikki, and all I can do is continue to live on youtube and the natural hair care blogs and sites trying to grab some inspiration and encouragement. Thanks for being an encouragement. Your a beautiful young lady and you have one of the most beautiful heads of natural hair I've ever seen.


    • Anonymous says:

      Good to see more of my younger sisters starting to respect what the Gods gave us naturally and how beautiful it is. Much LOVE and RESPECT to your husband, a brother who loved you enough to
      DIFFUSE the CONFUSION you were experiencing as a part of societal conditioning. Very strong, prideful man. Need more of them in our communities. Been wearing my hair natural since '92. Same style(s)(braid-outs, got one going right now). My texture is like yours. I have a wonderful southern brother out of Georgia that loves my "bush", (as he calls it) too.

    • nmorgan525 says:

      Hello, I just found your blog the other day and I love your story and your hair looks fabulous! I have been natural for 2 1/2 years since a cancer diagnosis but I didn't loose my hair in treatments or cut it off. I transitioned with a stylist who spiral wet set it for a year. Last May I found the Miss Jessies products and used those until it got too cold to wet my hair so much. I am amazed at the curls you and your friend have. My hair is natural, but its not curly like yours unless I put product in it, like MJ. Otherwise its a frizzy mess. My hair shrinks a lot and is puffy and soft. My daughter who is only six and very natural has the same hair. No curls, just poofy, springy hair. Currently I twist both of our hair wet and we still have lots of shrinkage. Its a nice length wet, but as it dries. What are you guys doing to get the curl? I would appreciate any advise you could give me. My daughter hair is almost impossible to do, she cries so much.

    • michelleroberts758 says:

      LOVE LOVE LOVE your blog. inspired much. i did my BC in october 2009. im loving my new look but the hubby HATES it. but its all good it`ll grow on him.

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    • Sharon says:

      Hello, Very inspiring story. I also went to Truman State University ( Only for 1 year in 1996-97)

    • Anonymous says:


      This is Ivy from BEBE ! How are you? I knowing that everything is working out with Tyra! And your website looks great. I have been telling women who I know with natural hair all about it! I wanted to speak with you about something. What is your phone number? You can email information to me at Talk to you soon : )

      Ivy Smith

    • Anonymous says:

      Enjoy the blog. I have a request, could you please limit the pop up windows when navigating through your site?

    • Anonymous says:

      what is your hair type CurlyNikki?

    • Poverty Dieter says:

      Great blog! I just stumbled across it while looking for stuff about natural beauty. 🙂

    • Anonymous says:

      Love the story! It almost mirrors mine about growing up with different hair and how it effects self esteem. I just did my BC three weeks and am in love!! I cannot keep my hands off my natural hair. Thanks for the site. If you don't mind…where did you go to school in St. Louis? I'm a hazelwood girl and you look familiar.
      Happy Holidays

    • Anonymous says:

      Wonderful story,and beautiful wedding pics!

    • Yonnea says:

      Congrats on the Tyra show, and you did sooooo well on that interview. Btw your hair looks beautiful, I LOVE CURLY HAIR!

    • Anonymous says:

      On My God!!! I just found out about your website today from a comment on natural hair in Essence online. I have been wearing my hair in a Afro for about a week and I love it! I have very soft hair with color and I am ready to make the big Transition. I live right outside of Charlotte, NC and I have called around to speak with different stylist about making this transition. I have been wearing my hair in short styles for about 5 years. I will put a little perm at the roots to give me the natural curl look. I haven't had any perm in my hair for about 2 months. I need to know about different hair products in my area for natural hair. I still haven't decided if I am going to continue to wear my short afro for a while until it grows out more. I have consulation with a lady regarding Sister Locs this afternoon. Wish me luck with my transition for 2010. Oh!!! Your hair looks great!!!!!

    • Anonymous says:

      Hey there … love your hair! Thanks for the blog. I'm an editor and just wanted to point out that the captions under your pics should read "… and ME" not "… and I". A good way to think of it is if the person wasn't in the picture with you, you'd write "Me" not "I"! Hope that helps.

    • Courtney - Curiously Crazy about going Curly says:

      Boy oh Boy! Do I read this story almost everyday, as I make my daily visit to the site! I must say that I absolutely love this site and the display of pure beauty of all the women.

      My story is so much like yours. I am a freshman in college, 700 miles away from home. At home, I would go to the hair dresser every two weeks. The summer before my departure, my stylist told me that she wanted me to stop getting perms. But once I got to college, unequipped with her hands and the knowledge that I have gained from your site, YouTube, and the continual lists of sites, I was so stressed. My emotions tended to be directly correlated with the condition of my hair. I am so motivated to learn how to manage my hair by myself, bringing to life 'hopefully" the curly and natural hair that I always dreamed of.

      Thank you so much for your dedication to enlightening me and the host of women like me!! <3

    • lovechilde says:

      Your hair looked FABULOUS on your wedding day. I love it!

