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On the Couch with Gina– Part Dos

By January 27th, 202110 Comments

Gina has written a part II to My Love Affair and wanted to share. Check her out!

The Transition Never Ends

“How I wish I could pigeon-hole myself and neatly fix a label on! But self-knowledge comes too late! By the time I’ve known myself I am no longer what I was.”

I had a revelation this weekend that had been brewing just under the surface of my awareness for awhile. I have finally wrapped my mind around it. Now that my hair is completely relaxer-free, it feels as if I’ve gone through a second transition. The first transition was about deciding to grow out my relaxer. Since I wore my hair straight through my entire transition, most people didn’t know that I was going through such a change. There was no declaration to the world. I’m not sure that even I knew what a major change was happening or how much it would affect me.

Once the straight ends were gone, a hot and humid day came along that made it impossible for me to even consider putting heat anywhere near my head. And just like that, I went from one extreme to the next overnight.
On the Couch with Gina-- Part DosOn the Couch with Gina-- Part DosSince that first wash and go, I think I’ve only straightened my hair a couple of times. Who knew I’d fall so in love with the “new growth” that I’d flirted with for so long???

Despite my love affair…..I’m still adjusting to people’s perceptions, comments and questions about my natural hair. I had to have professional pictures taken for work, and I opted to straighten my hair for the pictures. This is the only time all summer that I’ve done so. In hindsight, I wish I hadn’t straightened it. Not that there is anything wrong with straight hair, because I still like my hair straight occasionally. However, it does bother me that my sole reason for straightening was that I thought it would look more professional. Hmph. I guess I’ve continued to step further away from the box since then. I am so tired of the damn box.

Life is just full of transitions I guess. I find myself looking for more areas in my life where I’ve been living within the confines of what I’ve been conditioned to think, believe and do. I want my decisions to feel right FOR ME in my heart and soul. So, along with something as cursory as changing my hair philosophy, I’m truly enhancing my philosophy on life. Leaving the familiar is scary and exciting. I’m just flowing with it…shedding old things and embracing the new. All the while, I’m people-watching, dancing, and smelling the flowers so I can remember the look and feel of every moment.

“Regardless of what you’ve been told, you can and do change with every new experience. Each experience enhances your capabilities by giving you something new to draw upon. Every new capability you discover and develop leads to a new opportunity. Move toward your wildest dream, take the labels off your mind and step boldly into your greatness.”

With every new step I create a new me 🙂

For more of Gina, check out her BLOG.


  • Anonymous says:

    you are an artist. your diction here is superb. thanks for sharing.

  • ThisGirlsHair says:

    you hair looks good both ways i think too 🙂

  • NewbieNaturalDiva says:

    Great hair! It is so thick and healthy. It looks very professional and glamorous! Rock it!

  • Lost_One says:

    Beautiful hair! I felt the same way. After I cut my hair off I began to adopt a new way to look a life and being in that "box." I'm leading a different life now that brings me joy and peace. I loved what u had to say 😉

  • Binti's Mom says:

    It's just beautiful! I've struggled with the "professional" look, however the only person I really had to convince was myself. Now I rock my curls even with my business suit. Others will adjust to your look only when YOU are confident and comfortable with your look. 🙂

    You're a great writer…I was just thinking, "Wow, she should write a blog"…and then saw your link. Keep up the great work.


  • Anonymous says:

    Your hair is beautiful both ways, and I also think it looks more lovely curly!!

  • Anonymous says:

    Beautiful both straight and curly! Actually, more so with curly hair!

  • Unknown says:

    Beautiful hair! I'm 4 months in my transitioning stage and will definitely keep the words of your last paragraph in mind. Very inspiring!! =D

  • Ishea says:

    I love Gina's hair straight and curly!!! And best of all "….shedding old things and embracing the new" is something all transitioning ladies can take on. Very true words.

  • Anonymous says:

    So beautiful! Loves it! I need to see more pictures! How long did you transition? How long did it take for your hair to reach that length? I am a twa neewbie and I need some help!

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