I was married to the man God created for me, July 10th, 2010. I have been natural for 4 years and LOVE my curls! My hair is a representation of me; busy, eccentric, and FREE! I feel comfortable with it, and I am so over the days of the cookie cutter, relaxed bob. However, I struggled with my wedding day hair. Family and friends all had their opinions, yet most wanted me to leave it curly. My husband said he would love my hair however it was styled because he was marrying me, and not my hair.
I was torn! I rarely straighten my hair, because I am very anti-heat. Yet, I was totally anxious to see how much length had been added since my winter blowout. My husband is about the same height as me, but with my big curls springing about all over my head, and a cute pair of heels, I instantly become taller than him. So, I decided that I would brave the Texas heat, the crazy morning at the salon, and LET MY HAIR DOWN. I did not give into to any “straightening pressure”, I embrace my natural hair. Besides, I did not want to be super tall over my husband at the alter! In the end, I love the way my hair turned out. There were no frizzes to be found, only the sweet aroma of love, joy, and peace!
I will never forget the look on my husband’s face when I walked down the aisle. It was the most endearing look, he was drawn to my heart, and not the styling of my hair. He was not marrying me because my hair was curly or straight. I hope other natural brides will do what feels good. Just keep it NATURAL. Don’t ever place yourself in a box, and let your natural hair shine!
P.S. ( I went back curly the next day!)
Thanks for reading and I love all the curlies of CurlyNikki! 🙂
Eboni Starr Catalan