In T minus 2 days I’ll be thrust back into vivid, brutal reality. Gone will the be the days of leaving the baby with grandma and taking a ‘quick trip to the store’, sleeping in ’till 10 am, and pretending that my taxes have been filed by magical elves. I actually owe Uncle Sam this year and I’m not quite sure how I feel about that. I’m also not quite sure how I feel about our upcoming relocation to State College, PA. It’s three long hours from a major city, expensive to fly in and out of, and get this, Trader Joe-less. The only thing scarier than a life without TJs are those biscuit cans that go pop as you slowly tear away their cardboard exterior. It’s also ridiculously expensive up there and the property managers are all asses because they have a captive audience. We lucked out and found a cute and reasonably priced duplex with hardwood floors (my only pre-requisite, lol!), but still need to find a renter for our home in Raleigh, and oh yeah, pack and move our lives 500 miles north by August.
In other news, Boogie is on the grow. It seems she has found her tongue- – it’s stuck out much of the day and she thinks it’s the funniest thing since ‘that baby in the mirror’. She can sit in front of the mirror for 20 minutes at a time, laughing and babbling, and leaning in to touch or bump heads with that other baby. My sister, the soon to be neuroscientist, told me to place a red mark on her forehead prior to mirror time and watch to see if she tries to rub it away. If she does, she has mastered self-awareness. I’ve yet to conduct this experiment, but I bet she’d pass… she’s pretty advanced (don’t all mothers think this), so much so that everybody and their momma proclaims, ‘she sure is moving quickly… growing fast, you know what they say, right?’ I know what they say, and I ain’t trying to hear it! But I can’t say it hasn’t crossed my mind…
At around 2 months post-partum I went on the mini-pill… for obvious reasons. The doctor assured me that it wouldn’t dry up my milk supply and that it would be ‘mostly effective’ if I took it within the same 3 hour window everyday. So, for the last 5 months, I’ve done my best to take it religiously, along with my iron, and pre-natal… every night, right before bed as I watched my Tivo’ed King of the Hill and American Dad. About a month ago I realized that the mini-pill’s effectiveness lies with it’s ability to turn me into Mega Bitch and steal away my sex drive. My body was revolting against the hormones and I took myself off of it, for my sanity, and for hubby’s. Around the same time, I realized that I was late… a couple of days… then a week… now two weeks. Embarrassed- for reasons I couldn’t put my finger on- I hauled G to the store and purchased a few tests. I peed on sticks, all with negative results, and honestly don’t believe I’m pregnant (a test would’ve shown positive by now), but could you imagine?! LAWDY LAWDY! Looks like a trip to the OB is in my near future. Yeah, so there you go. TMI? I’ll keep you dolls posted :0)
G and Great-Grandma!
First cousins John-John and Bobby
Dad’s older brother, Uncle Billy, aka Uncle Bully!
Dad’s younger brother (and also my Godfather), Uncle Barry! Notice G’s tongue?
Uncle Billy chastising my dad
Sylvia, Caitlyn (first cousin), Elizabeth, Danielle (first cousin), and Grandma looking startled
Syl trying to be cute…
Have you ever seen that show "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant"? One woman had negative pregnancy tests for weeks…I'm just sayin'.
And I think she looks like a good mix of both of you from the baby pics. She's is absolutely gorgeous! Does she just stick her tongue out or has she discovered spitting yet? Oh, the joys of motherhood!
If you're not preggo….try getting an IUD. I have the Paraguard and it is the best….worry free bc for 10 years straight! If i change my mind and want more kids…just take it out and VOILA! They also have a brand called Mirena….which contains hormones….Ask your OB!
OMG! I thought I was the only one afraid of biscuit cans!!!! She looks like you, BTW.
I think she has your smile and features! :)Congrats on the move!….BREATHE…it will be ok! You have a beautiful family!
Your fam is gorgeous!
She looks like u!! I thought she looked just like ur hubby until I saw that baby pic of u..
