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An Ode to My Natural Hair (Giveaway CLOSED)

By January 27th, 2021115 Comments

and the winner is….

**Mz. Reesie**


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I’ve got 4 more to giveaway so check back soon!


SteppinOut writes;

Hi Nik!

Lately I’ve really been feeling my hair. Each day I am more and more proud of my choice to wear my hair in its natural state. It so me and I adore it! A few weeks ago I went to a salon to get a trim and a blow-out twist which increased my swag a few more notches ;0)

If you could write your hair a love note, what would you say?

Dear [insert pet hair name here],

You are so very awesome! I love everything about you and how you have complimented who I am so very well. There is none other exactly like you and we are a perfect pair.

You have my undying devotion,



An Ode to My Natural Hair (Giveaway CLOSED)

Respond below for your chance to win a free Hair Therapy Wrap! One winner will be randomly chosen and announced tomorrow after 5pm Eastern time. Good luck!

Oh, and know that I’ve got 4 more to give away… so stay tuned!


  • Unknown says:

    Dear Nappily Be,

    I never thought i'd see the day when i would honestly say i love you! From perms,to cut,to color, to blunt i have taken you through a lot! Now it's time to get back to the roots, take you out more often, wine and dine you. I'm not afraid to show you off or tell me friends about you. I love the way you feel, to the naps and on to the little curls. I promise i will take care of you and i don't ever plan on hurting you ever again.

    With much Love
    Marie!! <3

  • Anonymous says:

    Beautifully Natural,

    I can't believe how beautiful you are.The curls and waves that were hidden under chemicals. How you make me smile on the daily basis. we get to meet each day as i plant my hands on my crown an glory for our daily routine of water, leave in conditioner, moisture and to seal the deal our oil. how perfectly you look as i see the reflection in the mirror.

    All that beauty in it's natural state for all to behold. I love me some me now, can't hide behind the creamy crack. I love the way you look and feel on a daily basis.

    I am beautifully natural,


  • Anonymous says:

    Beautifully Natural,

    April 30th, i will never forget that day, (THE BIG CHOP). After years of chemicals since I was 12 years of age, I was ready to take my next journey of life my next phase. No longer could i hide behind my hair. Beautifully natural am I. Nubian, queen, daughter of the most high God.


    I do have a question: How and what do you use to keep your hair moisturized. There are so many products and it gets confusing.

  • Bianca Williams says:

    Dear my tresses of love,
    You fought the odds and made it through. Chemicals, pressing combs, and then dying in high school. I never know the natural you ever since I was little. It took going away and being on my own in college to take you in my hands and realize your true beauty. You are beautiful in all forms of curl. I would never replace you!!!

    Love Bianca

  • Kari C (bronzebeachbaby) says:

    Dear BFF,

    I know…I know…I have dyed and fried you over the years. I've neglected you and cursed you and even wished I was with someone ohter than you.

    And you alwasy came back and stuck around…knowing that one day I'd treat you right…hoping.

    And now as I anoint you in oils and learn how to take care of you…to caress you and love only you…You are the one there for me…you are the one growing and thriving and showing me the way…

    Thank-you for your patience and guidance and leading me to my individuality and confidence.

    Sorry it took so long

    Love Kari C (bronzebeachbaby)

  • Dom says:

    Dear Diva on top of my head,

    We've been through our ups…and through our downs…but guess what? We still here making it through giiiiirl! You looking mighty mighty fine might i say. You keep doing your part in showcasing our beautiful natural hair and I will do my part in loving and taking care of you.

    Loving you forever and always,
    The girl who loves her curls :) (Dominique West)

  • Anonymous says:

    Dear Kizzy,

    I'm going to keep this short and sweet and let you know that I love you sooooo much!!!

    Love and Blessings,
    Krystal M.

  • missvp says:

    Dear Cotton Fro:
    Thanks for making me fierce and for allowing me to stand out in a crowd. Soon you will be bigger and better.

  • Braelynn says:

    Dear Blue,
    I know you are ready to grow up and are so ready to get out of this TWA stage…but don't worry, you are healthy and will grow soon…protective styling will help you thrive. In the mean time, I still love you and am glad to finally see the real you!


  • JWalt22 says:

    Dear kinks and curls,
    I know I've done you dirty for the longest… Relaxers on top of color on top of daily heat… It's no wonder you refused to be healthy…
    But all of that's changed now and I am getting to know you and loving all of your different moods and textures… And I have to say, I love ya!
    Can't wait to see where we go in this journey!!

  • Anonymous says:

    Dear Fluffy Clouds,
    There are 9 things I hate about you, but I still love you.

  • Unknown says:

    Dear Shofro,

    Please tell me what to do as you get longer, because you're losing and confusing me. I'm going to be patient with you and not cut you off this time. Promise.


  • Chrissy M. says:

    Dear Sexy
    Your curls light up a room
    Your fierceness causes heads to turn
    And mouths to drop open
    just to pay you a compliment.
    You make any outfit (no matter how bad it is) look good…
    And you make me look fierce
    I used to keep you locked up
    and tamed to death with chemicals out of a box
    but trusting you to be free
    has given me a chance
    to see I am beautiful just as God made me.

