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He Loves My Natural Hair!

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He Loves My Natural Hair!
Brianna writes:

I’ve seen the Youtubes, blogs and articles written about men and their negative views on natural hair. I am constantly trying different styles with my hair and my boyfriend loves that, he has never said a bad word. I think it’s time to talk more about the men out there who love natural hair!

Please share positive experiences and the compliments about your natural hair from the men in your life!Align Center

76 Comments

  • Unknown says:

    I have had a great experience with my boyfriend and males ive dated with natural hair. I feel its about the confidence and style you have when you walk out the house that lets males and female counterparts appreciate and admire your natural beauty. When i met my current boyfriend he met me natural and i had some poetic justice braids and explained i was natural and he laughed and said he was glancing with the hair that was growing out from the root so figured. Lol men are pretty observant anyhow but he supports me with it and understands how its impotant to me, yet doesnt define me. My f

  • Anonymous says:

    I would have to say my now fiance is very supportive of me going natural. When we met I wore a lot of straight weaves because it was convenient and i just thought I looked better in them. Then about 6 months into the relationship I decided to cut my hair off and rock a short bob.
    I just had a baby girl on August 11 and during the pregnancy vowed that I wouldn't get another perm, I would get full head sew-in and let my natural hair grow out. He thought it was a great idea. He would make comments about how I didn't need the weaves and how beautiful he thought I was. I just took my weave out last weeks and put in some two strand twist and took them out this morning. I loved how he made me feel about the new change I have made. Along with my new found confidence.

  • shine like stars forever... says:

    the whole reason i'm going natural is because of my man…he's been begging me to go natural for a while and since we are getting married in 5 months, this is sort of my gift to my new husband =)

  • Unknown says:

    I BC'd unannounced and at the spur of the moment after washing in the shower one day. I just cut it all off with some shears. My husband came home during lunch and said wow….Okay. I said "do you like it?" his reply was of course. To hime my face was still as beautiful with or without the hair. I am not my hair, I was still the same person he met, just with shorter and curly hair. If he didn't oh well I would have been like you will get over it babe!

  • Alex says:

    I'm not going to lie, when I first BC'd and cut off my APL hair, my husband wasn't on board. I had less than half an inch hair. Little curls everywhere and lots of scalp. Which was a common reaction from most. But as he saw how much I grew to love it and how it grew out beautifully, he started getting more comfortable with it. Now he loves it. Both he and I never knew what texture I had, but I'm so glad I did it the way I did.

  • Anonymous says:

    My fiance loves my natural hair, I did my Big Chop in early August and he was very supportive of my choice πŸ™‚ My hair was relaxed and medium length when he met me so that's all he's ever seen me with so I was happy to know that he's got my back! He loves to play with it and feel my head full of curls

  • Rahshell says:

    I met my husband about 3 years post BC. He had never seen me with straight hair other than pictures. About a year after we got married I had was laid off and felt like I needed a change. I cut my 10in of natural hair, got a relaxer and came home with a pixie cut. Hubby looked at me like I had a horn in the middle of my forehead. We talked about it and he said he definitely preferred my natural hair over the relaxer. I BC'd again less than 6 weeks later, around the same time we found out we were pregnant. By the end of the pregnancy, I had a good 5-6inches of growth. No harm, no foul πŸ™‚

  • yoli says:

    I started to go natural a bit after me and my hubby got married. He has been very supportive and telling me I'm beautiful. He loves playing with my hair. He went to the natural salon with me today and hoovered with interest. He's even going to a natural hair expo with me next week! He makes me feel like the most beautiful woman in the room everyday–even on days when my natural hair experiment went all wrong (newbie natural). He's awesome, and gives me an added boost of confidence!

  • Unknown says:

    My husband and mother-in law (Caucasian) love my hair natural. When I met my husband my hair was straight (permed) and when I was considering going natural they gave me the extra push. My husband loves styles I can pull off and likes to comment on growth. He is very supportive… shoot… he encourages me to wear it out rather than a puff. lol

  • Anonymous says:

    Great thread! Yeah my husband really likes it too! He totally helped me overcome all the nerves about cutting and even helped with the home BC. Like some of the other ladies here, he doesn't stop looking and playing with it – can't the dude see I'm trying to maintain 3rd day hair?!!

