*Method Man responds, giving us the ‘real deal’ about his comments.
Thanks Jad928 and Dayna for the link!
Check it out HERE!*
Thanks Jad928 and Dayna for the link!
Check it out HERE!*
Originally posted on 2/2/2011
Submitted by Annie L.:
I found a new video of Method Man ‘discussing’ his views on natural hair on youtube. It’s pretty interesting and wondered if the CN community would find it interesting as well.
CN Says:
Ummmm…yeah. In the words of Tosh.0., ‘I think he needs a web redemption.’
Oh Method Man is still around? I didn't know he was still making music. Learn something new everyday I guess…
PREFERENCE IS JUST ANOTHER WORD FOR DISCRIMINATION! STOP GIVING PEOPLE THE POWER TO USE THE WORD PREFERENCE. HOW WOULD IT SOUND IF I SAID I PREFER DARK SKIN MEN MORE THAN LIGHT!
No, our preferences did not develop in a vacuum and yes, for decades the standard of beauty on T.V. to magazines was of European features but having said this it is still sooooo very wrong to intellectualize everything in this context. I think a black man should be able to like straight hair without having ít be about his deep rooted issues with our heritage. Seriously, you seem to suggest that all men of African American descent should like natural hair because then and only then will that mean there is no underlying
b.s.. Honestly, I want that too BUT I'm realistic and secure enough in who I am that I really do not care what % do and do not.
And I do find it interesting that you called my reasoning disingenious when you are clearly the one with views that you are applying to black men in general because of one man's statement. And yes, I'm sure that there are more like him out there with their own reasoning but again, I'm secure with myself not to let it get to me. There will always be a Method Man mentality for whatever reason and because he got a little press the issue is more than it needed to be.
Lets agree to disagree. You continue to analyze every guy that likes straight hair and I'll continue to say "his opinion/preference" will never matter to me because I have a man that loves my hair and all the men in my family, life love it too.
1. I did not say "fro." A "fro" is a style. Natural hair, as I am well aware of, can grow in a variety of types and styles and no, I know that it CAN be naturally straight, but I think it's disingenuous to try to use the rare exception to disprove the larger point. That's like taking exception if someone referred, in the context of a discussion about European oppression, to black people as "darker-skinned." Sure, there are some black people who are lighter than many Europeans, but by and large we are darker and this still results in a very widespread pattern of discrimination. And my point was not about black women who prefer straight hair, even though it still – in my opinion – is almost always related to Eurocentric beauty standards IN SOME MANNER. My point was specifically about black men who prefer their women not have the same type of hair that they themselves possess, especially in the context of EVERY SINGLE OTHER RACE OF PEOPLE IN THE WORLD allowing their womens' and mens' hair to be the same texture without significant social consequences. And this, apparently, somehow still doesn't strike you as peculiar, especially in a negative sense. To each their own. I still think it reeks.
2. My point about the way things were 1000 b.c. was clearly about how the very recent invention of the perm altered the ideals of beauty and the EXPECTATIONS of what beautiful black women in our society look like today (which is by default now NOT wearing the hair that comes out of their head, and that's effed up IMO). It was not a general remark that "everything should be the way it was 1000 b.c." and I still can't understand where you got that idea. The context was specifically defined and elaborated on. I can't explain it any further to you.
3. See my response to point 1. I'm going to just hazard a guess and say that the vast majority of people's hair who are of African descent is decidedly more curly, coiled, and kinky than the vast majority of people who aren't, to the point where, for all intents and purposes, it can be reasonably seen as a defining African characteristic. You're welcome to argue otherwise and continue to look for reasons why it's not. I just don't think we'll agree here. This is a basic premise of my opinion (that African hair is not naturally straight) and if you want to use the exceptions to disprove my point, you can, but I don't think it's a valid counter-argument. Most of us do not have straight hair, yet many of us (and our men) prefer it that way. And apparently you want me to believe that has NOTHING to do with a skewed beauty standard for black women (relative to our natural characteristics and other races). I'm not buying it. I can't rationally make myself believe that it's just a sheer coincidence that straight hair is the overriding "preference" simply because "it just is." Again, I think it's an oversimplification at best, extremely intellectually disingenuous at worst and our "preferences" did not develop in a vacuum.
Courtney,
Your post came from an almost factual, anthropological perspective and since you want me to address what you said here goes:
1. A person preferring characteristics that are not in someone's DNA makes you confused, right? Well, that line of thinking would mean you are confused with every relaxed woman because clearly she prefers what is not in her DNA. Again, some of us are not our hair.
2. You are suggesting that because something could not have been preferred 1000b.c. that it is somehow wrong now to prefer it.
3. I wouldn't really equate changing a persons facial feature, like Asian eyes, to hair. Hair is dead, can be cut and re-grown, changed and etc.. Eye shape, well. And MM liking straight hair is also not equvalent to a Native American preferring only blondes. Clearly, the latter would suggest that he is possibly looking outside of his ethnic group whereas MM's preferrence does not.
