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By January 27th, 202111 Comments

10 Things I’ve Learned (Since Becoming Natural)….

By Wes of Honey Brown Sugar

1. Everything isn’t for everybody. No one head of hair is identical and we all have our own special needs. For instance, the LustraSilk cholesterol conditioner did not work well for me but that’s not to say it won’t work well for someone else.

2. Hair should ALWAYS be detangled in the shower with conditioner! I remember when I first started wearing my hair in its natural state- I would never untangle it. Ever. I would simply wash and style. Not once taking the time to detangle!

3. Denman has become my best friend. Although some days I do finger comb, most days I rely on my trusty Denman D4 brush. It is my curls’ best friend. Prior to discovering the Denman brush, I would use a wide tooth comb- which wreaked havoc on my strands.

4. Trims aren’t needed as often. Though some curlies do prefer to clip every 6 to 8 weeks (or when they feel necessary), it isn’t “mandatory” that a curly girl trim her ends so often. My stylist from Devachan recommends once or twice a year as sufficient*.

*Being that you don’t do excessive heat styling and/or don’t deep condition on a steady basis.

5. I don’t like “colored” hair. During my relaxed years, I also experimented with color. I’ve had burgundy hair, brown hair, blonde highlights, red highlights and jet-black hair. It wasn’t until I stopped relaxing AND coloring that I realized how much I love my naturally dark hair.

6. My natural hair has various textures. The front-left differs from the front-right; one side is more tightly curled than the other. The back/bottom is also very tightly curled while the crown literally has its own thing going on (I’m still trying to figure that section out).

7. It’s okay to use conditioner as a leave-in. I would have never thought to do this until one year I was on vacation and didn’t have any hair products outside of some shampoo and conditioner. I decided to use the conditioner as a styling cream and a whole new world opened up to me. Now (for the most part), I only use conditioner to style my hair.

8. It isn’t necessary to wash (shampoo) your hair every other day. In the beginning, I think I would wash (yes: with shampoo!) my hair every two days. During this time, I didn’t deep condition and I used styling products made for NON-people of color. Most of these products contained drying agents.

9. Silicones aren’t really as bad as we make them out to be.

10. Natural hair is a learning process! If you’ve relaxed your hair most of your life, you WILL definitely need to “re-learn” your hair. If you think you knew your strands when you were relaxed, you’ll find out that you didn’t really know much.


  • These Three Kings says:

    where can I purchase this Denman D4 brush???

    someone please email me at

    very informative post!!

  • Kyara says:

    I had a bad experience with using conditioner as a leave-in, I did a review on it… It gave me stingy eyes(I always put my hands in my hair… I know… I can’t help it) and sticky hair… Can we use any kind of conditioner? What conditioner does wes use?

  • Rebecca V. O'Neal says:

    I use conditioner as a leave in on hair that’s a few days old … it’s a great refresher to put that curl back in your ends.

  • Maria says:

    I used to relax my hair and color it too. The hair police should’ve locked me up and thrown away the key! LOL Now I follow all of the tips you posted, plus I color with henna and indigo. There are so many more natural options out there that are healthier for my hair and body.

    Thank you for the post

  • Laquita says:

    Great list – I’m with you on the different textures – haven’t quite figured all of mine out either ;o)

  • Anonymous says:

    Thank you for saying that about hair colored. So much of the time it doesn’t look natural or becoming at all. (Of course unless you’re using henna or indigo..) 🙂

  • Girl with Curl says:

    I also agree with the colored hair too. I always used to get very blonde highlights. When I look at some old pictures I’m like what was I thinking. I should have saved my money from all those highlights and left my hair alone. I’d be richer and my hair would be healthier.

  • Girl with Curl says:

    Great list. I agree with #9 also. At first I was trying to follow CG strictly but, with trial and error I found it works better modified on my hair.

  • Mikkimu says:

    Great list! I can relate to everything on it, but since I recently did my Big Chop, detangling is not a problem for me right now. What I am battling is dryness. I’ve tried umpteen products and my hair seems to always feel dry. With only 2.5 – 3.5 inches of hair, my styling options are very limited to wash-n-go’s or wear a hat.

    Any suggestions?!

  • Anonymous says:

    This is a great list. I’ve only trimmed my hair once since BCing in August ’08. I agree with the coloring. I don’t think I’ll be doing much of that anymore. I had been relaxed for twenty-five years. Relearning my hair has been a true discovery.

    I am also in the RTP area and joined the Natural Hair Meetup. I won’t be able to make the April 25th date, but hopefully future dates.

    I really enjoy your blog. Keep up the good work!

  • Sage Vivant says:

    These are quite excellent! Even No. 9…

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