  • KC says:

    Dear Rebel,
    I love you oh so dearly. It is because of you that I stick out in a crowd like a shining star at midnight. You wave, curl, and kink at your own leisure; and though this can be frustrating when I'm not in a peaceful mindset to do my hair, when I am in a "go with the flow" mood you help me create styles I never would have dreamed of!
    YOU force me to do me because no one has hair like ME :D

    KC <3

  • AfroChic says:

    Dear Hair,

    Thanks for bringing joy, discovery, wonder, confusion, frustration, and beauty into my life. It's been a moving 11 years.


  • Mrs. G says:

    Dear HAIRett,

    Thank you for being patient with me. I know I haven't taken the best care of you at the beginning of our relationship but I learned how to love you before it was too late. I'm so grateful that the next years of our lives together will be filled with Moisture, Patience and Love. You're amazing and I'm honored to be taking care of you!

    ~Mrs. G

  • Natasha says:

    Dear Nike,

    I remember when I contemplated getting to know you, and taking the leap of faith to transition. I remember when I saw and touched the first little spiral "pop" at the nape of my neck. I remember when you kicked and fussed at the relaxed ends weighing you down. We fought during massive detangling sessions, and made up with weekly (deep conditioning) therapy. We've made it this far and I look forward to growing with you. Thanks for helping me embrace my natural beauty.

    Yours forever,

  • Anonymous says:

    Dear Naturally Me,
    Thank you so much for putting up with me and growing for me even when I would force you to straighten your beautiful kinks and coils. Thanks for helping me to see and accept that you are beautiful just the way you are. Thanks for helping me to see that true beauty is real. True beauty is YOU.

  • Gloria D. says:

    Dear Honey Locks,

    You are amazing. You have been so supportive of me, even when I haven't always done the same for you. I love that you are always doing your own thing, even when I try to stop you. You own your style, and so your fabulousness is due to you and you alone. Thank you for making me fabulous with you!

    I love your individuality. I love your large size. I love your ability to turn every head in the room. I love being identified with you. I love that people recognize me in crowded shopping malls because of you. I love you even when you are crazy. I love that you and I work best together when we let our true selves shine through, not when one of us tries to change the other. I love every curl, kink, and precious lock that makes you who you are, and I love the fact that you are still constantly changing. I know you so well, and yet, you are still a mystery, and I love you for it.

    Did I mention that I love you? You're probably used to hearing it, lol, since I'm not the only one that loves you. However, I am thankful that I am the only one that can claim you as MINE. ;) Here's to the rest of our lives together!

    Love always,


  • Alicia H. says:

    Dear Hair,

    Everyday is a new challenge.

    Naturally Yours,


  • Ashley says:

    Dear Lover Locks,
    WOW! If I would've known how BEAUTIFUL, SEXY, and AMAZING you were I would've never let you go. I let people tear us apart, they told me you were ugly and called us names. I gave into their pressures and hid you under that awful creamy crack. I'M SORRY LOVE. After all those years of hiding you under weaves and wigs I was fed up! I knew what I needed to do. So, we started seeing each other, watching youtube figuring out how to make this relationship work and here we are 2 years later going strong! I will NEVER let anyone come in between us again. You are beautiful Thank you for giving me the confidence to be naturally me.
    Ashley Dear Lover Locks,
    WOW! If I would've known how BEAUTIFUL, SEXY, and AMAZING you were I would've never let you go. I let people tear us apart, they told me you were ugly and called us names. I gave into their pressures and hid you under that awful creamy crack. I'M SORRY LOVE. After all those years of hiding you under weaves and wigs I was fed up! I knew what I needed to do. So, we started seeing each other, watching youtube figuring out how to make this relationship work and here we are 2 years later going strong! I will NEVER let anyone come in between us again. You are beautiful Thank you for giving me the confidence to be naturally me.

  • Susan says:

    Cotton and curls,

    You are my Kaleidoscope.
    A reflection of all the unique and different facets of who I am. Lights reflecting playfully off of each kink and curl bringing a sigh of contentment.

    You are my armor.
    Fortifying me, shielding me. washing me with a sense of FEARLESSNESS and strength that I was unaware I could even possess.

    You frame my carriage.
    Showing my confidence as I emerge into a room and before my lips have even uttered a word.

    You embody my spirit.
    Introducing me to myself as if for the very first time. Flirtatious and unpredictable.

    You knew who I could be all along,
    I just needed to let you show me…

    All my love………….

  • Siobhan says:

    Dear Ms. Fluffy,

    Wow you are amazing, getting me noticed, making me feel on top of the world. Oh Ms. Fluffy, how we have grown. Gray turned to fire red from your lover henna. You and my husband seem to have a true love affair. Oh Ms. Fluffy, how the salon, relaxer and hot comb visits are far, far behind.

