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CurlyKye- A Story of Transition

By January 27th, 202116 Comments

CN: Were you a long term or short term transitioner, and why?
CK: I was a long transitioner. I didn’t want to part with too much length at once so I stopped relaxing my hair in December 2007 and finally made the decision to go natural and started my transition.

CN: When did you BC? What was your initial reaction to your natural hair?
CK: I did my BC in November of 2008. I just got sick and tired of dealing with the two textures and the dry ends. Although I still had shoulder length hair, it was still hard to cope with the drastic difference in length. All my life, I have never had hair shorter than bra strap length. So I definitely went through an adjustment/self-conscious period. But as I looked in the mirror more and more and saw how healthy my hair actually was and how much better products responded to my hair, my mindset changed and I’ve been loving it ever since.

CN: What was your transition routine? Staple Hair Styles?
CK: I kept my hair in ponytails. That’s all I knew. Even when I was relaxed, because my hair would get puffy a few days after I had spent all day in the beauty shop or in front of the mirror straightening, a ponytail was my old standby. So the ponytail is what I stuck with.

CN: How did you moisturize your hair to prevent breakage at the new growth line?
CK: Ok so sad to say, I thought Carol’s Daughter was the only natural hair care line out there. So as soon as I decided to stop relaxing my hair, I bought her entire line of products. Through trial and error I found that the Carol’s Daughter Mimosa Hair Honey and the Kizzie Stay Put Pomade helped me keep my new growth moisturized and my ponytails slicked back *haha*. I still use both those products today on my ponytails and pony puffs.

CN: Why did you choose to go natural? Are you happy with your decision?
CK: I moved from Chicago, a haven of black hair care, to a VERY small city in Southwest Missouri where black hair care is basically obsolete. So I had to start doing my hair myself. Then I noticed how the relaxer and poor hair care had literally ate off a section of my hair. It was 6 inches shorter than the rest of my hair. So much so that I couldn’t cover it up or hide it in the midst of the rest of my hair anymore. I remembered my hair as a young girl and how thick and luscious it was. My mom didn’t even let me get a relaxer until the day before my junior high school prom. Before I got my relaxer, it even went so far as my mom would not even blow dry my hair after she washed it. She would wash it, let it air dry overnight and then press it in the morning. I was strictly a “press and curl” girl *haha*. I just decided to take it back to the basics (without the press and curl). And I am loving my decision.

The decision to go natural, especially in the corporate world and today’s society was a very hard decision. The process of transitioning to natural is also a very emotional and expensive experience. But it’s also VERY rewarding. I am glad that there are sites on the Internet that provide me with the resources and support necessary that have made this process so much easier. I love the versatility of my hair now. I love that I don’t have to worry about taking hot showers, getting caught in the rain, sweating while I’m outside in the summer time or sweating while exercising or doing any extra-curricular activity. I love that I have options in hairstyles. I know my husband is loving not seeing shedding hair all over the place. But most importantly, I’m loving that I’m learning how healthy hair is reflected in a healthy lifestyle overall.

CurlyKye- A Story of Transition
CurlyKye- A Story of Transition
CurlyKye- A Story of Transition
CurlyKye- A Story of Transition
CurlyKye- A Story of Transition


  • Anonymous says:

    Let me tell you…when a majority of your identity is your long hair, you are put in a complete state of shock and questioning of your self image when you cut the length off. There were nights when I cried after I cut it because that's all I've ever known my entire life. All I've ever heard was "Don't ever cut your hair". So I never did, never dyed it, cut it into a style..nothing *haha*
    Unfortunately I do not have a fotki but I'm in the process of getting my photos together and creating one.
    As for the difference, the 1st pic is pre-chop, my hair stretched was bra strap length in Dec. 2007 (look those dried and fried ends ewww). The 4th pic is my wash n go with a couple of inches cut off (just a smidge). And the other pics are after I did the chop in Nov. 2008.
    And ljkelly…I'm sure we've been the presence of one another at some point & time in this small city *haha*
    Carmell – My older has lupus as well and deals with very bad dry scalp and thinning hair and she will not budge from the relaxer either.
    Angelique – I feel ya on that! If you have long hair, it's like jealousy takes over and instead of getting your ends clipped you wind up coming out a couple of inches short.
    Thanks all for your compliments!!!

