Ms. Sassy writes:
I have been completely natural for almost 4 months now and I am truly enjoying this experience. I do not plan to go back to the relaxer! Anyway…am I the only one who gets lazy? Maybe its because I transitioned for almost a year before BC’ing? Usually when I style my hair, it takes a few hours to achieve my results, and the style usually lasts about a week or two. That’s pretty good I guess, but sometimes I dread the styling process! Thank God for the pony puff. It’s quick and easy. Maybe I need to go to a stylist? Are there any other naturals or transitioners who have hit a lazy era.
If you have been through it, what are some tips to get out of it?
i have also hit a lazy period i have been wearing my hair in a high bun which i like but i get bored with hair styles so quick i am so sick of the wearing a ponytail at all
I understand that most women want to look attractive and that they face much more social pressure than do men. But I think it's important to avoid casually using the language of moral judgment to something like hairstyling.
Some people have better, more important, or just other things to do on a given day.
I don't consider not wanting to spend several hours on my hair a sign of being "lazy." If you consider how much time the average guy spends on his hair it's kind of ridiculous what women are expected to do.
My normal hairstyle is reasonably easy and fast — a ponytail that I pin up with Spin Pins. The biggest irritation is waiting for my hair to air dry. But I prefer to avoid heat.
Yes, all the time! It's easy to put major styling on the back burner when your curls look so pretty with nothing done to them. I am enjoying watching what my curls do on their own after so many years of literally whipping my hair into different styles.
Thanks ladies. Feel better to know that I'm in good company! I have not tried the wash n go yet because of my tight curls. I continue to look in places like this and youtube for styles.
I put my hair into twists on Sunday keep them in until Friday and rock a twist out on Saturday.
To get over my Sunday dread, I just do my hair during my favorite 2 tv shows. If it's a re-run i watch a movie i like. Good luck.
I don't have bounce back two day hair. To keep my twist outs fresh, I have to twist my hair every night. I got lazy and did not care for my hair like I should and my hair started to fall out. I now take care and have patience with my hair. I was doing the wash n go during the summer months…Loved it. Now I about to go get some twist extensions and keep them for the fall and winter months as a protective style.
I have plent of lazy days. My hair is usually a two day project. When I am not up for day two, my hair is normally styled in about 8 CHUNKY twists and pinned up or, my new favorite, two cornrows tucked and pinned then a cute hair pin to make it an adult hairstyle.
I think I have become more lazy now that I am approaching 2 years, than when I first went natural. Initially, I loved trying new styles & didn't care how long it took me. NOW, I find myself either doing a twist out or putting it in a bun when I don't feel like re-twisting 😮 I am trying to motivate myself to try new styles now, too.
I find that looking at new styles on youtube gives me the motivation to style. But when I'm TRULY being lazy, I resort to the braidout! It's super easy and I don't have to worry about styling my hair too long. It lasts throughout my workouts too!
Girl, you are certainly in good company!! 🙂 My husband just did me the favor of giving me a pep-talk to get me to do my hair, and it worked…tonight anyway! LOL! Sometimes the lazy times are good though, because they prompt us to play around and find new (quicker) hairstyles. After all…why do we need to hide our real hair texture all the time anyway? Doesn't that fly in the face of that true self-love that we are all striving for?
You are not lazy, I do the same thing. I've tried twist-outs and they don't really last past a few hours for me. Puffs are the easiest thing to do.
I think we all experience those days. At this time, I enjoy experimenting with 5 to 7 braids with my ends twisted to achieve the perfect braidntwist out. When that gets old, I play with parts, up do's, and the big puff. My hair and I have figured out a way to play nice with each other and it is priceless. Time, patience, and practice makes progress.
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I too have experienced those days. Moreso now that I am working out constantly. I have worked out 5 days in a row this week so far and the thought of redoing my hair after sweating profusely has been daunting. So I put it up in a puff, much like yours. I don't mind either. It's a different look for me. I like the ideas presented here and I'm learning to crochet my own tams. Those are a definite go to for me normally but we've been experiencing a crazy heat wave this week so I had to put them away for a few days.
Yeah I myself can't do the wash n go, because that will cause major tangles in my 4b tight thick hair. I normally do the 2strand twists/twistout or do a headband and sometimes a puff. But I have to be careful of my edges since I'm trying to get those in better condition after having my locs in my hair it took a toll on my edges. Now I brought myself 2 gorgeous hats from Target so on those days that my twists aren't looking there best or I'm not ready yet to untangle them, I will just put that bad boy onto my hair and it looks good. I wore my hair out in an afro with my light orange yellowish flower in my hair and it looked really good.
How do you all secure a pony puff so that it stays in place? I havn't had much luck.
I don't see anything wrong with lazy days at all. 🙂
If I really reflect on my lazy days, it was back when I had a perm and had the SAME STYLE (A-line cut with an off-center part on the right) for years! Even with locs my go-to style basically a braid-out.
Yup – nothing wrong with a good old go to style some days
I am currently in "lazy mode" I have been searching YouTube for a quick and easy protective style that I like. I've tried a few but my hair is so THICK and not quite long enough to achieve some of the styles. I wont give up on finding the right style for me.
I have been natural for a year now and I pretty much only do wash n go or pony puff, my hair is at the point where it is to short/to long and it looks funny to me, I will most likely wear braids for the winter…
I have a chronic pain condition so I have many lazy days. But on the lazy days when I have to run errands and I don't want to look as bad as my body feels I jazz up my wash and go with a cute hair accessory, put on a cute pair of earrings, dress up my lips and peace out. lol.
I call it "stress free chic"!
Luckily, tangles have not been an issue for me so I can get away with a few lazy days without my hair getting angry with me.
Your are not alone that's for sure. I feel that way too. So this week I had to push myself to style my hair to last a little longer. I did small twists. Even though it took me 2.5 hours to complete (i hate having to put that much time into a style) – but I love the outcome. I transitioned for 15 months – I BC'd March 20 of this year.
It's not so much that I got lazy but classes started and I cant dedicate the time I want to do my twists or rod set so I simply washed and conditioned my hair then went to a salon and she blow dried it–not all the way– and gave me some cute, chunky, cornrows and i LOVE it! She only charged me $25 and I plan to keep them in as long as they will look good
I definitely get lazy. Lazy days end up being wash-n-go days. Sometimes I braid my hair to stretch it and like JenellyBean above said, I toss on a cap and call it a day 🙂
Yes! I thought I was the only one. Like you I transitioned for almost a year, and most of my styles take hours to complete (my braids/ twists etc). Sometimes I really dread the process, and wish that I could get get up and go.
I haven't found a quick easy style yet, because wearing a puff for me means tangles, tangles, tangles! But I've been meaning to try the cinnabun which looks very simple to achieve
The style in the photo above is what I have been sporting for months! It's my 'go to' style for the summer and somehow it has carried over into the fall, lol!. Sometimes I add a thin hair net over my curly puff, but the past week I have been wearing the puff uncovered. For 2 weeks this month I attempted to style my hair, but with me working out every morning and my some of my 'curl sets' not setting right and making me late for work in the morning, I figured if it ain't broke, don't fix it. It's a style that can be seen as both professional and playful, and it's less hair manipulation. So I look at this two ways – yes I'm being lazy, lol, but also it very very convenient!
Everyone has a lazy day when you can forsee that you will need hours of prepartion.
LOL its like cooking….you know it will take long so you get lazy.
What I do is a quick roll and tuck style and then I put on a beanie cap (with my satin bonnet underneath).
The cap is stylish and I just let the front of my hair peep out, so it looks like a style.
Hope that helps!
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