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Natural Hair Support System

By January 27th, 202130 Comments

Natural Hair Support System
Jennifer writes:

Who supports you?
The quiet confirmation my best friend offers and the loud declarations of my mother both provide me with confidence in different ways. When I take to heart the reasons for this, I am more motivated than ever in my journey.

Who is your quiet confident and loud cheerleader?


  • Anonymous says:

    My sister, line sister, aunt, and boyfriend.

  • Julissa says:

    my husband is my number one supporter…

  • Anonymous says:

    My suppport comes from my sister in transition and myself. Plus, all you beautiful curlies too!

  • Kimmie0810 says:

    I'm my own support. I can't be bothered by what other people have to say (positive or negative) because everybody has SOMETHING to say and I can't let that steer me from my what I'm doing for myself.

    I like this forum and a few YouTube channels and that way I can pick and choose my "support" as far as tips and ideas. Otherwise, I look internally for it because I'm the only person having to deal with me and my hair. There's too much negativity out there to care what others think

  • Anonymous says:

    My husband is my loudest cheeleader. When we met i had a cesear and the only thing he asked of me was to grow it out, now I have locks and he's quite happy, he even helps me to maintain them by washing and latch hooking them for me.

  • Carmella_G says:

    I have to say that my boyfriend is my biggest cheerleader. We're only 18 AND he's not even African-American, but he just GETS it. :) He gets that my hair is heat damaged from flat ironing and loves my hair curly. He loves it when I try new styles. And he loves that I'm trying to grow it as long as possible :) He's always hated weaves and thinks they're gross. lol But he loves that I love myself just the way I am… better yet, he loves me… just the way I am. :) <3 I love you Lino.

  • Anonymous says:

    My sister and my best friend. I love them both, but my bf has been my biggest cheerleader between the two. She always tells me how i'm her inspiration :)

  • Bianca says:

    My husband definitely!…He loves my hair no matter how it looks!…
    I wore my hair in a knot out New Year's Eve and it shrunk up with all my dancing an d sweating…my hair shrunk up so much I was upset he didn't tell me it did that!…He said He liked it! He always likes it…what a blessing!

  • Anonymous says:

    I am blessed to have a few big supporters in my corner. My man is very supportive, telling me how he loves a hairstyle and even smiling when I wear a big free afro (even when i know he is not too crazy about it). My closest friends are very supportive also. They always give me compliments even if I am not so sure about a style that I am rocking.

  • Anonymous says:

    This is my 2nd and last time transitioning and on this go around my current boyfriend has been my biggest cheerleader. He has been so encouraging along the way, and has made me feel good during times I have been at my wit's end! He always says he can't wait to see my texture and is always playing in my years's worth of new growth…lol. He keeps telling me to chop it now, but I'm the one who's chicken and am going to wait a few more months.

  • Anonymous says:

    My mother and husband.

  • Porchia says:

    My quiet confidant is my nephew, Elan. He never gave me strange looks after my BC. He would just smile and touch my TWA. :) My loud cheerleader is my husband. He thinks that I have never been more gorgeous as I am with natural he calls me his African queen, and constantly comments on how my hair accentuates everything (facially) he already loved about me.

  • ...Shalaya... says:

    My mother is the biggest supporter I have in this journey. I'm currently transitioning (8 months!) and it's hard. She is a major help when I feel like I'm about to go get a perm. My boyfriend is a help too with encouragement…but no one beats my mom lol.

  • embracingbeautiful says:

    My husband is my biggest supporter…he says he's proud that I am sticking it out and "bucking" the system, he's such a clown because there is nothing political about my going natural, just extreme damage…everyone else is like uh…ok…yeah, hmmmmm…wow, WTF, no comment!

  • Jazz says:

    My husband and family (well most of them :-)) are my biggest supporters! My husband has especially been a big part of my natural hair journey and confidence in it! He doesn't know it but his quiet acceptance of my newness has helped me to continue on without any doubt.

  • Anonymous says:

    My husband is my biggest cheerleader and supporter. For a few years he has been telling me that I should try going natural and I would always tell him, I like my relaxers. Well… I am 8 months into my transition and this Friday, Jan 28th, I am BC'ing. My mom is a natural and she also supports me.

