Meet Ms. Exotic Beauty… after a relaxer disaster she found that rocking her natural hair makes her feel ‘unique, fly, sexy, beautiful, exotic and glamorous’!


I’m finally going to sit on the couch after stalking you for a year and a half. Lol; I’m so creepy. I’ve been completely natural since August 1, 2008 when I did my BC. My last relaxer was sometime in May 08′. Why the short transition? Check out my short relaxed hair style. Not much to hang on to; lol.

My Journey I would say started the day I had my first relaxer after giving birth to my son August 7, 2007 (by the way congratulations soon to be mommy!). I don’t know if it was hormones or the fact I had washed my hair the day before I had the relaxer (which I had done before and this didn’t happen!) My hair immediately burned! I mean tears and all. It felt like hot fire pins in my scalp I bared through it though wanting my hair to be silky smooth. CRAZY GIRL! Afterward my entire scalp was scabbed with burns and the next day my scalp starting seeping, bleeding or pus I DON’T KNOW. All I know is my scalp would leak throughout the day and my hair was stuck to my scalp! Besides this chaos do you know my crazy butt got another relaxer in 6-8 weeks! This time same side effects and my hair fell OUT!!! When I say falling out I mean running my hands through my hair and big chunks of 8 to 12 inches of hair just coming out. Here’s the result of cutting off the parts that didn’t fall out. (3-4 months later when I decided to let go of my hair and get the short hair style above.)

Alas I loved my short hair cut…FLY! But to maintain this do equals frequent salon visits equals money; lol. Which I’ve never done. Even when my hair was long I only went to get a relaxer and my ends clipped every 8 to sometimes 14 weeks. I went to the salon twice for that Halle Berry hair cut and that was it! As I remember my wait in between visits to get the creamy crack I remember loving my new growth. It gave my thin, limp hair volume I could never achieve. Rollers sets and anything you can think of relaxed girls get just didn’t work for me.

Finally, after just wetting my hair and letting it do what it do for about two months, I went in the bathroom and just cut my hair off. DRAMATIC! Everybody was looking at me like I had a Brittney Spears moment; lol. But I was so liberated. I felt free! I got it touched up by the family barber whom I could slap for giving me a line up and taper! But it was all good. I did wash and gos for an entire year and two months. Finally I hennaed and did your famous Twist&Curl. I’ve been doing twist outs since! I’m about to start adding the rollers now that my hair is longer. I felt it was a little difficult with the shorter hair.

I co-wash with Herbal Essence Totally Twisted. Clarify with Giovanni Tea Tree and DT with Aubrey Organics Honey Suckle Rose and Olive Oil. Sometimes both or alone or stretch some of the Aubrey with Lustrasilk Shea Butter or Olive Oil Cholesterol Plus. I leave in Deva Care One Condition and JessiCurl Too Shea if its really dry ( I wanted the weekly deep treatment but it wasn’t in stock; overall this stuff is kick ass, so can’t wait to try the other one). On frizzy parts as I twist, I slab on Oyin Shine and Define and seal my ends with shea butter. I want to experiment with the rest of Oyins line, Karens Body Beautiful, more Henna and Blended Beauty (I got samples when I BC’ed and loved it… but pricey stuff!)
Listen to this woman y’all! She was my inspiration to do the BC. I never really thought natural hair was sexy and glamorous and I stumbled upon her fotki on This site started about two months after I BC’ed and I’m so grateful that I’ve had this site for encouragement and strength to stay natural. Since I’ve been natural I feel so unique, fly, sexy, beautiful, exotic and glamorous. My best friend is transitioning and my sister did the BC two weeks ago. My hair has influenced my closest friends to go natural and I hope I influence more. Natural hair is the BOMB! Keep ya head up. Don’t listen to the haters and when in doubt come to this site! Love ya Nikki and thank yous a bunch for all the advice. I’m jocking all of the products and styles lol.
-BC August 1, 2008 (my baby’s first hair cut too!)
-Wash&Go January 23, 2009 (Co-wash Herbal Essence Hello Hydration Leave-In Cantu leave in repair cream)
-First Twist out May 5, 2009 (same regime above think Cantu too heavy/greasy for my twist outs)
-Failed flat iron lol awesome afro October 2009 (I’ll be trying again with mizani thermo smooth and my INSTYLER!)
-Finger combed Twist Out December 10, 2009 ( two months after henna; can see color in light; can’t remember products used)
-Twist Out after hair cut January 8, 2010 both shots and first pic. I couldn’t pick between them: goofy, sexy, afro goddess? lol ( clip those ends; Wash&Go’s gave me so many knots and breakage products used regime above)