CN: How long have you been growing your hair out?
Well I had my last official haircut when I was in 10th grade, which was around 2001, so about 9 years now. This was a time when cornrows were in style and I wanted my hair to look like Bizzy Bone’s hair. *laughs*
CN: What is your regimen?
Actually when I first started growing my hair out, I didn’t have any particular regimen or hair length goal. I didn’t even know anything about hair care or anyone who knew about it. I just did what I thought was necessary like when having short hair, such as wash it when it needs washing, moist when it felt dry, and comb it when it needs combing. *shrugs*
I used any shampoo that was available and the moisturizer I primarily used was the Lustasilk – Moisture Max. I was pretty much on my own in growing my hair. My hair grew to be about mbl until I learned a little bit more about hair care, such as bad ingredients, cowashing, oils and treatments, and hair styles from a friend I met around 2007. (Shout out to Starlah B!)
Right now, I still kind of do my own thing, but it’s a little bit more schedule oriented now. Currently I’m doing the following:
– I wash my hair on the weekends using Cream of Nature: Detangling Conditioning Shampoo, and wash my hair at the end of the month with Tresemme Deep Cleansing Shampoo (w/ added olive oil)
– I’ll occasionally cowash my hair once a week with Kirk’s Original Coco Castile Conditioner if I want my hair to look more ‘silky,’ but I don’t do that too regularly anymore.
– I moisturize my hair with the following moisturizers: Carefree Curl Instant Moisturizer Spray, Cornrow Magic Oil Sheen, Surge Extra-Strength Moisture Aide, and Cream of Nature Leave-In Conditioner (with Rosemary and Lemongrass). I don’t really keep a regular schedule when moisturizing, but rather just randomly choose one and just do it when it feels dry.
– The oils I use to seal after moisturizing include: Olive Oil, Coconut Oil, Wonder 8 Oil, and occasionally Vitamin E Oil and Castor Oil (both usually mixed with the Olive Oil).
CN: What is one thing you’d tell a newbie to help him/her on their journey?
From my personal experience in growing hair, I would say have patience and don’t keep your focus on how long it is or want it to be. I think hair will grow if you let it grow, but I often see many people get frustrated at slow growths or trying to reach a certain hair length goal. If you’re constantly thinking about it, constantly checking your hair length, it’d eventually just cause you to become more discouraged and frustrated when you’re not noticing much difference. My hair didn’t grow long overnight. I wasn’t really worried about how long it gets, and certainly didn’t expect I’d have my current hair length now. *laughs* Just keeping your hair healthy is most important I think and the length will be the bonus over time.
CN: How do you maintain length?
Well I don’t do much styling to my hair, and I can’t do all the ‘girly styles’ you all like to do *laughs*. Early on when I first started growing it, I didn’t do anything but picked out the afro. After about a year, I was able to put it in a short tail after slicking back the top and sides. I wore my hair occasionally in cornrows in high school and college, but not too often because I really didn’t know anybody who could braid or do hair. So I usually just wore it in buns and tails, which is what I currently do now mostly. I’ll bun more often so that my hair wouldn’t rub against my clothes and start breaking or losing moisture. So I think the low manipulation and protective styles are what helped me the most in maintaining my length, as long as I kept it moist, trimmed the ends about every 2-3 months, and washed it regularly. We could maybe factor in the ‘good genes’ element if you believe in that sort of thing. *laughs*
CN: What do you do to preserve your curls at night?
Generally, I try to preserve the waves at the top more, while the waves and curls naturally appear at the ends. I’ll more often than not under-roll my tail up into a bun or occasionally twist or braid my tail and then roll that into a bun as well. Then I’ll tie my hair up and sleep with a du rag. Next morning, my hair stays relatively wavy curly.
CN: How do you get those curls to pop?
For me, I have always had naturally curly hair. But when I comb it or detangle it, my hair tends to get wavier. I can get them to pop more by doing cowashes or conditioner only method. When I apply conditioner (either the leave-in or the rinse out) to my wet hair and towel wrapping it or letting it air dry, the curls become more defined. Another way to get my curls to pop more, I would wet my hair in the shower. Afterwards, I’ll moisturize and seal my hair a little bit (usually with carefree curl), then finish by towel wrapping my hair to dry it. After about 20 mins of drying, my natural curls start showing up more as well.
Humnay humnay humnay!