  • Anonymous says:

    i was really worried as my boyfriend was the long straight hair type and when we started dating he made me promise i would never cut my hair and at the time i did, but i git tired of the straight hair and cut it n put it in braids, for the first time in 7 months he saw my hair and he was in love with it and kept playing with it, even to the point that he helped me prep and wash my hair!!! something i didnt think woyld happen, now he cant stop playin in my hair and is totally in love with it and i couldnt be happier =D

  • Anonymous says:

    I think one of the best compliments I got was my dad's reaction to my hair. I hadn't seen him in a couple of years and had just done my BC the day before. When he saw me he seemed awestruck at first and then said "you look so much like the family now" and teared up a little. I know, seems kind of an odd statement but he's always told me I looked like his mom who passed away before I was born and I think being natural totally solidified it for him. Couldn't have been happier.

  • Anonymous says:

    My husband never seemed really enthusiastic about my hair when it was straight and hated my hair when I cut it short once so was relunctant about me going natural. I did my BC while he was TDY (he's military) and was really nervous about his reaction. To my surprise he loved it then and seems to like it more than I do!! He loves it most whenever it gets poofy as he apparently has a thing for afros (lol). His reaction to my hair when I have those days where I think it looks horrid makes me feel sexier than ever. πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    I've always been natural so the men in my life have had no choice but to love it, LOL. My honey (known him over 12 years, been coupled up for the last 4+)loves sticking his hands in my hair and massaging my scalp (very relaxing for me) when we're chilling in front of the tv or riding in the car. When we hug, he inhales the scent of my hair (I only use things that smell good to me) and comments on how soft it is. I apparently get more attention and comments/questions from strangers than the other naturals he's known. He always smiles/chuckles when I get into LONG conversations with strangers who ask about my hair regimen. He's dated not-so-naturals and other naturals but says he loves my hair more even though it's EVERYWHERE(strands on the sink, etc. from detangling/styling).

    I find that other men in my life are positive too. My guy's dad always tells me how beautiful he thinks my hair is and how much he loves my hair whenever we visit. My uncle asks for my advice on what to use on his hair to make it soft like mine :). I even ran into an ex who wanted advice on what to use on his natural-haired daughter because he said "your hair was always so beautiful".

  • Chantel says:

    Well I am just having a really girly sentimental moment right now I just love this post πŸ™‚

    My bf loves my hair and I will admit he is the first guy in my 2 years of being natural who could convince me to straighten my hair just to see the length. He was totally understanding when I said straight hair wasn't really my thing anymore and I really appreciated it. He also doesn't hesitate to tell me I am beautiful every single day multiple times a day in most cases, and its amazing.

    I will never forget the first time he witnessed me cowashing my hair. I caught him staring at me out the corner of my eye with this expression like a kid in a candy store would have. I turned to him and asked "what?" he replied "your hair, is so beautiful". I couldn't do anything but blush and smile at him

  • Stormy says:

    My boyfriend was the first to tell me to chop it all off. He was with me for over a year seeing me constantly going to the salon, using so much time and money that I think he somewhat just got it. Although he has pin straight hair his mother has very curly hair, and lots of it. To him, it is just hair. He comes from a mixed family with all different kinds of hairs types and it is no deal to him at all. I am extremely lucky, a little over a month after cutting off my bra strap length relaxed hair he really hasn't changed towards me a bit. If anything he plays in my hair more often now πŸ™‚

    The other man in my life, my dad, is still having a hard time with it, mostly because of it's very short length, not my texture, which he seems to like because apparently it's curlier than he thought it would be *rolls eyes* but he's coming around.

  • Camland2010 says:

    Oh my goodness, i love reading these comments, i have tears and a smile on my face right now. I am a college student and i did the big chop right before coming to school. I get a lot of stares from people and i never know what they are really thinking. I still get hit on, but not as much as i use too. I hope my future husband loves everything about me, especially my hair.

  • Anonymous says:

    My husband's biggest compliment was when I flatironed my hair to get my ends clipped, he got mad and kept asking me when I'm going to wear it curly again. He said he wouldn't talk to me again until I was wearing an afro.

  • JulieOne says:

    sorry! *Perkisha

  • JulieOne says:

    @Perkisa – My man's jaw dropped after watching Good Hair lol he had a list of comments, questions and praises for me before we even left the theater lol.