    • YLonda says:

      Love your story! I live in St. Louis. If you ever have any events here, please let me know. Thanks for posting my article again:)

    • Anonymous says:

      This site is lovely. I'm British, 24 years old, only been relaxing my hair for 4 years and I think I'm ready to go back. I think I relaxed out of desperation for something different and sadly to fit in yet I've just had one problem after another and I know if I want my hair to be truly healthy, natural is the way to go. But the truth is a small part of me is worried about the reaction I'll get. My hair is quite long and when relaxed goes down by back. I don't think it particularly suits me but the reaction I get from my peers, especially black men makes me feel (if only for a moment) better about myself. Some of the nastiest comments I've heard about natural hair have come from other black people and I want to avoid this because I'm not good at taking criticism. It's been 4 months since my last relax and I really want to hold off but I honestly don't think I have the willpower. I will definitely do it one day.


    • Unknown says:

      Hey this is truly amazing hair story and I like it very much.Its also interesting to read this story.I really like it that you share this story with us.I must say that your husband is really very supportive.

      thé vert

    • Unknown says:

      YOUR HAIR IS BEATIFUL! i cut all the relaxer out my hair this summer and not secure with the lenght (inch and a half) so im rocking braids 4 now, have any advice on scalp treatment for braids?

    • CURLYNIKKI says:

      Hi Maisha!! Send me an email at How's Malena??

    • Anonymous says:

      Hey Curly Nikki…I think I remember you from elementary school (Euclid Montessori), middle school (Enright/McKinley CJA), and High School (Metro Highschool), and I must say that I am very happy to see you doing suck a great service with this website. Keep up the good work!

      Maisha A.

    • Kelley and Tracey says:

      Thanks CurlyNikki
      What an awesome story,like you I have an supportive husband. My husband likes anything natural however i have had my hair straighten, braids, locks, bald, back to locks, back to perm and have gone caesar for quite some time now, Now i have finally allowed my natural hair to grow working with the Curlygirl Method. I had to bust out laughing the other day while doing the CG i realize i didn't really know my hair at all. All this time i thought my hair was extremely kinky it is curly and fine. I didn't even know what was on the top of me head do to all of the processing. I'm glad to have found apart of me and much appreciative to have a husband that also supports me. Thanks for your beautiful story

    • Anonymous says:

      Awe thanks so much for sharing your story. I am a newbie natural and was thinking about straightening my hair for my birthday next week, but I changed my mind to do so. I felt like I was running from what I been trying to accomplish for the past 9 months. I love my curls kinky and all…so I will wear them and let the world know me as Brittany B the kinky curly natural girl! thanks again!

    • Chizoba says:

      Wow Nikki, its nice to find this site. I think i will be stopping by often for the inspirational blogs. I knew u at Truman, dont know if you remember me though. Although i'm a bit late, Congrats on ur wedding and remain blessed. I am also transitioning now and lurking around sites like LHCF and hoping to learn all I can about taking care of my hair.

    • Anonymous says:

      Your blog is so inspiring…I am a psychotherapist also and almost a year ago I was working with two very special clients (one who had recently transitioned to natural and another who had major self esteem issues related to hair, body image, and the "other" standard of beauty). Since that time I began considering the transition for myself and am happy to say that I will be BCing soon, after relaxing for 25 years. My last relaxer was only 8 weeks ago, so I will be rocking a TWA.

    • lauren says:

      Omg my hair story is exactly the same as yours
      ive been natural for two years but i transitioned by straightening my hair for most of the time and then in february of this year i colored my hair, which i too will never do again, after my last straighteng which was oct 15 i saw how bad my ends were, it had been 5 months since i last straightened my hair and i saw a dramatic difference from my healthy hair from the damaged fryed hair…so i decided to cut it all off…i have about 2 inches of growth from that 5 month period. and its the best decision ive ever made. i got all the dyed hair out and my hair looks so much healthier!

    • Anonymous says:

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    • 007dyva says:

      Nikki, your hair is beautiful. The site has been very helpful in my transition. Girl you are d bomb!!! Thanks for the site and sharing your beautiful hair story.

    • Britt says:

      I love your hair story =)
      I decided earlier this year, when I was still a soph. to go natural. I haven't relaxed since like MARCH…
      & now i'm stressed with my transitioning hair & despite my reluctance i am ready to BC…yikess!

    • Anonymous says:

      I'm a 50 yr. old male with natural hair thanks to my daughter who just happens to be You. See you soon!


    • Anonymous says:


      What a wounderful story. I love the hair and the Pic's. I would love to invest in her your company

      Ron Flack
      Reidsville NC

    • pnkupcake says:

      This is so inspiring. I have been natural and pressed or weaved for the past 2 1/2 years. Lately mostly pressed. I have been reluctant to wear my hair in it's natural state because I never feel as "pretty" for lack of a better word as I do with me straight hair or my weaves. My 11 year old daughter has beautiful fine/thick super curly hair and she is starting to hate her hair so I know I need to get my act together so that she will embrace her naturalness as well. I have been trying to wrap my mind around trying it again and I found your site. It has been so inspiring to read all of the posts and see the pics. Your hair is amazing BTW. So tonight after work I went out purchased my HH and my shea butter and rollers so I'm gonna give it a try :/
      I will post pics- if it comes out right 🙂
      I am hopeful. You are an Angel for doing this!

