Shortly after I big chopped, I had an interesting conversation with a man whom I consider to be a casual acquaintance. I didn’t know at the time that he belongs to a religion that frowns upon women cutting their hair.
I could see the look of shock on his face the first time he saw me post-big chop. I didn’t ask his opinion on my new look, because I had decided before I big chopped that I wasn’t going to invite comments or opinions from people about my hair. I loved it, and that was all that mattered to me. Besides, I found most people eventually got around to offering their opinions without me having to ask.
It didn’t take long for him to speak up. A few minutes into our chat, he told me that my hair looked striking. I thanked him. He said that the cut really drew attention to my beautiful face. I thanked him again. But, he boldly added, he didn’t believe my ultra short cut was OK from a biblical standpoint.
At first I was speechless, but I recovered quickly enough to ask him what he meant. He quoted a scripture that apparently says it’s disgraceful for a woman to cut off or shave her hair. He also referred to a scripture that says a woman’s hair is her glory. He explained that when a woman cuts off her hair as dramatically as I had, she is rejecting a God-given glory. While he acknowledged that it’s OK for a woman to trim her hair for maintenance purposes, (split ends, I guess?), he said her hair shouldn’t be cut so short that it has the appearance of a man’s hair. With ¼ inch of hair on my head, I guess my hair fell into that category, at least in his opinion.
I was completely blindsided by his comments, and unfortunately I couldn’t think of a quick response at the time.
I bring up this issue because I’m planning to big chop again very soon, and I know I’ll be running into this man. If he finds it necessary to express his opinion again, I want to be prepared with a polite but firm comeback.