3. I am not going to answer your question because really, I believe that is a matter of perception. I have never felt scorned for my hair and perhaps it is an issue that each individual needs to address for themselves because you cannot make a blanket generalization like that as if it were everyone's truth.
The standard of beauty may always be changing but that doesn't mean it hasn't almost always been unrealistically Eurocentric for black women since the Atlantic slave trade started. The rest of your post is putting words in my mouth. I never said every natural black woman had a fro. I never said what was normal millennia ago should remain the same today. If that's what you took from my post, then you completely missed ALL of my points in their entirety and I really don't have anything else to say until you go back and actually comprehend the points I was making.
Courtney… The standard of beauty is always changing. Just like Black women nowadays want straighter hair because they themselves deem it to be an attractive attribute like Caucasian women who get implants to have rounder/fuller bottoms and lips. Is it wrong for a Caucasian or Asian man to say he prefers kissing luscious lips and likes round bottoms? And furthermore NOT every Black woman that is natural has a fro and contrary to popular belief a great many Caucasian women have hair that is thick, with a curl pattern that is not bone straight that they blow dry and flat iron to make straighter.
To suggest what was normal a millenia ago should remain the same is really nonsensical. We wear clothes now and not loincloths and grape leaves over our privates, we shave body hairs from places we no longer deem fit to have them, we workout to maintain an ideal standard of weight and we are constantly using toothpastes to make our teeth whiter. All that can be considered good hygiene but
some men like women who are purist. That is to say they like women who are all natural, do not shave and do not wear perfumes and deoderant. Now, if you ask me that is the true human state and EVERYTHING else we do is based on cultural/societal norms as well as our own personal choices.
What you are also suggesting is that every Black woman that has straight hair is not really not a true representation of what a real black woman is. Seriously? I am not my hair. So, what you now want to define us by our hair too?
The only thing Method Man was correct in saying was when he said his opinion doesn't matter. I have to say I agree with that!
When someone expresses a "preference" for someone to have a characteristic than is not in their DNA… I get a little confused. Black women wore their hair naturally, without issues or social repercussions, for MILLENNIA before the perm was invented. There wasn't really a such thing as an African man "preferring" an African woman with long silky hair in 1000 b.c. That's like an Asian man "preferring" that his woman have round eyes. That's like a Native American man "preferring" that his woman have blond hair. It just doesn't. make. sense. You can talk all day long about these allegedly innocuous "preferences," but at the end of the day… I still smell the overwhelming stench of b.s. If white womens'/Latino womens'/Asian womens'/etc. hair can be the same hair texture as their mens' without any social consequence or scorn, why are black people the exception?
Sure. It's just a "preference." Keep telling yourself that.
METHOD MAN WHO(THIS SELF-INDULGENT POTHEAD)? HONESTLY THIS IS THE OPINION OF SO MANY MEN OF COLOR IN AMERICA. WHY DO WE CARE AND WHY ARE WE SO SENSITIVE ABOUT EVERY BLACK MAN'S OPINION?? ENOUGH LADIES!
I don't know how he was until this video…guessing he was an old artist.
Everyone is entitled to their opinions, and its not right to disrespect people because of it [I'm not saying any of you ladies are, cause I'm too lazy to read all the comments]
He only said afro and dreads. I guess he doesn't know there are other natural hair styles.
But I believe natural hair is beautifulness, and I'm transitioning.
Who cares??????
I wouldnt give him the time of my day, either.
and…
He apparently doesnt love his own peasy naps or his mother's.
Method Man is a joke. He had an afro when he first came out. He was wearing one in his very first video for the song that goes "I came to bring the pain…" (I can't remember the name of the song). In fact, in that video he braided 1/2 of his head in conrows and the other half was an afro. So for a man who once wore his hair natural to now say he doesn't like naturals is just plain crazy talk or a joke. Either way, who really cares what Method Man thinks? I don't!
Whatever method man…. The only black man opinion I'm concerned about is my husband's. and I loved when he said he liked my twisted hair. I'm rockin those twist right now!
It was just an ignorant statement. I think that what he really meant is that he doesn't like hair that is unkempt. I hate that initially he seemed to make a generalization about all natural hair as being "peezy". But I don't really care what Method Man thinks about my hair. I cannot even believe that it's gotten as much attention as it has.
Is it just me or does the man who does not like Afro, have Afro type hair growing on his face and out of his head… I'm just saying…
For everyone who dismisses MM's statements as either insignificant and/or not impacting your life – who do you think is greenlighting the films naturals don't get cast in? Or creating the editorials and covers we're passed up for? Or hiring candidates who have 'nice hair'? Maybe those people aren't MM but last I checked most industries are still predominantly run by men who probably regard naturals the same way he does, "peasy" and 'undid'.