  • Lisa Michelle says:

    My Curlicious Curls,

    I fell in love that fateful day in 2004…I never knew I could be so enamored with you. You are my obsession, my infatuation, my passion, my crush. Even when I let you go, I knew you'd return with the fervor of the oceans waves and you did not disappoint. And even when we have disagreements, I know it's because we both want to be our best. So thank you, this hair of mine, for always giving me something to do and a curl to play with.

    Sincerely yours,

  • Teri says:

    Dear Hair,

    I don't know you very well since I just met you, but I love your uniqueness. You seem to have many personalities. You're soft and curly in some areas and not so much in others and a few shades of grey. Some days you are well behaved and some days you need a time out. I guess that's why I love you, please don't change.

  • Unknown says:

    Dear Fufa,

    We have been on quite a journey over the years. You are string and resilient. I am finally (read 10 years later) learning to love and take care of you. It feels so good to be gaining am understanding of your likes and dislikes. I look forward to more and more mutuel growth and understanding.

    Yours truly,

  • Anonymous says:

    Dear Hair:
    I love you because you are in your natural state the way God intended!JenG

  • skinnypennie says:

    Dear beautiful curls,
    I can't explain how much I love you and how happy I am that you are in my life. You make me smile each time I touch your lovely swirls so sorry I waited so long to allow you to be free. But like Miss Celie said "I'm here" so my curls are here and I embrace them with love, and kindness.

  • MsJboogie007 says:

    Hey Puff Puff,

    Its ya girl! It has been great getting to know you for myself and now I am feeling like we never had a separation. I missed you while you are gone, and it is better late than never to say "welcome back!"

    Your boo,


  • vo mars says:

    Dear Afrodite,

    Its been a pleasure becoming reacquainted with you after all these years. I totally understand why we parted ways last time. But be assured it will never happen again.


    Vo Mars

  • Kat says:

    Dear Little Kitty,

    I'm glad that my petting you and loving you has lead to you growing up big and strong. Thank you for loving me back through the tough times and not giving up on me or my dream to see you turn into mature cat who knows what she's doing from a cute tiny rambunctious kitten.

    Always and forever,

  • mangomadness says:

    Dear Awesomeness,

    I love you so much. I love how you feel when I play with you and the endless number of styles I can wear you in. Yo make me feel so happy. We were made for each other and will never be apart.

    Love always,

  • mrsjaxn84 says:

    Dear Sweet Love,

    We've had a wonderful year together and I love you more every day. Let's make it last forever!!!

  • Angieb says:

    Dear Little Angela…You're becoming Big Angela…Stay Fierce Boo and keep thriving…

  • Danicab says:

    dear miss independent(she has a mind if her own),

    most said we would never make it this far. they doubted our commitment to eachother and to God and now they have ALL come around to seeing that our relationship was destined to be. yes i love my hair and each day i am blown away by God's handiwork and that He inspired me to try to be the me He created. to all the good times yet to have together.


  • Unknown says:

    Dear Ms. Thang,

    I love you so much! You are absolutely awesome!
    Even though I get frustrated with you sometimes, you always come through. Thank you for helping realize who I am


  • MelMelBee says:

    Hi Poopsie Woopsie,

    I wuv you so much. You're so cutsie woosie and sexy wexie! Yeah you are! Yes you are mommy's baby! Do it pookie butt…do it for momma…….***STINKY FACE*** Yeah…that's my pudding pop, stinka winka!

    I WUV WOU!!!!!


    (LOL….I have a helmet already, but I still wanted to write my letter)

  • Jivelene says:

    To my beloved Curly-Spice,

    During the past ten months of our courtship, you have endured the long and extended culmination of my twenty-one year relationship with a more 'relaxed' suitor. While it was not love at first sight upon our introduction, the conclusion is indeed, love. There are no words to describe your patience and strength, merely that I am beholden by your presence. Only you can make me feel so joyous yet fearful; so exalted yet humbled. Let me sky-write your name in the clouds or chart your likeness in the stars to proudly share our reverence for all the world to see! Forevermore, I am you and you are me.

    Unabashedly yours,

  • Lanni says:

    Dear Gorgeous,

    Who would have known it would be like this?! We were separated at such a young age and now, reunited, the way we were meant to be. Though we have our ups and downs, I wouldn't have you any other way. You are the perfect, perfectly-designed complement to me, my personality, my spirit, my life.


  • Anonymous says:

    Dear Crowning Glory,

    I’m amazed at how fierce you are. With you I’ve learned to expect the unexpected. I’ve learned to relax and enjoy the ride. I can’t believe that it took me so long to get to know you. When I think about all the years I wasted manipulating and chemically processing you I’m disappointed in myself. Then I realize that we’ve got our whole lives to live and I begin to smile. I’m excited by the possibilities and I’m ready for the journey.

    Yours Truly,


    P.S. Hope you don’t mind when I tell others… “Yes, you can touch it.” I do it because I love the way they react when they realize how soft you are.

