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No Two Curly ‘Sisters’ Are Alike?

By January 27th, 202121 Comments

No Two Curly 'Sisters' Are Alike?

Autumn (pictured above) writes;

We’ve all heard the phrase: “No two curly heads are alike”.

But what about family members?!

There is a HUGE difference in hair properties between my sibling and I (after both going natural), and we got the same mama and daddy.

She went natural first, so BOY WAS I SURPRISED when my curls were finally revealed! But, I love my hair as much as hers (I like that mine is BIGGER)!

Me: Coarse, dense, high porosity, 4a/b

My sister: Fine, thin, low porosity, 3c/4a

Can any of you relate?


  • Anonymous says:

    I'm 3b/3c
    Oldest sister 3c/4a
    Little sister 4a
    Mom 3b/3c
    Dad= Bald….lol

  • Anonymous says:

    Me: 3c/4a
    My sister: 4a/4b i won't even be surprised if she hits 4c. Her hair is THICK and coarse!

  • always4evamoi says:

    yes definitely. my sister has thicker than i do. 🙂

  • Suga77 says:

    I have 3 siblings and all of us have different hair textures. My hair is 3c/4a, my sister's hair is 3a/3b, my brothers hair is 3a and my youngest brother is 4z LOL.

  • mommy says:

    I can relate.
    Me: 4b mostly tiny coils and small "s" pattern with shrinkage…dense hair with thick strands…lots of shrinkage…75%…and very dry
    Sister: thinner 4b strands with about 50% shrinkage and dry…less dense
    Brother: 4b some small spirals with more shine…thick strands…wave/curl pattern more defined
    SAME Parents
    Mom-4b fine soft strands with lots of shrinkage; thanks mom 🙂
    Dad:-4b lots of shine thick strands with a lot of shrinkage with defined coils; thanks dad 🙂

  • Anonymous says:

    I dont have any siblings, but my dad have 4c and my mother have 1. And i have 4a.

  • Morgan says:

    Yes! We have he same parents and my sis has 4a/4b and I have 3c/4a. I love her hair because she doesn't have to but as much effort into getting big hair. Funny thing is we both decided to go natural in 2002 and didn't mention it until we were transitioning.

  • LBell says:

    Co-signing Anon 4/6 2:37pm…it's called DNA and I really hope nobody's too surprised by this…

    My mom, baby sister and I all have fine strands that are mostly dark brown in color. My dad and middle sister have coarser, mostly black strands. Until recently my middle sister could do absolutely nothing to her hair and it would grow like a weed, whereas if my baby sister, mom or I LOOKED at our hair wrong it would break. Going natural was the best thing for us (well, my baby sister and I) in terms of retaining length. My niece has our hair but she already has more of it than we did at her age because we're educated now, lol.

    That said, we are all nappy (4b/4c) and for the most part we are all dark-skinned (mom's got a little red in her but not much) and we were all taught to appreciate our features. I feel sorry for people who experience hair/color wars within their own family and under their own roof.

  • atribitt says:

    Thanks T! *blush*
    anon @ 2:37, When you put it like that (just like siblings have different skin tones, etc.) it's totally understandable. But i'm not gonna lie… when i was transitioning i was completely CONVINCED that my sister and i had the same hair! I mean i bought all the same products and NOTHING worked the same way on me! It was a lesson learned in my natural hair journey.

  • honeybrown1976 says:

    Yeah, this isn't a major story. We have diverse curl types and, hello, skin complexions within families, including mine.

  • Anonymous says:

    Yes, my sister has thick 4a hair with low porosity. I have a thick 4a/3c mixture with low porosity hair.

  • Alesia-Mason says:

    My sister & I have different dads so the only thing we get from our mom is our front 2a hair & the fact our hair grows relatively quickly (hers more than mine b/c I have hih syndrome!)
    Me-2a, 3c & 4a
    Sis-2a & 3c (& she insists on a perm! Her natural hair is soooooooooooooooooo beautiful!)

  • Ashley says:

    Yes my sister has a much looser curl pattern and texture. She has 3c fine hair. However my hair is cottony and 4a.