    When I first started dating my current BF my hair was shoulder length and permed. We fell in love with it that way and I was very very worried about his reaction to my hair sans relaxer. The transition from relaxer to natural was just as rocky as the transition from dating to fully committed (my issues not his) When we got through the rough patches I was wearing wash n' go's daily. He remained loving and wonderful but we never talked about my hair. One day I flat ironed it just to switch it up and I honestly expected him to be happily surprised….he was surprised but not so happy lol. He said I didn't look like 'his girlfriend' anymore. It reminded him of our rough patches and he admitted he loves my natural hair because it was so 'soft' and 'unique' and that I 'didn't look like every girl on the street' even compared to other naturals, my hair was mine in my own special way.

    We opened a big continuous convo about hair after that. It's been wonderful (his face lights up when I try a new protective hairstyle and is pretty damn good at picking out new hair products for me to try) and annoying (I think I taught him too much, now he 'knows' when I have been slacking on the deep conditioning just by looking at me and will call me on it lol)Best of all he love touching and smelling my hair. This simple fact ups the affection levels and adds to the long list of how wonderful he is πŸ˜€ gosh that was sappy lol

  • bren says:

    I'm a 22 yr old college student my hunny loves my natural hair. I was so nervous to rock it but he kept pushing me to do it. he compliments me everyday and loves to play with my tight coils. he loves how soft it is. he is the one that encouraged me to stop perming and I am so thankful because I am much happier with natural hair

  • Perkisha says:

    I love to see so many postive posts about men's response to natural hair. I was in a relationship when I bc'd, single with a twa and now engaged as a natural woman and I think I have only had 1 negative response to my hair (and that was only the guess I made at why a guy stopped talking to me. I was really never sure…)

    My baby loves my hair! He loves it most when I wear it big and wild in an afro or twistout. He especially loves that I'm natural for reasons and principles that I stand strongly behind. After watching Good Hair, he gave me a big hug and was like, "I'm so happy you don't get perms or wear weaves!" LOL. And he always encourages other women to go natural. He's the bestest! πŸ™‚

  • nichelle says:

    I was w/ my man a good 5 years before I even had the itch to go natural…and when I finally wrapped my mind around it, I was nervous to share my choice w/ him. But he was all for it and 2 yrs later he is so proud of how far I've come. And he loves playing in my hair and bragging to people about how its growing so nicely. His support has been one of the major parts of my natural journey, and I am so grateful.

  • sleeping beauty says:

    Hello all,
    I just did my BC Sunday and my husband laughed but he said it was okay. He feels as though I am growing into a beautiful mature woman. He was the one to inspire me to go for it and explore my natural beauty. I feel as though I am blessed in my 5 years of marriage my husband has grown into my friend and so far on this journey he has been a great support. So I hope this encourges others to embrase their natural beauty. Love you Stan

  • Dee O. says:

    Yes, this is so true!!! It's funny because someone I have been "talking to" just told me that i DIDN'T look good with my natural hair and he prefers when I wear a weave…that really hurt me a lot because I think my natural hair is beautiful. So I was venting to one of my guy friends about it and he said "naturalism is a beautiful thing and you wear it so well, not only do you look good without makeup but you look gorgeous with your natural hair" that made me so happy lol, i was really touched

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  • Anonymous says:

    I am not fully natural as of yet, but my husband (who is white) tells me he prefers my hair naturally no matter what it looks like. He loves it best when i do braidouts. Its good to have a supportive man πŸ™‚

  • Nicole says:

    I was just transitioning my hair when I first met my honey. I can't begin to tell you how supportive he is and how much he constantly tells me how he loves my Natural hair and how Sexy it is…..Oooh la la ladies!!! I can honestly say that having him in my life has made this transition so much easier. I love it!!

  • Step says:

    @Caela, your husband sounds like mine. My husband actually watched a natural hair video on YouTube. As I was moisturizing my hair one day, my husband said, "Be sure to focus on the ends when you moisturize. If you don't get the ends, then you will have breakage." LOL

    My husband told me the other day that my hair always looks nice. Also, my father loves my hair as well. He said that he never understood why people relax their hair and always thought I shouldn't relax it. I asked him why he never mentioned it when I was relaxed and he said, "B/c you didn't ask me and it's your hair. You can do what you want with it, but I'm glad to see that you're natural." It's good to have support.

