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Self-Concept Thursday!

By January 27th, 20215 Comments

Self-Concept Thursday!

How to Push Through Your Own Negativity
by Yvelette of Calming Corners

There are many times in your life when you stumble upon a great idea, and stop yourself from pursuing it due to self-destructive thoughts, or that little nagging, negative voice in your head. It says ugly things like “you’re crazy,” “it will never happen,” or “it’s been done so many times”. We all hear it, and too many times, listen to it. It stems from insecurities, fear, or people in our lives that need to be dropped like a bad habit. Now, to clarify that last statement, many times these people can’t be released from our lives (i.e. family members) but you must understand, their negative perception is their issue not yours, so if you get a negative response more than once, don’t include them on your ideas- talk about the weather or something. There are many ways to release that negativity so you can take that step of faith and leave fear behind.

It’s Working for Somebody – We hear many stories of people taking that chance and they are now living their dream life. They are just like you and me, they had an idea and ran with it. Now, as you read their story, it may seem as if it happened over night and life is all peachy perfect. Nope, trust me, they had an abundance of fear, voices, and probably naysayers, but their other traits triumphed- – determination, perseverance, patience, and faith. It worked for them, why not you?

Support System – This is essential. Find a few trustworthy, like minded people, and create monthly meetings to stay on track with your goals. It takes courage to live the life you always wanted, and with that courage you need the right support.

Get Right With Yourself– This is the hard part. Seeking your own truth, and being REAL about it. You must be very realistic and aligned with yourself. Create a health regimen, a personal regimen (indulge in some me time), spiritual regimen, and mental regimen. You need to stay balanced, present, and consistent with your plans and goals. We all have our down days but understand this is your life and your dream so you must take care of it and protect it accordingly.

Intuition –Trust it! Listen to that voice inside, that is the creator speaking to you. There are many times you are moved to do something and realize why months later.

Hopefully these tips will help you put things in perspective to keep it positive and productive. Now go ahead and BE Inspired!

What is your Great Idea? and What have you done lately to realize it?

How do you stay positive and aligned with your dreams and goals?


I’m doing an all call for inspirational quotes, videos, short blogs, and articles that relate to improving self-esteem, and developing a positive body image and sense of self. We’re calling it Self-Concept Thursdays! Send your submissions to using Self-Esteem as the subject line.

***In the meantime, leave your Positive Affirmations below!***


  • Calming says:

    Thanks Nikki for posting this.
    I had to reread what I wrote for a reminder. Congrats to the ladies returning to school. Anonymous you are on point. Keep your eye on the prize and follow ur dreams.

  • Perkisha says:

    Congrats to the ladies who are going back to school for what they truly desire in spite of what others have to say! I did the same thing and am happy I did! But I needed to read this because, I have been having thoughts of going a little off path of my career by writing children's books. The thought keeps coming to me and I needed to see this post to get serious about it 🙂 I love these Self Concept Thursday posts!

  • Unknown says:

    I have to push through my family's negativity about "What they think I should do with my life". I am doing what I want to co which is nursing school…everyone is not meant to be a doctor!! This is my life and my decision that I am so proud of. To encourage myself I do vision boards of everything I want for my future …a great career in nursing, healthy hair, a husband and beautiful kids, and great health for my parents and sisters!! This helps me to stay positive and motivated!!

  • Anonymous says:

    Watch your thoughs for they become words.
    Choose your words for they become actions.
    Understand your actions for they become habits.
    Study your habit for they become your character.
    Develop your character for it becomes your destiny.

  • Anonymous says:

    I'm thinking of going back to school to finish what I started years ago and obtain a license in cosmetology. Lately I've been researching schools/tuition costs. My goal is to begin school Jan 2011. Someday, I would like to own a natural hair care salon/day spa.

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