The male perspective on our hair ultimately matters, and so does the White, Asian and Latino. Naturals don't live in a vacuum, self-love is our greatest asset but another is challenging negative stereotypes about natural hair, expanding the mainstream to include our versatility as a viable option, and, while respecting the right of all to like or dislike our/their hair, also reserving the right to put them on blast.
BTW… I agree with others, he has the right to share his opinion…I don't like dudes with "peasy" facial hair (not saying he does), but it makes me itch, I don't like dudes with a mouth dirtier than a port-a-potty…I don't like..well yall get the point…we are all entitled to our opinions and we should feel "free" express them with tact and respect!
I think the issue is his accountability as a famous entertainer. Regardless of his opinion about natural hair…all that profanity and ignorance on the radio show makes him appear disrespectful and rude. He is an example to all parents to monitor what your children hear and see
I think he was just joking around with a friend, its not that serious!
I really am a fan of Meth. It is his opinion and he is entitled to it. His follow up with BT was hilarious. I think we should care more about what we think. Stigmas will always be there. I'm new to the natural hair game and honestly, some days I don't like it either. But, I've committed to it. Having had hair down my back a short while ago and several male friends to tell me to grow my hair back, I've also committed my thought process to the realization that a different "type" of man will probably be attracted to me now. My mother doesn't even like my natural hair. But, I made this change for me. Therefore, no one has to understand.
LOL Who gives a hot d*mn
Nikki, how about getting Method Man and Himay10nence (the lady whose video was featured in the previous article about Wash nGos not being so easy) together for a hoot? That would be hella funny.
Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is more important than the judgment we pass on ourselves.
~Nathaniel Branden
Really I had a celebrity crush on him back in the day. *kanye shrug* I'm natural, I like it, he's not may man, so who cares what he thinks? his opinion doesn't matter. #truth Odds are I will NEVER be close enough friends with im for his opinon to matter, so…
http://wpgc.radio.com/2011/02/04/method-man-responds-to-the-big-tigger-morning-show-about-not-liking-women-with-natural-hair/
his interview with Big Tigger about the whole thing.funny thing about the whole thing he says he didn't know he was being taped.don't know how true that is.loool
He has a right to state his opinion…and excuse me: I have the right not to like him and state it. He doesn't get special consideration. He opened himself up to criticism(good or bad) when he posted that video. I'm done. Moving on to more intelligent things in life.
I knew he was joking around. You could just tell by the way the conversation went. Watching that video is like walking in in the middle of a conversation: you don't know what preceded it and you don't know what happened afterward. So, I think people should leave men alone with their preferences, whether they are celebrities or not, they are human and they have choices!
I STILL THINK HE'S SEXY!
it's his opinion, i still like him though…. it is what is…ladies why are you so upset. why does it matter if a man likes your hair or not or doesn't find you attractive…everybody has preferences and he wasn't disrespectful he said it matter of fact so just chilllll 🙂
It is stupid to me also…
I don't seet he big deal. I am natural and I don't like afros either. I love locks sometimes…IT IS HIS PREFRENCE…EVERYONE WILL NOT LIKE WHAT YOU LIKE…
method man doesnt like my natural hair *tear* because that's exactly the kind of man i like, a broke down, washed up ignorant rapper, who's high 99% of the time, has 10 kids from 10 different baby mamas, and can't string a grammatically correct sentence together to save his life LOL…all joking aside, everyone is entitled to their opinion and it sucks that society is so stuck on one perception of "beauty". Even though it can be hard at times to break away from that perception, i think we all need to establish our own definition of beauty, no matter what anyone else thinks. As long as i like it and im happy, then im good
We CARE because this is an important issue. It's not important that Meth has an opinion on it, but it's important because it reaffirms that natural hair is STILL not viewed as desirable according to many black men and according to larger society. If all of this wasn't important there wouldn't be wonderful sites this one or thousands of youtube videos on natural hair or hundred of women feeling confident enough to "go natural" or songs like "I Love My hair" on Sesame Street or radio shows like NPR talking about the "I LOve MY Hair song. THIS IS IMPORTANT!
I find all the "who cares?" comments hilarious!
…um…apparently you do!.lol
CurlyYo
So what your saying is Meth's opinion doesnt bother you but peoples opinions about his opinion DOES bother u…??
comedy
Terri,
I don't care what Method Man or any other random man that is not in my life thinks about natural hair. What I do care about is when I read negative comments about Method Man because he said what he said. He is entitled to his opinon wthout his "blackness" being questioned. Seriously, did you miss that point I made.
I also care when Blacks/African Americans react in a strong way to another African American for just sharing his OPINION on something that is really a matter of taste.
I never said I don't care about anything.
Caringly,
CurlyYo
Curly Yo
I am not trying to be funny here, but for someone who say she doesn't care about this video, you sent a rather long response to those who did have feelings about it enough to respond. So, on some level, you felt enough to make a statement.
Respectfully,
Why do you care so much about how others react to it? It is, afterall, their opinion.