  • Sabrina R Perkins says:

    My hair was in braids when I met my husband 13 years ago and I have gone from relaxed to braids with the many different styles over the years with him telling me he doesn't care how I wear my hair. Well, I've been natural for the past 2 years and he loves it. About a year ago I went to a salon to get a trim and had my hair flat-ironed also. He didn't like it at all. He really loves my hair natural.

  • D.A. says:

    My hubby actually was the one who suggested that I go natural!!! He loves my hair!!

  • kitka82 says:

    When my husband and I started dating 10 years ago, I had a TWA. I re-relaxed during college and here I am again, with a TWA. My last relaxer was in April 2010. When I BC'ed a month ago, he wasn't thrilled. But he loves my hair because he loves me. And he sure is reaping the benefits of a wife who finally feels confident and sexy in her own skin! He says my hair is "cute" but he looks forward to seeing what it will look like when it's longer. Heck, so am I. I thank God and Nikki for this site and for all of the resources available that I didn't know about 10 years ago. And I thank God for a man who has seen me through thick and thin (literally), and still loves me to pieces. But most importantly, I'm learning to love MYSELF.

  • Ashleigh L.A. says:

    I couldn't perm my hair again if I wanted to because my boyfriend would throw a hissy fit. lol. He loves my hair, esp. my fro and twist outs. And he has that hand-in-Ash's-fro syndrome…lol.

  • Tele says:

    I actually cut my BSL really thick relaxed hair after asking my bf what he would think if I went natural. He said he didnt really care and the next day i went to the barber shop and cut it off. The older men in the barber shop seemed to have more of a problem then the young guys! Two days later I saw my boyfriend and he said "wow you did it. Hot" palmed my head and said "so where we going to eat?" Of course we walk to the restaurant down the street and his WHOLE band is sitting in the restaurant we chose (i personally think it was a set up) and they all said "we knew it was a weave!" it was pretty great.
    Now I have 5 inches stretched and its pretty awesome. He LOVES to play in it and says that this matches my personality way more. My father said he liked my hair long but as it grows out he seems to be coming around even though he would never say anything. Even convinced my mom to cut her hair and now she has been KEEPING a TWA she doesnt plan on growing out! Its awesome!

  • Anonymous says:

    I had natural hair (TWA) when hubby and I met. I locked for 6 1/2 years, BC, TWA, and now my new locs are 8 months old. He has only known me natural and he LOVES IT!

  • Takeya says:

    I recently met someone and he's completely in love with my hair! So much that when he hugs me, he squeezes my hair…lol!

    I think it's sweet but he plays in it so much that it gets tangled…not good! I haven't had the heart to tell him to stop yet…

  • karynrose says:

    i've always had natural hair so i knew he didn't mind all of my crazy, curly, huge hair. the first time he spent the night we had to work out and arangement so that my hair didn't end up in his nose. the next morning when he took a look at my bedhead he was super surprised at how big it got lol. he digs it though. it's apart of me and he like me so he likes it.

  • Anonymous says:

    My husband love my hair at its natural state,he like's the naps, the kinks,and the curls.He says he perfers it naturally curly than blown out straight.Men should embrace it if they haven't already.

  • Lori Ann says:

    I'm sorry, Nik, I laugh everytime I see this picture. This is my friend David, who is loc'ed and his wife Kendrea who, I'm pretty sure still has a perm. The irony is that I remember when David started locing and some of the negative comments that he got from women when he did. They were so used to him being faded up. Anywho, I think that a man should support his woman's decision to be the individual that she is. Any man that is secure enough to do that is definitely a keeper. My husband is always bragging on my hair, to the point that it embarrasses me, but many of our friends have wives/girlfriends with weaves, perms and lace fronts. He has known me throughout my transition from texturizer to perm to natural. He definitely prefers me natural, says it suites me. I think he might even be a natural hair snob…LMBO, he always proclaims who much he loves running his fingers through my hair without feeling any tracks and how women pay to get their hair to look the way mine does naturally.

  • Anonymous says:

    "The Man" and I have been together 6 months; he's been there since I cut all the relaxed ends off. He watches me oil, detangle, condition, spritz, twist, etc. He pulls a curls to watch it snap back. He always wants to touch it…when watching tv, driving down the street…he has more "Hand in Fro Disease" than I!