  • Anonymous says:

    Why is this shocking to anyone? and don't forget brothers, since they have hair too. Considering how black people are about hair, I always laugh a bit when my friends have brothers with straight or wavy hair, esp. since they usually try really hard to make it "fro" up.

    At any rate, hair and skin are polygenic traits, so unless you have an identical twin, you likely won't have the same hair(the odds are very small that the genes will recombine the same way in two separate pregnancies). if you have a lot of sibilings you'll easily see the physical differences, but just one is enough to show this as well. this whole phenomenon of people not having the same parents is pretty recent, so i've got a large extended family where people a generation back had 10-12 kids as part of one marriage, and yes, you'll have all hair textures and skin colors and combinations all in the same family.

    i also think the classification system is too simplistic to capture the differences, and you'll see this since so many people post pics and videos and truthfully, they aren't inaccurate so much as there seem to be infinite ways that your hair can look and behave-so if you are asking if the same products can work on wavy, curly, and kinky hair, the answer would be yes for some and not others, never the same answer for anyone.
    It's just the same as me trying to use something that someone else's hair really takes to. There is no definitive answer for any product whether our hair is similar or not.

  • Anonymous says:

    definitely, my daughter's hair is so different from mine. She is more of a 3c/4a and I am motherland 4c. Products work differently with our hair. So my inner PJ is always asking will this product work for my hair or my daughter's?

  • Anonymous says:

    Totally can relate: I have 3c hair with very defined curls (looks like a jheri curl when wet lol)with a bit of 4a in the front. My sister who BC'ed with me has more 4a with great clumping and it's super thick. My oldest sister has very fine 4a curls that are super soft, and we all have the same parents as well..

  • Nettie says:

    My sister and I have different dads to account for dif textures, I guess. My hair is easily twice as thick with a massive amount of shrinkage and tangling when wet (less tangling at the moment, as it's still so short). Her's curls are much easier to define and detangle and don't shrink as much.

    My kiddies are all different, too. My oldest daughter has a looser texture with some curling in spots, not much shrinkage. While my other daughter loses at least 3 inches in length her hair shrinks so much, she has less defined curls. Both detangle with ease, so that's all I care about. Neither have good braiding hair though, it's so soft that the braids begin to look fuzzy within a couple of days.

    My boys can get hair cuts on the same day and the oldest will always look as if he needs a cut first. His hair is very, very thick and sticks straight up as it grows. The younger one's is not as thick, but still grows very fast.

  • AusetAbena says:

    Well, I relate. I have three sisters, two are natural. The one who is not natural, I definitely remember her curl pattern from her short stint with natural hair.

    I myself have type 4a hair, very thin strands, don't understand porosity level enough to classify my hair, with a curl pattern that is very tight but distinctive nonetheless.

    My oldest sister has type 4a hair as well, but she seems to have much more hair (higher density) than any one else. Her strands are also thin, and curl up distinctly.

    The next oldest has type 4a hair on the perimeter of her head, but a very loose, wavy, barely there S curl pattern on the crown of her hair.

    The last, born before me, has a loose S wave. I don't know much else, because she relaxes her hair now.

    But all in all, we have to remember that every head is different, no matter the relation to the other person. I hear people say their hair hates oils and aloe vera. Those two products are staples in my Product fRotation. To each curly head her own.

  • T. says:

    Don't have any sisters to compare to, so have nothing to contribute on that score. But I really feel the need to say what I think every time I see a post by/about Autumn on the blog: Girl, you are *so* beautiful! Your freckles are absolutely to live for.

    You may now return to your regularly scheduled programming.

  • Curly Film Chick says:

    I can relate to this. My sister and I do not have the same texture/curl pattern and we have the same parents. The only thing we really have in command is that we have a LOT of hair…no one else in our family has as much as we do.

  • Lela7 says:


    Me: 4a, 4b – minimum obvious curlage and clumping.

    Sister 4a: very clear defined curls when wet.

    Mum: 3b / 3c.

    Dad: 4b

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