CN: Were you a long term or short term transitioner, and why?
E: I was a long term transitioner. I travel a lot from Los Angeles to Mississippi and the African-American Hair world in the West and the South is a “Tale of Two Cites.” After living in Los Angeles for 5 years, I noticed that hardly any Black women were perming their hair! And even though they weren’t perming and relaxing, that still didn’t keep them out the beauty salon every 2 weeks. West coast women were addicted to getting their hair pressed and flat ironed. While I did notice their hair to be in better condition then women in the South, I decided to hop on the “No-Lye” train. So, I was pressing this mane of mine and wearing weaves throughout the year. Well, it wasn’t until September 2010, after I had taken a 3 month old weave down, that I made the decision to go natural. My “anticipated” BC date was December 1st, 2010.
When did you BC? What was your initial reaction to your natural hair?
I BC’d, Saturday December 4th, 2010, HOWEVER, I had to basically start all over 17 days later. Initially, I cut it myself and it was so uneven and unshaped that I had to get it re-cut… so…..Tuesday, December 21st, 2010 is where I start my actual hair journey. My reaction (the first time) was….um….didn’t really have one. I cut it, went to sleep, woke up feeling light as a feather. Now, the second time…I was mad, pissed, but satisfied. My aunt cut it the second time, and she cut more then she had to so…(but low key, I think she purposely put some bald spots in my head).
How did family and friends react to the new you? What was your response to them?
This is an easy one…EVERYONE HATED IT! But the funny part was, EVERYONE knew that I could give two cents who liked it or who hated it. My best friend in college told me I was ugly. She was about to cry… that’s how much she hated it! My mom is supportive and everything is always “whatever” with her so her crazy self BC’d the night after me then had braids put in the next morning. My ex told me I look like someone from “Good Times”, my cousin told me I’m ‘trying to be a white girl’ by washing my hair everyday. OH, and everybody tells me I need a line/edge! I keep reminding them that its not a style! So, all in all, everyone HATES IT!
What was your transition routine?
Half Weaves (bangs out). I always used heat protectant when I flat ironed my hair. But I don’t recommend half weaves when transitioning. That hair that has been flat ironed/pressed will be a different texture than the natural hair that hasn’t been exposed to heat. Try to transition with full head weaves, braids, wigs, etc.
How did you moisturize your hair to prevent breakage at the new growth line?
No gel! I used Vonte Silk Effects. Most Beauticians on the West Coast use this on edges. It’s some pretty good stuff. No flaking, No drying, but don’t hold all day either.
Why did you choose to go natural?
I had one main reason for going natural. “Long Term Business Move.” When I was in the entertainment industry a few years back, I would always get compared to a certain well known actress. It wasn’t a bad thing but it wasn’t helpful either. And although, I never tried to look like this certain actress, I did strongly resemble her, so I decided that before I enter back into the industry, I’ve got to create my own identity and that’s what I’ve done. I BC’d December 21st and I love it, love it, love it! Can’t wait til it grows out…OH, and since the BC, I haven’t heard one person say “Oh my Gosh…you look just like…..” I love it! 🙂
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In the picture with the long hair you look average, just ok but the big chop twa, YOU LOOK STUNNING!!! Just gorgeous!!
You are absolutely gorgeous!!!!!!
Are they kidding? You are stunning! I'm honestly offended that someone had the audacity to tell you otherwise. I know people tend to respond negatively to change, but there is absolutely no denying that you are STUNNING whether you're rocking long hair, short hair, chemically straightened or natural. You look fantastic, girl! Usually I don't like to comment on these blogs, but your story was worth saying something. Best wishes to you on your hair journey. It certainly encouraged me to continue with my transitioning.
Well honey child! I think your gorgeous I dunno what your friends and family are seein but im seein straight FIERCE!
I cannot believe your friends' and family's reactions! I think you look absolutely stunning after your BC, and I'm not just saying that. Your eyebrows are perfection and the haircut just draws more attention to your delicate features and beautiful smile. Rock on!
Kendra
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Beautiful, simply beautiful!
I am always amazed at how others feel they have to voice negative thoughts when it comes to others. If someone does something it is for them–if you do not have anything nice to say, shut your trap, arrrgghh.
She looks more like Vanessa A Willims from Soul Food the tv series. Second would be Gabrielle Union, IMO anyway. Your BC is nice and you look gorgeous!
Wow, I thought you looked like Vivica A. Fox (before she started looking busted…)
Anyways, your BC is lovely and you look gorgeous!
I think you look beautiful
You look absolutely beautiful!
Girl you look fabulous forget about the negativity beause you are fly so do you. But I agree with the tale of two cities bit…lol I grew up in the south and go to school on the east coast and the views on hair, look and style of it is so different it is crazy
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You look gorgeous with your hair cut! I have to give props to those who can BC to a low hair cut as I don't think I have the face for it.
BTW, I was thinking Little Kim (black dress photo) and second Gabrielle Union. I still think more LK, but I guess it's Gabrielle since you said an actress. 🙂
You all are so freaking dope for your comments and support! We all share a bond like no other and I feel like I have a new family! Thank you all for your encouragement and support! Mo' Hair!!!
The short hair accentuates her facial features.Simple and beautiful.
I also BC and my friends hates it your right it doesnt matter what they say at all its all about whats make me happy and besides my family supports me all but my dad he thinks something wrong with me.
You look awesome in short hair. Rock on!
I think you look ABSOLUTELY stunning!!!
Beautiful!
I agree, thanks for sharing! You look amazing!
Don't pay them any mind – my family was about as supportive as a bunch of rabid dogs on a kitten. It was probably just a social shock. Your family will come to appreciate your beauty. As for the boyfriend —as anon 6:27 said – that's why he's your ex!
I know this will sound childish….but I guess thats why hes your EX! lol! you have to be commended on your confidence and stunning beauty. Thank you for sharing your story.
Be careful with Line ups because when some folks do it your hair doesn't frame your head naturally.
I like your hair and I like your attitude about it. Refreshing.
If you can, just drop anyone who brings negativity and lack of support for how you chose to live, love, style and profile. Your ex sounds like he has his head screwed on backwards. You are beautiful and so is your hair! Good luck with the new professional ventures.
I live in L.A., have been natural for ten yrs (was natural when I moved here a few yrs ago). I don't wear my hair pressed or flatironed at all. And, thankfully, have never had a weave.
Most of the sisters I see out here are rocking janky, dirty looking, very fake weaves. I could not believe the alarming rate of it when I first got out here. It is awful and rather disgusting to smell dirty hair vapors emanating from an uncared for weave.
On a more positive note . . .
It's nice to see a very fresh face with a totally natural look repping for L.A.!! Thanks!!!!
You are gorgeous and can probably pull anything off well, but hats off to you for staying positive despite the criticism, most people find that aspect of going natural very challenging. Its sad that your friend was so attached to YOUR image that she CRIED, good lord, she must really LOVE you in the SWF kind of way, lol…
She was definitely compared to Gabrielle Union. I had to look twice.
You look absolutely stunning!
I love the hair, I love the eyebrows! You work it!!
Besides..which actress are you compared with? And what does line-up mean?
Girl you look to fabulous!
I think either Gabrielle Union or Melinda Williams
Who is the actress she was compared to?
I can totally identify with you on the reactions I got. I BCed June 2009 and the first thing my boyfriend said was that I needed to get a line up. I was so pissed at him. You look amazing.