Some women have no or irregular periods while nursing. Still, I think it would be so cute to have two close together. They would be great friends and playmates for each other. Keep us posted.
You just may be pregnant! With my first all 20 test came up negative, even in the doctor's office. The doctor finally gave me a blood test and of course it showed positive. It is quite possible. Even in my 9th month the dr took another urine test to see if it showed positive and it didn't. 🙂 Yay for baby #2
I'm afraid of canned biscuits too! Good luck in your upcoming move and thanks for the laughs.
Nik, you are stunning naturaly, and your family is so beautiful. I bet Gia is spoiled rotten! Keep doing what you're doing, you inspire us all.
WE ARE…. PENN STATE!! As you might be able to tell- I'm a PSU alum and I hope you like football!! State College is a beautiful place- but back when I was there, there were no salons for black/multi-ethnic women period!! Also if things have not changed- you would want to avoid Bellefonte. We were given that advice my freshman yr back in 2000 by staff members because 'they' don't really like 'us' there. I would hope that things have changed since then! Lastly, my suggestion to you is to hop in ebay and find some deals on some northface coats while it's off season because you're really going to need it!! Best of luck to you on this new chapter in your family's life.
love it all, nikki!!
And Baby G is just so adorable
I would say that she definitely has your forehead,your ears,your shape of the eyes. She does look about 20% dad and 80% mom.But baby Gia is a cutie pie, and very much a loved and happy little girl. Congrats on the move, and possible baby knocking on wood and a sigh of relief if you weren't preggos :).
she used to look just like your hubby…now seeing your pic she looks JUST like you!!!! look at the picture of yourself and then the one of her right under it…identical!!!! i love your personal posts. their always so candid and hilarious. i'm so looking forward to married and mommy life! (not that i'm engaged nor am i pregnant. lol. God, just lemme get through grad school and at least a yr of work first por favor!)
Thanks anons 🙂 It was super humid in STL yesterday and knew taking down my twists would be a waste, so on went the cap! Thanks for the compliment!
I'll have to look up how far Maryland will be from us. I'm excited to have meetups in new areas. Can't wait to meet you and all the other ne curlies!
Thanks for sharing. I, too, enjoy your post and read it every day. I believe Gia looks like you. I see you when she smiles and in her eyes. Best of luck on future move and possible new addition. I live in Maryland, so maybe you can make a few meetups in this area.
You have such a beautiful family and wonderful family support. You represent the statement "It takes a village to raise a child."
Looking forward to your updates.
Thx for sharing the additional pix. You're such a natural beauty, Nikki. Few people look that good without adornment. No makeup and hair hidden inside a knit cap. 🙂
@ Doc, yes girl, as soon as I whip out the cam she is grinning from ear to ear. She gets that from her momma 😉 And thanks! I think she looks like me too 🙂
@Moni, I did two summers in AA early in hubby's grad school career. We had a BLAST! I loved the night life there. Hopefully I'll adjust to PA quickly. Also, I'm sure hubby will appreciate it when my hormones regulate. I be feeling all guilty 🙁
@the glam garage, just shut it! Maybe this will be the one thing that sets us apart? Haha, i'll keep you posted!
@anon 12:54, oooh, I'm not alone! It just seems so weird because I was regular every month until now. PLUS, whenever I'd miss a pill or two, I'd come on briefly. I stopped them pills two weeks ago and she's a no show. Humph.
@Vonni, I will have to revamp my entire wardrobe. I no longer own a coat or winter clothes for that matter. Not looking forward to that 🙁
@Blondebydesire, yep, we're moving. Hubby has a postdoc up there, so off we go.
@Dreamchazer, thanks so much! You made my day 🙂 Sharing here on the blog is so cathartic. It's funny because I'll go back through what I've typed, and think, 'is this too revealing?' But it feels right, so I share. I always feel better after!
Thanks again ladies!!!!
