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Looking Feminine After the Big Chop

By January 27th, 202136 Comments
Bambiix2 is back and this time she’s talking about jazzing up your TWA (Teeny Weeny Afro)!
Looking Feminine After the Big ChopAs a newly natural boo , I understand the depressing feeling you experience the day after you wake up to your short ‘do. When I woke up , I was bare faced , groggy , no earrings …and had short hair that I could do nothing with. I didn’t cry , I didn’t feel extremely bad, I just stared at myself for a while. I didn’t even touch my hair. I just stared because I was in utter shock. I thought to myself maybe I should have big chopped during the day so it didn’t feel like a dream when I woke up. I didn’t quite look like what I was accustomed waking up to for the last couple of years. To top it all off, my mother told me I looked like my brother, she gave me a disgusted laugh and walked off. For a split second it affected me, it hurt quite a bit…did I really look like a boy? Crap! I needed to do something! I never ever thought about hiding my hair under weaves, wigs or hats. I don’t believe after the big chop you should succumb to those measures … be proud of your hair! I only thought about how I would ROCK IT.

I threw all of my accessories on the floor, and sat smack right in the middle of them. Figuring out what would work for me at this stage in my life and what wouldn’t. I have chopsticks, ponytail holders and other hair accessories that of course would be of no use to me at this point. So those were hidden from sight (except the chopsticks which I keep out for motivation). My earrings of course had to be carefully picked out and put up on display. My headbands were separated and put together. I wanted to make sure I saw my accessory collections everyday. I did not want to be bored with my look. So your hair is too short to do anything with it … POP the accessories!

In my opinion, accessories can change or update any outfit. A person can wear a black shirt and jeans and with the use of their accessories it can be switched up to a different look each time. Even though I was accessory obsessed before my big chop, in that I loved different shoes, belts, earrings, hats and so forth, I found myself gravitating more to my headbands and earrings to really rock my TWA. Makeup also plays an important role in my opinion. Not a lot of anything is needed, but just enough.

I’m a very funky feeling sort of girl … bright colors…odd shapes…very strange. So my accessories are like that. My sister is very conservative and it shows in her accessories. Each person is different you know? So do you.

I’m rambling and I am not quite sure what I’m going on about, lol, but the whole point is to use accessories to make yourself look feminine, cute, glamorous, chic. Use them to show your personality. You do not need your hair to feel feminine, or to rock a certain look.

Below are a couple pictures showing how I changed up my look using accessories alone … and two cases, I changed the lip color.

Looking Feminine After the Big Chop

Looking Feminine After the Big Chop

Looking Feminine After the Big Chop

I did two videos on on my accessories collection. I wasn’t joking when I said I’m a bit obsessed with them.

**What do you do to jazz up your TWA?**


  • Anonymous says:

    You are so beautiful!!! The fro is the bomb… thanks for the tips and inspiration.


  • Angelique says:

    I love the hair style. U look nice with it. I cant wait til i do the big chop in a couple of months.

  • LaShanna says:

    What product do you use on you hair?

  • Anonymous says:

    I was braiding my hair and had it natural for 3 years. I decided to straighten it but used a curling iron instead of a flat iron and that curling iron fried my naps from the root up. All natural beauties please do not mess up like I did. Now I have to start all over. You are a pretty girl with positive attitude of sharing how you get your hair to be fab fab fab.

  • grouchyasswoman says:

    There is no way possible that you look like a boy with a twa, not with those features-which are very feminine. Parents can be so cruel.

  • Unknown says:

    I am just going to say a big thank you… I already completed my big chop and I was trying to figure out what I can do to make it feminine and have fun with it while it is growing back out. I already incorporate a lot hair accessories when I had the permed hair… Now I just need to apply that to my natural and look out world.

  • Anonymous says:

    I wanted to thank you for your post! I am really excited to make the big chop & your post has really encouraged me to just go for it! My mom told me she thinks I may look like a boy if I do it but with the right amount of confidence & accessories I think I will be just fine 🙂

  • O.T. says:

    I'm so happy I found uuuuu. I've been feeling mad unwomanlike with my twa. thanks.

  • Anonymous says:

    What kind of products did u use to help define your curls? I need help. Thanks I enjoyed two videos on accessories.

  • Anonymous says:

    You are toooooooo beautiful. If you really do "look like your brother," your brother must be one fine woman. You are so sharp, so sexy, and so hot! Your face is gorgeous, and the fact that you have a TWA only puts your exotic, beautiful face on display even more.

  • sandra says:

    oh…me thinks your mom is wrong. you look sharp with or without the accessories. The accessories only highlight your real beauty. you have model looks. I can't believe anyone questioned your femininity. At the end of the day, I think many black folks are homophobic to the degree that they want folks to think that they are feminine just because they mistakingly think: "your hair is your glory". This is just pathetic. I think you look wonderful.

  • Anonymous says:

    girly, you look SO cute. i'm trying to make a long transition (2 yrs) but you seriously have my contemplating a BC and rocking a TWA!

  • Lish says:

    Bambiix I think you are my style twin!! Lol.

  • Anonymous says:

    bambiix you are my idol, girl! can you share which brands/colors of lip gloss you rock? i've been doing nude for too long and want to add a little pop.

  • Anonymous says:

    girl, you are absolutely beautiful with your TWA. You are my twin! My son's saw me watching your video and thought it was me. I wouldn't grow it one more millimeter! You look like a supermodel. I recently cut my BSL natural 3c/4a hair down to 7/8 inch (my 3rd or 4th big chop in my 20 year natural hair journey). Just needed a change. I love it. Compliments galore. It will be quite some time, if ever, before I'd consider growing it back out again.
    Keep rocking those awesome earrings and that gorgeous face. Stay Natural, sister.

