Scottie writes:

How much support do you give a transitioning friend?

I have been natural for a little over a year and I am not sure if I would have made it through the transitioning process had it not been for the support of my close friend. I called her many days when I was frustrated with tangles and a perceived lack of styling options. Thanks to her “you can do it” attitude, I was able to finally let go of my relaxed ends with confidence.

Now I am on the other side of the transitioning game and I have friends that are on the same journey I was on. I want to help as much as possible. However, one of my friends keeps going back and forth. She misses her straight, bouncy relaxed hair and complains about her natural texture even though it looks fabulous. It is utterly exhausting to be around her and continually bolster her confidence about her hair. I want to support her but at the same time I know going natural is an individual decision.

So, my question is: How far do you go in supporting a transitioner? Do you merely offer words of confidence? Or do you help them find products and give styling tutorials? How much is too much?