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Lovinglance- A Story of Transition

By January 27th, 20216 Comments

-Were you a long term or short term transitioner, and why?
I transitioned for 15 months mainly b/c my DH wouldn’t have been cool with a TWA. He loves long hair. Ironically I had a blonde TWA when we met. Go figure!

-When did you BC? What was your initial reaction to your natural hair?
I did my BC on August , 2007. Initially, I loved my hair.

-What was your transition routine? Staple Hair Styles?
Rollersets were my staple hairstyles during my transition. However, I did also rock wigs & a lot of ponytails.

-How did you moisturize your hair to prevent breakage at the new growth line?
Don’t laugh – I didn’t. I was cool with the relaxed hair shedding on its own. The scraggly ends were what made me grab my scissors & finally do my BC.

-Why did you choose to go natural? Are you happy with your decision?
I’ll be honest – I’m probably different than most naturals when it comes to this question. I didn’t go natural because of a movement. I didn’t go natural b/c I wanted to know more about the “real me.” I went natural simply b/c I wanted long hair & I thought that I couldn’t achieve that with relaxers. I did my BC right before I found LHCF. Once there I found out it was possible to have really long (& healthy) relaxed hair. But it was too late. I chose not to relax again b/c @ the time I was loving my natural hair. As time has passed & my hair has gotten longer, dealing with textures ranging from 3-4z has taken its toll on me. The dryness, the microscopic knots on my ends that cause me not to retain length, the lack of styling skills when it comes to natural hair… Definitely I’m not trying to cast a dark cloud on napturalness! I look at natural hair Fotkis all of the time & drool but I find that I love everyone else’s natural hair, just not my own. I really thank you for posting the entry about your sister. I’ve been doing all of the research on becoming a straight haired natural myself. I hope I can still be a welcome member of the natural hair community. Thanks…

Lovinglance- A Story of Transition
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  • Anonymous says:

    Thanks ladies for your support. For the anonymous poster that posted about Lisa Akbari, I'm very familiar with her. I actually ordered some of her moisturizer & it's really pretty good.

  • Anonymous says:

    absolutley love her honesty. natural is def not easy and not for everyone. and some will totally be overwhelmed. her hair is pretty none the less.

  • Anonymous says:

    OMG- are you serious?! Your hair is fabulous girl! If you decide to keep it curly, one thing I find that helps with knots is using lisa akbari’s curly fro routine at night. I was getting excessive knots in my sides all the time. Now that I tuck my sides in for bed(so to speak) I dont get them anymore and my sides are growing out beautifully. You can look up lisa akbari on youtube or check out my “I can make a puff” video on youtube under “curlmebella”. Whatever you decide, you seem to have beautiful healthy hair, and thats what matters.

  • Anonymous says:

    I agre with ljkelly I’ve only been transitioning for 3 months today and I hate how sometimes my hair can be so dry. I blame that on lack of knowledge on my part. It takes alot to be natural and im learning all of that day by day

  • ljkelly says:

    I love your honesty with this post.

  • Nika says:

    Lovingglance, I love all the different textures in your hair, especially the last pic. Don’t you hate those knots. I get them all the time especially when I do wash and go’s.

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