    I guess I should have known I'd be with this man because he's seen me with my hair sticking up or pinned crazily while doing something to it! You know we don't do that for ANYBODY, especially a MAN, unless we are comfortable! LOL

    Recently, I had coils in, so I hadn't touched my hair for over a week. One evening, he looked at me and said, "Hey, you haven't been messing with your hair all week. What's up with that?"

    Nuff said!

    TheRYL1

  • Anonymous says:

    My boyfriend encouraged me to do the BC after years of saying i wanted to do it and a really bad salon experience that left me sick (5 hours wet and no hot water in the salon that day). His mom wears a low fade after chemical damage and he hated the way the relax hair was lifeless and limp eventhough I went to the shop weekly. As to everyone else who said my haid was to big but now loves my hair I say shave it then fake it to you make it.

  • I Am Natural says:

    My husband loves my natural hair. In fact, he says it looks healthier than when I had a relaxer. If a man tells a woman he doesn't like her naturally, curly hair, there's probably something else going on and he's not man enough to talk about it; so he "picks" on her hair. If a man can't love you for who you really are, then you don't need to be in a relationship with him. There are lots of men who love natural hair; I just wish they would speak up more.

  • Anonymous says:

    My husband supports my natural hair. He loves the fact that I can put oil and water and go. He has always frowned upon relaxers because of the obvious damage that they can do to our hair. Besides that. He loves being with a Black women. By the way, he's Black as well.

  • Perkisha says:

    My fiancee loves my natural hair and never had an issue dating a girl who was natural prior to meeting me. He especially loves my hair loose, wild and in an afro. As he has learned more about the chemicals in perms (from watching movies like "Good hair") and read articles over my shoulder on blogs like this one, he is proud of the fact that I'm natural and encourages other women he meets to go natural, lol. He has even joined a Facebook group called "Men who love natural black women" LOL. And when we have children he has made me promise never to relax our daughter's hair. He's great!

  • Channing says:

    Lol @ Kimme0810 "Next Tuesday" that made me laugh.

    I love all these stories, esp the Anon with the hubby laying in bed ready to pic her hair lol that's too cute.

    Men can really be amazing when they wanna be huh? But I'm glad so many are so supportive of this journey because we need it from each other and them.

    My babe always tells me how beautiful I am and he can not keep his hands out of my hair, it takes some getting used to b/c when we're laying around he'll undo my hair so he can play in it and yea…that's not always appreciated lol, but I know he does it b/c he loves it and that worth messing up whatever style i had going.

  • Anonymous says:

    I've been natural 14 months and my husband loves my natural hair. He loves our daughters natural hair – especially her puffs. He prefers waves and curles to straight hair now.

  • Anonymous says:

    Here's my youtube about men and natural hair http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tyAfzzc2iiE

  • hiphopmuse says:

    I met my boyfriend six months after I went natural. He absolutely loves my curls. In fact, he can't stand when I straighten it all! I feel blessed to have someone who adores my natural curls.

    Like Love Hate Relate, this is how I knew I was with the right man because he loved me for my natural beauty. My ex hated my curls and preferred bone straight. Maybe that's part of the reason he's the "ex" lol.

  • Love Hate Relate says:

    My boyfriend of 2 years actually encouraged me to go natural after I told him I was considering it. Now I'm in my 9th month transitioning and he's has been telling me to do the BC for the last few months! But MY behind is the one who is chicken and is going to wait a little longer..lol.

    This is one of the many reasons I know he is for me…he accepts me for who I am in all facets and encourages me to be a better person. And that is so refreshing, especially considering my ex didn't do that!

  • kimmie0810 says:

    I'm not in a relationship but I "date" & I was kind of worried about men's reaction to my hair. I LOVE the feel of (clean) hands in my hair so I've never been the "don't touch my hair after the salon" type. If it gets messed up, then I'll go back or deal with it lol. So I knew the people closed to me were used to touching my hair & rubbing my head (on command lol).

    It wasn't so much the going natural part that concerned me as much as the cutting. I still wore my hair curly with the relaxer & it pretty much felt the same as it does now except now it's thicker & fluffier. But I cut off from mid-back length to TWA.

    Surprisingly (and pleasantly so) none of my male friends have a problem with my hair. I think they like the freedom of not having their hands slapped or having tracks & whatnot in the way. My dad is another story! I get my curls from him. Daddy had a GORGEOUS curly 'fro back in the day. It was HUGE! But he's not too pleased w/my hair. He passed by me at the airport & then when I flagged him down the look on his face as pure SHOCK & he blurted out "what in the hell did u do to your head?". 10months later, he keeps asking "when are u going to grow your hair back?" & I keep telling him "next Tuesday". Like I can grow it on command lol.