    • dee says:

      Hi curlynikki…this blog is so inspirational to me..i'm not rocking the natural yet but my daughter's are transitioning and your site has helped me in more ways than i could ever imagine..thank u so much..u and the hubs are super cute and i'll post my question about hennas later because i'm totally confused 🙁

      god bless u!

    • Anonymous says:

      great story. I love the pics also, and ur an inspiration.

    • Anonymous says:

      black love at it's best!

    • Xiro says:

      WWWWOOOOOWWWW, this story is awesome!!! We are probably related somewhere down the line! I can relate in so many ways! i have always loved my natural hair, i just hate the fact that i can't find too much to do to it! i have had both natural and relaxed hair( on more that one occasion)! I've had the fade, the S-Curl, the episodes with mousse, i've even tried Dreds! Girl, i've done it all! I heard about your website from a young lady that attends my church! i am in the "Don't Know What Else To Do With My Hair Phase" I need some new, not so time-consuming, ideas! My name is Xiamara Gomez!!! The name is as crazy as the hair!!!! LMBO!!!! You can email me at!

    • Ramona Ivy says:

      Hello Nikki,

      I am grateful for your sharing this story and your ongoing encouragement.
      I live in the Raleigh/Durham area and would like to connect with you as possible. I live north of Wake Forest and have several friends who have gone natural or are transitioning and would like support.
      Please let me know if we can meet.
      Ramona Ivy
      Be blessed and keep encouraging.

    • Ms. LaNae says:

      Hey Nikki, I have been without a perm for 3 yrs now! However, I have been using the flat iron for straightening. I just bought the products that you suggested and I'm gonna try the TnC tonight! Wish me luck! O and your hair is simply gorgeous!!!:-)

    • Anonymous says:

      Hi Nikki,

      I love your site…I'm natural too and I love your story..


    • Anonymous says:

      A few things caught my attention in your story.

      – The correlation of how we (women) feel about our hair directly relates to how we feel about ourselves (self esteem)

      – The ongoing support of your husband, even before he was your husband

      – The mindset that for special events i.e. interviews that you felt compelled to straighten your hair

      I've wanted to go natural since 2000 and did extensive research to learn how to take care of my hair. I spent the year growing my natural hair out slowly trimming the ends until finally I cut off all the permed hair. I was mortified at the results and promptly went to a beautician to perm it.

      Fast forward to the year 2007, and I'm still grudgingly perming my hair only twice a year until I decide enough is enough and stopped perming it altogether.

      I lost my job and felt frustrated about the situation, which compelled me to cut off almost all of my hair and start from scratch to accept myself as I am.

      My boyfriend was shocked but was somewhat supportive saying that I have a pretty face that I can pull off any hairstyle, and that short hair brings more attention to my face.

      My hair has grown out into an afro and now that it's been officially one year today (I did the big chop 8/8/08) I must admit it is very difficult to retain moisture although I've researched for years (since 2000) the best products/oils and how to read ingredients. Styling is also a challenge.

      I find myself plagued with self esteem issues now more than ever after dealing with a year of unemployment, and my boyfriend has become emotionally abusive/controlling.

      I moved to New York as middle class (two years ago) and have sunk to levels of extreme poverty.

      at the crux of all of this, I have to deal with this short dry afro. With this being appearance conscious new york, I know that image is a definately a factor in employment.

      Thanks for posting your story and photos. Hopefully my story will end with a happily ever after.

    • Sue says:

      I am a white woman with naturally straight hair.
      I think ethnic curls are beautiful!!!! I spent most of the '80's trying to have very curly hair until I finally accepted that straight is what I got. My hair was permed, fried, moussed,cooked and glued into curls that never lasted anyway. I enjoyed reading your story. It never occurred to me that women of color wouldn't love their hair the way God made it, but it took me a while to learn to love mine too – or at least accept it. I think you look beautiful with your natural hair, – so full and thick – and I very much enjoyed reading your story.

    • NoMo says:

      Hello Fellow Tar Heel!

      I'm class of 2004! Anyway, your site was recommended to me because I'm going through a transition to natural hair. I really appreciate all the useful information here. Thanks so much for putting this site together!

    • CURLYNIKKI says:

      You guys are soooo sweet :~) Thanks for the beautiful comments…I'm glad that I can be a source of inspiration, because ya'll are definitely my motivation!

    • Anonymous says:

      such a great story. and what a wonderful man! and your natural hair is gorgeous. don't you ever think different(i know societal brainwashing is hard to overcome);)!

    • joleen says:

      what a great story, I am jealous that u never had to experience that awful burning relaxer experience. Can I just say that you look absolutely stunning on your wedding day…. The natural hair was perfect and that flower… how could straight hair been any more beautiful? Thank God for your husband.

    • Honeyco says:

      I am truely jealous of your husbands encouragement. I have been natural now for 2 1/2 years and my husband/sons hates my hair but tolerates it. I went natural because my hair was shoulder length but the top of head hair was less than a 1' long, about the size of a 50 cent piece. I also had a patch the same size right in the middle of the back of my head. I couldn't hide if it was pulled up or let down. It was also very tender and itched when it was perm time (every 30 days).