Thanks
Terri
Ridiculous that this is even a topic here. I thought this site was dedicated to natural hair and helping women with natural hair cope. Why would anyone of us actually be hurt because one man said he didn't like what we are all here supporting one another about ie. natural hair? WHY? Anyone upset over this needs to realize that no one can make you feel small, worthless or unattractive without your consent. If this hurt you in any way, shape or form then you have given this man consent.
I saw the video and thought nothing about it. I did find it amusing at the end when the young lady said that she wore her hair specifically in an afro because she knew he didn't like it. Good for her! And good for him for being man enough to know what he likes! One of the main questions asked on this forum of new naturals when they are interviewed or submit their stories is: "How did your family and friends take it?" and many of us have read how initiallty unsupportive the parents are, friends and etc…
Natural hair is a journey for some, a way of life for others and something to try out for another. Even though it is what is natural to us, it still can be changed in many ways just like our face. Had he said he didn't like women with make-up or fake hair, or straighten hair, or those that wear tons of perfume than to me that would have been the same. He knows what he likes and I bet if there was a woman he loved that decided to eventually go happy, he would probably support her. So, stop tripping and get back to being about you and not about what someone says in jest.
And also, it never ceases to amaze me that EVERY time something like this comes up African Americans question someone's blackness or deep rooted self hate… I mean give me a freaking break! I have always despised the fact that we are quick to say that we are all not a like, don't think a like, look a like and etc… because we don't want to be judge as a whole AND YET as soon as someone has a different opinion or take on things then they are in the wrong. Which is it???????? You cannot have it both ways. Either we celebrate that we are all different, with different views and respect that or we buy into the fact that we should all feel the same way about every topic!
Wake up and stop making mountains out of mole hills. This video means nothing except to those who want it to mean something. Posting it all over the internet and giving it credence does not mean Black men hate natural hair… nor does that video by that rather VERY ignorant chick ranting about her hair mean that all of us with natural hair are even remotely like her.
AishaSaidIt is totally right.
The classy thing would be to just apologize for unintentionally offending people. Instead he's all up on the radio like rahrahrah get off my d*&k.
Anyways of course there are race issues at play here. The world we live in–the world we inherited from our parents and grandparents– is shaped by racial biogtry and a history of hate. I am as eager as anyone else to move beyond but acting like race doesn't exist and that it doesn't affect the way we think, talk, and behave solves nothing.
I wasn't "mad" at what he said. That's his preference and everything isn't for everybody. If a man isn't into natural hair, then he's just not for me. That's the way I look at it. I can't get upset everytime someone voices an opinion and dislikes something I like or something I am.
We need to grow up and get thicker skins about things.
Can someone tell me what "peasy" means? That has been bothering me! Lol.
Someone mentioned in an earlier comment that we should not start stating that white men appreciate natural hair more than black men based on this. When did this become a race issue? I dunno. I don't think it's a matter of white or black… It's a matter of accepting your own hair to the point that the comments and opinions of random men don't matter. I will say that my husband happens to be white… and while he LOVES my hair in its natural state, I guarantee he would let me know if he thought a style I decided to wear looked a hot mess to him. And I guarantee that if I really had my heart set on wearing said style, I'd rock it whether he liked it or not! We all have preferences. When are we just going to just leave it at that?
I agree with him 100% on why does his opinion matter? I wear my fro b/c I like it THE END.
Yuck… what a strnge lookin guy-very oily looking.No conversation. I see nothing pleasing about him. He's a peasy looking guy. And it's not "get hair did" (can't even speak) Bore!!!!! I'll take Denzel and more intelligent brothers anyday.
This is not a racial issue, but is more distressing when disdain for natural hair comes from a brother- PRECISELY BECAUSE THEY HAVE HAIR LIKE US. It IS a preference issue.
I am not interested, AT ALL, in men who do not find my natural hair attractive and I am also not interested in tying to "educate and enlighten someone who has hair like mine, trying to get them to see the wonders of our soft, lovely fluffs. It is very interesting, because I have had men try to holla and heard them talk about natural hair. I've been natural for 11 yrs. and often wear my hair in a big bun. I guess some of these idiots dont realize what is natural and what is not, but when I let them know that I am natural, throw down the bun snd show them the luscious, you should see them scramble and backup like a Louisiana crawfish. TOO LATE! Not trying to hear it. Maybe that's not fair of me, but it is how I have decided to roll. When you show your a– to me once, I take you at your word. LOL
Have you ever had a boyfriend that said something sideways and then tried to cover it up by saying "I was just playin"? That's what I was thinking when I heard the "My Bad" interview. Don't get me wrong what this man thinks really has no effect on my/anyone’s' personal life and/or decisions. But I don't see anything wrong with the overwhelming force that responded to the original video. It says and shows a lot in a world where "going to Africa" or "Your Africa is Showing" statements are jokes (ahem…Tigger). I'm sure the uproar over such a small statement shook Method Man's high, otherwise why the second interview. And maybe some others will watch what they say as a result.