  • Anonymous says:

    My family is very supportive. My sister and I have gone through the transition together. I am on month 10 and she is in month 13. She plans to bc next week. I am trying to wait until March. My mom has been natural before but she did not transition. We have been on many great websites like this one and those have been very helpful. My best friend has been natural for 2 years now so I have around me that are supportive.

  • Anonymous says:

    my biggest cheerleader and supporter is by far my husband!! He buys me headbands and conditioner and if it gets too late at night he says HEY get in there and condition and twist your hair or you know it wont be dry in the morning. When I feel my hair looks awful he tells me I look beautiful and he loves my curls and is so glad I got rid of the relaxer. He even watched Good Hair with me (twice) and watches youtube videos with me. I really appreciate him for that because its helping me get through the tough times when my hair doesnt look so hot!

  • Breanna says:

    To anon at 2:11pm

    Target will take back any of the MJ products whether opened,used or not Believe I know I've tried 3 of their products and returned back because of smell or didn't like how it made my hair feel. I got my money credited back to my credit card in 2 days.

  • Breanna says:

    Me, myself, and I support me personally. I get compliments from some family members, but often times their not sincere. You find out later that they didn't like the style but will lie to your face in a heart beat. I'm like come on and be honest with me, because I will tell you if I don't like something or not. Believe me my mouth has got me into alot of trouble at… But even though it may be nice to get compliments from friends,family,strangers etx. It basically comes down to you since you are the one paying and using products to make your hair do the best that it can be.

  • Anonymous says:

    Oops. I posted a comment meant for one of your other articles. Sorry!

  • Anonymous says:

    Nikki, I'm sorry it didnt work out for you. Maybe you could return it to Target. Tell you had a severe reaction?? (Your pocketbook broke out in a rash) lol

    Anyhoo, Miss Jessie's sells some small sample size products ( like 3 oz), so if you get the urge to give them a second try, get the sample . I think they cost 6 bucks. At least they used to. Good luck

  • caracara says:

    My sister who is a fellow natural, cheers me on and I tell her about the latest products and style techniques. I even send her a Hair of the Day Pic. When new products are a fail for my texture, I always pass them on to her.

    Last summer when we got together, we took pics of ourselves and our daughters-all natural and beautiful.

  • Fuzzypuff says:

    My biggest supporter by far is my husband. He loves my natural hair, and even draws pictures of me with big poofy hair and leaves them for me to find throughout the house. LOL My family isn't thrilled with me being natural, but he continues to remind me that my hair is beautiful the way it is. *tear*

  • The Chocolate Loveliness That Is Fraña says:

    My husband is my biggest cheerleader. He loves natural hair and was stoked when I told him I was going to love my hair the way God made it. He's always complimenting me, he even held my hand mirror so I could see the back of my head when I did my BC the day after our wedding 4 months ago. Wet, dry, coily, picked out, no matter what the style he loves it. My friends, and play siblings support me as well. I thank God I have so many supportive people in my life. My chruch family and curly girl friends are also supportive.
    It's easy to look at my hair and smile even on the bad days because I chose to love myself no matter what on July 12, 2010. But I will be the first to admit, having people around me that have always loved me unconditionally makes it even easier to do.

  • GGmadeit says:

    My BFF is and I can't forget the CurlyNikki Forum, my online family!

  • RoseofSharron says:

    My boyfriend loves it! My sisters and my mom are big supporters as well!

  • Courtnee' says:

    I am lucky because my entire family supports me. My mom and little sister are my biggest cheerleaders and both want to remain natural because of me.

  • Naturally Nita says:

    I've been very blessed to have a great support system. My girlfriends have been very supportive and are my loud cheerleaders. My quiet confidants have been the gentleman I'm dating who doesn't say a lot all the time but his compliments are always right on time & my father. My father was my biggest concern because of his very traditional views on long hair and a woman not cutting her hair. But when looked at me after my big chop and said my hair was beautiful and asked me not to get a relaxer again, it meant more than he will ever know.

  • Reign says:

    When I first started going natural in 2005, no one really knew so I had to be my own cheerleader. As time passed and I began to wear my hair out, most of the people who helped me to maintain confidence was the kindness of strangers and others who liked my hair. Now everyone in my close circle gets it, and support what I am doing. I have gone from being helped to aspiring others to go natural.

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