Ladies, it’s been one of them days. I woke up angry (which means tears… I don’t get mad, I get sad), running late (per usual), left Gia’s doctor’s appointment without checking out (another story for another day), nearly cussed out a waitress (for good reason, trust me), and have surely driven my poor husband crazy (pulled everything out of the closet, for good reason, lol). The best part… I don’t even know what’s wrong! This is so not me… I’m usually very cheery… sickeningly so.
Ugh.
I came home to finish the Search & Destroy mission I started last night, and ended up chopping off about 2 inches (+) all around, leaving me somewhere between collar bone and arm pit length. I was planning to go shorter but was stopped by (1) my husband who took the scissors and gave me the side eye, and (2) the thought of not being able to bun… nothing scarier!
But I’m so loving the idea of a *true* bob…

**Edited to Add** Hubby called upstairs and said a box was just delivered… from Huetiful. YAY!
It’s also kinda hard to stay angry when I have this munchkin smiling at me all day 🙂
I found the clip on YT….too funny! Hope you have a better day!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XiuFYbmwp9k
love that Katt Williams reference!
lol…my lil sis used to wake up mad and I'd ask her "geez, what'd you have for breakfast this morning, Carnation Instant "B!%#h"??"
funny…til mama overheard one day!
wishing you better days!!
thanks ladies 🙂
@Monika, come on over, I got enough Shiraz for you too!
@Chimmy, girl the Tangle Teezer gives the best simulated blow out… hope your ends are still happy.
@Kathleen, girl, my problem is I get tempted to chop off the ends of the twists, lol.
@butterfly3000, shut yo mouth. The day I come in here and tell y'all I'm preggo again… LAWD. Not yet! The thought (fear) has crossed my mind… I'm actually due yesterday or today. Where you at Aunt Flow?!
@NaturallyChelsea, I cut off quite a bit, but it's not a bob… not that short. It actually doesn't look much different. I'm in twists (after a roller set) and when I take them down, I'll snap pics!
@Shake, hey girl!!! Bad day today? ugh. Sorry. LOL @ being punk'd. I felt like that yesterday at Olive Garden. I couldn't believe it. I'm thinking I'll pick up some of that DT mask from walgreens soon. Need to find one that carries it!
Ohemgee Nikki,
Story of my life (today though). Don't even know what's wrong completely but I do know that I feel like I'm being punk'd. Baby G is sooooooooo beautiful! She looks more and more I like you every time I see a pic! And fyi sheamoisture products are BOGO at wal-greens until april 2nd!
Am the only one dying to see the bob. Where is it Nik?
This happens to me just about every month. Seriously I need to be on Yaz again because I do take my frustrations out on my hair every hormonal chance I get sometimes to the point where I consider relaxing my hair (CooCoo for afropuffs right …) I definitely feel you. This too shall pass.
Uhhmmm…..you might wanna go get a pregnancy test kit from the local pharmacy. Hope your Tuesday is better though. Bet the bob is cute.
….goodness! I was beginning to think I was the only one that has days like this – and I'm not even a mom yet. Gia is BEYOND BEAUTIFUL by the way.
When I'm frustrated with my hair, I put in small two strand twists and leave them in for a few days – by then, I've usually calmed down – otherwise the shears would come out and all my hair would be on the bathroom floor 😉
I was so frustrated one day with my hair not being able to stay moisturized, this was about a month ago. So I went crazy, I grabbed my tangle teezer and went to town on my hair. Before that I was trying to put some twists in my hair so that I did not have to think about my hair. As I was working in my hair, I just snapped and thought about how dry it's going to be soon anyway. I used the tangle teezer to brush out all of my hair. I did not even do it gently, I did it old school and brushed as hard as possible. Next thing I know I have an amazing blowout, I calmed down. It was really beautiful and for some reason very soft. I know I definitely damaged my ends from trauma, but it was really pretty. I did not know my hair was so big yet. I did not let the fro last because I had calmed down and decided to give my hair some love. It was fun venting, and I hope I never get so mad at my hair and begin to cut it. I hope if that does happen, I wont find the scissors lol.
Signin in to the bad monday late, but I totally understand you. Must be crying monday all over the world. Sigh……hand me the shiraz plz, if there is something left. Actually I wear my hair in the HoneybrownSugar-cut and-like it. I am still able to put it into a puffy ponytail, but bunnig is not possibe at this length.
I am still undecied whether to grow it longer again or make an appointment at the best hairdresser in town soon.
Nikki, I really hope yyou feel better…and if not, that, too is ok. No superwomen around here, that is a relief. Women are not perfect. Life is. Take care and feel hugged :-).
Thanks so much ladies! It's a new day… we'll see how it goes 🙂
And yes Anon, I'm still in it to win it (Re: Kim Coles Grow Out). Despite the title, the GOC is more about healthy hair… big hair even 🙂 I'm actually doing good with my goals of eating better and organizing my time. I'm back in a bun and trying to leave my hair be!