      When I first went natural I lived near D.C. so getting my hair done was a breeze, but now that I live in Navarre, FL with no natural hair stylist in site. I'm struggling! Thanks to sites like yours I'm pulling my self up by my bootstraps and working with my 5 1/2" long 4B hair type and dreaming of the day I find curls like yours.


    • Anonymous says:

      Hey Nikki,

      Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful HairStory and amazing love story.

      I am a newbie, BC'd on June 10th after transitioning for 8 months. My husband and boys 'hate' my hair. My son's comment to me after I cut my hair was, "that's the worse thing". I stay encouraged and tell them all that….I AM NOT MY HAIR!

      It really surprises me that my husband (who shares some of Minister Farrakhan views) (LOL) does not agree with me being natural (hair type I believe is 3c/4a), so I tol him that he is after all agreeing with the "WM's" standard of straight hair. I wish my husband was as encouraging as yours.

      I attempted to go natural in '03 but was discouraged because I didn't know how to properly care for natural hair, then, in Oct. of '08, when it was time for a touch-up, I decided that I had had my last relaxer and would go natural. I thank God for the internet and websites such as yours because they truly helped my transition phase much easier for me.

      Thanks again for your encouragement and inspiration!

      A. Wills from the LOU.

    • Anonymous says:

      So inspirational and you looked PHENOMENAL on your wedding day!


    • dominique says:

      omg u look beautiful! but i was wondering on your wedding day if u got your hair done at a salon or did you do it yourself?

    • Anonymous says:

      You look so beautifulllllllllll!!!


    • Latisha Grady says:

      Hi Nikki. I heard about your site from a sister at Whole Foods today in the Kinky Curly aisle. I'm so delighted. My younger sister and my good friend just did their big chops this week. I gave them your site for moral support. You did yourself such a favor in going natural. You look "Simply Fierce" in your wedding photos. Shout out to your husband for having God-given "eyes for you" to see who He's made you and not seek to further suppress you with these fantastic images of beauty we black women suffer from. Many more women would readily go natural, in a heart beat, if they had that kind of support. The reason we continue to lie to ourselves and damage our hair is because we are afraid of how so and so will react or not react.

      My hair story is identical to yours. I wore locs for almost 10 years and did two big chops. Cut my locs 3/2008. I grew a nice fro (about 8 inches) and was doing trial & error to retain moisture and see what I could do. Well I went to my Dominican sisters to get a light blow dry so I could trim my hair. And honey, they fried my stuff. They blew my hair bone straight. I smelled burnt hair for a week. When I washed it did not revert back. It compromised the "integrity of my fro" if you will. My curl patter was assaulted. I might as well got a perm. I had straight ends like a perm. So this lead to big chop #2 3/2009. You can see it 3 mos out at my twitter avatar, here I'm on FB too and you can look me up and see my fro pre-blow dry. Let step off my soap box and go!

      Latisha Grady

    • Hue Reviews says:

      amazing!!! You look beautiful in your wedding dress!

    • KeetaRay says:

      I am just getting to read this. What an amazing story! I am happy that you've decided to go natural, it looks FAB on you!! And your hair is a lot healthier for it 🙂 Very pretty wedding pics, you looked gorgeous!

    • Anonymous says:

      Hey Nikki, gr8 story really and ispiration, especially since i have been transitioning for 6 mo. now. I am at that should I texlax or should I make the permanate leap phase. I have not made up my mind yet. I think I,m a 4a in most areas and 4b around the top part. Wanted to know what your hair type is? Thx

    • Anonymous says:

      Hi Nikki,
      I love your wedding day style. This is my first time visiting your site and I love. I went natural 9 years ago and I'm finding out new stuff about my hair just about everyday. It's great for those who are transitioning now because there is much more knowledge and support available than there was when I made the transition. I did have a question, how did you acheive your wedding day curls? Thanks again for this site!! 🙂

    • Anonymous says:

      Aww beautiful hair, beautiful story, beautiful black love 🙂

    • Anonymous says:

      This story is inspirational and beautiful. Can't wait to get my BC!

    • Anonymous says:

      Interestingly enough…i feel like you were telling my story..I have had a press and curl my entire life…No one back home can even imagine what my hair would look like if it were actually kinky/curly. I recently tried to wear it curly only to find that half of it just wont curl. I was almost about to revert back to the press and curl but this gives me hope.


    • Kara says:

      Hi! I just found you site and I love it. I've worn my hair natural for most of my life (except for two years of an unfortunate relaxer). I've decided to grow my hair out. Hopefully with some of your tips, this will happen.