  • Anonymous says:

    @ b. that was "so cool" that you husband jumped up and down and grinned about your natural hair! How nice to have that kind of support from your man I can relate to that! @Caela your husband is too funny thinking her knows all about hair now…reminds me other one of my brother's and his wife…she wears a relaxer but he swears he know all about how she needs to take care of her hair. and lastly at Anonymous 1:29 the husband that a comedian I bet he cracks you up until your stomach hurts! (now when he see's women with perms he thinks there "corny" hahahaha too funny! LMAO

  • Anonymous says:

    My boyfriend is a different race from me, and so I was a little worried about what he would think when I decided to go natural. I wondered if he would think it was strange or ugly. To my surprise, the first thing he said when i mentioned cutting it was "why not, go ahead and chop it off".

    He texted me the whole time I was at the hair dresser, and I honestly think he was more excited than me. He loves it, and told me he likes it better than the way it used to be.

  • Bianca says:

    I've been with my husband for twenty years and he has seen my hair transform many times….from perm to color to braided extensions to press and curl to braids to locks…and now back to my hair…growing and healthy…

    He has always been supportive of me. My hair has always been my decision….but he love my current hair creativity…especially the bantu knot-outs!

  • Naturallyblessed says:

    My hubby loves my natural hair. He encouraged me to do it and loves my TWA. He is growing dreads and loves that we can talk about all natural products and concoctions. I thought he would be a little shocked when I cut it but he looked so happy.
    On those bad days when I am feeling down about my shrinkage, he is always telling me how beautiful I am and to enjoy the process! I love him! πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    Whoops…forgot to mention, he's my husband now. πŸ™‚ ~KF519

  • Anonymous says:

    I went natural 3 years after we started dating and my hair at the time was a little past shoulder length. I gave him a heads up about what I was going to do and his only response was "okay, but you're not going to wear it an afro all the time are you?" lol I said I didn't know. lol Neither one of us knew what "natural" would look like (on me) but when he saw it, he loved it! 4 years later, he still loves playing in it, smelling it (from all of the good smelling products I use in it), and especially loves when my hair styled in a puff. It's grown to past my shoulders again but he still asks me about cutting it short again. ~KF519

  • Caela says:

    My husband has been really supportive as I am currently transitioning. What I LOVE – that cracks me up, is the way my husband will act like HE is the one teaching me about how to take care of my hair. Like the other day we were in CVS with a good friend by the hair products, and he's like, "you know honey, you may want to stay away from the mineral oil and petroleum products, that's not good for your hair". LOL, he does that stuff all the time! It's hilarious! About 20 minutes ago, I was putting my hair in a pony and he's like, "That's not a rubber band, is it? 'Cause that'll rip out your hair!" Mind you, he has NEVER seen me use a rubber band in my hair – but he just has to act like the hair guru now that I'm all into it. I love it, though, it just shows his care and support with what I'm doing. I couldn't ask for more!

  • b. says:

    Aw wow this makes me smile! Thanks for this post!

    When my husband (boyfriend for about six months at the time) saw my natural hair, he literally jumped up and down and grinned! He said he loved it and asked me immediately not to ever straighten it again. Mind you, my 4b hair was a twa. He asked me about a year or two ago to just let it grow out (I've done it before but not to this extent) and we're both enjoying my new length. One day after a long day's work he came home and said to me out of the blue: "You know, one thing I really love about you is the fact that you aren't afraid to look like yourself." We BOTH like me to look my best, but he likes my aesthetic to be as true to my "real" look as possible. He's told me that one of two looks would really disappoint him, one of which would be a relaxer.

    I love my hair on its own, but the enjoyment grows exponentially when the man in my life loves my inside AND out. Like Anon 1:29 said, those men who aren't seeing the light…PLEASE learn to embrace and encourage the best in your lady…especially in enhancing the woman God made her to be!

  • Jenell : BlakIzBeautyful says:

    My Hubby always tells me how soft my natural hair is.

