by Sherrell Dorsey of OrganicBeautyVixen
Playing dress up was my favorite game growing up. When playing had to cease I resented my mom for not allowing me to wear my Beauty and the Beast costume complete with plastic high heels and shimmery crayon-like lipstick out in public. I craved elegance, satin gloves and long curly hair. At 7 years of age my mom was standing in the way of what I believed I was called to be: a princess.
In the real world that my mom would have to bring me back to my inner princess had to be suppressed and the Mary Jane shoes frilly sock and jumpers, the awful bangs that always stood straight up on my head after a fight with my sponge rollers, and a white collard shirt were my destiny.
My mom didn’t care much for glamour as much as she cared about creating a classic look. I would watch diligently as she spread Vitamin E on her skin, filled in her eyebrows and completed her look with a gorgeous plum shade of lipstick (which I eventually would kidnap and cherish at school unbeknownst to her).
My mom taught me how to be beautiful by being me and walking with my head held high. She spent just enough time on her look to present herself well but not too much to discount what she always told me a woman was: honest, confident, intelligent, loving and in charge of her life and decisions. That to me is the beauty I carry with me each day.
For those of you nurturing the little ladies in your life whether as a mother, sister, cousin or mentor how are you feeding her subconscious ideas of beauty?
Beauty is a conversation, a lifestyle, a relationship first and then it is about how we present ourselves. Let’s pass this same philosophy down to our daughters who will watch us get dressed, listen to our advice and mimic our footsteps.
What rituals and ideals are you passing on to your daughter?
Sherrell Dorsey is a natural beauty expert, writer, speaker and advocate of health, wellness and sustainability in communities of color. In addition to creating OrganicBeautyVixen.com, Sherrell writes beauty articles for Tyra Banks’s beauty and fashion site TypeF.com, Jones Magazine, MySalonScoop.com and Posh Beauty. Follow Sherrell on twitter at www.twitter.com/organicvixen and connect with her on facebook at http://www.facebook.com/