      PS. I'm from U-City. SAINT LOUIS ALL DAY! (I live in NYC, though)

    • kechy says:

      after then i was convinced then my search was on. ifound out about products styling and everything. i found,, afrobella,,napturallity, culynikky….the list goes on and on and on. i am so into natural hair i'm so not relaxing or putting extensions. but something nasty happened to me yesterday…… firend came to visit me and told me i needed a perm and that another firend of ours told her that i needed help because she doesn't know what route i was now going. i felt really bad though but not enough to make me go that route but i guess i felt bad.
      i wanted to tell you this because i think you'll understand but to be honest i thought of going back to my extensions and perms but with you story. i don't think i want to anymore. if they don't like it the they could stop being my friends. thanks for reading and God bless…………eish i almost forgot i love your wedding pics and that hair…..looking at it is enough to make me say NOOOOOOOOOOOOO to relaxers bye.


    • kechy says:

      nikky please answer me or i'll go crazy. i'm kechy form nigeria and since i was i kid i've cutting my hair because of schooland because my mum thought that keeping a short hair was that bum. when i 16 i graduated secondary school(high school) and was about to enter the university i decided that i was going to keep my hair and to grow a considerable afro and did the unthinkable relaxed my hair which in its normal nature resisted the taming by the chemical. this was in july 2005. from then on it was a braid extension, relax, weave affair and over here if you got those three babe you're covered.natural was, is and will be a taboo. when people see you with they look at you like some leper because majority of the people with it are religious people with a strict no perms, no earrings, no trouser routine. i kept on relaxing and my hair in its ususal pattern kept saying no. every hairstylist i went to kept on saying "you hair is way too strong' they wouldn't even blow dry it because of that reason and as for me determined to be bone straight like theirs kept on killing the poor hair that refused to die. so i constantly kept my hair in braids as in extensions because its kind of unheard of to use your hair here. the next thing i'd be asked is if you're in secondary school and that i should wisen up. my 1st rebellion or wake up call came in 2007 my first year when i started losing my front hair. my hair line was receeding. the first person to notice it was my brother he was compalining and saying that i loved way too much fake hair and that was why i was paying for it and encouraged me to grow my own hair which i had no time for. so i got angry…. stoped relaxing and putting extensions on my hair. i started to wear braids with my own hair and i got pretty nice compliements especially from boys and my brother kept on smiling. since my hair never agrees to the relaxer it was like as if it was natural and for a moment i loved it. until girls came with their stress……."why are you not making your hair again", "do you need money", "do you want to turn your hair to dreads" and all sorts. even my closet friends said some of these things to me. the bad thing then was that i had no idea or nothing about natural hair and the hair stylist kept on persuading me to perm and put on extensions but i kept on ignored her and all of them until my cousin came and told about how it was uncool to be with an unrelaxed and extension free hair. since she was family and her hair was nice(braid extensions) i decided to go in again but this time it was gonna be weaves………UGGH!. so i started relaxing and put weaves on my hair not because i liked it, wanted it or loved it but because everyone was doing it. they were nice though until one day…….. i became bald! surprised? well welcome to my second wake up call in 2008. this time i vowed never, ever, never to relax or put any crap into my hair. so the still hair illiterate me decide to go natuarl for the second time. i continued and even this time i step up my game by twistimg my hair which everybody even girls loved and couldn't get enough of. so i was proud and free…… until agin my cousin and a couple of friends talked me out of and my brother more pissed than hell at me for listening to them. even another firend of mine told me to stop the fakeness. so in 16th november 2008 when i permed and flat ironed the same day(WRONG!!!!!! i know). my brother and i were talking and we talked till we entered the hair discussion and he said ……."instead of going on this natural hair journey alone why not go to the net for information and inspiration" and then it hit me (3rd and final wake up call i guess) the reason y i'd been this way was because of my lack of knowledge so i went searching like hell. the first thing i found out ws that i should was and condition my hair which up till then never crossed my mind. that was like my stylists job. the first site i found was and the lady there made washing,conditioning, combing, braiding, growing and everything so easy.

    • Simone Say's™ says:

      I haven't even ready your hair story yet but i'm EXTREMELY happy to know that you are right here in the Triangle.. lol i've been needing some hair inspiration like CRAZY! So i'll be a-following you! i JUST started a blog so that people can keep up with my growth journey. i BC'd LAST WEEK! lol, anywho

      hopefully i'll still be here for the next triangle meet… im in school in 'the boro' (lol) so i'll have to find some curlies there too!


    • Anonymous says:

      Girl, you are a beautiful sistah, and your hair is also BEAUTIFUL! I have gone through hair drama my whole life. I was born with beautiful long kinky hair, but after 15 years of perms I had to chop off my thin strands. I felt like the main character from Nappily Ever After(great book) because after I choped off my hair everything changed. Some people told me I was crazy and others told me I was doing the right thing. I can’t explain how great it is to be free from the chemicals and all the lies about how beautiful straight hair is. I met my future husband(sept 21 is the big day)because he loved me for my true beauty. I gained a special type of confidance after I choped off my hair. By choping off my hair I appreciated my inner beauty, something I had ignored for scuh a long time. Do you know women buy weave so their hair can look like yours? You’re blessed! You looked beyond lovely on your wedding day, I wish you all the best.Enough with my ranting!I love your blog! and keep it kinkY!

