by Andrea Dawn

A few months ago I discovered yoga. I had heard about its physical and mental benefits, and I wanted to check it out. After the first class, I was hooked. Like my big chop, why hadn’t I done this sooner? After a few sessions I was standing taller, feeling stronger and thinking clearer.
One day I was in class, quietly trying to master the Warrior 2 pose. Anyone who has practiced yoga knows this can be a tricky pose: right arm extended in front, left arm extended behind, left hip back, right knee bent, belly in, shoulders over the hips, gaze forward. In my determination to master the pose, I didn’t notice I was looking backward to check my form.
But my yoga instructor certainly noticed.

“Andrea!” he shouted, his sharp voice destroying the Zen-like vibe of the yoga studio. A few sets of inquisitive eyes glanced at me, then politely looked away.

“Stop looking back!” the instructor continued. “There’s nothing back there for you!”

I quickly shifted my gaze forward, where it was supposed to be. Embarrassed? At that moment, yes. But later that evening I reflected on his words, and I found the lesson.

The truth is I was looking back in many areas of my life, not just in my Warrior 2 pose. I had recently moved from a large city where I had a good job with great pay and benefits, to a small community 3000 miles away where jobs weren’t so easy to find. I was discouraged. Every day I was looking back, thinking about what I had left behind, wondering if moving had been a mistake. This “looking back” mentality wasn’t helping me. If anything it was blocking my ability to move forward in the new life I had chosen.

My yoga instructor’s words impacted me far beyond the yoga studio. They helped me begin the process of letting go of what I once had, and search for the new opportunities that lay ahead of me.

It’s easy to look back, whether it’s in regard to one’s natural hair journey, a life situation, a personal disappointment, the road not taken…the list is endless. Looking back can be beneficial if a lesson can be learned and applied. But in the end, forward is the only way to go.

In your life, is there something you’re “looking back” at that you need to let go of?


CN Says:
A friend and very wise business woman recently reminded me that
it’s hard to drive a car forward by looking in the rearview mirror. CHURCH.