LOL, some of these women seem jealous. If they say they don't like long hair on men, they shouldn't get mad when people look at TWA's, so called "fierce" bald styles, fades, etc and say that they make women look masculine, boyish, lesbian-like. For some reason men are supposed to be ok with a woman having short hair and still find her beautiful, but women can berate a man with long hair?
Anyway, his hair is banging.
@ CurlyNikki –
You should do a CN: Where Are They Now feature on him … I'd love to see how he's doing and if he's maintained his hair, etc. This should be done on other NHIs as well.
Hey, it's Nick from my home church growing up! Crazy to see him so grown. His brother and father have beautiful hair as well and I remember his dad wearing his hair longer (although not nearly as long as Nick's mane now). Great look Nick – thanks for doing the feature CurlyNikki!
Hey, it's Nick from Highschool I knew that hair would make you famous someday! Keep it up, today the internet tomorrow on the cover of romance books!
~Much love Allison G.
This is very VERY fly! Love to see a man confidently rock long hair!
Awwww! You hair sooo beautifull. 🙂
I like yor look on growth, i will seem much faster i u not are focused and tjeckng it all the time.
Wow, his hair is absolutely beautiful. Great advice and care tips. 🙂
His hair is tres gorg… my number is 323 710 **** lol joking… I'm married
It is sooo sad to see people commenting on him being too feminine, not enough masculinity (because his hair is long, the Beyonce-look and bun on the side makes him look gay.
First off, if he is gay, who cares? The purpose of this site is to showcase natural hair, not make assumptions about someones sexual preference. It's almost as if all of the women, with negative comments, are HATING the fact that this man can grow hair longere than most of us can in thta time frame or AT ALL.
Nick your hair is BEAUTIFUL and I pray I will see that length after the caesar grows back, lol. Keep doing what your doing.
And whomever decided that they should criticize the integrity and health of this man's hair, maybe you should teach him how to care for those straight ends.
i remember when my hair use to be like that until i burned it out with a pressing comb:( now i have to start my hair growth over.
HE'S CUTE… OH N HIS HAS IS NICE TOO LOL
Just because people are entitled to their own opinion, it does NOT justify the ignorant, negative, personal opinions spewed in this topic. HIS hair is beautiful, long, luscious, and healthy. Who are YOU to judge how a specific human being should wear their hair…. STOP making up excuses to spread your toxic thinking! STOP making assumptions about a person that you know absolutely nothing about… APPRECIATE the fact that he actually took the time to share his personal tips on how to grow long healthy African American hair and shut the %^*& up with all the negative garbage! Seriously no one wants to really hear how ignorant you are. Negative, stereotypical, assumptions are just an excuse for lazy thinkers….
Why am I so late on this post? His hair is beautiful!!!! I luv the shine in his hair! I wish you could do an interview with Troy Polamalu as well! Oh yeah, and Lloyd Polite (the singer)!
You're a dude, rite? God blessed you w/nice hair. I think it looks better on women tho.
omg! LOVE IT… THIS IS AWESOME
While this may not have started out to be the place for what I'm about to say, the strong reactions some of us have expressed in reaction to other people's posts has opened the door for it, so here it comes.
First, in acknowledgment of my own previous post, yes, I said I prefer that a man not have more hair than I do. However, in the same post, I was quite complementary of Nick, both in terms of his hair and of the soundness of his advice. Let us make sure that we have something straight here: Having and expressing a dissenting opinion, and having and expressing an offensive opinion, are not the same, nor are they mutually exclusive. I offer apologies to anyone who was offended that I expressed what may be construed as a dissenting preference; however, since I intended no offense in anything I said, and in fact took pains to avoid offense, I ask to be acquitted of being offensive. I'm not about mess like that.
Second, I concur with the person who acknowledged the cultural preferences some of us seem to have for hair lengths on men and women. My personal preference is for long hair on myself, and I do tend to reflect that onto other women. Thus, I have on any number of occasions seen that a female friend of mine has cut her hair, and in almost every instance where I have gotten the chance to say something about it, it has been along the lines of, "You cut your hair! But it looks nice, though." I thank God for tolerant, easy-going friends who love me; in almost every case, their explanation of what they wanted to accomplish is sandwiched between my two utterances. No one seems to ever get angry or feel offended, they get to talk about their hair, I always compliment them, and it's a good day all around.
