THE TAMING OF THE CURL. That’s what I just saw on the front page of the Wall Street Journal. “Oh really,” I thought as I grabbed the paper, “Just what do they have to say about a curl and why in the hell does it need to be tamed?”
I quickly found the article and skimmed it. I came across some phrases like “fear of frizzy curls” , “wild, curling tendrils”, “pressure to tame”, “can’t look unkempt”, “makes it a prettier curl”, “curly hair in theory”, “too big…undefined…looks a mess” and “kinky curly…. more manageable.”
The title of the post made me look up the definition of ‘TAME’, since my first reaction was, “Who said it needs to be tamed?”
This is what I found. TAME means…
- Changed from the wild or savage state; domesticated
- Docile or submissive
- Lacking in excitement; dull; insipid
- Spiritless or pusillanimous
- Not to be taken very seriously; without real power or importance, serviceable but harmless
- To deprive of courage, ardor or zest
- To harness or control
- Curly hair is suitable for the workplace.
- My curly hair has never hindered my professional life… both in corporate America and in the arts.
- Depending on how you style ANY hair; straight, wavy or curly…you can come across as unkempt or kempt.
- Depending on your place of employment, they can be as picky as they want. (One company wanted me to wear company issued red lipstick and corporate pearls around my neck. Just put me in chains, why don’t you!)
- For most corporate companies, taking a pick and fro’ing your hair out probably isn’t best! But wearing your hair as it naturally grows like a wash & go or styling it “appropriately” while still being stylish, is more than okay!
Besides, for the three comments she made in regards to my hair, the OWNER of the company often stops to compliment my hair. He usually speaks up when I am wearing a curly fro or a big poofy puff. “I like your hair,” he’ll quietly say as he passes by my desk. He’s most vocal about my full out afros. One of my former managers would often say, “I love your hair. I wish I had hair like that!” His wife, who’d visit the office would say, “You always change it up. I love your style.” Another colleague jokes that depending on the day you just never know what I might look like.
That’s the type of environment I live and work in. If your environment is domesticating you, taking your power and trying to harness and control you until you are spiritless, I’d consider finding a different environment or developing your own. You make the rules. Don’t just go with the flow, BE THE FLOW!
The dream that you want and the ability to be yourself while you achieve it CAN HAPPEN. Perhaps you want to be the top prosecuting attorney in the country. Or you want to be a neurosurgeon, or a best selling author, or the next president. You can be anything you want and you can be yourself while achieving it.
Sure, its easier for me to boost my style and personality in the theater and art industry but I was able to find a corporate job on Wall Street where I could FRO it out too!