    He's been my personal photographer of all my hairstyles. LOL

    He's very honest when I try a new style and it doesn't "look as nice as others"

    He's been very supportive of my journey.

    www.KinkyCurlyCoilyMe.com

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  • Naturally Tee says:

    Although my husband is the one who encouraged me to go natural, deep down inside he has always considered my hair "nappy". Shame on him! When I finally BCed he was able to see my true healthy texture and loves it. He loves the way my TWA compliments my facial features, and even said I look "fierce". Which if you knew him, you would know that's not a word he would use.

    I think most other men don't mind what women want to do to their hair, as long as it looks nice and is taken care of.

  • Anonymous says:

    My husband is also supportive. He's the family comedian so Ive heard all the names and jokes but its all in love. He even commented that now since I'm natural other women with perms look "corny" to him. (It's his way of saying he's happy to be with someone who's different!)

  • Anonymous says:

    While there are a lot of men out here who have reservatations about natural hair there are a lot who love…love…love…it! I must admit I have definatly been blessed in this area!!!

    First of all my man was more into me cutting my hair and going natural than I was! He would periodically ask me when are you going natural? When are you going to cut your relaxed hair off? You should do it now I know you are goning to be beautiful! You black women are Queens! Yal are falling for this European standard of beauty when you all have every thing you need! yada…yada…yada…Now don't get me wrong because he was Right! but he can be kind of passionate about things if you know what I mean (Natural Neo-Nazi like)!Lol

    Needless to say he was there holding my hand when I did my "Big CHop"; He blew kisses and complimented me the whole time!:) The barber cutting my hair jumped in and told my I looked really good in natural hair and that he wished more black girl would go natural. The other guys in the shop echoed his sentiment. The day after my big chop when I woke up my crazy man was laying there with a afro pick in his hand all excited talking about baby let me pick out your afro! It was so funny and sweet at the same time because he was so serious!!lol I swear this man was more excited to play in my naps than I was!!!

    My Father, brothers, man, etc. have always given me so much support that even when I'm feeling down or bad about my hair its only short lived.

    Now don't get it "Twisted" at all because I don't have what people typically call "Good Hair" meaning 2A,or 3A hair my hair I think is like a 3c I think at the top crown of my head where its finest. The rest is definately 4A around the sides and back maybe a litte 3C at the nape its really curly there, but no big deal! But they love it!!!!lol (My man just literally told me today he wants he and I to take afro pictures together!) Now his hair is what some might define as "Good HAir" His hair is like maybe 3A very curly soft Spanish hair. However he acts like he likes my hair more than his own.

    My heart goes out to women who deal with husbands, boyfriends, brothers, uncles', or dads, etc. who don't approve or support because it can make things harder and it hurts as well!
    So if any men are reading this get on your jobs and start supporting and complimentins us Natural Beauties!!! Because we deserve it! Sorry for the long post!

  • Sonya says:

    My sweet husband has been so supportive of my natural hair, and he compliments me all the time about my hair. He supports me in any endeavor that I do. I am truly blessed.

  • Anonymous says:

    Initially my husband was hesitant, but he has been increasingly supportive over the years. In my senior of college, I BC'd for the first time during homecoming weekend. When I saw my husband (then college sweetheart) before the game, he was shocked, devastated, and palmed my head like a football! I felt insecure and went back to creamy crack :(. I've made several attempts during both of my pregnancies, but went back to the crack thinking it would be easier to manage my hair while handling two toddlers. But the fourth times a charm. I too locked myself in the bathroom and BC'd while he was gone. He was taken by surprise again, but he has completely embraced and encouraged the change. This site has been a Godsend, and I am really feeling my thick curly hair. He loves it too but at this point in my life, I wouldn't care if he did…it's for better or worse :), plus I think I'm mature/secure enough to handle my natural self :).

  • Desire L. says:

    It's not only my husband who loves my hair…I get positive love from manly strangers and co-workers! I have that 4 type hair and always do the braid-outs, and I love it!!! My husband can't stop messing w/ my hair and my daughters like playing w/ it as well. One stranger told me it brought out my "true beauty" which was cute considering that I had a face full of makeup on, lmbo!!