    • alex awesome says:

      You are so beautiful in these pictures and your hair looks so wonderful and healthy! Thank you for creating this website and telling your story 🙂

    • Anonymous says:

      I absolutely LOVE your hair…it is so beautiful. I’ve been transitioning for 6 months now. I can’t wait til I’m fully natural and have long beautiful hair like yours! I find it very inspiring that your husband encouraged you to wear natural hair on your wedding day. Most people I come across tell me why I shouldn’t go natural or why I need a relaxer. Thanks for the story!

    • hunt4anarnia says:

      Your natural beauty was just GLOWING on your wedding day! Your hair is like a crown fit for a queen!

    • WantNatural says:

      I LOVE your hair! I’m almost 37 years old and I just decided two weeks ago to transition to natural. I’ve often seen women with natural hair and wished my hair would look like that – but how do I know it doesn’t, I don’t even remember what my natural hair looks like!

      Anyway, your story is great and your hair is AWESOME!!! I’m learning so much right now – thanks for the inspiration!

    • Anmhottie265 says:

      Loved the story!!!!

    • Anonymous says:

      Hey!! Your hair is BEAUTIFUL!! What hair type would you say you have? I’m a 4a and I have VERY tight curls with lots of shrinkage. I tried various natural styles but none seem to work because my hair just shrinks up. I am very interest in rollersetting my hair. Do you have a method in which you rollerset your hair in dry state?

    • Anonymous says:

      Nikki beautiful pictures and great hair. I have only had two relaxers in the last year and a half, the last one being 5 months ago. I plan to grow my hair out until December 09, and then cut the relaxed ends. It’s refreshing to find suggestions on transitioning to natural hair.

      Does anyone have experience using straw set or rods to give a curly appearance until the relaxer grows out? I went to the salon this weekend to have my hair set on rods(cost $115) and only lasted a few days. I would like to be able to do this at home and save the money.


    • Anonymous says:

      Nikki your hair is beautiful and you sound like a very nice person. I am happy that you feel free to be who you are. I am just now at nearly 30 deciding to embrace the hair that grows out of my head…now matter how it looks. Thank for being a great encouragement to all us sisters out there. God Bless

    • Anonymous says:

      Hi Nikki, I took a look at the you tube link you posted and noticed that one of the cons you gave for henna is that it loosens the curls. You noted that this can be counteracted by using other herbs. Can you tell us what are the other herbs you were referring too?

    • Anonymous says:

      In regards to ordering the Jamila henna, does it matter what “year” you purchase? Is it, the newer, the better?

    • Anonymous says:

      I love your story. It’s very insightful and inspiring.
      I’ve been depressed for about 14 months due to hair issues. I have very curly hair, but have had two awful haircuts and recently lots of damage (from what I don’t know). Your story makes me realize I /we are more than our hair. And, to embarace it.

      You mention white dot breakage — what is that? Maybe that’s what I see on the ends of my hair.

    • D Alexandra says:

      you’re mom’s platinum hair is FIERCE!

    • Sarah says:

      Hi Nikki! It is so nice to read your story of natural hair success! I LOVE your wedding day hair pictures! Your hair looked amazing! I am currently in the beginning stages of my own natural hair transition. It's been hard because I have been chemically relaxing & straight ironing for almost all of my adult life (I'm pushing 28). I recently cut off quite a bit of dead hair, but I still only have about 2 inches of new growth. I'm just learning how to do my hair in twists in order to make the new growth and old relaxed hair look uniform…I almost spend as much time doing twists as I did straightening! But I just don't see any alternative as I can not bring myself to do the BIG chop. I am amazed at how much of a security blanket my straight hair was. It's been a month of "curly" me and I am getting used to it. What I didn't expect was how wearing my hair curly has changed my self-perception as well as how others perceive me. I am bi-racial (half black/half white) and on the lighter side. With my hair stick straight, I've been mistaken for Italian or Greek. I noticed that now with my hair curly, people look at me a little longer as perhaps my hair and complexion don't "match". At first I felt exposed, I felt like I needed to "hide" under my straight hair. But now I am LOVING it, I feel so much more like I am being true to myself and finally embracing my natural beauty. I just want to THANK YOU for sharing your story…knowing that you went through a similar journey and came out looking and feeling so fabulous is really inspiring.


    • Anonymous says:

      Hi Nikki:

      Been lurking on this site for awhile. I love reading the transition stories which have given me encouragement and support. Transitioning isn’t for the faint of heart. I have been transitioning to natural since March 08 and have cut the relaxed ends off in the back of my head. I am in love with my curls! I was going to wait another yr to cut the rest off but can’t take the sickly relaxed ends much longer. I will big chop this coming summer 09. Your hair is so beautiful and your wedding photos as a natural have inspired me to wear my hair natural on my wedding day. Thank you


    • JuliAna says:


      You hair is absolutley beautiful, I know you hear this often, as you should.

      Simply Stunning

    • M says:

      Nikki, I’m so glad you embraced your curls! Your hair looks absolutely AMAZING in your wedding picture… wow! And I love love the orange flower… that is so classy while being tropical and sassy all in one!