WHOA- that pic of gia with uncle billy looks JUST like that pic you
there you go 🙂
cutie pie, gia is really happy mix of you both; i can't pinpoint one parent
i love that she is always smiling- even under the paci
You'll be fine honey. Don't worry. You def have what it takes! Stay positive.
a. Imo, she looks like a mix of you and your hubby.
b. Hormonal bc definitely affected my sex drive. It was like night and day when I stopped it! It also took months for my sex drive to completely return to normal, but I had been on depo provera for several years.
c. I totally feel you about the lack of TJ's. Last August I moved from Ann Arbor (MI) to Lansing, which doesn't have a TJ's, Whole Foods, Sephora or H&M. The closest for all of those stores is in AA, which is over an hour away. However, you will adjust and even begin to enjoy the benefits of PA. Good luck on the move!
I told you, I told you, I told you…Girl baby #2 is on her way (or at least I hope so)!!! I wish I knew where that darn post was when you chastised me for speaking #2 into existence, lol! We are dang near cyber twins Nikki – let's just face it 🙂
Baby #1 Turns 11 months tomorrow, 5 months Preggers Baby w/ #2 today (while breast feeding), Married in 08, Born in 83…..Just go to the doctor so we can figure out some more cute names, j/k.
I hope all is well with you doll.
Don't worry, CN…I'm a southerner, and my mama used to say, 'look like daddy, act like mama'. Girls always look like their dads when they're young. She'll probably morph into you sometime after elementary school. Regarding your late cycle – I totally understand. Mine is about 2 months late, but I've been nursing. My baby is 5 months old and I had two regular cycles since then, but all of a sudden 'Aunt Flo' is MIA… pregnancy tests are negative. Doc said it's completely normal.
But then again, I have a girlfriend who got pregnant while on birth control. LOL Good luck with that! 🙂
While the selfish part of me is excited that you're moving to State College (I'm currently a grad student here – it will soon be my alma mater in August) and I offer my congrats to your hubby…the other unselfish part of me feels for ya for the reasons (and others) you mentioned above.
I've been here two years and it's rough out here for a natural headed gal or even a relaxed girl. But you'll be happy to know that the local grocery store (Wegman's) sells Yes to Carrots and Cucumbers, Aubrey Organics, and Giovanni Products! (silver lining?…LOL). I suggest a meet up (once you're settled). You'll be surprised how many of us naturals are here. I've met some great women here and have done product swaps and have gotten and given tips. It's really a growing natural community here.
Anyway, best of luck to you and your beautiful family. Gia is such a doll!!!!
husband. sorry lady lol
haha, so you're scared of those biscuit cans too?!
Well, Baby G is totally your husband. Hopefully her sibling will look like you, Nikki :).
She looks like a great combination of both you and your hubby! That's a good thing, since the two of you are good looking people! LOL! 😀
God Bless you and your family in the move to PA!!! I hope you are happy and all goes well with your husbands fellowship.
Gia is truly a beautiful baby!!! 🙂 I also believe if you are pregnant it was meant to be. Keep us posted!!! XOXO
I'm so behind – you're moving! I'm happy for you – but why the relo? Gia looks just like her Daddy.
I agree with DreamchaZer, you tell a great story, I always look forward to your posts.
she has his eyes- but the rest is all you :))
That is your twin up & down…lol
i see more of you now Nik…but she still has alot of him in her 🙂
I have to say..I LOVE your blog for the hair info. But I'm CERTAIN, I would follow your blog if it was just about your life..you tell a fantastic story!!
Oh…and Baby G, looks like the hubby…
Well if you gon be in State College you might as well start thinking about having a CN meetup in Philly…IJS 🙂
And I concur…PA winters can be vicious…like snow drifts taller than the stop signs vicious. Invest in a good Columbia or North face winter coat.
And sorry Nik…Gia looks just like your husband lol
she looks like the hubby but, when she smiles, she's all you!