  • lyss says:

    Dear Crowning Glory,

    How can I begin to describe the mixed feelings that evaded my every thought a year ago when I decided to transition? It's true, I was scared and confused, questioning my vanity and sanity when I anticipated the Big Chop. However, I found that I never really truly cared for you, cared about what you could provide me with(confidence, pride etc) until I took that first step and I saw your damaged ends fall to the ground. I silently vowed that I would begin to see your importance and take care of you. I would weather the storm of insecurity that came with such short hair. I'm sorry I doubted you. I realized within 5 minutes that I was a changed person and I felt more aware of myself. I realized with each day that I held my head higher and smiled more. Whether it was my subconscious making up for lack of hair or realization that I didn't need really need it to be me, I found myself in these last 8 months and I look forward to a lifetime of ups (i.e. fierce twistouts) and downs (i.e. endless hours of twisting).

    Keep Truckin' Glory, your ever faithful servant,

  • Tenesha B. says:

    Dear Milkshake, (cause you bring all the boys to the yard)
    We've completed our first year together (yay!) and I have to say, it's been a blast. Going forward, I promise to help you reach new lengths (APL..hollaa!). Keep you in more protective styles, and most important of all, do my absolute best to keep hubby distracted whenever he views the transactions on our debit card, in order to avoid the dreaded side eye when he sees how much we've spent on hair products. Mama hearts her Milkshake!!!
    xoxo, TBailey <3

  • Kamara says:

    I've had you in those long African braids for 2 months and now you are extremely damaged. I'm exponentially sorry because now I have no idea what to do with you. I know it's my fault and I'm going to fix it. I can practically hear you yelling at me from your Ms. Celie braids. I will as you oft times say, "Make it work!".

    Frustratingly yours,
    L. Ferrell

  • Day says:

    Dear my helixes of love,

    Thank you for being so bouncy! I love when I pull on one of your strands, then let go, and you bounce right back in place. That lets me know that your healthy. I promise, my love, I will drink more water so we can continue to stay healthy. I'm sure you will let me know if I'm not;)

  • Anonymous says:

    Dear Inspiration,

    I'm proud that you allowed me to find my true inner beauty and to where you proud! I thank you for giving me the strength everyday to walk on with my head held high and to educate others on staying healthy inside and out so that you can look at your best. You are me and I and you!
    Love you with every fiber.

    Forever and Always,
    Djenald Royalty

  • Trina says:

    Dear Curly Suzy Sue,

    I love you girl! Every since I decided to knock off those dead ends and birth new life in you we have been rock rock steady. Though many look down on you, I am truly in love! So thankful that I am no longer killing you one strand at a time as I would slather on the creamy white devil. I never dreamed you would look this beautiful! And I can truly say although everyday is a new adventure I'm always excited to wake up and look at you and say "Ok girl whats next?"
    Love you girl!


    You have my undying devotion,


  • tiffany gibson says:

    Dear Miss. Jackie,
    I am so glad that we finally got to meet each other! Before i met you i was indifferent but college gave me the opportunity to meet new people and you are one of my favorite ones. I just love to see the different styles you create and see you prosper. I also love how free you are, it has given me the strength to be more free as well. I just have one suggestion. you ARE A LITTLE DRY SOMETIMES. i would love for you to be a little more juicy.
    Love, Tiffy G

  • Anonymous says:

    Dear Miss Thang,

    We need to talk. You're breaking my heart the way you seem to ignore my efforts to help you grow and flourish. Meanwhile, I'm breaking your ends trying to mend you into perfection while constantly trying to make you into something that you're not. We've been stuck in the same predicament for the past 7 years, so lets change this. Your different, carefree and unpredictable and I enjoy those attributes about you. I want you to know that you mean the world to me and I'd love to see us work this out and grow together. While you grow long, I'll observe and educate myself about what makes you happy. No matter what I will always love you unconditionally.


  • KayDanai says:

    Dear Tyson,

    I'm glad we've stopped fighting. Well for now at least :)


  • Anonymous says:

    Dear Lovely Locs,

    It's taken a while for me to embrace you for who you are, despite your flaws. Even though you don't always look the way I want, I still appreciate you and can't wait to further our relationship together!


  • Nellie says:

    Dear Hair,

    Thank you for showing me how beautiful we are. You've made me a better ME.


  • Unknown says:

    Dear Curly Fro,

    I fallen more and more in love with you each day. I never knew you would be this beautiful. I love how we fit so naturally.

    Love Always,


  • Anonymous says:

    Dear Kinky Curls,
    Thank you so much for helping me to express myself naturally!!! You've been so patient while I found the routine that works for both you and I; I appreciate that a great deal.
    Here's to the future!!

  • Anonymous says:

    Dear lovely,

    I know I have kept you locked up for the past six weeks (as part of a 2-month grow out challenge, I have had my hair in a sew-in), I never knew I could miss anything so much. Even after the first two weeks without you, I was in agony. I know that this time apart is the best for both you and I, but it hurts my soul to miss you this much. I will be seeing you shortly, in about two weeks, and I have never been so excited in my life!! I know that you will be healthy, strong, shiny, (and getting your 1st henna treatment) and i am beyond elated!!

