So I recently big chopped… like today recently… after transitioning for 11 months. I really wanted to fall in love right away but I’m having mixed feeling. I hate it and love it at the same time. My question for the CN community is how did you feel right after your BC? If you did not love it when/why did your view change or are you still not in love with your hair?
I’ve never big chopped but I’ve read what feels like a million transition stories and while there are many women who experience love at first sight, there are others who really struggle.
Karyn Parsons, aka Hilary Banks, said it best;
“I have to say, I advocate sticking with it for at least like 6 months (once you chop or transition). After 5 months, even with the negative feelings I’d been battling with, I knew that I wasn’t going back. I was like, ‘are you kidding me, this is me. I’m never going back.’ The first few months I was like, ‘oh God, I made a mistake!’ So it’s a process like you said, and I’d really like to reinforce that with people. I had heard people say that before, but I didn’t believe them. I didn’t think it was that big of a deal. So when I started having my doubts and negative feelings, I told myself, ‘my hair is different… my situation is different’, feeling like I was the first to go through this. But I was wrong.”
So yes, give it some time, keep an open mind, surround yourself with positive people, hang out and participate in the natural hair online community, and let go of the expectations of what your hair is supposed to be like, or what it should do. Work with it, not against it… I think that’s enough cliches for one day :0)
Weigh in ladies! Share your experiences!