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Self-Concept Thursday!

By January 27th, 202111 Comments

Self-Concept Thursday!

Low Maintenance Beauty

by GG of Peace, Love and Pretty Things

The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak. ~Hans Hofmann

While watching Lost the other day on Netflix, I thought to myself: if I was stranded on an island for months, I would look a hot mess! No tweezers, no razors, no makeup or nail polish, no HAIR PRODUCTS?!?! The visual is just too disturbing to contemplate.

This train of thought led me to realize a few things:

* I’m always worried about how I look
* I’m more high maintenance with my beauty routines than I admit to myself
* High maintenance routines are not necessary to look good
* I want to live more simply and require less stuff

Why is it that I am always distracted by thoughts of how I look? Key word: distracted. I love being a woman and expressing my femininity. Don’t you? We want to feel good about ourselves, and part of that is looking good. But often we, OK I’ll speak for myself, I take it too far and become obsessed with my appearance and allow it to affect my focus on other things.

My preoccupation with beauty can take up a lot of time, and I’m convinced that I could leverage some of this time to concentrate on other areas of my world. My life is a constant juggling act and there are still so many more things I want to do with myself. To create the capacity for more living and loving; I need to simplify – cut back – slow down. I realize that this will require a whole mind shift, but I’m ready to work at it.

Some ideas I’ve been considering lately:

* How much time do I spend per week on my hair versus how much time I spend writing? If you follow me on my personal blog, then you know that two of my passions are healthy, natural hair and writing. I am so full of ideas and words right now. All I want to do is write, but with a day job and a family, I have limited time. With the time I was spending on my hair everyday, I could be writing and creating.

* How many times am I late to work or a function because I can’t get my hair, clothes, makeup just right? Too often, I’m rushing, I’m distracted and I’m wishing I had more time. Shifting my philosophy to low maintenance beauty will allow me to savor my experiences more. For example, I’d rather have two pair of jeans that fit me perfectly, than 10 pair of jeans that just take up space in my drawer. See what I mean? Simplify.

* How do I define my ideal outward appearance? My current response would be healthy, big hair in perfect disarray, clear blemish free skin that doesn’t get oily, having the perfect outfit for every occasion….I could go on. With this wish list perpetually on my mind, no wonder I always find myself trying to improve something about how I look. Why not look in the mirror, be content and feel blessed? I’m a woman, a mother, a daughter, sister, friend and more, and when I see myself through their eyes, I know that I am beautiful just the way I am without a lot of frills and fuss.

Developing a “work smarter not harder” mentality about my beauty routines, is just another way to be true to my current reality and keep my priorities in check. By honoring my time and spending it wisely, I’m loving myself and creating the space for new experiences. I still want to feel beautiful on the outside, because this makes me feel more confident to express my inner beauty. So, my intention is to work towards that unique balance of inner and outer energy that attracts the life and opportunities that I desire.

In what small ways, whether related to self-image/beauty or otherwise, have you been able to simplify your life? Is the time you spend on your appearance or other external factors distracting you from simply enjoying life? What can you do about it? Do you disagree with this philosophy? Why?

Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. ~Leonardo DaVinci

I’m doing an all call for inspirational quotes, videos, short blogs, and articles that relate to improving self-esteem, and developing a positive body image and sense of self. We’re calling it Self-Concept Thursdays! Send your submissions to using Self-Esteem as the subject line.

***In the meantime, leave your Positive Affirmations below!***


  • Anonymous says:

    I spend several hours usually on a Saturday doing my hair and that's it. It probably wouldn't take me the several hours if I knew how to style and part and all that stuff. Anywho, I spend that time co-washing, detangling, whatever and styling my hair. And then I'm done for the week. I have two little boys and no time to work on my hair every day. I don't wear makeup and I have those few outfits that work (pregnant) and I accessorize. When I need to get going I absolutely have to worry more about my children than myself. Surprise "accidents" and "spills" happen and I need to factor in time for that stuff. I'm still working on time management and what else to modify though because I always feel like I'm short on time.

  • Lisa Johnson says:

    Just in case anyone here doesn't read the blog Chookooloonks, let me point you to it. And especially check out the author, Karen Walrond's other blog: The Beauty of Different. She's amazing! The blog is to promote her new book and she's naturally curly too!

  • Sharmer says:

    I agree with you Nikki. I think as women we all have hang ups about how we look. Whether it our hair, weight, skin it doesnt matter. Its just in our nature as women. The key is having balance. You dont want to spend the majority of your day, or life obsessing about vanity. Its fine to work on maintaining or improving your body, but dont let it take over your life. Sometimes we have to stop and just BE.

  • Anonymous says:

    This article came up just in time. I been thinking about other goals in my life I want to pursue: Masters,volunteering, expand my social circle and get out my comfort zone w/ experiencing life.

    What's the use of being the most stylish woman with no substance. I actually get complimented on my style all the time but I'd rather people comment on my other attributes.

    great post

  • Candice says:

    Yes, I love it! This is the basis of my blog! Simplifying life, beauty and wellness.

  • Bitty Boss says:

    Perfect timing with this article! I have dedicated so much time to the internet and my hair. Although my hair is healthier than ever and the internet keeps me connected with my distant loved ones, I realized I need to take care of my bidness. How much more productive could I be if I time-limited my hair and internet sessions? As of tomorrow, i'ma start scheduling these things out. Thanks for the article!!!

  • Stephanie says:

    I'm happy to have read this article because lately I have been thinking about getting rid of unnecessary things, people and activities out of my life.
    This week I began a "no makeup" challenge for one week and so far it's going well. The first day was a bit difficult but now I'm more comfortable showing my imperfections. I just want to have an acne-free face with nicely shaped eyebrows with no makeup on. Of course, I will wear makeup again but occasionally.
    @Anonymous: I agree with you, I also spend too much time on Facebook instead of living my life..this is why I decided to start focusing on my life and spending time with loved ones more.
    @BKniki: thank you sharing this article.

  • BKniki says:

    Sorry,you have to actually copy and paste this link in your web browser to read the article,clicking on it won't take you to it.

  • BKniki says:

    This is a must read article called, "THE TRUTH ABOUT BEAUTY" from the Psychology Today magazine.It is a must for women to take care of themselves,but to what extent? This article puts things in to total perspective. Click on this link:

  • Anonymous says:

    This is so on time! I came to the realization that I spend WAAAAY too much time on FaceBook (looking at everyone else's life instead of working to create my own), obsessing about my appearance, and working harder not smarter. I DO NOT want to be the woman who wakes up 5 years from now, still not living the life I desire.

  • Tiffany says:

    You are so right. thinking about how long it takes me to take care of the superficial things kind of makes me cringe.

    Peace, Love and Chocolate

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