Hope you're feeling cheerier soon Nikki!
Baby G is gorgeous and has made my morning!
and oh yea, don't feel too upset about having a bad day or a bad moment sometimes stuff happens..
No. I don't take my frustration out on my hair, I usually head over to Ulta and purchase a new eye shadow or lip gloss. This year I am trying to take some of the focus off my hair. Nikki, u changed your mind about being part of the KimColes grow out challenge?
The first line of this post just literally made my night (so glad to know that I'm not the only one that just cries instead of getting extra angry).
Taking my frustrations out on my hair is what got me shorter hair in October and the BC(though I kinda hate calling it that) last month. Kinda my way of taking charge of SOMETHING in my life. =)
Try the bob! It really must be something in the are because I had a horrid attitude today…to the point where someone even mentioned it!
I just colored my hair for the first time and had it cut to get rid of those annoying SSKs, but I'm going to grow it out so I can wear the bob. I rocked that style while transitioning.
Everything will be better tomorrow.
Yes, I do take my frustration out on my hair because I tend to ignore it. HoneyBrownSugar's bob is gorgeous and will look great on you, i love all the bob styles it is just a great hair style. But I hope you have a better day than yesterday even superwoman is allow to be human at the end of the day. You have a great support system so don't stay down to long girly, especially with a cupcake like Gia cheering you up
I've taken my frustration out on my hair about 3 times, I regretted so much. First, I went came back to relaxers and tried haircuts twice . Nowadays, I'd rather eating because it's easier going on a diet than waiting till hair grows or gets healthier lol.
addendum–l broke my wine glass, spilling the last of my pinot, and found out my rent is being raised.
Lol.Thanks for posting, I needed a laugh. I shed a tear today too. The job I prayed for is a nightmare, I barely can get out of bed in the morning. I'm missing be part of a ''we'' cause I don't want to rehash monday madness, I just want to have that person that already gets it. And to top it all off, pms meets homesickness. I relocated for better financial opportunities but now Ihardly have time to see my family. Tomorrow is another day. Just needed to get that off my chest. cheers nikki. I'm too chicken to cut my own hair, I unleash my frustation at the gym. 🙂
Aww, Nikki… Sorry you had a bad day. I know that feeling, just waking up angry/sad. And I am usually NOT. I hope tomorrow is 100xs better for you. Shoot, looking at the pic you posted of Gia cheered ME up! She is so adorable. Enjoy the Shiraz 😉
awww…sorry you had a bad day! i soooo feel ya! tomorrow will be better and you can't stay mad looking at baby G! She melts your heart every time you see her! 🙂 Enjoy the beverage!!!
Hey Nikki I had my pre-menstrual meltdown last week. And today I made my Godiva's run. So, yeah you're allowed to be you. Just watch the Shiraz, don't want you to relax too much. Maybe some aromatherapy might help. I rely on lavendar for serenity. That and the Psalms.
Peace and Greetings from NYC
Ok Nikki- I was just about to shut my computer down for the night, but something told me to read your blog. How ironic that you had a crazy Monday, cause I spent half of my day in court over an expired tag, I can't even begin to tell you how frustrating my day has been, let's not even talk about me having to run out in the middle of court to put more money in the meter, only to find out that I had to move my car to a parking gargage, then run back to court, only to get out just in time to fight 5'oclock Atlanta traffic 🙁 I then came home and had to jump back on the computer to finish some work before I go back to work in the morning. I was almost in tears, but I took a deep breath, made me some blueberry tea (my fav) lite a candle and turned on a little Karsh Kale (Indian/hip hop) it settled me down. So I totally feel ya, and don't take it out on your hair, trust me i was at that bob look a couple of months ago and i'm so glad it's finally growing out- do a faux bob to get ur fix 🙂 Buenos Noches!
Yes. I definitely take frustration out on my hair and it is never good. I just asked my husband last night if it would be bad for me to cut all my hair off. I'm in my final semester of nursing school and I'm tired and frustrated with many things. My hair being one of them since it is very long and demanding. I want to grow my hair to my hips and I'm about 6 inches away, but I am just so busy, the thought of doing my hair makes me want to scream. I do scream in my head, mind you. All the time. Anyway, I feel you on wanting to go to town with the scissors. I think it is very therapeutic to do something so drastic. I believe I would have a feeling of pure joy if I were to let this head of hair go, but once I graduate I think I would regret it immensely. Just put your hair in a bun and call it a day, or a week…however long you need to get over your hair funk.