    See you soon my love,

  • Whisper29 says:

    Dear SaCoiley

    I am so happy that I finally stopped denying you and started showing you off to my family and friends. You are one of a kind fantastic and true I love you boo.


  • Sunshinecurls says:

    Dear Sunshinecurls,

    Oh I love thee!!! You have become my favorite part of me! I love how you feel and how you look! I'm so glad we met! I will never ever part from you!



  • melanie j says:

    Dear Shrinkydink!

    I know that we haven't always seen eye to eye, and I have never been away from you EVER!
    We used to have a push and pull kind of relationship and now we slide thru the most hairiest of tangles! You were by my side during my addiction to "creamy crack" and now we are in rehab and we are stronger and stand out in a sea of many. I vow to you my dear to give you the best that I've got!

    Lub U

  • Shelly says:

    Thanks for patiently waiting for us to meet after so many years. We are now togther forever!!!

  • Gina says:

    Dear colorful wave curly

    We been through it all and yes I love you. At the end , are my hobby baby I done relaxers and colors you still here for me even if I harmed u. Teaching me to give up the pain of processedhair anf

  • Anne Hill says:

    Dear newly free locks,

    I'm so glad that I finally got to know you for myself. I'm so glad that I didn't keep going by what people thought you should be or how they think we should look together. I'm so glad I gave our relationship a néw,fresh,healthy start. I really believe if I keep giving you the love and attention you've been drying out and dying for for years that we will grow together. I love the new us and the people will talk regardless of what we do. Our relationship is so natural.

    Love Anne Hill

  • Stephanie D says:

    Dear Rudy,
    I know it hasn't been the easiet journey. We are in this together and I will never give up on you. Being a teen transitioner, I know you hear the comments of "what is she thinking?" & "get a perm girl!" but your wear your twist-outs LOUD&Proud. I am learning to listen to your needs and not just my own. Just when I question what I'm doing, you show your beautiful coils and it is at that moment I realize the Reward will always be greater then the Struggle. IloveyouRudy!

    Soon you will be free :)!

  • Courtney says:

    Dear Kinks, Curls n' errythang in between,

    I'm taking this moment to thank you for teaching me so much about myself all while allowing me to get to know you. From big chop to bird's nest to crowning glory it's truly been a pleasure. Every hairstyle I thought I couldn't pull off, you proved me wrong and showed me I could. I promise to love you, care for you and trim you when needed lovingly as you so deserve. Keep doing your thang Sexy Mama. You rock my world girl!

    P.S. I'm sure you already know, but that twist out you're rockin' today is BANGING!!!

    Peace, Love & Shea Moisture,

  • Dishon says:

    Dear Fufi,

    I thank you for being the flyest crown I have ever since. You never let me down. I promise to always love you.


  • LaMika says:

    Dear lula b, thank you for helping me to appreciate who I am and to leave my insecurities behind and embrace my strong african roots that are intertwined in every twist of my curls.

  • Halicakes says:

    Dear Nubia,

    Oh, how love our love/hate relationship. Our constant break ups to makes up. I know I was hardheaded at the beginning of our relationship and you gave me hell for it. But now I pay attention to your needs, you fill me joy and glee. I love you, Nubs!

  • JackieC says:

    Dear Mini Poof,

    We've been through a lot but always together. Thanks for sticking by me, and I can't wait to see what adventures the future has in store for us.

    The Stick

  • Mz. Reesie says:

    My dear tresses,
    I know we've had our ups and down but you have been with me through thick and thin….literally. Even though you sometimes drive me crazy, i've grown to adore you in all your kinky, curly, coily glory. You are the finishing touch to an edgy outfit, and a perfect accessory all year round. I'm really so happy that we have gotten to know each other better. Looking forward to you sticking with me on this crazy journey.
    Much love,

  • Anonymous says:

    Dear My Special Friend,

    I love you so much! I know I tell you that everyday, but I wanted to make it publicly known that you are truly the love of my life right now. I don't know why I kept you hidden for so long! Thank you for bringing out the best in me, and for boosting my confidence to levels I didn't know existed. I will always remain faithful to you.

    Much Love,

  • Charoy says:

    Dearest Boo,

    I do.
    I do.
    I do-ooo.
    Till death do us part.
    For better or worse.
    In sick and in health.
    We will be.
    Curly, faithful, thriving you.
    Unpredictable, committed, willing me.
    Believe in me
    forever we'll be.

    Your doo

  • Rotaugia says:

    Dear Kinky Coily Curly,

    I spend all my younger years trying to beat you into submission. Thanks for being there for me whe I finally got a clue.


  • cassburt88 says:

    Dear Roo,
    Thank you so much for sticking around with me! I know I don't do everything I should for, but I'm continually working at it to make you the best Roo you can be!
    Forever Together…

  • Sunflowergurl says:

    Dear Curly-Q,

    I wish I could explain what took me so long to realize your beauty. I'm sorry for the drama I put you through and promise to pamper you forever more.