State College!!…Home of my alma mater Penn State University! :)…I'm excited for you…its defintely an experience!.
In regards to BEA's comment…PLEASE prepare yourself for their winters…I'm from NYC and had to learn the hard way…smh.
CONGRATS TO BOTH YOU GUYS ON EVERYTHING!! 🙂
Nikki u leaving me!!! ::does hand motions to you and me will never part:: Good luck with everything. I know it seem like alot to take in but you and hubby got this!! And how sweet would it be to have another adorable baby…don't hit me. LOL Oh and baby girl look like daddy. Sorry!
And if you need your trader joes items I will mail them to you…not the biscuits though. We have to get together soon. ~~MUAH~~
Nikki that baby looks like you! Maybe the next one will look like your hubby, but this one is you.
I think Gia looks more like you, Nikki. I can see her dad in her face but she resembles you more.
I love seeing her pretty little face. I like when you post about her and she seems to love taking pictures because she's been smiling directly at the camera lately.
I'm excited about your move and the possible new baby. 😉
Baby G looks like Daddy….I was too into this. I was reading really fast because I thought you were announcing that Baby G was going to be a big Sis!!!!
Good luck to which ever outcome!
Good luck on the move! No longer will you be in the Tarheel state but you will always a Tarheel!
I'm sorry Nik, but I think she looks like daddy (cringe, waiting for hit). :0) But don't worry, when my Coco Puff was born she was spitting image of my husband, so much so people would call her Roberta (his name is Robert). Now that she's older (5 years old) everyone one says she looks just like me. :0)
5-head + eyes = all you Nikki !!! everything else is the hubby, tho 😉
NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!! First, I was patiently waiting for the next natural gathering here because I am desperately dumb when it comes to my natural hair. Second, PA has real winters! I know this because I am Philly Born and Raised but a happy North Carolinian!! (aside from closing the schools for anticipated bad weather – mama needs her quiet!)Lastly and definitely not least, CONGRATS on everything!!!!!!!!!
your posts crack me up, and congrats on the move. Job market is crazy these days, my husband finished his PhD last year n we ended up moving to Qatar, and i love it!!! Miss my fam, but its great, u never know what God has in store. About being pregnant..dont worry..if u r, it was meant to be as others said…but doesnt look like u r. R u exclusively breastfeeding, i ask bc I exclusively breastfed my kids and the first 3 i dint get my period until they were 6 months old…n even once i got my cycle i didnt start ovulating until a whole year after once i totally stopped nursing…at which point i got pregnant the next month…lol. Now i have a baby 3 weeks and pretty much expect the same thing, God is the best planner
All the best to you and your upcoming relocation. Baby G is getting so big; she's a cutie pie:-) She's going to need a little playmate in PA:-))
Your hubby got this one. It's okay. She's cute. I have two sons and, right now, my hubby and I have one each. If there's a third, the battle's on for gene dominance, lol.
State College is okay. But, during the winters, you might wish to have carpeted floors, especially with the baby walking around (cold floors!). I'm a Philly native living in Southern California now.
Okay she really has your husbands cheeks – but everything else of course is all you :o) A baby brother would be cool though ;o)
Hubby's cheeks, but your smile and eyes. 🙂 Those hormones can definitely wreak havoc on your body. I had to resort to monthly acupuncture to get my body regulated. GL with the move and with the ob!
congratulations again! The same thing happened to me……all I could think about was God has jokes…. It is a wonderful thing and Gia will have a playmate. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.
LOL…Nikki I know you think its TMI but girl your blog gets me through the day!! I'm super excited for you if you are pregnant and here's an early congratulations!
yeah that post made my friday as well but she has her dad's checks and ur forehead! She is such a lil cutie patottie though!
Congratulation – children make love visible
Loved this Nik! Thanks for a laugh, I needed that, TGIF! And your baby boo is more and more beautiful with each passing day!