For those stating that they cannot see the video, you can search "Method Man natural hair" on YouTube and pick it up there.
After watching the video and listening to his response on the radio, I do not see what the big deal is. Instead of worrying about what Method Man said about natural hair, why isn't anyone focusing on the fact that many are allowing this to be another WEDGE driven between black men and women. There is someone for everyone and I do not believe that becoming offended, justifying his "opinion", or even passing this on as news is even necessary. I'm over this already. But I just think that some folks are taking this whole thing too seriously.
okay we all made comments about what we do and don't like
for instance…
wouldn't date him he is too short or
this man is not cute at all but his cousin is fine
have u ever laughed at someones voice or style or how they act…yeah we all have at least i know i have
so…why get on his case?
He sounds really ignorant and immature. I guess everyone was justified in their reactions. initially i thought he was being given a hard time. He is very defensive. MAN the EFF UP! You said it, it was on tape now live with it. I do agree with him when he states why do people care what he thinks and spending so much time talking about it. He is irrelevant.
As naturals we are way to sensitive about other people's opinions. He has the right not to like a "peasy" afro. Heck, I haven't permed or straightened my hair in years and I don't like to see "peasy" afros. How many of us are attracted to men that are balding, have braids, afros, or a "Freeway" beard? It is just a maintenance preference. So if you prefer to wear your hair in a "peasy" afro, more power to you, just cross Method Man off your celebrity crush list.
1. This is Method Man…who the @#$% made him an authority on anything??
2. Is this really something to get in a tizzy about? Is it any different than when a man says he doesn't like weaves or some men say they would never date a woman with rockin' a bald head even if she had a Beyonce, Jennifer Hudson, Amber Rose or J'Lo (whatever preference) body?? Ladies, is this any different than when we say we don't like overly large men?
Its all a preference and when each of us took this journey we knew our style was not going to be loved by all. Its growing on people, but overall its not the norm.
3. His choice of words to express himself may not be kind, but who cares, hes probably high!
oh. now that method man doesn't like natural hair, i'm going to go out and get back on the creamy crack. psych. who cares? he's not worth it and i'm not interested in that kinda man in the first place.
Its sad people care what "ONE" man feels ROTFL at yall right now! We already know EVERYBODY is not feelin the natural hair thing so please take a chill pill, be secure in yourself, know that you're beautiful and keep it movin! I mean seriously its one person not an authority leave ol dude alone lol
I'm not offended because he doesn't like natural hair. I'm offended because that fool said he likes women that get their hair "done". That IMPLIES that natural women don't do anything to their afros and dreads.
So we just gonna go around saying whatever we want, offending whoever we want? Um that's called anarchy.
I'm not upset at all if he doesn't like a woman with natural hair. I just heard his response video, and he stated that he didn't know he was being recorded on camera. Looking at this video, he CLEARLY knew he was being recorded. I'd have more respect for him if he stood by his original comment.
LOL @ Method Man's response. The original video was a conversation that was between him and his friend and he later clarified that he was joking. Whether his original comments were sincere or not I'm still a fan. It's his opinion. And no one's opinion of my hair or anything else about me is going to make or break me. I'm glad that he did respond to comments he received about his opinion. I don't think that everyone who doesn't like natural hair is self-hating against black people or brainwahsed. To each his own.
That his preference. Everybody isn't going to like natural hair
If he wanted attention, he should've dropped a sex tape.
Method mans response to the video.
http://wpgc.radio.com/2011/02/04/method-man-responds-to-the-big-tigger-morning-show-about-not-liking-women-with-natural-hair/
Emma G, I love you! WELL SAID!!!!
Who cares what this ignorant negro thinks, really ladies? I never cared for this ghetto buffoon even when he was in his 'so called' heyday. I don't know if I am looking at the same video, but I think calling him fine is a crime, because he is NOT. His thoughts or so called 'opinion' has no bearing on my natural hair, and I will continue to wear it PROUD.
okay…and we care what he thinks because…
DO YOU ALL THINK THAT THE WORD PREFERENCE IS JUST A COVER UP? I MEAN RACIST PEOPLE USE THE WORD PREFERENCE TO MAKE IT SEEM OK THAT THEY FAVOR AND CERTAIN RACE OVER ANOTHER. SAME THING WITH HAIR.
BLACK WOMEN, PLEASE DONT SAY THAT WHITE MEN ARE ACCEPTING OF NATURAL HAIR MORE THAN BLACK MEN JUST BECAUSE OF THIS FOOL! METHOD MAN PROBABLY SAID THIS TO GET ATTENTION BECAUSE HE IS A "NOBODY"
who cares what meth thinks with his fine self
*proceeds to stick out tongue* besides i dont do guys who are always high…so take that clifford smith! 🙂
hilarious.