In my own case, I hate taking the scissors to my hair and, other than my mother, am extremely resistant to letting anyone else cut it, not even for a trim. I will do my own trims when I need to, and I've actually been quite willing, albeit very careful, to cut away fairy knots, only because I understand that they are not good for my hair. At the time I began my transition, my hair was heat-damaged, brittle because of dryness and a metabolic disorder, and so very raggedy-looking. In the face of this, I still refused to BC, instead cutting a little at a time, all because I dislike my hair to be short. Now that it's almost back to the length it was before all that heat damage and other stuff occurred, I'm beginning to be happier with my hair than I have been in almost three years. The more length I can keep, the happier I'll be. That's my preference.
Finally, if as a result of my earlier post, or of this one, there is anyone who thinks I should be willing to put myself out there for inspection and review, I already have. Somewhere in the archives is a picture of me posted as part of my review of Oyin Shine & Define. Please, feel free to look it up, then either there, back here, on the forum somewhere, or in another post, come and say your piece about it. While I believe my face is acceptable, and I have been told by those who love me that they enjoy my smile, I do not by any means consider myself any great beauty; so if you also do not find me so, and you are bold enough to say it, you will not unduly hurt my feelings. As long as you are not offensive, I'm willing to accept whatever dissent you care to politely express.
Here are some cool shots of Fabio.
Check out the People mag cover. Hair blowing in the wind.
I don't know what's so shocking. This is 2010. And I'm assuming no one just crawled out from a rock or cave. And haven't seen/noticed/encountered all sorts of people with different looks and styles. Still, there is NO cause to be insulting when sharing ones opinions. "Shocked" or not. I think the anonymous nature of the internet gives people permission or license to be much ruder or insensitive than they'd be if they were meeting or dealing with someone face to face.
I think some of the comments may stem from the fact that culturally speaking long hair is accepted as a womanly feature. I also think that some of pictures displaying the young man's hair blowing in the wind and also pulled to the side are a bit feminine in his gestures and may have shocked some of the viewers. Listen, I try to stay positive too, but I realize many people prefer a man to have a shorter style just like some people prefer a woman to have longer hair. For me, a man is a man, as long as he treats me with respect, but I understand why some of the ladies feel like this. No matter what, he provided good advice to keep your hair healthy. Thank you
Ok TSCurly may be right BUT this is a hair site…not an oh you don't look cute site. Were here to talk about everything revovling around our natural hair. Plain and simple. I know I have seen some women on here that look a billion times better before they did there BC, but because this is not the place for it I did not comment on that. I commented on the courage it took for them to take this huge step and be a natural woman.
Nik was nice enough and strong to put himself out there. Do you seriously think he has not had negative comments from family and friends just like us? Or omments that challenge his manhood? Seriously why do we have to that? This is supposed to be a friendly learning site about hair, not whether or not you'd sleep with him.
Be respectful people. Oh and by the way his hair is the $hit! Don't be jealous…it's not lady like!
So what if he wears his hair long that's his preference, if you don't like a guy with long hair who cares, this isnt a dating site! LOL just like alot of guys would voice that they don't like a women with short hair (twa) you would get offended.
Great interview Nikki, he has alot of good advice. Most people i've seen with long hair like my mom usually keep their styling simple and wear it bunned up. Nice, please more male interviews!
I'd like to see more males profiled here, but it might be harder to get them to come forward after they read some of the comments here. Who wants to sign up to be insulted- having his masuclinity questioned because he cares about his hair or uses something more than shampoo on his hair? Or let's his hair grow beyond the usual lengths. Anyway, I thought this was cool idea. Too bad it brought the negative side of some people.
TSCurly is right. This is public. To back up that point, TSCurly and the others with negative comments to share about someone's looks should post his/her photos and let everyone post their honest, no-holds-barred opinions about their hair/. This would show that they can not only dish out all honest opinions–positive and negative– but take them as well.
i find it funny that women are posting negative comments on his hair based on what they find attractive…
curly nikki = NOT a dating site. i doubt he's trying to get your personal approval
and to play devil's advocate… how many men say that they don't find natural hair on a woman attractive, period. *shrugs* but they don't comment here, right?
his hair is AWESOME. he makes a great point. less is more. sometimes we women forget that it's just not that serious.
I'm impressed that Nick can grow his hair so long. But IMO, it looks damaged.
If you look at his hair when it is loose, you can see that the ends half way down are a lot thinner than the hair closer to the root. It looks like he has a lot of breakage.
His hair looks very fragile in all the pics where it is loose.
I hope he doesn't get upset from this comment. I really appreciate him posting pics up. And regardless, he is very handsome.
