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I Big Chopped- MusicLovesHer!

By January 27th, 202117 Comments

I Big Chopped- MusicLovesHer!

CN: When you first chopped, what were your thoughts and feelings? How do you feel now?
M: My chop was at least 4 years in the making. I dealt with my own insecurities of thin edges, my families concerns about becoming too radical, and a host of other concerns. I began transitioning and that process lasted for about 6 months. Finally one day I was tired of the two textures. I spoke to my husband and his response was “Do it, I think you’d look fly”. That night I called my hairdresser told him what I wanted to do and set the appointment for the following day. My husband and I chopped my hair that night so I wouldn’t chicken out 🙂 I felt so free. I still feel free and beautiful. I am getting slightly impatient and ready for it to grow out a bit more, but there’s nothing like coming home from a long day and standing underneath the shower and letting the water run across my scalp without worrying about messing up my do.
I Big Chopped- MusicLovesHer!
How did you cope with the responses of family and friends?
My husband, sister, and best friends are my greatest support. My mother and father are another story. On a recent trip back home to NC, my mother commented “Why does it look so peasy, do you have to wear it so peasy?” I responded that this is how my hair is supposed to look. My father refused to cut it for me when I was wearing a brush cut, stating that he “wasn’t going to cut any daughter of his’ hair”. As far as the rest of the family. Whatever, lol. I soak up the support and repel the negativity. But most have been very supportive.
What are your plans for your hair? Do you plan to grow it or keep it short?
I plan to grow it. A major reason I decided to go natural was the versatility, especially with length. I’m going to allow it to grow and perhaps BC 8-10 years or so and do it again! I get bored easily.
I Big Chopped- MusicLovesHer!
Do you find it necessary to doll up to look more feminine?
Yes. I’m a pretty feminine gal. I worked for a cosmetics company throughout college. Funny enough when I cut it my hairdresser said, “Keep your eyebrows done and nice earrings on. With this cut, if you forbade those, you run the risk of looking like a boy!” Makeup is my favorite accessory. I definitely patron Sephora and MAC more than I used to. I’m virtually inseparable from my Spiked Eyebrow pencil.
How do you keep it moisturized?
I love Say Yes to Carrots for my daily co-wash, it leaves my hair feeling extremely soft. I’m currently really bad about Deep Conditioning though. That’s a new years resolution. While my hair has been fairly resilient and grown despite the lack of a DC regimen, I know I cannot accumulate length doing what I am doing.
What products do you use to style it? How often?
I use Beautiful Curls daily. I love it! A little Eco-Styler on the edges. Right now it’s a little too short for variation.


  • charnele h. says:

    Love the first picture! Do you co-wash your hair daily?

  • Unknown says:

    Finally! Someone who big chops AND shapes up their hair!

  • Anonymous says:

    Your hair/cut look great! 🙂 ~KF519

  • Ms. Sassy says:

    I love your confidence and positivity! It is really great that you have your husband's support as well and you are tight…forget the rest! Go girl!

  • Natural sisters says:

    Absolutely beautiful…thanks for sharing, you are definitely an inspiration..keep inspiring

  • Anonymous says:

    Your hair is beautiful! Not everyones face is shaped to fit that hair cut but it looks fly on you girl! Gotta love that supporting husband!

  • MusicLovesHer says:

    Oh and yes Breanna. I do my eyebrows myself 🙂 From tweezing to filling in. I'm kinda cheap and don't believe in regularly paying people for things I can do myself. 🙂

  • MusicLovesHer says:

    Awe Ladies Thanks so much for the love. The BC is such a huge step. Its wonderful to have site sites like this to encourage and further the quest of chemical free women of color 🙂

  • Anonymous says:

    I think all three styles look great. You can really work some short hair girl!!!

  • Anonymous says:

    MY GIRRRRRRRRRRRRL!!! Lookin oh so gorgeous! SO GLAD YOU POSTED YOUR BC STORY!!!!!!!!!! 🙂


  • Duchess52 says:

    You look absolutely gorgeous!!!
    Congrat's on the BC and thank God for husbands like yours

  • GGmadeit says:

    Absolutely Stunning! Your pictures took my breath away! Work it!!

  • Cryssieg82 says:

    You look beautiful. I love that your husband supported and pushed your naturality!

  • Breanna says:

    I actually picture (3) the best, the hairstyle really suits and frames your faces just right. On (1) you could be mistaken for a guy from the angle that the picture is taken. But you are very beautiful and I'm definitely feeling those eyebrows. Do you do those yourself or have them done professionally.?

  • Shakirah says:

    You look lovely! Kudos to your husband too. Btw, looking at your pics…NOTHING could make you look like a boy! You have spectacular features.

  • Anonymous says:

    loving the new hair…

    congrats on the BC 🙂

    and Thank God you have a supportive system surrounding you

  • Anonymous says:

    Well you look beautiful with your hair short. You're very pretty. Don't let the negative comments get to you because you'll be the last one laughing for sure 🙂 They'll come around…..they always do 🙂 Great husband. Nice to have good support.

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