Plp have preferences, and have opinions. not surprising.
This is not a maturity or confidence issue. I don't think anyone loves their hair any less because of people like Method. But that doesn't mean we MUST stand by and let people like him speak ill of OUR hair, which is also his.
Who keeps asking for random folks opinions on natural hair? Somebody obviously, but not me. I didn't need anybody's approval when I was relaxed, why would I need it now when I'm natural? Enough already, some like it some don't, so what. Let's move on from this.
couldnt see the video, but judging the comments heres what I have to say:
remember he is an simple (VERY simple) man that has been conditioned since birth to crave light skin, silky blonde hair, thin bodies. He has know inkling of how beautiful african american hair can be. All his simple mind can see is that our hair is the complete opposite of what is considered desirable (straight long hair) so he associates it with bad.
Black women here in America haven't been taught to really care for natural hair it seems. Not all but most. LETS CHANGE THAT. So we wont have to hear anymore dumb comments like that of Meth in the future. So that in like 2020 Black hair = soft long big bushy hair with curls and kinks. and not Black hair = short and nappy. NO no more of that shiiit
Gurl Mick couldn't have said it better
Oh Please! Method Man tried to talk to one of my GOOD friends (around 1999) and she’s been natural for 15 years. I’m convinced this a publicity stunt…
I have not seen the video but my opinion is "who cares". From what I know of this person he is not very intelligent or admirable in any way.
Saw the video this morning and witnessed a good looking, laid back black man express a common view of black women's hair. Not a very big deal. But on the other hand it is a big deal because such a view is more than just a matter of preference. Please pause for a sec and think about how much time, money, and energy has been put into making blackness seem inferior, degraded, and ugly over the last few centuries.
Righteous indignation at comments like his can easily morph into self righteousness and vanity. So I don't know. Method Man, where u at?
I really don't care what he thinks but that's probably because I don't value his opinion nor do I want to. no dis. just real. I may feel some type of way about his remarks (which I haven't heard) if this were someone I admired. Bashing is bad and negative. no bueno. If he's not bashing then we just accept that this is another opinion about natural hair and move on
Wow, if I have to wonder about whether someone is sober not before taking what comes out of their mouth seriously, I'd rather not even be around them or act like they even exist. He is a grown man allowing himself to be interviewd on YouTube. This wasn't the club on Saturday night. Nonetheless, he is entitled to his opinion. I take him at what he said. He likes weaves, relaxers and straight hair.
I don't see the big fuss over his comment. He is one man with his own opinion and personal preference of what he's attracted to. However because he is SO HIGH in the video, I wouldn't trust he knew where the hell he was or who he was talking to. In my opinion his opinion don't count. Next time anyone wants to get in an uproar about a Black man's negative comment about natural hair, make sure that Black man is coherent (sober). He couldn't explain why he said what he said. I think Meth is a wonderful lyricist, however in his current state of mind, I wouldn't ask him how to 'make a PB and J sandwich'…smh
He doesn't like natural hair?. What in hell is growing out of his scalp,..Silk? What if I as a sister were to say I don't like black men whose faces are shaped like bulldogs with nostrils all over their faces?. To think one of us gave birth to that trash! That's alright. Run but you can't hide. Your 'natural hair', super-flared nose and ingrown facial hair will follow you wherever you go. That's all i got to say. Ahem!
Anon 7:17pm
If that's true, it is sad that many a bro would flee in fear of a powerful fro. Education level, income earning potential and career status are already scaring the hell out of many of them, so I guess it's believable that a big ole fro would be like Halloween for some. LOL!!
Personally, I think it takes a courage for Method Man to express how he feels about natural hair, but it takes an even stronger man to embrace a natural woman. Most of the women I know with natural hair are strong and confident, a lot of men are intimidated by it. If I'm not swayed by mass media, smooth lines, or games of course your not going to be interested in me because I am not going to be interested in you. I like Method Man for keeping it real, but I love a man that truly understand what real is in life and in a woman. Just my opinion and food for thought. LLP~OGC
Mef may just be afraid of getting his peas locked up in someone else's. He doesn't have to worry about that if his woman keeps it on the straight and yaki.
Give the bro a break.
Why was the video taken down. Geesh, just like he was entitled to his opinion people were entitled to expressing their differing opinions about his "views". I don't think anyone said anything negative. People need to stop being so sensitive. We can debate, have different opinions and thoughts and express it and still have MAD love for one another. I still like Method Man, his music was HOT during my time in college. He doesn't like the natural hair, okay, so what – that's fine.
@anon.301 u hit it on the nail with…sending Mef a Yaki package and wishing him well! Lol I LOVE IT!!! BENT OVA IN LAUGHTER!
I saw this video earlier and didn't think much of it! Method Man has his own opnion, no matter how narrow it maybe! Feel bad that his wife has to live up do a certain stereotype that he has defined a woman to be!! Glad my husband loves me no matter what. I have been natural for over six years and he has always been supportive!