Why do i have to keep my comment of dislike to myself? Isn't this board open to the public or is it only limited to people are in total agreement with the contents? Because if this is a board open to the public, as I know it is, the public is mixed with differing and often opposing opinions. I respect your right to say that you like it, so respect my right to say that I don't (with no "hater-ade" behind my point of view).
It was easy to type this.
The last two comments were rude as all get out. If you don't like it, keep it moving. His hair may be like that because he does way less then women do. If it were dreads you would feel different. I BET with long hair, HE STILL PULLS!
oh, and the hair to pulled to one side like a woman. i'm officially through.
dude uses more hair products than me! this is weird and a little to homo. any woman would get sick of her man spending this much time doing his hair. does your man spend more on conditioner than you do? just sayin….
His hair is beautiful. I bet he gets a lot of offers from females to braid it, whether they know how or not. @Anon 1/7/10,1:15- I'm with you on the co-wash in the shower video :crossing fingers: 😉
His hair is a shining example of the beauty of African American hair when it is well-cared for! In Jamaica alot of the Rastas grow their dreds as long if not longer than his…I think its wonderful when men have long hair!
Goodness.. gorgeous hair! His bun looks really good on him. I'm definitely going to follow Nick's advice. Keep it bunned, moisturized, and just let it growgrowgrow!
Beautiful hair Nick. This is what comes from not constantly messing with your hair and trying out new 'hot' styles every other minute, and just taking really good care of it instead. The chorus of disaproval from some commentators is just jealousy plain and simple.
Ok so *typically* i don't like long hair on men, but DAMN…he has CHANGED MY MIND!!! Nick, your hair is GORGEOUS!!! And you do NOT look feminine AT ALL w/ it!!! You look unbelievably sexy!!! Thanks for the great advice, & don't mind those who arent a fan…you know, & most of the rest of us know YOUR HAIR IS HOTT!!! looooove it…keep up the good work, you are an inspiration to all of us trying to grow our hair out!!!
I totally agree… ALL HATERS, PLEASE EXIT YOUR BROWSERS TO THE RIGHT!! If you don't like it keep it to yourself. He's handsome! And I think the singer LLoyd is sexy w/ his long hair especially in the "girls around the world" video. I wouldn't mind pulling on it… A nice video of him cowashing in the shower is totally in order!
I would love to know how his girlfriend and male friends feel about his hair.
I know everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I was kinda wondering why people felt the need to add the me-no-likey-long-hair -on-a man posts. Some people don't like super short hair on women and they think it's "too boyish" or "mannish," but I don't ever recall reading those comments here after someone's profile pops up with mostly twa pics. Does EVERYONE love the teeny-weeniest fros across the board? And they're becoming on everyone who rocks them? I think not. That's why we have long-term transitioners. Anyway, just sayin'…
I prefer that a man not have more hair than I do, but if he keeps it clean, healthy, and neat, I don't fuss much :-).
The pictures of him with his hair out are great for displaying the length, texture, and overall apparent good condition of his hair. The ones of him with it confined are great for demonstrating protective styling and the ability to keep it neat.
He is quite handsome, his hair is beautiful, and his advice is right on point. For now, as my hair is growing beyond TWA stage to moderate–I can stretch it without cheating to a little below the base of my neck, at the top of my thoracic spine–I'm twisting it every night and using a Denman and my fingers to gently detangle and distribute product through my hair. This is currently working rather well for me, but as it gets long enough for me to pull back into the loose French braid I love so much, I too will be protecting more and handling less. Who knows, maybe one day my hair will grow up–okay, down :-)–to be as long as his!
his hair is beautiful! my dh had lots of hair when we were first dating and it was hella sexy! love the advice, too.
it's nice that he has the confidence to rock his hair the way he wants to and i give him props for taking such great care of his hair. personally i'm not a fan of such long hair on men even if it's locked. my limit is shoulder-length- maybe a little past but that's it. like i said though, it's his hair and he wears it with pride which is cool. i respect that
beautiful hair but imo not attractive on him
His hair is gorgeous!!!!! And pic 3, ooooh he is gorgeous too…..age, location, name??
I never comment anymore but he has made me do it.
His hair is nice, but I'm not feeling the long hair on a guy either.
About sexy men with long flowing hair, I think the football player Troy Polamalu is smokin' hawt.
I've noted that some people don't have as much of a problem when a male's long hair is in dreadlocks. Why would dreadlocks be different from long hair that's not locked???? I say bring 'em both on! LOL
Went back through a few of the previous spotlights, and didn't see any negative comments previously. If you didn't like his hair, it would have been eaiser not to type anything right? His hair is banging! I like it pulled back in the bun best!
show off…. lol jk soo jealous! love it!