    You belong to me!

  • CurlCrazed says:

    Dear curls,

    Everyday we spend together is a new adventure in love. We've had our ups and downs our twist and turns and you still come bouncing back in that irresistible way you do. You compliment me like nothing else can and it gives me pride to show you to the world. Thank you for being patient with me as I learn how to take care of you the way you should.

    eternally devoted,

  • Maya Ange'le says:

    I think mine is too long to post as a comment–it's not going through–so I'm putting a link to read it on my own blog:

  • Beze says:

    You're ill.

  • s.perry722 says:

    You fine thang, you,

    We've been together for a couple of years and things have been serious from day one. I knew this wasn't a fling from the time I laid eyes on you. I love to pamper you every time I get the chance and I must say that I'm sprung…just pleasing you, pleases me! Every time I fail to give you the attention you need, the surprise of water and oils perks you up every single time. It's like nothing ever happened and you reach for the heavens again…which makes me smile. I vow to give you my tender loving care whenever you call for it.

    4 ever!!!! lol :o]


  • Ings says:

    Hello Hair (aka Tete Boullete 36),

    It's ncie to meet you. You aren't nearly as crazy as you were made to sound. I grew up thinking that you were tough, that you ran away and made me a bald baby for a few months, and that you were useless without a relaxer. But I'm so glad that we met!

    We've gone through puffs, flat twists, braid-outs, and we just reached another milestone – a bun! This journey has been interesting but worth it.

    Let's keep growing !

  • Oli says:

    Dear Kinky Curly,

    Although I've always had you in your natural state, never before have I truly had you out in your full glory.
    Thanks you for your amazing versatility and incredible softness.
    Most of all, you make me ME

    We'll never part.

  • Mrs.neWgrowth says:

    Dear Truth,

    Thank you for being you and letting me love all of me naturally. I promise to treat you well always.


  • Anonymous says:

    Another chance you have given me and I will make it work. I'll treat you right giving you the love and attention I neglected to do oh so long ago. The trims will come often, The comb will be wide toothed and it will glide through you with a tender touch, for you are delicate but strong. I love the way you coil up at the end of my twist.I love when your strected to your fullest length or when your a shrunken diva. You're soft like cotton and coily like a spring. Your beauty has no limits and your styles no restrictions. I am blessed to have you adorn my crown, my lovely coily kinky hair.
    Lee B.

  • Anonymous says:

    Dear Angie

    We’ve been through some hard times but we’re getting closer. I’m so glad that I made the decision to go on this journey with you. Getting to know you really has been an amazing experience that I will never regret.

    P.S…I forgive you for that rebellious stage you went through. I’m sorry I threatened you. It won’t happen again.

    Love Destiny

  • Casimiransmom says:

    Dear Another Part of me,

    Thanks for being who you are, even when I couldn't be. Never change.



  • Anonymous says:

    Dear My Fab Hair, After going natural 3 previous times, thanks for showing me that there's no need to try and straighten you out. You're perfect just as you are. 4 years strong. Thanks My Fab Hair! Davina916

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  • Openexpression says:

    My Dearest Nala,

    Yu are big, soft, and beautiful! I can't believe it took me 22 years to finally see you. I look forward to growing with you over the years. I don't know if you realize the effect you have had on my style and confidence, but it is tremendous! Others may not understand our love affair but it's the most pure and vulnerable feeling ever. I promise to never abuse you again! Now…we just need to work on how we respond to this New Orleans humidity!

    Love Always,


  • Michelle says:

    Dear No Longer Stranded,

    I know we've had some challenges…split ends, uneven layers. I blame myself for most of it since I didn't know how to treat you. I'm better tho right? I'm giving you all the goodness you will ever need now (henna, moisture, natural oils and sulfate freedom). I'm so proud of how far we've come!

    In spite of our differences, you are growing and flourishing! I look forward to many many years of you running down my back.


  • sparkspop says:

    Dear new and improved tresses,
    Who knew?! I certainly didn't expect to loooove the way you make me feel every time I twist, pick out, or define your curls and kinks. Why did I wait so long? Thanks for being so healthy, thick and life changing. Smoooches!!!

  • Jamika Kirk says:

    Dear Kink Kirk,

    I'm so happy we are finally together. I want to say thank you for being strong when random people come by and touch you (in clubs, museums, stores, etc). You are so nice to them and me (especially me, by going by in style so easily). Moreover, thank you for telling me when you need oils and moisture. I have never had such an intimate relationship with you before we went natural. You have truly given me a sense of self and I realize that I do not need all that other to be beautiful. I will continue to enjoy our time together as we grow and learn on this journey called life.

    I love you,

    J. Kirk

    You really make me who I truly am today. :-)

  • Anonymous says:

    oh forgot to end my love note. oops!

    Our love is a circle!