OMG!! I'm moving too but across the Atlantic back to the States. I can't wait!!! and another baby?! Hehehehe!! keep us posted!! and Gia looks like you!! 😉
CN you coming to PA!!!!!! That is what's up!! It is sad that your going to the State College area :(. There is a TJ in Philly though if you make it that way sometime! Harrisburg isn't much of a city but its much better then State College especially in the summer time and that's not super far from State depending on where you are in state college area. I'm glad your coming to PA but good luck!!
Yes, here for school – doctoral student.
Hey ladies! Thanks for the comments :0) And for letting me rant… so cathartic!
And thanks to all who say G looks like me :-p I talked to hubby's mom yesterday, and she was like, 'isn't it obvious? She is all Gene'. Whatever!
Anon 12:17, hubby doesn't believe me either, lol. I want to show him the literature!
Anon 12:57, shut the front door! YAY!!!
Anon 1:05 Yep, hubby has a postdoc fellowship up there. Fun times. I'm not a big city girl, so I should be fine, but I'm not jazzed about living in the middle of no where. Are you there for school?
I think she looks like you and the hubby:) It's an equal mixture. Good luck on the move and i have my fingers crossed for you about the um, little 'situation':)
You must be moving here for the university, because that's really all there is. Actually, it's not that bad after you get used to not having the amenities of a bigger city.
Fear not, Trader Joe's will be opening here in State College by the end of the year!
She looks like both of you, just slightly more of hubby!!
amazing how she looks just like both of you 🙂
You have no clue how your TMI posts give me helpful insight on a few things!!!!!
Good luck to you guys on the move and everything. And boy are you going to be so depressed when people post about their Trader Joe/Whole Food finds. I live about 2.5/3 hours southwest of STL (you can probably guess where) and I'm sick of not having Trader Joe/Whole Foods/H&M/the list goes on & on. My trips home to Chicago always include a laundry list of stuff *haha*
i thought i was the only one afraid of canned biscuits. i've been without a tj's for 1.5 years now. at first it's bleak but things get better.
good luck with everything.
Yes! Thanks CN for keeping it so real. You are hilarious. My AF is late right now and that's all I can think about. Hope you find out soon!
Oooh I'm in the same situation! The pill has drained my sex drive too and my SO doesn't believe me.
The hubby for sure. I am sending this post to my husband. He doesn't believe the pill dries up my sex drive lol.
Nikki she is gorgeous! and she looks like both of you guys, in fact she looks like Gia!
Nikki, good luck with your relocation and when you make that visit to the OB… If you have another little one on the way… it was meant to be.
I would rather my kids be close in age like that, because they have someone to play with and they will be on their way out of the house almost at the same time..lol
My kids are ELEVEN YEARS apart… I have one who graduates high school next month and one starting 1ST GRADE in August!
Everything will be all to the good!
She's such a cutie. She favors hubby a bit more at the moment.
Sorry girl she looks like your husband hands down! Don't feel bad my daughter looks like my husband too.
She has those baby chubs cheeks like the hubs in his baby photo, but I think when those start to tone down and lean out as she grows, it will be more obvious that she's a little Nikki clone. 🙂
Def the husband…
A Girl's Next Best Friend
She looks like the both of you to me and best of luck with all that's going on with you right now. Lawdy imagine two little Gia's…LOL
I think she looks more like the hubs, sorry!
Also I understand about birth control affecting your mood and sex drive. I always say that the birth control works by making you not want to have sex. Hope you find a solution!
that's you all day! Thanks for the post Nikki, made my Friday!
She has cheeks like your hubby's baby pic, I think she looks more like him, but she wears your facial expressions & she looks more like you the older she gets. You have got tons of stuff going on, best of luck to you 🙂
Her face shape is your hubby's lol, but her little features are all yours 🙂
Nikki, she looks JUST like you. Identical to the lil' Nikki!! And your threat had nothing to do with it! 🙂
You got it Nik!:) Not trying to "Gas" you up either!