Meet Ashley M… 3 months into her natural journey and loving mango butter (which is on my list to try!)


CN: When you first chopped, what were your thoughts and feelings? How do you feel now?
I was so ready to chop that when I started cutting, I felt awesome. As soon as I finished I was in a state of shock- – I had never had my hair short before; it took a little getting use to. Now, I absolutely love my hair. I have to constantly tell my self to stop playing in it, lol!

CN:How did you cope with the responses from your family and friends?

I hardly received any negative responses from my family and friends. My husband is still getting used to it, but he’s coming around. The one semi-negative response that I received was from my dad. When he saw me for the first time after a year he said, ” You look good, I don’t know about that hair thoogh”. Otherwise I’ve received nothing but compliments from friends and strangers alike.

CN:What are your plans for your hair?
I want my hair to grow grow grow. Within the next 3 years I would like to have WSL/ 18 inches of hair that’s my current hair goal.

CN: Do you find it necessary to ‘doll up’ your look to feel more feminine?

Yes and No. I have always been into makeup’, its one of my hobbies. So when I chopped it wasn’t like I had to pick up and try to “doll” my self up… I’m always dolled up. But about a month into my transition I got my ears pierced for the first time. I knew there was no way I would be a long term transitioner and I was going to have short hair so earrings were a must for me. I am now addicted to earrings. I love them. They can set off an outfit like nothing else. The bigger the better 🙂


CN: How do you keep it moisturized?
I am still in the process of learning my hair. Currently I co-wash my hair 2-3x a week and I deep condition my hair 1-2x a week and shampoo with an all natural shampoo 1x a week . I wet my hair daily either with plain old H20 or with leave in conditioner mixture (Giovanni Direct leave in, distilled water, jojoba and tea tree oils). I use butters to seal. I am in love with mango butter at the moment but I plan to try all the butters out there and see which one my hair loves the most.

CN: What products and techniques do you use to style? How often do you style?
When I first chopped I would style my hair every day using Ecostyler Olive Oil Gel and coconut oil or Kinky Curly Curling Custard. Now 3 months in, I am currently doing more protective styling. I rock twists on the week day which I do with my mango butter mixture and ecostyler and on the weekends I rock a twist out.

CN: How do you get your waves or curls popping?
I love the way Ecostyler and coconut oil make my curls look. I apply and then brush through with a denman to make my hair clump together. It comes out so curly and cute.

CN: How do you preserve your curls at night?
Before I hit the sack I spray with my spritz and seal with a butter. I always sleep with a satin cap or tie around my hair every night. In the morning my hair is usually smushed so I’ll either re-wet with water or I’ll spritz it with some water and rub coconut oil in it to give it a shine.

Anyone who wants to follow me on my journey can check out my YT channel- www.youtube.com/user/lolakinkz

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