…just saw who Method Man is…I so do not want to know anything he has to say about anything…so I count it a blessing the video has been removed!
let's see…from the comments I have gathered that Method Man is a hip-hop rapper and doesn't like natural hair.
Never heard of him til reading this post. So, I guess the purpose of this was to have a black man's opinion of our hair.
Well, since the video aint working, I guess I won't ever get to see how handsome he is unless I google him.
And as far as a black man's opinion, I get it daily from my husband who absolutely claims to hate natural hair…until he sees my twist-outs and then AWE STRUCK SILENCE from the beauty of it all!
I agree with those other comments up there…men don't know what they like til they get something they never had.
Natural hair is a mystery. And every man likes a little mystery. I am speaking from my own experience.
We can wear it straight…even if it is only one day for some of us.
We can wear it braided or twisted.
Then undo that and that is a braid out or twist out.
We can do a puff or fro or wash n go.
MMMMmmm hmmph…we got it like that.
…just going with the flow…complete random comment.
the video is gone!!!! Nooo i want to see
well I planned on going back later to check out the video but it's been removed. Sounds like I didn't miss anything but a bunch of negativity anyway.
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Is anyone actually surprised by this??!!
I mean, look at where Method Man is coming from. This is what he sees,this is what is valued among who he associates with. Of course, he would gravitate towards non-natural hair as his standard of beauty. We should mail him a Yaki care package and wish him well. Don't be uspet because he doesn't like the style you have chosen for yourself. You are still lovely!!
I cant find the vid can someone post a link?
Can't see the video, but I'm assuming that he doesn't like natural hair? Synopsis anyone? Thanks!
Wait! What motherfather is asking Method Man for his opinion and then taking the time to tape it and upload it to YouTube? Wow, could you reach back any further? Anyone know what Kool Moe Dee is up too?
Um, he should be someone to talk! I remember him clearly back in his Wu-Tang days rocking afros and half done cornrows in their videos. I vividly remember him in the "All I Need" video with Mary looking like hew was in the middle of a Youtube frohawk tutorial.
wow all the negative feedback must've made sweetma4life take it down…that was quick…i saw it this morning, and i didnt get the hype…its just a preference…i dont like limp relaxed hair, or light skinned guys, or guys with braids FOR ME…stop acting like you've never expressed a negative personal opinion on appearances…he wasnt bashing the natural community, just saying what he doesnt like…im sure every1 doesnt like a lot of stuff…
I love my natural hair and the natural hair community…however what I can't stand about our community is how defensive we get when someone has a preference that isn't natural hair. I thought we were suppose to all be confident in ourselves, ladies? So why talk so bad about Method Man for simply stating his preference. Hell, I don't like a man with cornrows or a jerry curl…doesn't mean that I hate myself or have self hate issues, or that I'm ignorant. Grow up!
I wasn't able to watch the video. Julissa
eh I'm not offended. He said that he like women with their hair done that alone shows me his ignorance that comes with his opinion.
He's entitled to his opionion and preference. I,myself, prefer intelligent, articulate, well-groomed, educated, clean cut, successful men who speak English clearly and articulately. I also like men who can compete in the real world and do well when they match up to any other man, not the "make-believe, I just can't get a job in the real world, fantasy land of rap."
So, he definitely would not be MY type.
Moving on . . .Brushing my should off and picking my biga– fro
I refuse to watch foolishness. My mantra is ignore ignorance. Why does his opinion matter to anyone but him? Perhaps he should invest less time in Youtube and more in the studio.
LMBO! I love these posts because I get a good hearty laugh. And laughter is the best medicine! But, really. It's his opinion! And it's fine with me because he (and other men like him) is definitely not my type… at ALL! Uh, I prefer men like my husband who truly work their butts off to make it. For instance, my husband is a few months away from graduating from pharmacy school. And he already has a job lined up. I am so proud of him! And… HE LOVES MY HAIR! lol! So, Method Man can have his opinions and his "thug life". To be honest, I don't listen to rap or hip hop or whatever genre his music is categorized as. Give me MUSE, the Strokes, Alice in Chains…etc. 🙂
i'm not going to bash him or anything, but i am disappointed. and that's cool. he's allowed his opinion, so i'm allowed to be disappointed by his opinion.
@~Poeticlyspkng: "For the most part- I don't like when black men act like we have different hair than them or that they can walk around "peasy" but we can't. Shut up with that foolishness."
Chuuuuuuch!!
im not really concerned with what he thinks. it doesnt affect me. i did want to hear what he had to say because i thought it'd be a little more detailed. but ehh my life continues lol
My husband wasn't a fan of afros, peas, naps or locs on females…until me. You never know what you like until you have it for yourself.
Also…Mef says that he didn't like afros and locs, that doesn't mean he wouldn't just adore a bantu knot-out, braids or twists.
@ Anonymous, 11:21
You said it!!! I completely co-sign with you. What's to be mad about?