I was waiting for an article about him for a while! Gorgeous hair!! 🙂 He gave great advice about not to obsess over length.. 🙂
Thanks for the shout out Kidd!
Great Interview…good picture choices LOL
wowwwwwwwww! I hate to hair flirt but…. hehe!
Very lovely hair. Long hair can be totally sexy on a man without being feminine. Example A : BOB MARLEY. Example B: Daniel Day Lewis in the movie Last of the Mohicans. Healthy hair is attractive in a man or a woman. This young man is to be commended for having such a healthy attitude about his gift of long, luxurious and healthy hair. Beautiful! Healthy and long hair is often a reflection of an overall basic general balanced life attitude. Thanks Nik and Nikki for sharing.
i like the pic with the fluffed out afro, looks more manly..awesome hair dude
OMG! his hair is RI-DIC-U-LOUS!!
I enjoyed the interview and took to heart that less is best. Your hair is beautiful, strong and healthy.
OMG your hair is GAWGEOUS!!! Love the advice on not obsessing about the length and will focus on healthy hair..will definitely keep in mind! Great interview!
**florida evans tone** DAYUM DAYUM DAYUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM!!!
looking good!—keep it up my brotha!!
his hair is nice, but this is way too feminine. call me old school, but why would a man want hair this length? is it for religious purposes like a rasta? believe me I am not hating because I don't have this length of hair-my hair is just as naturally long. but, for a man, I no likey. Sorry-not cute at all.
he looks amazing! i love his hair it reminds me of slash from guns n roses haha! love nikki can you PLEASE interview more men?
i might have to change my name to NIK… good idea.
I'm so disgusted. No man should have hair this damn gorgeous! Its just not fair! LOL
Curly Nick, your hair is gawgeous!!!!!!!
3rd pic is my fav..
im sure he picks up tons of chicks with that hair
Gimme some of that hair!!
Great interview =)
"Just keeping your hair healthy is most important I think and the length will be the bonus over time." That's what I'm talking about. I used to be greedy for length and didnt focus as much on its health. My ends got raggedy, had to chop em off and Im back to my old length. Im still rockin a damn TWA LOL
that's right keep it simple. Gorgeous hair. Time to take notes! And thank you, we have testosterone on the CN today. lol
His hair is beautiful. He is so right, little is more. Moisturize often, trim when needed and just leave it alone!
great hair, it looks so soft
great attitude about not focusing on length goal (I needed to be reminded)
Hey testerone is what causes baldness in males, too.
Doesn't look as if Nick has to worry about that just yet! LOL
Nick looks great! Wow-ee! I like his advice about not obsessing over length and will definitely try to take this to heart. As they say, that watched pot never boils. :-)Or will seem to take forever before it starts.
Another reminder to KISS. Your hair looks great!
OMG!!!!!! That hair is out of this world. 🙂
NOT FAIR!!!! **i'm just hatin'** LOL.
but seriously, his hair is nice.
Love the hair!Thanks for the advice, will keep manipulation to a minimum and moisturize well.
His.hair.is.INSANE! Soooo beautiful! Wow =)
Rolls eyes…darn testosterone! lol
He is the ultimate hail idol on this site! lol
Love, love, love his hair!!!
Testosterone ladies..testosterone. Men have it and it aides in them growing strong long hair.
Booo his hair is terrible…
Okay it's actually very nice, and those are great tips, less is more, and usually better.
Beautiful hair ISC Keep up the good work. 🙂
Lord have mercy… I'm green from jealousy
I'm jealous. If I had that hair my braidouts would be the BOMB! LOL
ugh. I'm so OVER him ::hatin hard::. LOL. His hair is great!
His hair is totally amazing!! Wow!!
beautiful hair… im mad at the 2nd pic, with the beyonce inspired wind blowing thru his hair. jealous much, umm yeah. Just kidding.
Oh man, his hair is awesome!! Great advice too! 🙂
*jaw hits floor*
wooooooooooooooooooooooooow (in my flava flav voice) lol nice hair!
WOW!! his hair is beautiful!
His hair is ridiculous! Why is is that men always grow such beautiful heads of hair, and when you ask what they do, the answer is as little as possible. One thing I have learned about growing hair, is that less is more. He is an example as are some of the women with long full hair I have met on here.