      Thanks for sharing your story with us all! And you are so blessed to have your husband and all his support through the years! He sounds just as cool as you do! 🙂

    • Anonymous says:

      You look so beautiful on your wedding day! I Love your hair and hope to get there oneday! lol! I am just starting out on my journey to becoming natural. I think it’s been about month now and I will slowly trim when needed. Question though, I am aware that I will first rock a twa but how will i get those soft and defying curls? Will i need to get a texturizer when it starts to get really nappy?

    • Anonymous says:

      awesome story. but I read all of this and still don’t know how to get started. I am turning 20 and I have had releaxed hair since I was 12. so what do I do? stop relaxing it and see what happens..p.s your hair in your pictures look gorgeous

    • CURLYNIKKI says:

      Thank you ladies!!!!

    • Unknown says:

      Oh my lord, your hair in your wedding pics is absolutely stunning!

    • Anonymous says:

      I am really enjoying your website. I love your story. You have a very beautiful family and I absolutely LOVE your mom’s hair. It is sooooooooooo pretty.

    • leandra says:

      I’m going to say that your husband’s phenomenal. I love that he was your catalyst and encouragement. 🙂

    • Veronica Marché says:

      Okay, I’m super late, but this is such a sweet story! And I loooooove your wedding pics (gotta love natural brides). Agreed with above… your DH sounds like a wonderful guy. :o)

    • BekkaPoo says:

      I know I’m late, but congrats on your wedding! And in the first picture with your straight hair I didn’t even recognize you.. I am glad you decided to go natural. 🙂

    • Anonymous says:

      That was such a great story…I actually felt a tear coming thru!(lol) I only wish I knew about your site way back when I did my BC in August 08, I would have more knowledge and confidence to care for my napptural… But I am grateful now that I have visited your site and have received some great insight into this Napptural World… Thank you for sharing your story, you have become another inspiration for me and my journey.

    • Anonymous says:

      Great pictures. I love seeing brides with natural hair! I went to UNC too, both undergrad and now for grad school in School Counseling. Good luck with everything and thanks for all the great tips!

    • Anonymous says:

      I loved your story. I love how your husband could see how beautiful you are just being you when you couldn’t. I just love everything on your blog girl! lol Thank you so much for the information you provide and your encouragment.

    • Anonymous says:

      Great story. And let me just say for the record that you are BEAUTIFUL! Not just your hair, but you. It always amazes when gorgeous people had self esteem issues. But it just goes to show you, we really don’t know what’s going on on the inside of our friends and fam. Anyway, so glad that you found hair and life happiness! All the best!

    • Natural Hair Rules!!! says:

      I completely agree with your blog. I feel like I didn’t really learn how to love myself completely until going natural. Check out my blog.

    • Anonymous says:

      I’m so happy that I found your blog. This was a lovely story, and I really enjoyed your pics!

    • CURLYNIKKI says:

      Hi Faithful7…of should I say, fellow Tarheel!! I was in the Rehab Counseling and Psych program in the Med School, and graduated in ’07.

      Thank you for your kind words 😀 I’m happy that you’re able to relate…when it’s happening, you always feel so alone, and like no one else in the world could possibly understand what you’re going through!

      I checked out your fotki and love your hair!!! If you have the time, please submit your interview responses to the Journey to Natural piece on the blog! I’m sure the readers will be more than inspired by you and your hair!

      best and spread the word!


    • Faithful7 says:

      I forgot to say how lovely your wedding pix are. Marriage is wonderful, enjoy it and I pray God’s blessings for you and yours!

    • Faithful7 says:

      I love your hair story, and it sounds soo familiar! Thank GOD for supportive HUSBANDS– I’m transitioning now (6 months in)and don’t know where I would be without my hubby’s support! and I love reading your blog keep up the good work!!! Hey and i was a psych major too and went to grad school at chapel hill in 2004-05 in the school counseling department!!! I definitely appreciate your blog and the tips you give!!!!

    • Faithful7 says:

      I love your hair story, and it sounds soo familiar! Thank GOD for supportive HUSBANDS– I’m transitioning now (6 months in)and don’t know where I would be without my hubby’s support! and I love reading your blog keep up the good work!!! Hey and i was a psych major too and went to grad school at chapel hill in 2004-05 in the school counseling department!!! I definitely appreciate your blog and the tips you give!!!!

    • Faithful7 says:

      I love your hair story, and it sounds soo familiar! Thank GOD for supportive HUSBANDS– I’m transitioning now (6 months in)and don’t know where I would be without my hubby’s support! and I love reading your blog keep up the good work!!! Hey and i was a psych major too and went to grad school at chapel hill in 2004-05 in the school counseling department!!! I definitely appreciate your blog and the tips you give!!!!

    • Unknown says:

      You and your hair are stunning! Your wedding dress is all of it! You go diva!! I am trying to get there. Slowly but surely…

      I work with children developing IEP’s. By any chance do you do any educational psychology? We need more black women and men school psychologist, especially in the urban school districts. I go to work frustrated knowing that so many of our counterparts do not understand our culture. I know we need a lot of work, however, I am against just throwing our children away. Oooops, I went off I guess you can see where my head is!!!

