by KurlyBella of Kisforkinky.com

“You need to shave them buckshots, beadie bead! Them beadie beads is out of control girl!” – Martin

This weekend I lived in my beanie. I was just too lazy to take my hair out so I went with comfort and ease which for me automatically equals a beanie or some form of a head wrap. While I was out this weekend, beanie’d up, I stopped by this cute little boutique in my neighborhood. That day, there was a new sales lady, who also happened to be a natural with a blonde TWA. We talked about everything and I tried on clothes for over an hour. While I was there, I had to take off and put on my beanie repeatedly to get the different shirts over my head. On my last try, I must have half way pulled my beanie down in the back because my kitchen was partially exposed unbeknownst to me. When I got the the counter to pay, I could see my profile out of the corner of my eye in the over-sized mirror that graces the boutique’s wall. Making their presence known were my little knots. Since I was in need of a nape moisture session, it was presenting itself as knotty – or what was called when I was growing up, beady-bead or buckshot.

What is a beady bead? Well, if you don’t know, according to urban dictionary, it’s “the little knapps that grow down someone’s neck when they are in need of a haircut, edge-up or line / a word used to describe nappy-naps in the back of a females head.”

Many kinky girls with kinky napes have heard the jokes or names made in reference to their kitchen. Infamously, Martin Lawrence from the TV sitcom, Martin, used his TV character to make picking on kinky kitchens popular. His character made it known to everyone that would listen that he had a problem with “nappy kitchens” and he teased his neighbor and wife’s best friend, pam, about her hair without mercy.

“…and ya hair – ya hair looks good….what is that, velcro?” – Martin

As I was standing at the checkout waiting to be handed my bags, I thought about my kitchen and how I know some naturals that to this day, are ashamed of their kinky edges and nape. They are ashamed of the idea of their kitchen showing or “sticking out.” The idea of going out without a product used to smooth the kitchen down first is bothersome and just not gonna happen. Now, don’t get me wrong, I don’t normally walk around with my little knots by default. As I’ve mentioned before, I don’t necessarily care for how it looks (nor is it good for my hair because when I get knots that means no moisture), but this day they were there front and center and I shrugged if off because it was what it was.

“Well thank…you…Pam. Now what you need to do is go in the back and straighten out them buck shots! Girl, yo hair is so nappy, Wilson couldn’t pick it!” – Martin

I know I have a kitchen and it does not bother me that it’s not a really curly or wavy kitchen. Nope, my kitchen is kinky and it can get knotty and it can “beadie bead” up.

“It does not bother you that you are not even going to be able to relax your kitchen once you go natural?” I was once asked during my transition. I did think about it for a minute but in the end, a simple “nope” was my response.

Knowing that my nape was kinky didn’t bother me then and it does not bother me now. It did bother me (a lot) when I was relaxed and I used to be ashamed of my nape especially when it would grow in faster than the rest of my hair in between my relaxers, but all of those negative thoughts started to slowly melt away once I decided to go natural. I’m not ashamed of my kinky nape because I’ve accepted it as a part of me. I do what I need to do to keep it moisturized unless I slip up and get lazy like I did last week, but even still when I’m “slipping up” and my nape is kinked up and others see this for themselves, I could care less. I’m keeping it moving while I #kanyeshrug. My hair is kinky and my nape is no exception.

what say you? have you ever been called beadie-bead? do you have a very kinky kitchen? how do you care for it? does it bother you if you nape is showing and giving off a kinky or knotted look?