Picturing your husband saving you from yourself by taking the scisors…lmao! Tommorow will be better, no doubt!
sorry you had a bad day 🙁 when I had my son my hormones were so out of wack, i was always down, always upset or sad about something. being a mom can be tough on so many dif levels when your a new mom. plus your super busy, that adds to the frustrations. I ended taking an anti depressant to help with my post partum and ive been feeling great. my son is now 1 and things arent as frustrating as they were in the earlier months. youll be ok! things will get better! :)-sophia
Curlynikki…you are human and allowed to have a bad day every now and then. Honestly, I get like that sometimes and as much as I CANNOT STAND to admit it. Those moments happen when it's three to five days prior to, "Aunt Flo." coming to town. Now don't get me wrong, people will do some shiesty stuff that justifies them being told off but I noticed that when those hormones are at their peak, my 'cuss out' session is more intense and electrified LOL. Or it's those moments that I get sad and want to cry. I too, usually wake up with a full smile, so happy and ready to take on the world. Those hormones happens to the best of us.
Yes, I just took my frustration out on my hair about 45 mins ago. Cut a couple of inches off- not anywhere near even though, lol. Too many knots from too many wash n gos because I don't have enough time to do my hair. Argh!!! I'm ready to cut it all off. Hope you have a better tomorrow, Nik:)
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Oh the life of a woman aren't we amazing creatures! Superwoman ain't got nothin on us (in my best Denzel voice)My nephew is a year old now and my sister still flares up from time to time 🙁 Take it all in stride and love your little gilr and please don't chop off your beautiful hair like Angela Bassett on Waiting To Exhale lol please
Hope you feel better hon 🙁
Look at them cheeks, I just want to pinch them! haha
Confessions of a Purse-a-holic
I think the bob look would definitely work for you, but be sure you want short hair before you chop it all off. I hope you're feeling much better! Baby G would cheer up a grumpy old man.
gia has to be the most precious little gumdrop i ever did see
Aw Baby G is getting so big and too adorable!
P.S. Take care and if that feeling continues, it could mean post-partum depression which can stay hidden for months. Take care Nikki and don't overfill your plate, you're a mommy now.
Aww hugs babe! Every woman and/or mom has had those days. I get off at 12 on Friday if you and Baby Gia wanna hang out for lunch. Oh yeah that bob would look oh so fierce on you. I am thinking about getting a bob when my hair get a little longer.
I'm going through the same thing, so you are not alone. I have an 8 month old and I swear since 5 or so months, my hormones have been all out of whack. I feel like I can't control it, so I just warn my husband and try not to act up too much. I'm mad at everybody.
feel better Nik!
and yes, I'd love some Ihop. Had some yesterday, they messed up my order and now I have a free meal… that I may use tomorrow 😉
I think it is hormones anon. At least I hope so! and thanks for the advice 🙂
CurlyKye, that's Katt Williams! 'you angry at breakfast? You gangbanging on bacon?!'
This is the 1st post I've read from you like "this" since you've been blogging…you're human & entitled!
Sending hugs & love your way!
(Doesn't this type of day make you want to have a "pregnancy-IHOP" craving?)
😉
The title if this post is hilarious cuz I'm still scratching my head like Huh?!What?! *heehee*
Hi Nikki,
Could it be hormonal? If so, I've been there. Hormone levels do fluctuate following childbirth. If this is the case, don't isolate yourself. Talk to someone. Also, please don't make any decisions regarding your hair when you're in a bad mood. You'll probably regret it. Wait it out and if you still decide on a haircut, I'm sure you'll look fierce. You can rock just about any look:-) XOXO.
the good thing about having a bad day is it's almost over….AND you said it best,.when you have that beeeuuuuteeful baby girl smiling at you how can you stay mad!
Must be something in the southeast air cause I have been on the verge of tears all day…although I know very well why my day is not going well. As you said, there is always tomorrow. Besides, it's nice to get the reminder that you're human every once in awhile; "Superwoman" status is so yesterday! 😉
moodindigo7772 aka Jada07
Thanks Michelle and LLP~OGC…
@ Anon 7:26, *cheers* I'm off to pump, so I can pour me a glass!
I wonder if it's my hormones? I've been feeling 'off' for the past week or so. I'm never moody like this. It's driving me crazy.
I felt the feeling the same way today. My hair was a fuzzy mess :{ HoneyBrownSugar's bob is the BOMB, though. And…..I will take a glass of Reisling, please!!!!!
Nikk, I'm sorry it was a rough one for you today. Sometimes it be like that girl. But you are so right to say, "you can't stay mad with the cutest babygirl Gia smiling at you". She's just a doll and gets cuter by the minute. Have a better one tomorrow, okay?
Later Gator.
Allnatural1 (A.K.A. Michelle in TX)
Love the bob look. Definitely afraid of not being able to bun my hair and my husband has hidden the scissors away from me many a time. Some people hate shrinkage, but I love it for my hair is more manageable. Thanks for all the wonderful advice as always.
LLP~OGC