      Back to you, your hair is lovely! I cannot imagine that you ever had a problem accepting those curls.

    • Anonymous says:

      your story is wonderful…and so is your hair!!! i can’t believe your ever wanted it straight! kudos to you for finally letting go of old ideas!!!

    • Anonymous says:

      its nice that you accept and love your hair CN, lucky you. But its hard to relate to for us 4b super kinky types. Our hair is simply not pretty – I am trying to be honest here, its hard to manage, hard to retain length and just hard to love period. I have been on the natural journey for a year and have made very little progress. It seems as if those 4b's who have length got there by using protective styling virtually 100% of the time. So what is the point I ask myself? I do not like many protective styles – twists, braids – yet my hair will not thrive without them> Seems a bit unfair to me. And painful. When people say – let you hair do what God intended it to do, for my hair grade this means a short 'fro. 'Cos there sure is little else it can cope with without breakage, tangles and so on. So I ask myself, is that all my hair type is meant for? I should kiss longer full hair goodbye and embrace my little 'fro?
      All I'm saying is – it's hard. CN – you have great hair, lucky you.

    • DaniM says:

      OMG I think I almost shed a tear 4 realz. CurlyNikki, your hair story is the most touching I have ever heard and I mean that from the bottom of my heart. I will be honest. At first I was like, oh just another hair story like others out there…man was I wrong. Your ‘now’ husband was very kind to increase ur self conf. in wearing ur hair curly. I am uber happy 4 u. If you wrote a book I’d buy it! You have helped so many people and I know you will continue to inspire many more.

    • Amina says:

      you looked amazing on your wedding day! thank you for sharing your hair story with us

    • Anonymous says:

      I really love this post! I’m going to email it to all of my girlfriends and some family members.

    • Anonymous says:

      What a great story. Thank you so much for sharing your life with us. 🙂

    • Anonymous says:

      Lovely hair story. How awesome is it when the one you love encourages you to embrace your whole self? I wish more women could experience this from their mates. But whats most important is that you were eventually able to see and embrace the beauty in your natural self on your own. Thanks for sharing 🙂

    • B. Fly says:

      Hey, it’s va_candi from NC. What a great story! That’s love! I’m so happy your DH convinced you to be yourself. My SO is pretty supportive as well.

    • Anonymous says:

      What a great story. Sad but true. I’m so adding that quote to my bathroom wall. Thanks 😉

    • Kenya says:

      Curlynikki your hair is gorgeous! I love the thickness of it! I plan on going natural sometime in the future and your photos are so inspiring. Thanks for sharing! : )

    • KrazyK says:

      This story is amazing! I gave up on perms my sophomore year of high school (and since i didn’t know better) I straightened until the length was “normal.” I suffered so much breakage from, what i now know as, “the transition” from permed to natural hair. I went 2 and a half years without a perm and no knowledge! I wasn’t until this past summer that i finally decided to drop the flat iron and get real!

      I mentioned before that you were my first model and inspiration when i arrived at as hair, confidence and well being. And you still are today! Thank you for being you!

      camelia aka krazyk

    • Candice says:

      This was a great story! I am transitioning and sometimes I wonder if my hair will affect how men perceive me, I don’t dwell on it, but it something I think about.

      Your Husband sounds like a great guy.

    • Cholena Dyani says:

      Thanks for the compliment! Your hair is gorgeous as well! I will be sure to keep you posted. 🙂

    • CURLYNIKKI says:

      I feel you! From the looks of your avatar, your have GORGEOUS hair! I wouldn’t want to cut it yet either. I’m sure you’re able to rock some fierce twist and braid-outs! When and if you decide to henna, please let me know…hopefully I can help if you have any questions.

      take care


    • Cholena Dyani says:

      Thanks for the words of encouragement! The main reason I am transitioning is because my natural hair is me. I don’t feel special with relaxed hair, but I feel special and unique with my natural hair. I plan to BC either June 09 (1 year), Sept 09 (15 months), Dec 09 (1 1/2 Years), or June 2010 (2 years). I am trying to do this as long as I can because I already know I don’t like short hair on me. I want to chop and be able to at least pull it into a nice sized bun if I am not having a great hair day, which from prior experience will be around Dec 09. Congratulations on your blog!

    • CURLYNIKKI says:

      Thanks Dyani! I’m sorry that your hubby’s not feeling your hair (on some days). He’ll probably come around, but even if he doesn’t, you have to be confident in the fact that your hair is fly, it’s perfect–it’s you.

      When are you planning to BC?

      If you ever feel discouraged, don’t hesitate to post here- this is a supportive environment. Other places for moral support and all around good times: and

      hth and good luck with the transition!


    • Cholena Dyani says:

      Cool hair story! I wish my DH would embrace my natural hair. Let me clarify. He prefers it natural rather than relaxed, but he doesn’t like twists, box braids, etc. I get the feeling he prefers when I straighten it or just wear it in a bun. This time around I am going to enjoy my natural hair! I am anxiously awaiting my BC.

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