Yeah, who really cares? There are things about his "type" that I don't like either. I'm sure that if went on You Tube and said those things about black men, it would ruffle some feathers, so whatever floats his boat.
He can have his opinion about natural hair, and I'll have my opinion about "thugs."
It's his opinion and he is entitled to it. I am not about to bash him, his music or his ideals because it is contrary to what I believe. Differences are what makes the world go round. Maybe there is a lack of education or he was brought up to think a certain way just like women were brought up to think that perming and having long flowing straight hair was the way to go. He is married to a black woman and she goes to get her hair done.
My hubby was concerned with how my hair was going to look when I announced that I was going natural, but totally fell in love with it once I started going through my process and rocking different styles. Meth could feel like this for the rest of his life even if he did see something that he could say looked nice. And ok, it's his opinion. Do you and keep it pushing. We have to stop getting so angry every time someone's opinion is contrary to ours. Is it going to stop you from being your natural beautiful self? No..then keep the positive vibes going.
It seems to me like they were joking around. Clearly he likes her. There was no contempt or anything in his face or voice. it's his choice. I don't care. My man loves my hair, so I'm good lol.
Who cares what he thinks? Is he even still relevent? When is the next album? He doesn't like natural hair and I don't like a grown 40 yr old man still trying to look like a teenager and can't articulate a better response than a 10 yr old boy.
Well, he was married. Think he still is?? His wife was battling breast cancer about a year or 2 ago and he was mad at Wendy Williams for putting it over the airwaves.
For the most part- I don't like when black men act like we have different hair than them or that they can walk around "peasy" but we can't. Shut up with that foolishness. I'll say this- Method Man is often high. He seemed so in this video. I'll attribute his ridiculous views to the wacky, the herb, weed, whatever… Let's ask him again when he's sober. In the meantime- I will assume he doesn't mind a press and curl and keep it moving.
I'm with Mick. He does look good. Umph, umph, umph….but yeah. He doesn't like natural hair SO WHAT! His opinion, he's entitled. Not really sure what the purpose of that video was to be honest.
I don't care what he thinks about natural hair…
F*ck Mef… i'd much rather hear what Cornel West has to say about my hair than some self-hating, mysogynistic rapper that commodifies hair oppression.
I wasn't surprised at all…. A lot of black folks(both male and female) in general have let their interpretation of what beauty is (both body image and hair), be influenced by the mainstream….
Thin with long straight hair has always been status quo …We are making strides with sites like CN but it is going to require a lot more educating and "deprogramming".
@Mick – LMBO!!!! You are wild!!! I agree with you 100%
And who is Method Man???
And I care because….
Yeah.
I'm with everyone else that said that they weren't surprised by his comments. He can wear his hair naturally nappy (i.e. You're All That I Need video w/ MJB) but he doesn't want his woman looking like that. He probably doesn't date black women anyway. Who cares…he wouldn't be my type even if I had relaxed hair since obviously his focus is on being high all of the time.
@gs: You made me LOL!!! I guess that I shouldn't be surprised considering the source. It was a bit strange seeing that on this site but it will be impossible for me to get too down about this – all of the happy and positive vibes that come from the posters on this site will drown out him out.
Oh yeah…One more thing…
He still looks good!
Oh darn. Method Man wouldn't want to be with me because of my TWA. Boo-hoo. 🙁
You know…I'm tired of this entire conversation. Who cares if Method Man doesn't like afros or locs? I wasn't feeling the white contact he rocked in his earlier days. Ay yo, "Mef", I didn't like your last release!
If he DID like it, I still wouldn't care!
Men don't know what the hell they like. We will continue to drive ourselves crazy molding ourselves into their vision of beauty! At some point, women have to stop looking to men for affirmation of ourselves and our beauty.
I will always be a Method Man fan!!! I don't see anything wrong with his honesty!! As we all know, not everyone views natural hair as a positive thing! They don't think like we do and truthfully, many of us naturals thought the same way at some point in time in our lives.
I appreciate his honesty, but it doesn't move me at all. If anything it makes me want to continue on with this grow out challenge so I can have one of those "she's blocking my view" type of fros!!!!!!
Oh Method Man. That's why you got hit in the head with a beer bottle on stage. Maybe if you had an afro or dreds you could have 'protect ya neck'instead of rocking a black eye.
Come on Son. This is so disappointing. And I was all set to have a really nice day. Yet another reason why hip-hop isn't as hot as it used to be. And "keeping it real" really means keeping it fake. And they wonder why they aren't selling as many records.
That's why I listen to soul music. At least they have natural hairlines. If you want to make your money continuing selling bullet-proof quick weaves, silicone booties and dog food lyrics to white people, that's your business.
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Totally not surprised. But hey, can't be mad. It's his opinion. And he does need a web redemption nikki! I love Tosh.0!
I love meth but, I can't say that I'm surprised..