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On the Couch with Tikisha M.

By January 27th, 202119 Comments
Meet Tikisha… 5 minutes away from purchasing a ‘Bump It’ to give her relaxed hair volume, she decided it was time to embrace her natural curls.

On the Couch with Tikisha M.
My pursuit of naturalness started a mere 4 months ago. I’ve never been happier in my LIFE!! Those around me can’t quite understand my new found love of my hair. It’s actually unexplainable how obsessed I am with my natural tresses. Years ago, my cousin convinced me to go natural. However, I had absolutely positively NO CLUE on what to do. I cut it, dyed it black and…I seen NO curls! I washed it, threw in some black gel (EEEK!) and still…NO curls. I threw some braids in for a good 6 months. Soon as I took ‘em out I threw a perm in because I had neither knowledge nor guidance to even attempt to take care of my new growth.

Fast forward…August 2009, my co-worker is yapping her mouth on going natural and asked me to do the same. I looked at her like she was speaking Chinese math. First thought that came to mind was when I failed previously. I had many of the same general myths of naturalness so I came up with all kinds of “excuses”. 1. I don’t want to look “nappy” 2. its too high maintenance 3. my hair is too thick 4. I don’t want my hair looking dry 5. I already tried and it didn’t work for me. She kept throwing it in my ear and I still didn’t budge. Although I already had my mind made up, I couldn’t help but stare at her computer screen when she was browsing around miss jessie’s website. I’ve always secretly wanted big hair (think Bey in her “work it out” vid) and envy Traci Ross’ tresses. I hate when I get a fresh perm and I have no volume or bigness to my hair. I was dang near ready to get the “Bump It”, lol. Next thing you know, I’m searching natural hair websites and I become so engulfed in this whole new world. It was then I made the decision to reroute my next hair appointment for a touch up to the infamous “BC”.

Sept 2009, if I wanted to embark on this new journey I wanted to do it right and start fresh. My hair was already short but I didn’t plan on doing my Amber Rose cut til 50. I sat in the chair and once my stylist turned on the clippers she asked “so you wanna cut all the perm off?” I’m like “ummmm…yes”. For that split second I wasn’t so confident I could go for the gusto but next thing I know..BZZZZZZZ. I now feel the air on top of my scalp! She hands me the mirror and I’m thinking ‘WTF’. She assures me to take in the vision and what I have in store for the future. It was that very moment, I started to feel liberated. I threw on some lip gloss and mascara and BAM!!

I transformed into a whole new person. My confidence has so boosted. I went out and got a hair journal. I take notes like crazy and jot down what products work, how to use em, styles to try, shea butter mixes and I take a pic every month to keep track of my progress and just personal feelings my hair has given me. My Internet surfing has turned from gossip blogs into natural hair blogs. My new pleasure is buying products and receiving a package in the mail for my hair feels like Christmas morning. I’m so happy my girl put me on to this CN network because I’ve been adopted by a whole new family. I’m literally OBSESSED with this site and forum. You ladies keep me motivated to be fearless and confident every step of the way. I love there’s such a positive movement of women willing to share a plethora of information they’ve learned. I totally would not have been able to continue my journey without the support of my girls. This journey has empowered me to take interest in so many ideas that would’ve never been on my radar had I not gone natural. I’ve transitioned to use more natural products on my body, take on a healthier lifestyle, and support local black businesses with a passion to maintain my hair and body glow.


Since my journey I’ve yet to use an umbrella, my skin has been FLAWLESS, no breakouts on my face, I love the water hitting my head every 2 days and I cant wait til the summer where I’m no longer concerned about the pool messing my hair up, lol. In conclusion, this is by far the greatest decision I’ve made. I’ve networked with so many wonderful people and I can’t wait to see what else my beautiful coils have in store for me!

On the Couch with Tikisha M.On the Couch with Tikisha M.

19 Comments

  • Sweetdrk1 says:

    You know I never saw this?? I love it!!

  • Anonymous says:

    Hey Kisha! This is CurlyTrainer. You are a lovely natural woman, and I love your sense of humor!

  • Anonymous says:

    Beautiful!

  • ChrLvsBks says:

    Kisha, this is ChrsLvsBks. You look awesome! I loved reading your story. You are too funny. I hope to see you at future meet ups in the area.

  • KeetaRay says:

    Congrats!! Your hair is gawjus!!

  • Balls Of Beauty says:

    **sniff** you guys are the greatest!! im so glad you like my piece becuz it was truly from the heart. i'll definitely keep you guys posted.

    smooches

  • TMS says:

    Love this story!

    I decided to go natural the first of this year and am rocking the TWA. However, I still have perm in my hair and will hopefully have a fuller head of hair by the end of March. And then, I will be natural!

    Please keep us posted on your progress.

  • Anonymous says:

    Look at you…. Look at You!!!! This is your "Yappy Co-Worker". Look who's yapping now!!!! Seriously, great story and hey, let's just face it….. Do we have "BANGIN" HAIR OR WHAT!!!! Great Job. Proud of Ya Gurl!!……. Koily_K-lo

  • Sunbaby says:

    Great story and beautiful hair!

  • Anonymous says:

    You look great!!! I enjoyed reading your story of transition and BC. It sounds familiar. I made the same step 2 years ago and I'm still in love with my hair. Again I wish you the best as you continue naturally.

  • Aliren says:

    I have become a big fan of this site and check it several times a week. Im coming up on 5 months relaxer free and I feel this story. I receive so little support from my personal life and to see stories like this with other women just going for it makes me want to continue.

  • Anonymous says:

    Congrats! It is so true that going natural encourages you to take better care of your body from the inside out! Such a wonderful thing!

  • jada07 says:

    Congrats on your journey. You will love it. I laughed at your "receiving a hair package in the mail feels like Christmas" comment cause my sample products of Oyin Handmade came yesterday and I was jumping up and down! LOL.

  • LBell says:

    Wow…this really took me back to my early days as a natural! Don't you just want to tell EVERYBODY YOU KNOW about how cool natural hair is? lol

    Welcome to the island! (yeah, I'm a Lost fan too)

    Thanks for this, Nikki. 🙂

  • MrsComboCurlz says:

    Wow I really enjoyed reading about your triumph to hair freedom…I felt the adrenaline & check how I wasn't the one in the chair feeling/hearing the Buzzzzzz (lol)…U look Beautiful!!! Woooorrrrrkkkk it girl!!!

  • Anonymous says:

    Your hair looks great. I'm sooo glad you stepped awaaaaay from the bump it.

  • Neethair says:

    Love your story!! You are too funny with the "Bump it" I may have to get you one for X-mas next year. Can't wait to hang out with you and the other DC curlies in March.

  • Anonymous says:

    Great Story!! Congrats! 🙂

  • NaturallyMine says:

    You go gurl! Wonderful, inspiring story for this transitioner. And your short, natural hair looks good on you sista. Enjoy the journey!

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