    Curly 1

  • Balls Of Beauty says:

    Dear Bianca Devine,

    You are fierce, short or long! we've been thru some rough times but u never fail me. would u believe ur almost 2 in sept :) wooo hoo!! Since we're gearin up for the fall/winter months you can enjoy hibernation but be ready for a big bash come Jan :) maybe this time we'll "grow" all the way!!


  • adrien says:

    Dear My Precious,

    You da bomb.



  • Anonymous says:

    Your Highness,

    Despite what all the CRITIC'S may say… my love, you are here to stay! You still loved me even when I didn't love myself. And when I decided to finally embrace you…you blessed me with fuller, healthier,and stronger hair! But like a foolish child; I still rejected you from time to time.:(

    Atlast, Praise God, all of that is over now…I have finally seen the light within me. Mother Africa I will never be ashamed of you again! May your Glory reach the highest sky!

    Curly 1

  • Lakechia says:

    Dear Shunnie,

    You have brought me pure joy these past 10 months. Where have you been all of my life?! I am sorry you were bound in chains masked by severe damage and hair abuse. Since I found you, I want to share you will everyone. I accept you baggage, fairy knots and all. Your psuedo-sandy locks make me smile and I yearn to caress your kinks. Mommie Love you and I promise to take care of you.

    Deep Conditioning,

  • Raffy says:

    Dear My Wild Curly Shnookums,

    What a blessing you are to me! Please forgive me for underestimating your sexiness as a teen, and trying my hardest to hide your natural flair. From your ability to curl tight, to your more relaxed modes due to a little help from your flexi friends, you make me who I am. Even in this 100+ degree Texas weather, you stand your ground and flee the frizz! If I could I would grab you a box of chocolates and take you dinner, just to show you how much I appreciate you. If it were not for you, I would look like her. (And we all know we never want to look like another woman…period).

    Hugs, Kisses, and Smooth Conditioning,

  • TraciB says:

    Dear AfroLocs,

    Thank you for not holding a grudge. You make me happy. I accept you and am satisfied with you just as you are. I'm looking forward to growing gray with you.


  • Anonymous says:

    Dear Indie (Yes, that's my hair's name),

    I know it was a long time coming. I neglected you for so long by allowing stylists to put that creamy crack in your hair, then using all that heat to make it so "pretty". I'm sorry for all the years of abuse, for being embarrassed to show your true beauty for all the world to see.

    All this time wasted! But now I can see how beautiful you really are and how wonderful you can be. Sure you get your attitudes at times and I'm starting to figure out when you want to be pampered and when you'd rather just be left alone. But I love every single thing about you, even that side of you. I love that one day you can be all cute and pretty and the next be edgy. I love that I can wear you everywhere without feeling threatened by rain, wind, humidity. My fingers dive into you to touch your softness and your coils to the point you're probably sick of my fingers. But it's just to show my devotion to make you look good.

    I promise that I will never neglect you again and I will do my best to make you shine to the world.

    Marion (aka BraidsnTwists)

  • Unknown says:

    Dear Bella,

    Now looking though pictures of us when I was liittle girl, I saw how long and thick and healthy you were before a perm came between us. Twenty years of breakage and shedding I just couldn't take anymore. Untill my little girl came into the world and reminded me how beautful being natural is. Now we've been on a two year jounery of getting to know each other again, and I will never let you go again were in this for the rest of my life. I love you to much to ever part with you!!

    Rocking out with you Always,

  • JustMe says:

    Dear Keke,

    Thanks for allowing me to finally get to know you! Even after a year and a half, I find myself still learning new things about you. You have instilled a confidence in me that I never knew I had! I will continue to love and nurture you and see many big hair days in our future!


  • Teresa W. says:

    Dear Lola (the baddest TWA I know) –

    Wow, we have been through so much…25+ years of constant neglect of who you really were; yet you stayed by my side and continued to grow and flourish. Thank you for showing me what true strength really is! Now that I have learned how to love you I can love me even more.

    We can do this!

  • Anonymous says:

    Dear Crown/Bff,

    How are you?! Hope you're not mad at me. I KNOW I'm not that good of a friend all the time. I neglect you sometimes, and frankly, sometimes I do you dirty. But you? You stick by me no matter what. You make me look good, whether I've been good to you or not. You start conversations with cool people, and for the mean muggers, you stare them down!

    I can't believe that I used to act embarrassed about you. But,well… lets face it, you ARE a little gangsta.You do stop. Period. You stand up when I want you to lay down, you wind up and spring forward when I want you to relax. Absolutely, gangsta… and now, I know that's something I should admire. Why should you sit down if you don't feel like it? You are a little schizo too. I mean in the same humidity you can either shrink back or swell up.Let's not even mention all the different kinds of strands you have, my schizo boo. Quite frankly, I can only ever guess what you're going to do, but I love you so much! You're always there and making me look good! I'm going to try and be as good to you as you are to me.