  • Amber Nofetari says:

    you're really pretty <3

  • DvaAuNaturel says:

    This is right on time. I just BC'd last Wed and knew I needed to step up my accessories now that I have a TWA. I already loved chunky necklaces but now have started to add my larger earrings to the mix. I was just wearing regular diamond studs but now that you can see my face completely, the larger earrings are a must for me. Also, I loved making up my eyes and have stepped that up too. I have even started doing my eyelashes to add a little extra to make my eyes pop, with or w/o makeup. Hair doesn't matter. Accessories & attitude can pull off any look. Thanks for the great video.

    P.S. did you do a video with some tokyo drift musc where you were doing a tutorial on eye shadow? That was hot!

  • TMS says:

    Thank you!

    Oh, Lawd! I'm definitely going to need a tutorial because I am not artistically inclined -I'll be watching the tutorial in slooow motion. LOL.

    P.S. Your tutorial will be right on time, I just bought 22 pairs of earrings from etsy vendors.

  • bambiix2 says:

    HEY EVERYONEEE ! Thanks for the sweet comments

    Serena – that isn't the first time I heard that …Not to mention everytime i go to America and someone hears my accent they shout Miss Rihanna .. sigh. But i don't think i resemble her in any way lol.

    NaturallyMines – you can't come in here talking about the best jewelery maker and don't give a name !! or address or website or anything !!!

    beautywithcurls – lipgloss is a must, I soo agree with that.

    Lol @ Anon # 2 – made me blush

    Daretobecurly – I think i'm going to let my hair grow a bit and try it out with like cornrows to one side and maybe a twist out on the other side and wear it a bit slanted ..

    Anon # 4, oh my ! I know it probably upset you. Do you wear lipgloss ? You don't have to be greasylipped like me , but a slight shine is nice. Also you don't need huge earrings to compliment you, most of the time when I'm at work I only wear my pearl bobs or small silver hoops. Don't let that comment get to you.

    ash – does Target and Kmart have nice hair accessories ?

    KeetaRay – thanks 🙂

    ChiChi – well you have no problem then lol

    Thank you Anon # 3&6, Mrs. Denga, SimplyShainee, bholmes87 , Anon # 7

    TMS – Lol which one ? Either way , I made all of them . I'm going to be doing a video next week on how I made them. So check out my channel next week for that

  • Skeeta says:

    I'm SO buying accessories this weekend. ;o)

  • TMS says:

    Hi Bambiix2,

    Thanks for the tips! Would you mind telling me where you got your earring holder? I'm having the hardest time finding one.

  • Anonymous says:

    you are so pretty:) your hair looks great!

  • bholmes87 says:

    You are on FLYY chick!!!! This was such a great post and you are gorgeous!

  • ChiChi says:

    Well, HUGE ASS earrings and purses were my thing before the BC, so…LOL

  • KeetaRay says:

    I really thank you for this. This particular part stuck out to me: I never ever thought about hiding my hair under weaves, wigs or hats. I don’t believe after the big chop you should succumb to those measures … be proud of your hair! I only thought about how I would ROCK IT.

    I truly believe you can update and "girl-up" your look with accessories; long hair is not necessary! I loved my hair (and still do) when I had my TWA shortly after my BC, and accessories were my best friend. Thanks for inspiring all the lovely ladies reading this who may have recently had their BC or who are frustrated w/their TWAs.

  • ash says:

    I agree with beautywithcurls about the big earrings. I also went on a headband binge, hitting up Wal-Mart, Target,K-Mart Claire's and other stores for cute (and cheap) accessories.

  • Anonymous says:

    Love it!! -SimplyShainee

  • Anonymous says:

    This article came right on time. Just yesterday a man was standing behind me and said, "excuse me sir." I was devasted and have been feeling bad ever since. I've been trying to find other ways to accessorize my look since I don't really wear make-up or jewelry and I really don't want to depend on either of those to make me feel feminine. I guess I'll have to be creative and accesorize with cute headbands and hair clips.

  • Anonymous says:

    Bambiix2, you are absolutely beautiful and rocking your TWA.

  • Daretobecurly says:

    I love those little cocktail hats with the feathers and lace for a night out.

  • Mrs. Denga says:

    Work it!!!!!!!! You look too cute!

  • Anonymous says:

    your bro must be beautiful:)

  • beautywithcurls says:

    Yes earrings and other accessories are the key!! When my hair was real short if i was in a big shirt and air jordans mood, i would make sure i wear the big earrings. If i needed to feel more feminine i'll make sure i wear lipstick that pops…then people will mostly notice that i'm tall, the sneakers are fly and my lips,lol

  • NaturallyMines says:

    Sista, you look great! No worries!
    I just BC'ed 4 days ago and I know the feeling. Eventho I transitioned for 10 mos and have quite a bit of hair, it's still not what I'm used to. I LUVed when I got it cut. The morning after was a different story. Smashed 'fro, dry looking hair, me w/o make-up…UGH! But I have quite a bit of earrings, from the BEST jewelry maker in NYC, that I've been dying to showcase. And they just didn't POP when I had long hair covering them. Look out, here I come!!!!

  • MJ says:

    Love it! =)

  • Anonymous says:

    Serena said…
    Call me crazy, but I really think you favor Rihanna. Especially in the picture with the glasses. You're rocking the fro well!!

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