Fast forward to after graduation, and my running away from home (okay – eloping to Vegas and moving there). No mom to neither press and curl nor tell me I couldn’t perm. So off to get a perm I went. I thought it would be some big magical event. But with my scalp burning (and an inept stylist) I really didn’t get the freedom from the press and curl I thought I would. I would perm it every 3-4 months using PCJ (yep, kiddie perm). Even with the perm, I would still have to blow dry it to the extreme to get rid of the crinkles, and then flat iron it on top of that. It was a lot of work. I would even apply the perm to the entire length of my hair each time I touch up-ed. Terrible, terrible treatment.
So when did the change in my head occur? I think it was the year before last. I was taking a swim class (I STILL CAN’T SWIM, LOL) and doing lots of wash and wears. I noticed that my curls weren’t curling like normal. The final straw though was seeing my Christmas 2008 pictures. I saw my hair, but it looked TOO straight, too limp, too something. I think it was just not me.
I made up my mind right then that I wouldn’t perm again. I didn’t really make mention of it, nor did I BC – I am a chicken and have this attachment to hair that is slightly abnormal! LOL! Instead, I wore sew in’s for an entire year. With each take down, a little of the permed ends were trimmed off, and I could see ME emerging. March of this year, I made the decision to cut off the rest of the permed hair, and show off my natural hair. I am slowly learning not to have hair envy… although some days it’s hard. I am totally in love HE Totally Twisted shampoo and conditioner, and the Shea Moisture product line.
Reactions… hmmm. Mom doesn’t like it and NOW I finally get it. Most of my traits are my daddy’s. I look like him and act like him, and my hair is super coily like his. I think all that super straightening was a way to steal a little bit of me back to her… My mom’s hair has ZERO curl. None… not even a wave. So even today she doesn’t like it but I don’t let it bother me. She stopped commenting when she realized I was not going to go back to the perm regardless of what she thinks. My daughter who is 16 doesn’t like it super curly all the time. She would rather I straighten it. I figure I have my whole life to wear my hair straight. And I have been ignoring the curls for all this time so it is their time to shine. LITERALLY. BUT she has decided to go natural as well. Her hair is super curly and SUPER THICK – I think she would be your hair idol Nikki! Dear hubby LOVES it. He wore locks for 5 years and cut them back in October – wanted a change. But he loves playing in my curls, watching the coils he pulls on spring back to their super curly state. Even when I think I am having a ‘bad hair day’, he will marvel at it and tell me how much he loves it. That alone makes it all worth it!