    Lydia (Lysheba89 in the forums)

  • i am native here . . . says:

    I've never given you much thought, and yet you remain – so thanks for always sticking around! LOL


  • Bonnie B says:

    Hey Beauty!,

    I know I know… but I can't help myself; you're GRAND! I figured this time I'd write you a note instead of sneaking up behind you with love taps throughout the day; I know sometimes you just don't feel like being touched. BUT THATS NEITHER HERE NOR THERE. I just wanted to tell you that I was soooo proud of you yesterday. I was so proud to have you by my side… er- top(?). We shined together in front of all those people; I elegantly explaining the purpose of my research and you giving me subtle bounces of encouragement. Thanks for telling me about that shea butter that needed to be rubbed in more in the back (i know i get a little overboard with sealing those twist of yours the night before a big day!). OH OH OH! And there was some one starring at you yesterdayyy!!! He was a cutie too. He was way in the back, with the white linen shirt. He told me that you looked effortless… EFFORTLESS.. who says that anymore! I think you two would look good together. Sooo, i'ma just go 'head and hook that up for you. K!?

    P.S. We're still on tomorrow for our weekly pamper session right?

    – Yours

  • Anonymous says:

    Hey Girlfriend,

    I can't believe your braid out today. Every time I passed a mirror today, I had to do a double take to make sure it's really you. Sorry for the repeated touches and fluffs. But you are too gorgeous and I can't help myself.

    Luv U!

  • Anonymous says:

    Dear AfroSphere,

    Ever since you were a half-inch old, I've been intrigued by your beauty and ever-changing awesomeness! Together we've made beauty out of tangles and allowed the world to see the awesomeness that afro hair can be!

    Forever Yours,


  • Shay M says:

    Dear Curly,

    Im happy we can be reunited together after all these years of mistreatment, I believed in you, and more importantly, I believed in me! There so many textures of you guys, but you dont form cliques you mingle with your curly hair sisters, and I love that about you!!

    Shay M

  • Unknown says:

    Dear Fro Cloud,

    I am enjoying getting to know you. We are constantly learning and growing together. You always surpise me and make each day interesting. You never do what I want but that is why I love you. I'm glad you've allowed me to say goodbye to flat stuck to my head hair.

    See ya later,

  • Anonymous says:

    Hey Girl,
    When I got on the metro yesterday and someone said "Oooh somebody smells good" I knew it was us. I was tickled pink because prior to going natural I had resigned myself to thinking that the best we would ever smell would be after a fresh perm. Who knew we could walk past folk leaving behind the light fragrance of coconuts and berry smoothies? I didn't. I was so proud of you. I know you were too. You stood a little taller all day. I saw you. You go girl!


  • Monie P says:

    Dear Fierceness,

    I love the woman you've help me to become. You're just as big as my personality. Thank you for teaching me how to be more patient, loving and understanding. Without you I would be just another girl, with you I am ME.

    Love you always,
    Monie P

  • Anonymous says:

    Dear Hair,

    I don't know why I waited sooo long and not show your natural self!! I am sorry for putting you thru the creamy crack. I love how you look and I don't regret not one bit for BCing!!! I am very proud of rocking you and I love me even more and more. I love your curlness and I can't help touching and feeling it!! I love you natural hair!! MUAH!! Benita D.

  • Unika Molden says:

    Dear Curly Cutie,

    Thank you so much for giving me my 'inner beauty' back! Because you have allowed me to embrace my beauty in its natural state and rarest form, I vow to never ever put another relaxer on your beautiful strands again. I further vow to handle you with care at all times so that we can grow together.


  • ATribitt says:

    Dear Pippi,
    Rock on wit ya BIG BAD RED SELF! You are so freakin' awesome! And because i love *YOU* more – just the way *YOU* are, i love *ME* more – just the way *I* am. Oh how rewarding this love is!

  • Anonymous says:

    My Beloved-
    For years I took you for granted and abused you mercilessly. I covered you up, hiding your glory. When I finally decided to take you exactly as you are, instead of failing me, you love me right back and teach me what you need to be truly glorious.

    Thank you for teaching me that loving you is loving me. Thank you for showing me that you are perfect exactly as you are – my coily, kinky, shimmery, full head of lovely hair.


  • Anonymous says:

    Dear Hair,

    Why must you be so curly that I can't even get a comb through you unless you are wet? Ahh but you are who you are and at least you are on my head. You make the best afros.

    Nicol C.

  • Anonymous says:

    Dear Lovely,
    I have treated you like a step child for the last several years, from weave to braids, to quick weave, dye jobe every four weeks, followed by touch ups every three. You have stayed strong and have been here for me trhough thick and thin(literally). I am so proud of you and I am so grteful that you chose to stay with me.
    Now that we have begun our new journey together, I look forward to repaying you and giving you nothing but TLC to show my love, affection, and gratitude towards you. I will never mistreat you again.

    Love Always 4ever and a Day
    Ell Bee

  • Anonymous says:

    Dear Fabulous Fro,

    Thank you so much for providing me hours and hours of entertainment. I am enjoying getting to know you as we pass each milestone and am grateful for all of the other fierce and fabulous curlfriends I have met because of you.


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