Melissa writes;

I’m a fairly new natural. My last relaxer was at the end of August 2010 and I big chopped June 13, 2011. I hate to say this but… I don’t like my kinky hair. I believe I have 4b hair with a little bit of 4a in the back. It’s really dense and it’s coarse with thick strands. Going back to relaxers is not an option because my scalp can’t take the burning of the chemicals, which is why I went natural after over 20 years of relaxing in the first place (I’m 26). Currently, I get my hair blown out and straightened about every three weeks and my hair is thriving and growing. I haven’t seen one split end since I cut off the relaxed ends.

So my question is:

How do I fall in love with my kinky hair? I feel like I’m missing the boat that all these other curlies are on. Can anyone throw me a lifesaver?