I’ve been natural since I was twelve, but I’ve only worn my hair curly for about eight years. During this time, I’ve noticed that my attitude or personality changes depending on whether my hair is curly or straight. Now, this may all be in my mind, but I feel that I carry myself differently depending on how my hair is styled.
I feel my curly locks make me appear to have more of a funky/spunky attitude and personality so I embody that and embrace it. When my hair is straight; I feel that I look younger, reserved, and quiet. Although my personality is the same in either style, I feel my curly locks better represent the person I have become. I feel more hip and free to be myself when my hair is curly. My curly hair gives me the green light to stand out in a crowd, experience new things, and live life to the fullest.
I don’t feel that my curly hair developed my personality or attitude, but I do think that it has helped me stay true to who I am as a person. My curly hair helps me present to the world the type of person I want them to see and remember. So to all my curly girls, embrace your curls and allow them to open you up to a world that you would never have considered with your straight hair!
I've never liked straight hair, even when I was natural I'd envy curls, waves. anything with texture. I never had a wrap in my hair b/c i didn't like how flat it looked and I always wanted something w/body and volume. Once I went natural i felt at peace, I realized I HAD the hair I wanted and that changed my whole attitude, I didn't feel like I was hiding ME anymore.
I straightend my hair this morning to trim it [i'm cutting out color in the front and I'm trying ot keep it even with the back so i dont jack my head up lol] and it took me forever to even walk out the house, i just couldn't convince myself it looked good even at bsl…I ended up putting it in a bun halfway through the day b/c i just was not feeling it.
What can I say, God knew what he was doing when he put it on my head curly hair is me!
I am cosigning as well on this comment. I actually in my older age, feel more attractive, outgoing, and (free) with my natural hair, versus the relaxed hair. I am with the naturals above who said relaxed hair made me feel boring, and frankly I looked like everyone else with the same wrap style parted on the side. I hated that! Nothing exceptional. I feel more like myself as well with my curls and twists. But on the same note I feel there is an attitude with the relaxed and natural personas. I feel most, (not all) women who usually wear relaxers and weaves think they are all that, and usually exude that attitude, or fakeness, pretentiousness if I may. Most (not all) women who are natural seem to have a more humble, and free-spirited attitude. It's almost like "I'm free now, so there are no airs to put on anymore." At least in my opinion. Note: I said most (not all). Just my personal opinion. But ageeing with MelMelBee above, "I love my hair!" 🙂
Kinda…I'm always outgoing, spunky and over the top…that's just me LOL! I do notice a change in my style. I am more apt to try bold colors and wild styles, as opposed to the "polished", "classy" style that I wore when I was relaxed. At one point, I thought that I needed to dress differently when I went natural, so that my clothing could "match" my new do. But, I now realize that I can be polished and classy or bold and funky regardless of how my hair is styled..
I'm loving my hair!!!!
I concur. Love my hair and the way it represents who I am.
I think my wash and go's can make me look older. I like wearing it in a curly ponytail, slicked back and this makes me look better.
I completely agree! I always felt very prim and proper with long straight hair- very lace and pearls. Now that I'm natural I feel more in touch with myself, and less restricted when it comes to the image I project. I think some of this comes with moving to a more liberal city, but for me, making the decision to go natural was the first time I really made an informed and completely self-motivated adult decision. My hair has helped me grow into the person I was meant to be.
I understand. When my hair used to be relaxed, I used to curl it on rollers when it was wet in these random sections so I could achieve this huge hair–and I always felt so funky fresh when my hair was big!
Now, I alternate being having my hair twisted (now that it's got some length, I leave it twisted most of the time) and having it out–and I always feel real fly and real cool with my hair out. With my hair twisted and down, I still feel like myself (clearly), but not quite as funky fresh. I think it's just the idea of my hair being out, in random patterns and different chunks of bigness that makes me feel fly 🙂
I know the feeling. I feel more like myself when my hair is curly. I feel like I'm a fake me when I wear my hair straight. It also feels boring to me when it's straight because I wore my hair straight for so many years. For now, since it's been almost 3 years since my last perm, I just feel more comfortable wearing my hair curly. It's easy to maintain and I have curly confidence!!!
Cosign love.peace.curls. I straighten my hair about 2 times a year to get it trimmed. It hangs well below my shoulders. It actually gets on my nerves, especially when it's hot, and I can't stand the way it feels on my neck. I wear it up or in a bun until I wash it and "nap it back up" again. To the author's point, I do sometimes take on a different persona depending upon how my hair is styled. Or, maybe I style my hair based upon how I'm feeling? I know that when I sport a BAA I have alot more swagger in my strut than when I'm rocking an up-do. I'm a little more playful when I have a big puff than when I'm wearing a chic cinnabun. I think she's on to something…
I think how i'm feeling comes first and then my hairstyles plays into it. So if I'm feeling funky, then it's a fohawk all the way! I haven't had my hair straight in years! (I have a twa now but I had locs for the past 7 years and a twa before that).
I feel really plain now with hair that is straight and points down. Now that I'm used to big hair I feel it fits my features better.
I feel the same way… I haven't worn my hair straightened since I started my transition last year. I just don't feel right with straight hair anymore. It doesn't feel like "Me". I love when my hair is free. Loose, big, curly, and free…that matches my personality a lot more than some straightened hair that I have to worry about every time I go near earthly elements (wind, water, etc)…with my curls, I can just…Be.
I think they only thing I've eventually come to feel is less self-conscious about my hair. I didn't want my hair the wind to blow in it when it was straight because then it would be out of place (my hair wouldn't fall back). Also, it was often damaged, so I wasn't looking my best. There were also the pre-touch-up days when my hair also would look less than its best.
Now, after I've done what I needed to do to my hair at home, I don't have to worry about it after I leave the house. I pretty much let it do what it do and don't think about it.
But I'm still nor edgy, nor am I more outgoing.
hmmm…..I don't really feel differently now with curly hair versus when relaxed. I am different than when I was younger and had every hairstyle under the sun, but I think with age I've just mellowed out more. Sometimes with MAKEUP I'll feel differently and more vivacious or according to outfit, but not really with my hair.