  • NJ Curley says:

    When I first decided to stop relaxing my hair, my husband was not happy. It was very long and straight and that was "the style" we were both used to. I did not know how to take care of my two-textured hair and as a result I wore it mostly under head wraps and it was very dry and tangled. As I educated myself visiting all the natural haircare websites I could find, I could see a change in my hair and my husband. He actually starting reading the sites with me and encouraging me in my journey. I am happy to say that through education and experimentation, me and my husband are so happy with my decision to embrace my natural hair. I no longer hide my hair and he loves when I experiment with different hair styles. My relaxed hair is gone and my natural hair has flourished and reached midback length. My husband now styles our children's hair with expertise. I am sharing my story to encourage anyone who is having a difficult hair journey and an unsupportive mate. Things will get better with time and patience. Don't give up!

  • Anonymous says:

    So sweet of a post. My boyfriend was the catalyst that started me down my natural journey. I quit getting relaxers in 2007 and just wore my hair straight until one night last year I was complaining to my boyfriend how I was tired of straightening my hair and made a comment about how my hair looks quite poodle-ish when wet. He said he wanted to see it asked why I didn't wear it curly. He said I should be proud to rock my naps.

    After much coaxing, I finally gave in and to my surprise, I loved it. It took me a minute to let him see it but when I did, he was so proud and loves it as much as me. I so heart my boyfriend for his persistence and patience with me and my hair. Real men love a woman regardless of their hair but it makes them extra special when they can appreciate a woman’s natural beauty.

  • Anonymous says:

    I was natural when I met my now husband in college. I was rocking a two-toned (dye job gone bad) TWA. Over the past 11 years he's seen me with braids, a perm (I know, back sliding) and locs (7 years). I've BCd 3 times.
    He doesn't really say what he doesn't like, but he's always given me the most compliments on my hair and overall look when I'm natural.

  • Unknown says:

    It's wonderful to read the support my fellow naturalistas receive from the men in their lives! My boyfriend loves it, especially running his fingers through it, telling me how soft it is.

    One of the first things he said when I blew it out for the first time (on my 1st Naturalversary 2 wks ago.) was "Dang baby, you have a lot of hair!" LoL Whenever I'm wearing a twist-out or curly fro he always grabs a curl and says "boing." =) I love it and definitely appreciate his constant support. I couldn't be happier!

  • Anonymous says:

    Me and my guy have been together for going on 3 years now, and the first 2 years it was wigs and perms, now for this 3rd year I've been natural, and it's been great, he's bald so I'm always rubbing and messaging his head, now he does the same for me, it really brought a new sence of intimacy to our relationship and I wouldn't change it for the world!

  • Anonymous says:

    I transitioned for two years. At first, my husband was hesitant about my going natural. He said as long as I did'nt cut it and that it would look the same as it does now (relaxed looking).

    I've been 100% natural for three months now. My husband loves my curl texture. He told me that he is glad that I decided to go natural.

    He is very observant and opinionated as to how his wife looks and dress. He is alway complimenting my curls. I don't care to staighten my hair any longer.

  • kinksncurls says:

    My husband is super supportive of me, altogether. I feel so blessed, to have a man who is there for me regardless. He was very supportive of me when I made the decision to stop relaxing, he helped me do my big chop, and told me I was beautiful when I didn't see it myself. I'm coming up on my one year curliversary and we are coming up on our 6 year anniversary. I couldn't ask for anything more πŸ™‚

  • Brianna says:

    I sent this question i think? lol..

    Its so important to show a positive side to the natural experience when so many people talk about the negative stuff. My Dad was really the only person who was hesitant about my natural hair but he embraces it now.

  • Anonymous says:

    When I decided to go natural my boyfriend was very supportive . I "BC" myself by locking myself in the bathroom and cutting my hair with 1 1/2 guard( I never transitioned) he sent me numerous text telling me how gorgeous I was. And 8 months later he stills says the same . I have thought about texturizing and even wore braids this summer until he encouraged me to rock my kinky curly coils.

  • Unknown says:

    When I first chopped off my shoulder-length relaxed hair, I was most anxious about seeing the man whose opinion I valued most at that time — my Dad. I cut it right before the holidays while I was at college, so my parents had no idea. I was so nervous. There was a long pause when he saw me, and then he said, "It's like I'm seeing your face for the first time." That really blessed me. I'll never forget that moment.

    My husband is a *staunch* supporter of natural hair. When I first met him, I was wearing a head wrap (this was back when Erykah's look was really popular). My girlfriend said to him privately, "You know she's natural under the wrap," and he was like "Say word." πŸ™‚ The rest, as they say, is history.

  • GGmadeit says:

    Thank you for sharing this article! My honey loves my curls and playing at them!

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