  • Angelique says:

    ChiTownnnnnnnnnnn!!!! lol but ur hair is beautiful Chicago is a black hair haven if u want ur hair extra crisply curled and geled lol im still searching for the perfect sytlist its about that time to get a professional trim and im scared outta my mind i dont trust anyone since my hair has been natural and healthy…..and again BEAUTIFUL!!!!!

  • Stephanie says:

    Another STL girl here, too! I’ve never heard of Sula’s…I’ll have to check it out. :)

  • Carmell says:

    i live in STL! i’mma have to find Sula’s.
    CurlyKye~ you have a beautiful head of curls! you have the same texture as my sister. i’ve been trying to convince her to give up the creamy crack but she just won’t. she had become ill with lupus and other complications of it and her hair falls out then grows back… but her last (summer 2008) episode was horrible and took out a very big patch of hair the size of a grapefruit and has yet to grow back. she got a peanut head so its hard to cover. then her meds made the rest thin. i tell her all the time that relaxers cannot be good for her skin or her body… let a lone her hair. maybe i should show her a picture of your hair for her to see how beautiful it can be!

  • ljkelly says:

    I live in Springfield, MO right now! What a small world!!

  • Candice says:

    Gorgeous Hair! I also like the fact you touched on the emotional part of BC.

  • Anonymous says:

    Wow CurlyKye your hair is gorgeous! I stopped relaxing in March 2007 and now you are making want to cut it! Especially because your hair texture looks just like mine! Do you have any hair albums like on fotki or anything? I use KCCC to for my twist outs and its great

  • Anonymous says:

    You hair is beautiful and looks so long in the first pic! How much time passed between the picture in red and the first pic? I BC about a month ago and am anxiously waiting for my hair to get long enough for ponytails and such. Thanks!

  • Anonymous says:

    oh my goodness! you never needed a relaxer ! so glad you stopped your hair is pretty!

  • Anonymous says:

    Thanks you so much EVERYONE. It's been a mind-blowing experience learning about the good and the bad of the journey but I'm loving every minute of it.

    Amber – You got it…Springfield! it's horrible for black hair care. But I'm learning of what I can and can't get locally as far as natural products…some girls just don't know how lucky they are the get simple stuff on the ground. Sally's doesn't even carry most of the stuff that you would hope they would when you see the products they carry online. One of my best friends is from STL so now I have an excuse of why I NEED to stay with her *haha*

    As for the moisture factor, it's a couple of different factors, I henna, I deep conditioner once a week…the one thing that I use that the levely CurlyNikki doesn't is hair oils & KCCC. my hair hasn't converted into just needing butters JUST yet, but I'm hoping to get there SOON.

    THANK YOU CURLYNIKKI for everything!!!!

  • ..R.E.N.E.E.. says:

    Your hair is absolutely gorgeous! i cant wait till my hair is that length and have that much volume!

  • Anonymous says:

    Beautiful hair!

  • Gallo Pinto Lounge says:

    Gorgeous curls…I hope you keep it up!!

  • Anonymous says:

    you have beautiful healthy-looking hair!!

  • Anonymous says:

    Your hair is gorgeous! Although I’m sure hair type has a lot to do with it, how did you get it so moisturised and defined in the first 2 pics?

  • A. says:

    Beautiful hair.

    I felt like you did – right after my BC too. I was a little devastated for about 3 days.

    I lived in St. Louis for 5 years.. you must be in Joplin or Springfield. That’s a long way from black hair specialists. If you ever feel like making the drive – check out Sula’s – it’s a black Aveda salon in St. Louis and they specialize in natural hair.

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