In the year of 2011, so many things changed in my life and I’m so thankful. August 6, 2011, I married the man of my prayers and dreams, and in July, I celebrated my one-year anniversary of transitioning.
I’m so thankful for being with a man that loves all of me, including my hair while transitioning! LOL. I married a great man and he made me become a great woman. He makes me believe in me! I was a confident woman when I met him, that is what he fell in love with, but that was the outer exterior, my core was still soft.
Orville, my husband, is truly a blessing in my life and supports me in all that I do. He is extra supportive of my business, I am a freelance makeup artist, and of my decision to transition and go natural.
He is my inspiration and my motivation to do better in my life to be the best wife and mother (one day) of our future children. He makes me proud to be called Mrs. Martin, his wife, and to call him my husband. He is the most understanding, generous and loving man I have ever met. I thank God for answering my prayer of having a God fearing, prayerful, good man/husband everyday. I am thankful for him supporting me, loving me and teaching me how to love me.
August 6, 2011 was the day my life changed. I could not be more thankful for him.
I’m also thankful for the CN community because my family pressured me to get a perm for my wedding, but I was determined to be a natural bride. I thought of the big chop, but was talked out of it because of the wedding. Plus, I didn’t want to relax my hair for one day, especially after transitioning for one year!
I turned to the Curly Nikki community for all advice and loved hearing motivational stories and hair experiences. The best part about the CN community is that it’s so many people, so many experiences, advice, and hair textures. It wasn’t one woman talking about how easy it is to double-strand twist her “not even close to” kinky hair. I loved how people explained how they purchased “well known and popular” products and it didn’t work for them. I felt like I had someone on my side.
For my wedding I did chose to go with the Keratin treatment and got extensions. My wedding experience taught me to see how people truly view you.
“Girl are you going to lose any weight,” “What are you going to do with ‘that’ hair,” “So you’re really not getting a perm on your wedding day? What about your pictures?”
During my natural process, I also got braces. So, my confidence was super low. But my wonderful husband told me I was beautiful everyday and night and that he loved me no matter what hairstyle I had.
So I am going for my big chop this week and hope to come back and talk about that experience soon.